Parents Are Sharing Photos Of Themselves Before And After Having Kids, And The Difference Is Hilariously Sad (30 New Pics)
Children are one of the greatest joys in life. A new life begins when you start raising children and creating beautiful, new memories together as a family. However, it’s not without its challenges and compromises though.
@GotToddlered on Instagram shows the messy but hilarious reality of what happens when kids take over your life. The photos shared here contrast photos of adults in their pre-children prime with the now. Although they were once young, attractive, and without a care in the world, they now have to contend with chaotic tiny humans instead. But they see the lighter side of it all though.
Here's Bored Panda's favorite picks from the page—don't forget to vote for the funniest ones. And read on for our interviews with the experts too. I spoke with Dr. Ashley Söderlund and Nicole Schwarz on what we can learn from our children. When you’re done, check out some more times that adults got toddlered on our site here, here and here as well!
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This Doesn’t Even Need A Caption
I should literally delete every other picture on this page and replace them all with this and put “MISSION ACCOMPLISHED” in my bio. My work here is done. All joking aside, this guy is a champ and a half! Giving us dads a good name!
The Instagram page has over 88K followers and was founded by Mike Julianelle, proud father of two and blogger at ‘Dad and Buried’. Mike explains how it initially got started.
It was based on a ‘ten-year challenge’ that was going around on Twitter at the time—one picture of you from before, and one ten years later. After posting his own version and making a joke about parenting, one of his followers asked if Mike would share their one too.
The page started accepting submissions and it was a big success. You can see that many people have similar experiences of their life changing by becoming a parent. There’s the dads who were tough guys, rock-stars and party animals, but have now mellowed out after gaining more responsibility. And the younger, dolled-up versions of moms who have discovered that life with kids isn’t as glamorous as before.
Toddlered
It’s not all bad though. Children bring so much into our lives at the same time. I wanted to learn more about what makes toddlers in particular so special.
Bored Panda spoke about this with Dr. Ashley Söderlund, a developmental psychologist and founder of the Nurture and Thrive blog. Dr. Söderlund said, "Toddlers live in the moment and appreciate the little things in life. They also wear their hearts on their sleeves. You never have to question how they're feeling!"
"All of that emotion is what makes this stage so challenging as well," she explained, "as the parts of the brain responsible for emotion regulation are still under construction in the toddler years."
We also spoke with Nicole Schwarz, a mom, parent coach, and founder of the Imperfect Families website. Her first book, ‘It Starts With You’ is a guide to parenting children with a calm confidence, and is available for pre-order now.
Nicole agrees with this and told Bored Panda, “Toddlers see the world with a sense of wonder, everything is new and exciting. It's an explosion of growth and learning - physically, socially, mentally, and emotionally.”
Oh How The Mighty Have Fallen
From Rock God To Pretty Little Princess!
There's big emotions for both adults and children alike. So, how should parents keep their own feelings in check when their little ones are having a meltdown?
Dr. Söderlund gives this advice to new parents: "One thing I find that helps is shifting your perspective on emotions."
"Instead of controlling emotions, acknowledge them. Emotions are not bad, nor do they need to be controlled," she explains. "When your toddler is angry that you cut their sandwich in the wrong shape, say: 'Wow, you sound mad!' Acknowledgment helps toddlers learn to label how they feel and gives them words to express themselves."
From Falling Down To Lifting Up
From Grabbing Nips To Grabbing Naps. Weekends Sure Have Changed!
I have twins, the photo doesn't even say half of it lol
Load More Replies...Why anyone would want to give up their life to be exhausted like that is a mystery.
Because some of us will give up a lot to be parents and some don't want to. And both are perfectly fine and understandable
Load More Replies...Please dont even pose such a photo. Fallinf asleep with a baby like the dad does increase the mortality risk for the baby 67-fold. We need to avoid normalizing this very dangerous situation.
Drinking that piss-water that is Bud Light, you never partied that hard anyway, it's a disgrace to beer.
I'm pretty confident at least one of the babies is grabbing a nip in the photo!
You can't see their whole life on that photo, xou can't know if they have a toddler too maybe and they definitely ARE exhausting and babies can be exhausting too BTW.
