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The practices and norms around raising kids change over time, with each generation of parents redefining the classic role. These shifts take place due to a number of factors, including new research, technologies, or the desire to "do it differently than our old folks did." But that doesn't mean that all of them are automatically better than the older ways.

So when Reddit user The_WhiteMantis asked everyone on the platform to share the parenting trends that they wholeheartedly disagree with, people immediately started sharing their opinions. From making your children the butt of your jokes to never telling them "no," below you will find the submissions that received the most attention.

#1

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not vaccinating children.

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James016
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Big shout out to all the selfish asshats who are allowing preventable diseases and diseases that were essentially eradicated to come back full force.

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#2

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The trend of oversharing kids' lives on social media. It's like turning your child's childhood into a reality TV show.

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Tamra
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one I feel pretty strongly about. Let your kid have actual privacy and room to grow, be awkward, and make mistakes without plastering everything on the damn internet. Some of the stuff I've seen borders on abuse.

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We contacted The_WhiteMantis, and the Redditor explained that they came up with the idea for their post thanks to the radio.

"The question popped into my head after I heard a conversation on the radio about the usage of phones by minors," The_WhiteMantis told Bored Panda.

"I did not have time to read all the comments due to the huge size of the discussion, however, I did notice some recurring themes: 1) providing devices to minors, 2) parents living vicariously through their children, and 3) being overprotective of them."

#3

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Never saying no to your child.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they have to know that they can't get everything. adulthood is gonna hit them hard

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#4

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I’ve seen a small yet growing trend of homeschooled kids where the parents are completely neglectful of actual education and basically let the kid do whatever they want. They don’t follow standardised curriculum for the sake of “letting kids be kids.” If your kid can barely read at 10 years old, you’re setting them up to fail as an adult.

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#5

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I hate when people dress up their baby girls in outfits a woman should be wearing. Like there are little girls outfits that are adorable and meant for a little girl. But no little girl should be wearing a body suit and ripped jeans or a crop top and low rise bellbottoms, it gives me the creeps.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's so weird to me, because you KNOW those clothes are super expensive and the kids are going to grow out of it in a month or so

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Moms and dads often do not follow a specific parenting style. In the United States, for instance, a nationally representative survey of parents with children younger than 18 conducted by the Pew Research Center revealed that when asked about their parenting habits, including whether they tend to be too strict or too lenient, excessively praise or criticize their children, be overprotective or grant too much freedom, and push their children too hard or not enough, a considerable percentage of respondents ranging from 34% to 53% reported that neither option accurately describes their parenting style.

Additionally, almost the same number of parents are either trying to raise their children in a similar way as they were raised (43%) or differently (44%).

#6

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not teaching children proper manners/behavior

Please and thank you go a long a*s way in this life.

Also not helping kids with conversation skills. Conversation usually goes back and forth. With no phones involved.

Fun_Intention_5371 , sglazkova Report

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Epona
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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Regarding manners: Chewing with your mouth open is one that really annoys me! And talking with your mouth full. I get that sometimes it’s unavoidable but it does not take that long to chew the food and swallow it and then talk.

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#7

Do gender reveals count? Lighting things on fire, blowing things up and potentially injuring a family member all in an display of obsession over the genitals of your fetus is cringy at best and a small scale natural disaster at worst.

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Michael Largey
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm always willing for a gender to be revealed. But instead, it's always those same two genders that everyone already knows about!

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#8

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Making your child's entire identity revolve around their extracurricular activities. Let them be kids, not robotic machines for your bragging rights.

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troufaki13
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also don't force your unfinished dreams on your kids. They are separate individuals not your extension.

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#9

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I guess this is kinda specific, but my son is autistic, so it applies to me. I hate the “Autism Mom” thing. The t-shirts, the unsolicited “advocacy”…it seems like an attention seeking thing to me. My kid has autism, ADHD, and anxiety, and it takes approximately 5 seconds of being around him to notice. I will fight for him always, of course, but I won’t use him as a badge either. I won’t hide his diagnosis from him, but I won’t let him use it as an excuse either.

