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Guy Blocks Best Friend Of 15 Years Over $60 Concert Mishap: “He Was Sorry”
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Guy Blocks Best Friend Of 15 Years Over $60 Concert Mishap: “He Was Sorry”

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If there was such a service, how much would you pay to verify the integrity of people? Well, one guy got it for $60.

In a recent post on the subreddit ‘Mildly Infuriating,’ platform user The_Broken_Shutter revealed that his long-term friend started acting weirdly after borrowing money from him.

The climax of the whole ordeal came when the Redditor finally asked him to pay him back, reminding us that trust is a fragile thing, especially when cash is involved.

This guy tried to go to a concert

Image credits:  Aleksandr Popov / unsplash (not the actual photo)

Instead, he lost his best friend over just a few bucks

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Image credits: Volodymyr Proskurovskyi / unsplash (not the actual photo)

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Image credits:  Onur Binay / unsplash (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Pixabay / pexels (not the actual photo)

Image credits: The_Broken_Shutter

Maybe not as extreme, but similar situations are quite common

A 2019 survey from the US Federal Reserve showed that when faced with a hypothetical expense of $400 that they couldn’t cover straight away, the second most common approach people took was to borrow from a friend or family member (putting the charge on a credit card was the top option).

However, as we just saw, introducing a financial layer to a relationship can make things weird. Experts think that lending money conflicts with societal taboos about discussing money, and introduces a power imbalance. This can potentially leave both parties feeling complex emotions like shame, embarrassment, and anger.

“I think money is still a very intimate subject for a lot of people to talk about authentically,” said Maggie Baker, psychologist and financial therapist based in Pennsylvania, US. People may discuss it, but we generally don’t ask each other about our specific financial situations. “There’s this shroud over this whole topic of money, and how much you have, and how much you don’t have.”

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“If you loan somebody money, they’re indebted to you whether they recognize it or not – and then all of a sudden, you’ve got the power,” Baker added.

There’s also a high degree of uncertainty for the lender because no matter how close you are to someone, just like the Redditor, you may have no idea how they are with money.

Interestingly, Baker said that 9 times out of 10, the friend in the jam will not pay back the loan. So you have to be 100% OK with not getting the money back when you provide it, and judging by his post, the Redditor was. Only not his friend.

Many of those who have read the story think that the friend might be going through a rough patch

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Roxy222uk
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's really embarrassed and just can't handle the whole situation. We cannot control how something feels and is processed by another person. He is not experiencing this in the way you are, nor is he experiencing it how you would if you were in that position. If you otherwise want to stay friends then . . . hold on to your hat . . . write to him. That's assuming he's too far away to drop by. Use a postcard so it doesn't have to be opened and just scrawl "missing you man, don't care about the money, text me"

KatSaidWhat
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd leave the part about money out. It's already been said. I'd go with "I miss you - x-box?"

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KatSaidWhat
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father cut me off because he misinterpreted my comments to my aunt when his 3rd wife died. So I wrote a really long email telling him he can cut me off but he won't stop being my dad. Gave it time, he reached out when he nearly died and realised time had been wasted. Write a letter, OP, then stand back. If/when he's ready, he'll come back.

Two_rolling_black_eyes
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't about $60. After 15 years, the former friend couldn't take anymore something the poster was doing.

Marnie
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe. I myself can't imagine in a million years cutting someone off after 15 year friendship without saying why.

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Roxy222uk
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's really embarrassed and just can't handle the whole situation. We cannot control how something feels and is processed by another person. He is not experiencing this in the way you are, nor is he experiencing it how you would if you were in that position. If you otherwise want to stay friends then . . . hold on to your hat . . . write to him. That's assuming he's too far away to drop by. Use a postcard so it doesn't have to be opened and just scrawl "missing you man, don't care about the money, text me"

KatSaidWhat
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd leave the part about money out. It's already been said. I'd go with "I miss you - x-box?"

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KatSaidWhat
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father cut me off because he misinterpreted my comments to my aunt when his 3rd wife died. So I wrote a really long email telling him he can cut me off but he won't stop being my dad. Gave it time, he reached out when he nearly died and realised time had been wasted. Write a letter, OP, then stand back. If/when he's ready, he'll come back.

Two_rolling_black_eyes
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't about $60. After 15 years, the former friend couldn't take anymore something the poster was doing.

Marnie
Community Member
8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe. I myself can't imagine in a million years cutting someone off after 15 year friendship without saying why.

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