Load More Replies...From So Focused And Organized And Together To Googling “What Day Is It?” And “Can Parenthood Kill You?”
Before And After Having Children
Before And After Having Children
There’s definitely a lot of great things that kids bring into our life. Perhaps the best of all is becoming like a child again ourselves. Adults can sometimes forget what it means to have fun.
Nicole puts in well in her talk with us. “Slow down. Play is the language of kids. Be silly, sing, play!” Nicole told Bored Panda.
Dr. Söderlund also encourages us to enjoy everything that our children do too. She said "The wonderful thing about toddlers is their pure expression of emotions. The next time your toddler stops to smell the flowers, or watch a butterfly, allow yourself to slow down for a moment too. And when they express pure joy about that flower or butterfly, let that joy fill you up as well."
Before: I Wanna Dance With Somebody! After: Not Like That
From Bedroom Eyes To Butt Face
From Prost To Toast. From German To Squirmin’. From Chug To Rug. From Bust To Dust. Do Any Of These Work? From Oktoberfest To Needs Some Rest
And you can also see that kids are fun, little people. They love to play, climb and explore as part of their development in early life. And they love to do all this with their parents too.
It seems that young kids can’t go a moment without mom and dad. So, this high energy and constant need for attention can be challenging (and exhausting) at times. Parents have to ensure that their curious kids aren’t doing or eating something that they shouldn’t. There’s no doubt about it—being a parent is difficult.
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He’s Not Smiling Now. And Look At The Kid Playing Dumb!
From Blissed To Pissed!
Trying to get kids to see things the same way as adults is impossible. I asked Nicole why this is and she said, “Kids don't share your sense of urgency and they do not understand the importance of tasks like ‘going to work’ or ‘running errands’.”
She explains, “You understand that being late for work will make you lose your job, but in your toddler's world, there is unlimited time for play!”
From Sailing Away To Lost At Sea
From Running Marathons To Running After A Half-Naked Toddler Before He Pees Everywhere
From Duckface To Yuckface
This Is Literally The Coolest Cat I’ve Ever Seen. If I Were That Kid I Would Not Put Another Sticker On Him Or He Might Sit There And Take It!
From Camera-Ready To “Get That Goddamn Camera Away From Me!”
Life’s A Beach, Then You Cry
From Sunbathing To Bear Hugging, Relaxing Changes When You Have Kids
From Ducklips To Feetface
From Looking Sharp To Looking Sharpied!
From Working It To Overworked. The Change In Footwear Tells The Whole Story
What’s The Opposite Of Happily Ever After?
A Fresh ‘Do Is No Match For A Fresh 2yo
She Used To Make Her Own Duck Lips
There Is No Way That’s Joshua Dellis In Both Pictures
I Don’t Even Have A Joke. I Hate It Here
Another post that works perfectly as a reminder to never have kids! Thanks BP
"Why don't you want to have kids?" Bruh hang on imma send you a link to a bored panda list.
None of these people look happier in the after photos. Why do this to yourself?
At least for me, I was much happier in the situation the "after" photos where taken. The very moments can be quite hard, but they are "compensated" for with precious moments with the small ones over and over.
Load More Replies...I don't have kids and I don't really feel like I want to in this current state of the world but a lot of these made me go awwwwwwwwwwwww. Lol. Parents put up with so much it's amazing.
Thanks for the shout out. Parenting is honestly the hardest job in the world - both mentally and physically. But I wouldn't change a thing. I love my kids more than I thought it was possible to love another human being.
Load More Replies...this is a fun post and reminds us to not take ourselves too seriously. However let‘s also not forget, that while parenthood will inevitably change our lives… It doesn‘t mean we‘ll all turn into goofy, selflessness, unattractive and unhappy somethings. We still have the choice to take care of ourselves and lead fulfilling lives, even with children ;).
I admire these warriors who have sacrificed so much to become parents but I've never regretted my decision to not have any. Small feet in my face or on my head were never appealing. Never mind the breast pumps, the full diapers, the tantrums, etc. Nope.
These people are saints. I could never handle any of that. I'm stressed out and miserable enough just trying to take care of myself lol.
They're not saints. People have been having kids for centuries often against their desire.
