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Mom Calls Gay Bar For Advice After Her Son Comes Out, And Bartender Has The Best Response
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Mom Calls Gay Bar For Advice After Her Son Comes Out, And Bartender Has The Best Response

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Like most bartenders with 17 years of experience under their belt, Kara Coley has had a fair share of customers who were asking for advice. Recently, however, it wasn’t a customer who needed her wisdom, but a random mother who called immediately after her son had just come out to her.

You see, Coley works at a popular gay-friendly bar called Sipps in Gulfport, Mississippi. “Sexuality is a major factor in the questions I get,” she told Bored Panda. “It is usually coming from the person struggling with it.” Given the nature of the call, it might have been the first google suggestion the concerned mother got. “The role reversal and it coming from a parent (being a stranger) is the part that shocked me.”

At first, Kara thought it was a prank. “It’s definitely a different approach,” she said. “Most people would just do some research on the internet or talk to the one gay they know (we all have one).” Scroll down to read their exchange in Coley’s own words and let us know what do you think about it in the comments.

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    After 17 years of bartending experience, Kara Coley thought she has seen it all

    Until she received a phone call from one concerned mother

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    “I have had a few people that I grew up with ask advice when they found out their child or child’s friend was gay, but never as random as this phone call”

    Celebrating love, the internet applauded the heartwarming exchange

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    “You loved your kid yesterday, so it’s simple – love them tomorrow. Still the same person”

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    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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    Mark Fuller
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Earlier this week, I had a vicar ask me how to have "the conversation" with her grandson. She's certain he's gay and loves him regardless, but fears the rest of the family may be uncomfortable and that no one will tell her because of her role in the church. So asking for advice is quite common. I suggested throwing it into conversation like you would the weather. Because the greatest compliment you can pay a gay person is to treat their sexuality as though it were no more exciting than the colour of their skin, their favourite food or the name of their pet.

    Daria B
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, so true, Mark! I recall a gay colleague once talking with positive feelings about the reaction of another colleague when he told him he's gay. He said the reaction was: "So what?"

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    Jonathan Eatsalot
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone tells me they are gay it's like someone telling me they have an arm. Yay?

    Aoki
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's great, Jonathan. Unfortunately not everyone is so tolerant and accepting of others

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    Mark Fuller
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Earlier this week, I had a vicar ask me how to have "the conversation" with her grandson. She's certain he's gay and loves him regardless, but fears the rest of the family may be uncomfortable and that no one will tell her because of her role in the church. So asking for advice is quite common. I suggested throwing it into conversation like you would the weather. Because the greatest compliment you can pay a gay person is to treat their sexuality as though it were no more exciting than the colour of their skin, their favourite food or the name of their pet.

    Daria B
    Community Member
    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, so true, Mark! I recall a gay colleague once talking with positive feelings about the reaction of another colleague when he told him he's gay. He said the reaction was: "So what?"

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    Jonathan Eatsalot
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    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone tells me they are gay it's like someone telling me they have an arm. Yay?

    Aoki
    Community Member
    6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's great, Jonathan. Unfortunately not everyone is so tolerant and accepting of others

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