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30 Basic Skills That Folks Thought Everyone Had Until They Saw Others Do It Horribly, As Shared Online
The neat thing about our existence is that everyone gets to experience different lives. Sure, there could be a couple of similarities between a person or two - however, the way we talk, our thoughts, and the things we go through all would be entirely unlike someone else's.
Growing up in other cultures or simply in a different upbringing can help develop several skills that some people either can’t perform as well or never had the need to learn. Yet, we assume that we are all familiar with those everyday skills like vacuuming and cooking - however, this thread will convince you otherwise:
Someone on Reddit wondered about a similar thing and asked fellow users, “what is a basic skill that you grew up thinking everyone had until you saw others do it so horribly?“. The question received nearly 44K upvotes and 24K worth of both entertaining and sincere comments.
Do you have a skill that you thought was basic?
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#1
I had a friend who grew up with maids. He was 18 and gay and his family kicked him out. So he got this tiny little run down studio apartment in Los Feliz. He was super proud of it, and invited me to see it. He was using candles to light it when I got there (maybe to save money? Maybe to hide the blemishes?) and had left an ashtray on the floor, which I accidentally kicked and got (cold) ashes all over his carpet.
He freaked the f**k out. “What do I do? How am I going to clean that?!”
“With a vacuum?” I replied, confused as to why this was a mystery.
He didn’t have one, so he went to ask the building manager if there was one he could borrow; which there was.
He pulls this standard upright vacuum into the middle of the room and then stares at it. After a few seconds wondering what he was doing I asked “do you not know how to use a vacuum?”
“No, you have to understand, we always had maids, I never even made a bed before last week.”
So I plug it in, turn it on, and take it a couple times back and forth across part of the carpet.
Then like a child with the Fisher-Price popper vacuum he went to work. He was over the moon excited. 25 years later it’s a favorite memory of that person.
angry_waffle 3 years ago
it seems this case wasn't willful ignorance because it should be the parents responsibility to teach him.
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#2
Explaining things. If I explain something and someone tells me they don't understand, I explain it again, but frame or phrase it differently. I will never understand why so many people think just saying the exact same words again in a more exasperated/condescending tone is at all effective.
SykesDaMan 3 years ago
There's also the possibility that the person doesn't understand it enough to be able to explain it to someone else. Being able to do something and understand it are two different things.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
This! They are the people who do things someone tells them to do, without any understanding of any of it. Even if what they doing is bad.
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Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago
First, ever be condescending. We are all ignorant of more than we know. Einstein can't build the rocket. However, "I didn't understand that" can mean both "I couldn't hear you over the rocket noise" and "What's a broken oxygen sensor mean"?" If its the 2nd one, the explainer may not comprehend the gap in understanding between them and the other person. For many explainers who want to help, that exasperation is not at the explainee but at themself on how to break down a lifetime so it makes sense. A good mechanic may struggle explaining why replacing the impeller costs $1200 to fix to someone whose never opened the hood of their car. A lot of explaining won't help if you have no knowledge of a transmission. They get frustrated at themself on why they can't explain something they know so well. My dad explained it to me when I was 9, why can't I explain it to a 42 year old who is genuinely interested. They forget the 3 years before 9 they helped dad in the garage learning.
Ian Bartels 3 years ago
This is why teachers have to go through college and learn specific strategies and technics to learn how to teach. Explaining a task is not as easy as it sounds.
KittyMommy 3 years ago
Wish my kid's teachers had learned that. Few too many straight out of school and only know one way to explain complex ideas. And then stare at her when she asks for help. She's been told a few to many times"but I already explained it to you"
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
Because they don’t understand synonyms, to be able to say it again differently. Those of us with a healthy vocabulary can search our brains and figure out a way to dumb it down for them.
Mazer 3 years ago
I was taught this by my friend who is deaf. She was great. Said if I don’t understand you, please try to find different words.
MaggieWest 3 years ago
Yes! The words you are saying are just not computing, say it differently!
Load More Replies... Dorothy Parker 3 years ago
People also have different learning styles. I do better seeing something done or reading about it. Spoken words don't always stick. Great book about this is PLEASE UNDERSTAND ME.
Winter Eleven 3 years ago
Could you tell that to all of my teachers from kindergarten to collage? Well now in college they do explain differently most of the timw
John Smith 3 years ago
I had a teacher with the problem that they couldn't grasp the concept that, I understand the words, but the meaning alludes me. They just repeated the same words, just slower.