Load More Replies...I would have given my two boys a pint of blood for one 20 minute bubble bath. But now, I'm a great grandmother. I thank God for all of it.
And no-one has yet mentioned that while toddlers might be exhausting...they turn into teenagers....
The people in the comments...idk why are they so pessimistic and they love pointing out the problems in any of these posts. This is not the positive attitude that BP strives to have.
Let’s be clear, the only thing BP wants you to do is click on the ads on its pages.
Load More Replies...And yet parents desperately try to sell the idea of kids to others so they'll be as miserable as them.
Like my partner and I are on the fence about kids... We were certain we didn't want any, but then odd days we think maybe. Does anyone here regret having children?
I love my kids and do not regret them at all. Sure there were some days that I needed a break but I'm the one who decided to have them. I had 3 of my own and took custody of 2 more and love it. I would not change a thing.
Load More Replies...I am honestly amazed at all the persons that seriously trash the people in the posts for "giving up their life and happiness for a kid". I mean, c'mon, really? I don't have kids, and don't plan to have them. But judging others people ways of being happy and fulfilled? You do realize you are doing exactly the same that those that say "without kids, you can't be completely happy?"
That´s the irony, isnt it? I dont think that people who feel the need to trash those who did different life choices than them are actually happy with themselves or their lifes, no matter what "side" they´re on. If you´re happy and fulfilled and find someone who is happy because they chose something different for themselves, why would it bother you? It´s like they feel invalidated because other people are taking fulfilment out of different things... but what a sad and boring world it would be if we all liked the same things and made the same choices.
Load More Replies...So happy to be Childfree 4 Life!! La La La. Seriously everyone one of these is a ringing endorsement to never breed and procreate. No life, ugly kids, broke, tired, severe decrease in health... nothing about any of this is appealing.
What's the time span between the before and after? You're still gonna get older and lose some of that youthful looks without kids. Maybe not as fast but..........
Kids are the best,you hug them or they just smile at you,or perhaps stare at you like they've just discovered magic and life just seems ok.I love them,only when they are not mine.If my sis decides to have kids someday,I promise I'll be the best aunt on planet Earth.
Yeah. I had kids and I still travel without them occasionally and have fun. It’s called having a good support system and job security before you decide to make the enormous decision to have kids. If you don’t and end up with kids, then yeah, you shouldn’t have had them.
Shhh, you'll ruin the illusion childfree people have that all parents are miserable bastards who regret their life choices. PS. Nothing bad with being childfree, but the amount of negativity in the comments is tiresome.
Load More Replies...This should be required viewing for all horny teenagers, after which everyone gets free birth control.
These pictures make me sad to look at. It looks like these parents all don't seem to have free time in their lifes anymore.
Why hilariously “sad”? There’s nothing sad about these haha he’s, just a normal part of growing up and moving up to the next stage in life
The changes to your life children bring is 100% worth it! There is nothing more rewarding than being a parent!
I think these pictures are beautiful and it certainly tells stories. Most importantly, it's a great reminder to never have kids nor that I ever want one. PS. To parents out there, kudos to you for raising another human beings. But please stop judging others of their life choices and we are not less of a human being because of it. I also know many of friends that are parents that should have never had kids and ended creating monsters!
All this showed is that having children really ruins your looks and happiness.
If all you care about in life is your 'looks' then go ahead, have fun in your own shallowness. But guess what? Looks are fundamentally worthless and will go anyway, and then what have you got?
Load More Replies...Another post that works perfectly as a reminder to never have kids! Thanks BP
"Why don't you want to have kids?" Bruh hang on imma send you a link to a bored panda list.
None of these people look happier in the after photos. Why do this to yourself?
At least for me, I was much happier in the situation the "after" photos where taken. The very moments can be quite hard, but they are "compensated" for with precious moments with the small ones over and over.
Load More Replies...I don't have kids and I don't really feel like I want to in this current state of the world but a lot of these made me go awwwwwwwwwwwww. Lol. Parents put up with so much it's amazing.
Thanks for the shout out. Parenting is honestly the hardest job in the world - both mentally and physically. But I wouldn't change a thing. I love my kids more than I thought it was possible to love another human being.