And some of those shirts get borderline threatening too…”If you want to know fear, fight an autism mama bear”…or something like that.

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Talking about the main factors that make parenting trends popular (regardless of their effectiveness), the author of the post believes the internet is arguably the main culprit.

"I think most parents get their ideas on how to raise kids from social media. It seems like a significant proportion of the user base on various platforms is over the age of 30, so it makes sense," The_WhiteMantis said.

#10

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Pranking your kids or playing jokes on them. Not all kids understand it’s a joke and it really upsets them. I hate seeing videos of parents thinking it’s ok to throw things at their kids or make them do dumb stuff for amusement. Like the cheese challenge thing. Throwing food at babies….awful behavior.

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Tamra
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any parent who uses their kid as a prop to gain views on social media is a douchebag, and even more so when you're playing on a kid's emotions.

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#11

Not exactly a trend but: having like 5+ kids and forcing the older ones to basically raise the little ones. i know that sometimes the parents are not well informed about contraception, but it’s still not the kids’ problem! it’s one thing to have them help once in a while, but anything that stops them from living their own lives to raise YOUR kids is just ridiculous.
for example: not being able to take an extracurricular activity because they have to be home watching their siblings.

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James016
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know someone who was parentified as a child. She cut off contact with her parents, step parents and all but 2 of her siblings.

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#12

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Confusing gentle parenting with permissive parenting.

You can be both gentle and authoritative. Authoritative is *not* authoritarian; it is the role of a parent to provide structure and boundaries for their children while also allowing them to feel their emotions and deal with the ups and downs of being a kid. Go ahead and soothe your children when they are upset and give them a safe space to calm down but you do not have to cushion their world for them in order to avert a meltdown.

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According to C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children's Health, most parents of young children (80%) indeed say they use social media to discuss parenting topics.

Looking deeper, more mothers than fathers use social media to look for parenting advice or information (84% vs 69%) or share their experiences (63% vs 42%).

#13

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Never telling your kid no. You’re creating a monster that is going to ruin your life some day. Boundaries and consequences are essential to any kid- well human even- being successful in the world we live in.

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Tabitha
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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not just your life, but the lives of everyone else they will ever come into contact with. It will not be pretty when their future boss tells your now grown kid no they cannot do some harebrained c**p idea they come up with, and they proceed to throw a full red in the face meltdown tantrum because of it. Boss will just fire their a*s on the spot. You want to end up supporting your kid for the rest of your lives after they burn through every job they ever got with their spoiled brat behavior? Fine. Then never tell them no. But if you ever want to have your kid be a gainfully employed, self-supporting adult, then tell them no when you don't want them to do, say, have, take, touch, eat, drink, walk over---you name it---something that will end up hurting them, you, and anyone or anything else. Teach them how to live in the real world. That's your job as a parent.

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#14

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones “Gentle parenting” b***h hold your kid at the doctor if they need a test done. “I don’t think she wants to do this test/use this medicine” B***H SHE NEEDS IT. (I work in a doctors office).

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but this doesn't sound like gentle parenting to me. More like neglecting the inconvenient duties of being a parent.

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#15

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Loud cartoons and games on tablets in public places.

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Epona
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same with toys. Why kids toys “need” to be loud is beyond me. Why do they have three volume settings but they’re all too dang loud? The Leapfrog reader books are a good example. It’s a wonder parents of toddlers and young children don’t have hearing damage from how loud their kid are and how loud their kids toys are.

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Experts aren't surprised.

"I think this data reflects what we've seen over the past few years," said Titania Jordan, the chief parenting officer of Bark, a parental control app that allows parents to manage their kids’ digital worlds.

"Parents are reaching out more and more for advice on social media for three main reasons: Convenience, new technology, and different ways of parenting."

#16

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Giving your child an iPad as soon as they can hold it.