The swede. 3 years ago
I have learning difficulties and don't understand a lot of things people trying to explaine to me. So I've learn over the years that saying "okej, got it" is "better" for everyone (but me), because people getting frustraited over me - not understand what is easy for them. In The end I still don't understand and it is what it is. (I am not an idiot in that sence, my brain is just...different.)
UpQuarkDownQuark 3 years ago
I just encountered the flip side of this: almost willfully failing to understand. Ran into some people on the street who had questions about the apartment building next to mine, which has crazy reduced rent right now because of major renovation work. “Oh, how much are the aparrments?” “I don’t know, I don’t live there.” “Ballpark?” “I have no idea.” “Like, seven hundred? Nine hundred?” “I have no clue. I don’t live there…” I mean, is there another way to explain the phrase “I don’t know”?
Scott Rackley 3 years ago
Easy. You have to figure out their understandings are first. Then lead from what they understand to what you understand. It's not hard.
Natalia Linnik 3 years ago
This is especially true when talking to an immigrant. If they don’t understand you, doesn’t mean they are stupid, they just don’t know certain words you used. Be considered and use different wording to explain it again.
Amanda Nolting 3 years ago
Or if I ask someone to repeat themselves but they just repeat the last couple of words. Or say it quieter when I couldn't hear them the first time. Not helpful.
Olga Dremina 3 years ago
Oliver Sacks wrote abt this - clinical manifestation, of course. People, esp old or with mental illnesses have it stronger, but everyone have an image in their mind for the word they repeat. Common example - names. Like you have 5 Mikes in office, and when you talk to your colleague you may forget to specify, which Mike, because YOU KNOW WHO ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT😁
Carrie Laughs 3 years ago
My husband, bless him, can only explain things if he draws a diagram at the same time. I don't need it usually as I'll understand the words but it is how his brain works. Fine by me, he's good at drawing fortunately!
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago
People think different. I have to explain directions step by step to my intellectually disabled daughter. I have to explain things is great detail to my mom to the point I wonder if she's completely incapable of imagining anything at all. I have the ability to think in between the gaps and don't require a heap amount of extra instruction unless I ask for it. This is why no student learns the same and excels at the same rate as other students.
Flying Captain 3 years ago
Bad explaining: get louder bc a non white person said "huh?" Do not mix up language barriers and hearing difficulties....
Marcellus II 3 years ago
You must be mistaken. Just like the best way to speak a foreign language is to speak English, but slower and louder with random emphasis on syllables; bonus clarity if you make unrelated gesticulations.
Olga Dremina 3 years ago
/s Here, you dropped it. Not everyone is native to Sarcastic
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Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
I explain in a way that I think I would remember it the first time some ódy Said it to me. Having big vocabulary is a plus. Also I do this simplification when talking to my foreign coworkers. They soeak russian I speak Czech, our languages are simmilar yer its required for us to simplify our talking to understand each other
Beatrice Multhaupt 3 years ago
This is going to sound politically incorrect, but there is a gender difference here: men are at a loss when it comes to rephrasing anything, although there are many really remarkable men working as teachers. A dear friend and I regularly converse in a language that he learned on his mother's lap while I struggle with it, since it's my third. If I ask him to translate something he just said, he pulls it off well, but asking him to rephrase a concept throws him into despair, especially because he,s really trying.
KatHat 3 years ago
Your one personal experience is not a "gender difference" and my objecting to your anecdotal story is not "political correctness". Some men are as you describe; some women are; some non-binary people are. You're describing PEOPLE. And yes, gender expectations in society mean that some people are treated one way while growing up, while others are treated another way - that has nothing to do with biology and everything to do with how people were treated growing up.
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#4
Being polite/having manners
Kimberlee Lofink 3 years ago
While polite/ manners differ somewhat between cultures, rude and entitled is universally understood. Trying to be polite will get you everywhere, and specific customs might even be politely explained by the locals. In short- it is an attitude thing.
#5
Writing---and I don't mean grammatically perfect pieces or novel writing. I am amazed how many people can't do basic level writing stuff like putting sentences in logical order, using basic punctuation and grammar, etc. I am not a world class writer, but years of Catholic school taught me the basics. I occasionally proofread papers for younger family members and honestly don't even know where to start. The grammar issues I can deal with, but the total lack of organization in paragraphs drives me crazy because I basically end up re-writing the damn paper so it makes some kind of sense.
#6
Their/there/they're.
Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago
This used to bother me way too much but I've calmed down. If the wrong one is used, everyone knows what the person meant. Since the purpose of language is to share ideas, they completed the task. I now think it only matters when the different homonyms can lead to total confusion (The priest was last seen on the altar with his hands on a choir boy preying/praying on the young child).
#8
Being able and willing to figure stuff out. A lot of basic skills aren't that complicated. And in this day, if it is complicated, the internet almost certainly has dozens, hundreds, or more, tutorials. Quitting because "I don't know how" should not be the answer. I wish more were taught to figure things out, or seek the help/answers to get it done.
#9
Bagging groceries. I mean, isn't it common sense to put all the frozen items in one bag, produce in another, raw meat by itself in a bag, cleaners separate from food? Does it really have to be taught that you shouldn't put a cantaloupe on top of bread?
Martha Meyer 3 years ago
Why use ten different bags to begin with? Heavy stuff on the bottom, more fragile things on top. Done.
#10
I don't want to brag, but I know the difference between "definitely" and "defiantly".
#11
Chewing with your mouth closed.
#12
Throwing your trash in a trash can/garbage can and watching people leave their s**t outside their car when they are in a parking lot. Drives me nuts. Especially when NO ONE will pick that up and it's literally littering.
#13
Sewing. I thought I was a mediocre sewer because I wasn't great at cross-stitch and embroidery. Turns out fixing a button or seam is a skill.
#14
Being gentle with your things. Any time we get help from siblings and their spouses I'm astounded by how roughly they treat all of their things/how rough of a job they're ok with accepting.
Also when assembling furniture.. My best mate put together a set of shelves using a drill as a driver on the short and easy to insert Allen keyed screws.. Stripped half of the heads and forced a few in at slightly off-angles and also stripped their threads a bit. Like what are you doing bro? Could have just used an Allen key by hand and put it together in the same time without damaging anything.
a number of people have mentioned using their drill/driver with the right torque setting (and an appropriate amount of skill.!). Yes I agree this is perfectly fine! I didn't mean to say you should never use a driver to assemble furniture, but more that you should know how to use your tools, use what is necessary, and do it with the right level of enthusiasm/strength
#15
Laundry, especially emptying the dryer lint. So many places I’ve stayed had “bad driers” that were packed full of lint! How these people did not start a fire is amazing.
Robert T 3 years ago
Following a series of fires cause by driers that collected lint where they shouldn't, there was a big recall of the affected models, with free replacements being provided, even for quite old machines. The replacements state very clearly that the lint trap must be emptied after each use.
#16
I'm still amazed at how many people my age still can't use computers properly. I don't mean in the too old or too poor category, I'm talking about the sheer number of people in my age group who skipped past computers and went straight to smartphones. (I'm 21)
Robert T 3 years ago
I'm kind of the opposite. I grew up with computers, before even mobile phones were around. I can work a smartphone (and even develop Apps for it), but typing on a phone to me is like trying to knit a scarf with your eyes shut. Give me a proper keyboard and I'll give a professional typist a run of their money!
#17
I'm shocked at how bad some people are at following writen directions. Not travel, but like... assemble furniture, follow a recipe or experiment, read an instruction manual.
#18
I kid you not, I lived with a guy once who had a butler his whole life. Things I taught him:
The funky knife with a hole in it is not useless, it's a potato peeler
You open cans with a can opener
Nothing needs to be microwaved for 10 minutes
For the record, I really liked this guy and he was incredibly fun and kind.
Marcellus II 3 years ago
I met a guy who cooked everything with a drip coffee maker. Closed bag of frozen food, drip hot water over, repeat until "ready".
#19
DarkMonkey98 said:
hygiene
chouston333 replied:
This is a big problem.
My parents didn't teach me good hygiene. I stank all the time and it's not something people will tell you about. They will complain to people around you.
My wife taught me better hygiene and it has changed my life. I'm doing much better professionally and random strangers are no longer mean to me seemingly for no reason.
I wish there was a good resource I could refer my stinky friends to so they could learn about it.
H Edwards 3 years ago
I was amazed, and also of course repulsed, when an ex of mine apparently didn't know how how to properly wipe his a5s after using the toilet. Skidmarks (and I mean, massive ones) were just a normal part of life for him. I tried to talk to him about it but he wasn't having it. Glad to be out of that one for many reasons.
#20
Budgeting
Sean Merchant 3 years ago
Not quite the same, but I wish someone had discussed how interest on loans could really add up. Did not figure that out until my early 20's.