Load More Replies...this is a fun post and reminds us to not take ourselves too seriously. However let‘s also not forget, that while parenthood will inevitably change our lives… It doesn‘t mean we‘ll all turn into goofy, selflessness, unattractive and unhappy somethings. We still have the choice to take care of ourselves and lead fulfilling lives, even with children ;).
I admire these warriors who have sacrificed so much to become parents but I've never regretted my decision to not have any. Small feet in my face or on my head were never appealing. Never mind the breast pumps, the full diapers, the tantrums, etc. Nope.
These people are saints. I could never handle any of that. I'm stressed out and miserable enough just trying to take care of myself lol.
They're not saints. People have been having kids for centuries often against their desire.
Load More Replies...I would have given my two boys a pint of blood for one 20 minute bubble bath. But now, I'm a great grandmother. I thank God for all of it.
And no-one has yet mentioned that while toddlers might be exhausting...they turn into teenagers....
The people in the comments...idk why are they so pessimistic and they love pointing out the problems in any of these posts. This is not the positive attitude that BP strives to have.
Let’s be clear, the only thing BP wants you to do is click on the ads on its pages.
Load More Replies...And yet parents desperately try to sell the idea of kids to others so they'll be as miserable as them.
Like my partner and I are on the fence about kids... We were certain we didn't want any, but then odd days we think maybe. Does anyone here regret having children?
I love my kids and do not regret them at all. Sure there were some days that I needed a break but I'm the one who decided to have them. I had 3 of my own and took custody of 2 more and love it. I would not change a thing.
Load More Replies...I am honestly amazed at all the persons that seriously trash the people in the posts for "giving up their life and happiness for a kid". I mean, c'mon, really? I don't have kids, and don't plan to have them. But judging others people ways of being happy and fulfilled? You do realize you are doing exactly the same that those that say "without kids, you can't be completely happy?"
That´s the irony, isnt it? I dont think that people who feel the need to trash those who did different life choices than them are actually happy with themselves or their lifes, no matter what "side" they´re on. If you´re happy and fulfilled and find someone who is happy because they chose something different for themselves, why would it bother you? It´s like they feel invalidated because other people are taking fulfilment out of different things... but what a sad and boring world it would be if we all liked the same things and made the same choices.
Load More Replies...So happy to be Childfree 4 Life!! La La La. Seriously everyone one of these is a ringing endorsement to never breed and procreate. No life, ugly kids, broke, tired, severe decrease in health... nothing about any of this is appealing.
What's the time span between the before and after? You're still gonna get older and lose some of that youthful looks without kids. Maybe not as fast but..........
Kids are the best,you hug them or they just smile at you,or perhaps stare at you like they've just discovered magic and life just seems ok.I love them,only when they are not mine.If my sis decides to have kids someday,I promise I'll be the best aunt on planet Earth.
Yeah. I had kids and I still travel without them occasionally and have fun. It’s called having a good support system and job security before you decide to make the enormous decision to have kids. If you don’t and end up with kids, then yeah, you shouldn’t have had them.
Shhh, you'll ruin the illusion childfree people have that all parents are miserable bastards who regret their life choices. PS. Nothing bad with being childfree, but the amount of negativity in the comments is tiresome.
Load More Replies...This should be required viewing for all horny teenagers, after which everyone gets free birth control.
These pictures make me sad to look at. It looks like these parents all don't seem to have free time in their lifes anymore.
Why hilariously “sad”? There’s nothing sad about these haha he’s, just a normal part of growing up and moving up to the next stage in life
The changes to your life children bring is 100% worth it! There is nothing more rewarding than being a parent!
I think these pictures are beautiful and it certainly tells stories. Most importantly, it's a great reminder to never have kids nor that I ever want one. PS. To parents out there, kudos to you for raising another human beings. But please stop judging others of their life choices and we are not less of a human being because of it. I also know many of friends that are parents that should have never had kids and ended creating monsters!
All this showed is that having children really ruins your looks and happiness.
If all you care about in life is your 'looks' then go ahead, have fun in your own shallowness. But guess what? Looks are fundamentally worthless and will go anyway, and then what have you got?
Load More Replies...