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James016
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on what you let them do with it. For example a few years ago we put a piano app on my son's iPad and now he is starting to prep for his grade 1 exams. But just unfiltered access to everything is bad. It can be a great educational tool

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#17

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Parents not having even minimal standards for their children’s behavior, and expecting other people to be alright with it. I really don’t care that he is having “big feelings.” He is lying in the aisle of the supermarket, screaming at the top of his lungs, having a full blown tantrum because you said no. Grow a pair.

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Marianne
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I do agree with the sentiment, this is not a good example. The child is screaming, because their parent is setting up standards. Standards like "I won't buy you anthing you fancy". And toddlers can't deal with those kind of emotions in a different way. They only learn it through experience. And what exactly are you supposed to do with a child to immediately stop a tantrum (if you don't want to cave in every time)?

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#19

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Driving your kids 200m to school.

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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes right, for safety reasons. And then driving like crazy and endangering other kids on the school ground...Where I work as a teacher this becomes more and more of a problem. Kids aged 13-16 with only short commutes, lots of bike lanes and great public transport. Wouldn't be necessary. I do understand it depends on the schools location and country. But here this just isn't necessary...and driving together with bikes or tag along in the bus would be good from a social aspect as well...

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However, Jordan has concerns. "It’s not all roses. There is a ton of misinformation out there, and just because another parent is talking about something, it doesn’t mean they’re knowledgeable."

And this thread proves it.

#20

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I’m gonna go in a little bit of a different direction: parents not watching their own behavior when it comes to screen time, frustration tolerance, discipline, etc.

You’ve got to dig deep and figure out how to role model the behaviors you want your kids to do. If you are on your phone 24/7 and throw a fit every time the slightest thing inconveniences you you aren’t gonna have a good time with your kids doing anything different.

kimtenisqueen , Kev Costello Report

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#21

I disagree with ALL trends. Parenting is not supposed to be trendy. Figure out what works for you and your family and do that, but don’t expect everyone else to do the same.

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#22

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Taking your kids to a restaurant and putting screens in their hands. How are kids going to learn how to behave in polite society if you don’t train them how to behave in social situations?

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my son was little before smart phones. They had placemats for kids to do puzzles etc. Bring that back.

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#23

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The lack of discipline and manners taught to the kids. I get soft parenting, I'm on board with no hitting and all of the abuse but kids still need to learn boundaries about what they could and couldn't do.

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Katrina Nixon
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Went to a friend's plc and her 4 yr old starts screaming at me, freaking tf out, I'm like what's going on? My friend says " she wants your scarf. She won't stop screaming until you give it to her." Sorry..what??

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#24

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Being overweight and allowing your children to follow the same path of obesity.
(Yes I get sometimes it's genetics, but genetics is not why appx 1/3 of Americans are obese and why the rest of the world isnt).

Chemical_Party7735 , puhimec Report

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Ace
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of 'the rest of the world' is just as bad. This is not an American things at all.

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#25

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The sad beige mom trend. If you want to make the rest of your home sad and beige, that's up to you. But my God! Please let your child's nursery have some colour for their own development and well-being.

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Marianne
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Part of this problem is that most children's toys/furniture etc. are available in either pink or blue or beige. And if parents don't want to strictly color-code their children, they have to go with beige. Which is really sad.

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#26

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Child vlogging, its a bit weird tbh and I feel like things are gonna go to s**t for the parents when the kids become adults.

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James016
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read an interview recently about a child who's mum was a mummy vlogger. She had no sense of what was reality and what was the bubble her mum created. It was essentially child abuse.

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#27

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Weird orthorexic parents who make their entire personality their kids' hundreds of allergies . Gluten free, dairy free, nut free , meat free . EVERYTHING FREE! I’m sorry, I do not believe them .

Lucyinthskyy , wutzkoh Report

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have celiac disease, I cannot understand why anyone would go gluten-free if they didn't have to. I miss nice bread so much!

