50 Times ‘Choosing Beggars’ Got A Harsh Yet Satisfying Reality Check (Best Of All Time)
Interview With ExpertImagine getting a free ride, then telling your driver to get a more comfortable car because theirs is too old. While most of us would be grateful for the gesture, some people may see this act of generosity as an opportunity to demand more, and more, and more. Enter Choosing Beggars, a subreddit dedicated to showcasing ungrateful attitudes and shameless entitlement.
Avid Bored Panda readers might remember that we've covered the community a few times already, but with 2.6 million members, it's so active that one can easily get lost in its content. So, we decided to put together a collection of its funniest and most infuriating posts of all time.
Continue scrolling to check them out, and don't miss the chat we had with therapist and relationship expert Dr. Steven Stosny—you'll find it between the images.
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To gain a better understanding of these interactions, we got in touch with Dr. Steven Stosny, founder of Compassion Power in suburban Washington, DC, and author of several books on improving relationships.
"There are two major types of entitlement," he told Bored Panda.
"In the first, the entitled feel superior. If not acknowledged as having superior rights and privileges, they may feel inferior. Superiority and inferiority are opposite sides of the same coin."
"The second type is compensatory. Those who suffer from it see themselves as victims of unfair treatment and therefore entitled to special privileges as compensation. 'It's so hard being me. I shouldn't have to wait in line too.'"
63 Sandwiches In 1 1/2 Hours!?! How Dare They!
Huffpo Being A Hypocritical Choosing Beggar
This Groomer Is Definitely Prepared For All The Choosing Beggars
As you can see from the pictures, we can run into entitled people at school, work, and other areas of everyday life. Researchers Emily Zitek and Alexander Jordan studied the behavior and published their findings in Social Psychological and Personality Science.
All in all, Zitek and Jordan conducted six experiments. They first tested how 1,259 individuals would behave during a basic word search task where it was essential to follow instructions. The researchers found that those with a high sense of entitlement were less likely to comply with the given directions.
From there, they tested different scenarios to see whether punishment, framing the task as optional, or reducing the perceived personal cost would lead them to comply. None of these tactics worked.
Entitled people do not follow instructions because they would rather take a loss themselves than agree to something they perceive to be unfair to them, the researchers concluded.
I’m Just Going To Leave This Here
My Mechanic Telling It How It Is. Support Artists And Labor Folk!
Exactly! My tax adviser can do my taxes in 20 minutes and have it done perfectly. Someone asked me why I pay him so much for 20 minutes of work, and I told them he can do it in 20 minutes because he'd been doing it for decades. I'd probably spend hours and still make mistakes.
My Dad's A Photographer, This Is His Most Recent Client
Broke Boy
So what do we do when we run into these people?
Stosny, author of Living and Loving After Betrayal and How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, said that one of the best strategies is to "ignore their sense of entitlement and act according to your own sense of fairness."
However, if you do find yourselves in a conflict with them, try not to take their coping mechanisms personally.
Choosing Beggar
Two years ago I saw that guy with the gas can begging for money. Tried to give him four dollars, but he said he doesn’t take anything less than five. After that I saw him there everyday for months. Turns out he’s a fraud with a new Jeep and a nice house. Been following him with this sign since.
Sadly, I know someone (friend of a friend) who does something similar. Her husband has a really high paying job in a local manufacturing facility, he's been there for decades so he's the top tier of pay. He has the new car, she keeps the old car, she wears old clothes and then goes around to the food banks and brings home grocery bags full of food and think she's really smart for getting free groceries. She justifies it because twice a year the plant has a shutdown for 2 weeks, I believe the employees are even compensated for the time that they're not there, but she tells everyone that her husband's out of work. Technically it's true he's not working. But that's the lie that she uses to justify why she can rob the food banks 52 weeks a year. I'm sorry to say that I'm not sorry that this lady recently passed away.
This Guy Gets It
I actually had to tell a potential customer this the other day. It took me years to learn how to make a particular item, I sell them for $100, other people sell something similar for $500, this person's asking if I'll sell it for 10 because it's expensive. I said no, and suggested that they take a screenshot of the item, print it, and put the picture in their collection until they can afford to purchase it for real. (And if that sounds like I'm being sarcastic I'm not because that's what I used to do with my collections, print out photos of the items I was missing and just put the photos in my display case until I could afford to get the real thing)
Selling A Used iMac For 1200$, Woman Asks “How Low” I Would Sell It For, Or If I’d Take 800 And Some Jewelry She Makes. Oh And I Also Ruined Christmas
I Won't Invite You To My Baby Shower, But You Better Get Me A Gift
"Confronting them or arguing with them creates pointless power struggles, which are likely to increase their sense of entitlement," Stosny added.
"Ignoring it is the best policy."
Why Can't People Understand Firm?
What a baby man child. Blocked you because he didn't get his way lol
Cbs Push A Man Too Far
Tim Vine: I saw an advert for a free TV that was stuck on full volume. I thought: I can't turn that down!
UNO Reverse
Cashapp Beggars
In professional environments, Zitek and Jordan — the authors of the aforementioned study — advise framing instructions to the entitled in ways that make them seem fairer or more legitimate. (Making sure they're satisfied could help operations run smoothly, at least for the time being.)
The authors offered another tip: "If the instructions come from an in-group member such as a peer instead of from an authority figure, perhaps entitled individuals would be more likely to view the instructions as fair and therefore follow them."
This Guy Has Had It With Cbs
It wouldn't be so bad if people were offering a labor trade. There's a couple of local tradesmen in my area-one is a plumber, the other an HVAC. The owners both own their own homes and at least one rental property each. They do work on each other's properties for free.