#21
Basic first aid. Buddy in college got cut and didn’t understand how to make it stop bleeding and bandage/disinfect it properly, I was amazed.
Dana Ondráčková 3 years ago
That panic of my coworkers running to me with bleeding fingers or Burns like whatdoido whatdoido?! Duh?!
#22
reading, i sit in my highschool english class everyday and wonder how these mfs got past 2 grade reading a whole page in a monotone in one breath
#23
I thought that everyone younger than me knows how to do basic computer troubleshooting.
Turns out a fair of people younger than myself don't know how to look up answers online, it honestly baffled me.
#24
Reading a map. I grew up traveling long before computers. I've handed several adults paper maps while driving and they didn't even know how to find where we were. I guess it isn't a skill you need anymore though.
#25
Basic cooking skills. I once saw a guy try to cook pasta by dumping raw pasta shells in a frying pan with a little oil...
#26
Watching your mouth as an adult. I’m pretty abrasive with people that I’m close with, but I know how to be professional, especially in front of customers. Worked with a fair few people in the restaurant industry who just do not get it. Blows my mind
#27
Writing an email with proper grammar and formatting seems obvious and easy to me, but I see so many people at work who are just the worst
#30
Washing dishes
What do you think ?
Demi Zwaan 3 years ago
"Updating people on delays." I mean, if you're running late, let the waiting party know. If someone ordered something and it's delayed, let them know. If you are supposed to come paint the house in week 3, don't wait until they angrily call in week 5 asking where you are. LET PEOPLE KNOW when schedules change. I don't mind that the thing I ordered is delayed for weeks, things happen, but I DO mind not being told.
Chancey 3 years ago
People that are totally unaware of their surroundings irritate me. For example: Stopping in the middle of an aisle when shopping without regard for others around them.
SAF saf 3 years ago
Beyond irritating! all of sudden they snap back into realty an start huffing cause someone just passed them by on a food isle.
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Walking On Sunshine 3 years ago
I read a saying the other day. "Common sense is a flower that doesn't grow in everyone's garden."
Chich 3 years ago
Basic survivlal skills such as lighting a fire. Watched one fellow in a campground hold a lighter to a 15cm diameter log for several minutes. Went and showed him how.
MimSorensson 2 years ago (edited)
I know, right? I was raised with that shìt, in the sometimes wet and nasty but still great and ancient forests of Sweden. How to put up a tent or build wind protection, how to make a fire, how to cook on a fire (or rather, the embers), which animals can be potentially dangerous, basic first aid, all that jazz just kind of came with my upbringing, even though I grew up living in our second biggest city. My slightly crazy dad took us out any chance he got and I had family on the country side that I visited regularly. I guess it’s about what kind of interests ones parents and friends have, and I do NOT look down on people who can’t do these things: I was just surprised when I realized it wasn’t something everybody knew how to do. Sometimes one experiences a shift of paradigmes, I suppose it happens to everybody.
Load More Replies... SAF saf 3 years ago (edited)
Some of these are either a pointless skill to learn or forgivable due the technology gap. A good part of society doesn't write emails they just text. The rest reflect a failure of a parent. I was in the military's super young and was shocked at the lack self cleanliness of other recruits. I then attended a university after serving and was shocked even more. Listen everyone it's cute not when you're unable to do your own laundry or cook for your self.
Steve Luther 3 years ago
How about getting your kids involved in scouting, almost every thing here is covered either in merit badges or rank advancement or even just camping and learning by doing with friends
Caroline Sinclair 3 years ago
No-one is born knowing these skills (or any others). Some people are taught, and benefit from good parenting. Some people make the effort to discover for themselves how to interact with the world. But unfortunately some people are just not interested in learning how to be fully functioning adults.
SAF saf 3 years ago
Also, can we add an inability to provide usable directions? if your home is next to another home with say...a GIANT ROLLER COASTER just start with that. The amount of obscure directions of received in the past is insane. I mean you live right across the street from a Super Market?...just say that.
Monica Pryts 2 years ago
So glad I learned basic life skills growing up. Trying to do the same with my kid. And I write for a living and don't have enough time to address those points on the list!
Stoopham McFernybabes 3 years ago
Walking in a crowded area: don’t stop in the middle of everything, try to stick to one side so other people come ing other direction can pass you, don’t walk 2/3/27 abreast with all your mates so no one can get past or around, be considerate of people less mobile or bulkier than you (elderly people, folks with walking frames, wheelchairs, prams and/or small kids they’re trying to hold).
Dagnirath 3 years ago
With most of these cleaning entries, knowing how is one thing and doing it is another, but doing it thoroughly is the real skill. If you're halfway cleaning you might as well not be cleaning at all.
SilentBob731 3 years ago
Well, you've convinced me...no cleaning at all. ;-)
Load More Replies... Frannie Kaplan 3 years ago
People playing videos and music or speaking on speakerphone, anywhere and everywhere. Every creed and age group has done thus, every single nationality. Why? I am convinced they want the attention. Sometimes they have expensive headphones sitting right there with them
Demi Zwaan 3 years ago
"Updating people on delays." I mean, if you're running late, let the waiting party know. If someone ordered something and it's delayed, let them know. If you are supposed to come paint the house in week 3, don't wait until they angrily call in week 5 asking where you are. LET PEOPLE KNOW when schedules change. I don't mind that the thing I ordered is delayed for weeks, things happen, but I DO mind not being told.
Chancey 3 years ago
People that are totally unaware of their surroundings irritate me. For example: Stopping in the middle of an aisle when shopping without regard for others around them.
SAF saf 3 years ago
Beyond irritating! all of sudden they snap back into realty an start huffing cause someone just passed them by on a food isle.
Load More Replies... Walking On Sunshine 3 years ago
I read a saying the other day. "Common sense is a flower that doesn't grow in everyone's garden."
Chich 3 years ago
Basic survivlal skills such as lighting a fire. Watched one fellow in a campground hold a lighter to a 15cm diameter log for several minutes. Went and showed him how.
MimSorensson 2 years ago (edited)
I know, right? I was raised with that shìt, in the sometimes wet and nasty but still great and ancient forests of Sweden. How to put up a tent or build wind protection, how to make a fire, how to cook on a fire (or rather, the embers), which animals can be potentially dangerous, basic first aid, all that jazz just kind of came with my upbringing, even though I grew up living in our second biggest city. My slightly crazy dad took us out any chance he got and I had family on the country side that I visited regularly. I guess it’s about what kind of interests ones parents and friends have, and I do NOT look down on people who can’t do these things: I was just surprised when I realized it wasn’t something everybody knew how to do. Sometimes one experiences a shift of paradigmes, I suppose it happens to everybody.
Load More Replies... SAF saf 3 years ago (edited)
Some of these are either a pointless skill to learn or forgivable due the technology gap. A good part of society doesn't write emails they just text. The rest reflect a failure of a parent. I was in the military's super young and was shocked at the lack self cleanliness of other recruits. I then attended a university after serving and was shocked even more. Listen everyone it's cute not when you're unable to do your own laundry or cook for your self.
Steve Luther 3 years ago
How about getting your kids involved in scouting, almost every thing here is covered either in merit badges or rank advancement or even just camping and learning by doing with friends
Caroline Sinclair 3 years ago
No-one is born knowing these skills (or any others). Some people are taught, and benefit from good parenting. Some people make the effort to discover for themselves how to interact with the world. But unfortunately some people are just not interested in learning how to be fully functioning adults.
SAF saf 3 years ago
Also, can we add an inability to provide usable directions? if your home is next to another home with say...a GIANT ROLLER COASTER just start with that. The amount of obscure directions of received in the past is insane. I mean you live right across the street from a Super Market?...just say that.
Monica Pryts 2 years ago
So glad I learned basic life skills growing up. Trying to do the same with my kid. And I write for a living and don't have enough time to address those points on the list!
Stoopham McFernybabes 3 years ago
Walking in a crowded area: don’t stop in the middle of everything, try to stick to one side so other people come ing other direction can pass you, don’t walk 2/3/27 abreast with all your mates so no one can get past or around, be considerate of people less mobile or bulkier than you (elderly people, folks with walking frames, wheelchairs, prams and/or small kids they’re trying to hold).
Dagnirath 3 years ago
With most of these cleaning entries, knowing how is one thing and doing it is another, but doing it thoroughly is the real skill. If you're halfway cleaning you might as well not be cleaning at all.
SilentBob731 3 years ago
Well, you've convinced me...no cleaning at all. ;-)
Load More Replies... Frannie Kaplan 3 years ago
People playing videos and music or speaking on speakerphone, anywhere and everywhere. Every creed and age group has done thus, every single nationality. Why? I am convinced they want the attention. Sometimes they have expensive headphones sitting right there with them
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