Its Always The Christmas Excuses
This just makes me laugh and then know not to take them seriously. I went to Disney World during the holidays and was in a Disney Collector group for my city on fb. Saw a lady asking for someone to pick up this large plushie. I didn't check any bags so space was limited but I contacted her I can pick it up for price+taxes+small fee. She was very nice and really happy. Got home and got super sick, couldn't unpack. I told her I'll leave the plush outside my door and she put money under mat cause I was too sick to interact. After, she messaged me about a spot on the plush. No idea if it was on there before or after. It wasn't bad, easily washed. She demanded money back, how I ruined Christmas, blah blah. She even tried to compare illnesses? I don't know, she flipped. I told her I wasn't a personal shopper (I said this many times while planning tge pick up) or business, I'm not refunding money. It was the most crazy situation. Never going to offer to do that again.
I sell stuff on marketplace. Some items I would happily give away for free, but I will never give something away for free on marketplace - it brings out the crazies, man. I just put those items up for a token amount and people are fine with that.
Load More Replies...Ask my ex-wife; ruining people's holidays is just something I add at no extra charge.
Being able to handle disappointment is a valuable life skill. Teach the kids early
It is demonstrably all your fault that you won't give me lots of goodies for free.
Lady, would you like to know what I did to that plushie to make that spot?
An ex-employee pulled this kind of cr*p; "you've got - we need" well, she got, but not for long.
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Power makes people feel important. But in reality we're all the same species.
Lady Wants Barely-Used Computer For $25
Do You Draw Arts For Free
Choosing Beggars Don’t Like Free Beer At Local BBQ Joint
Thought On Exposure
I think you'll find that the artist works under the pseudonym of 'One Dollar', and their actual name is 'U.S Treasury'.
Asking The Author Of The Book Where They Can Pirate It (I'm Not The Author, And The Book Is Not Coming From A Big-Time Publisher)
This Was On One Of My Mom Pages, I Couldn't Believe It Was Local And That These Kind Of People Actually Exist, It Makes Me Sick To Think About
Can I Have A Birthday Discount?
Can You Draw Me For Free?
Seems Like Indonesia Is Not Choosing Any Of Them Begpackers
Found On My Tattoo Artists Instagram, F**k Thats Satisfying
I do like that final 'offer' - increased price 'cos you messed me around
Why Don’t They Just Let Their Kids Not Have Braces And Break Their Teeth For Denture Through Insurance
Thanks For Knocking Down The Price, Now How About You Knock Down The Price?
It's Ok, I'm A Single Mom
The Cheek Of Some People
Then You Dont Get A Tip
Can't Go Any Lower Than That
How Are My Kids Supposed To Live Without Juice?!
“Freebie” Is The New F-Word
Good To Know
As a vocalist, I FEEL this. If you want someone to sing for free at your event, ask aunt Lydia or your friend's thirteen year old aspiring diva. They'd love the exposure. But, if you want professional musicians, you need to be willing to compensate them for their time—and not just the time they spend at your gig! When you hire a professional, you're paying for the thousands upon thousands of hours and dollars they spent learning how to perform at a high level, and you're probably getting a better deal than us! Most of us are so obsessed with music that, if we could perform for free and not starve, we absolutely would. Alas, we would starve and I'd rather not do that.
What A Deal!
Now That Was Simply Uncalled For
Got A Little Distracted By Someone Doing The Repeater
Let’s absolutely normalise raising prices if people try to haggle to a ridiculous degree.
Not My Messages But Thought It Was Funny
How Ironic
Woman Doesn’t Want To Pay Amazon For A Thing Amazon Made
Not One Penny More!
I Draw Pieces Inspired By Historical Art Styles And Sometimes Do Tattoo Designs For People. Today I Had My First Choosing Beggar Experience
“Exposure Doesn’t Pay The Bills, My Guy”
Why does "influencer" so often translate as "wannabe entitled beggar with attitude" ?
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Does This Work?
I had a friend at work who painted and I thought it would be awesome to get a painting of our cats to give to my wife for her birthday. I asked my friend if she would do it and asked her how much. She gave me a price that I thought was low, which I said, but we kept it there. I never asked for a discount or anything. You want someone to work for you? You pay them.
Right on. I hired a young artist to paint a mannequin for a book cover. Her price was low, so I 'tipped' her an extra $40 and a box of paints.
Load More Replies...Why am I getting redirected to "redirectlinkway.top" without even clicking on anything? Kinda shady, BP.
It’s not BP but an ad. All tha can be done is to report the ad to whoever is serving it.
Load More Replies...I cannot believe the person who commented "all repeats " is getting downvoted. This is all repeats . Every single one has been posted her dozens if not hundreds of times. You are downvoting the truth.
I havnt seen a single one. Ergo by my definition, not a single one is a repeat.
Load More Replies...It’s a free app. Stop being a “choosing beggar”.
Load More Replies...I had a friend at work who painted and I thought it would be awesome to get a painting of our cats to give to my wife for her birthday. I asked my friend if she would do it and asked her how much. She gave me a price that I thought was low, which I said, but we kept it there. I never asked for a discount or anything. You want someone to work for you? You pay them.
Right on. I hired a young artist to paint a mannequin for a book cover. Her price was low, so I 'tipped' her an extra $40 and a box of paints.
Load More Replies...Why am I getting redirected to "redirectlinkway.top" without even clicking on anything? Kinda shady, BP.
It’s not BP but an ad. All tha can be done is to report the ad to whoever is serving it.
Load More Replies...I cannot believe the person who commented "all repeats " is getting downvoted. This is all repeats . Every single one has been posted her dozens if not hundreds of times. You are downvoting the truth.
I havnt seen a single one. Ergo by my definition, not a single one is a repeat.
Load More Replies...It’s a free app. Stop being a “choosing beggar”.
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