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#28

Lawnmower parenting. Not only do they hover over their kids, they mow down anyone who does something they don't like. They're the "you can't wear that shirt where my kids might see it" and "you'd better allow my child into this 21+ establishment but not show them anything inappropriate" type.

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#29

Those “boy moms” that are grossly obsessed with their baby or toddler boys. Ew, f**k out of here with that emotional incest s**t.

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Epona
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s just as creepy (actually more) when their (the moms) still doing that behaviour when their son is grown and dating/married!

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#30

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not (sensibly) challenging their comfort zone. How are they supposed to grow self-confidence when they're never challenged?

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can i add? Vice versa challenging it too much and making the kid uncomfortable or not accepting their no because 'their a kid'... kids need to learn to step out of their comfort zone yes but they also need to learn that if they are in an uncomfortable situation they are free to decline.

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#31

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Helicopter parenting, or whatever you wanna call it.

As a child that was sheltered and despite my wishes, parents would always intervene and I became way to reliant on that.

Wasn’t until my mid-20s that someone helped me realized what was going on and I had to relearn how to live basically.

Sure my parents did what they thought was best, it ended up really screwing me later in life and I’m still in the process of figuring out what it means to be independent and how to fight for myself.

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Epona
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry you had to deal with that. Glad you had someone help you through it!

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#32

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The Easter "baskets" kids are now getting. It is like a mini Christmas. Hell-I've seen kids that actually get a lot less for Christmas. It's is just disgusting how material we are and in turn making our children. Especially in a world where many people can't even buy sufficient groceries for their family.

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#33

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The amount of surveillance/tracking apps and more that parents have on their kids. It gets really sad when they hit college and they are looking for ways to detach from their parents knowing what/where they are up to 24/7.

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Lauren K
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't imagine my parents knowing where I was EVERY SECOND of the day. Thank god that wasn't a thing when I was a kid.

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#34

Letting them harass and even assault strangers to let them "get it out of their system". Mam, your toddler is like US healthcare, the system is f****d.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either teach your children that it's not OK to assault other people, or other people will do that for you

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#35

- Increasingly separating children's and adult spaces/activities (even in your family life) because you're scared the children will misbehave and/or be bored.

- everything becoming somehow more, not less gendered. All the boys and girls in my vicinity are either in blue/green/grey or red/pink/purple colour pallets. I wouldn't put a boy in a pink tutu and go "haha gotcha" when people think he's a girl but I don't get why a baby boy couldn't wear brightly coloured outfits and needs to dress like a German mechanical engineering student.

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Michael Largey
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me, having a "children's table" at meals during family gatherings is a missed opportunity. I learned a lot about adults and being an adult by watching them at family dinners.

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#36

Imho using chores as a punishment is a great formula to raise a slob. Chores should be portrayed as something you do to maintain a nice living space, help your stuff last longer and overall make things easier.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We (me and my brother) did them without pocket money, we didn't get any. We did chores because you have to, and you have to learn how to do things before you don't have others to help you

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#37

Having kids because your religion tells you to.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or because your parents want grandkids. The only good reason to have kids: because you really want them and they will be a top priority. Still, so many people shouldn't have them.

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#38

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Letting the tablet raise them.

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#39

Not letting your children be inconvenienced or uncomfortable. Over protection maybe.

This statement excludes any form of abuse. It's sad I have to note that, but it's the internet.

Kids need to learn how to manage life not revolving around them. And they can't learn what they are not exposed to.

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7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s one thing to shield your kids from stuff within your control, but expecting other people to stoop down to your kid’s levels so they don’t get hurt is borderline insane. People should know to not sacrifice their own child’s rights just to facilitate the needs of someone else’s child who thinks the world revolves around them. Speaking from experience of receiving this kind of messed up treatment. I had cousins who expected everything to work as they wanted and my parents let them and their parents abuse my rights for their happiness. From them eating decorations off my birthday cake at my birthday parties before the party even started to asking me to give a toy/instrument to them because they’re crying for it even though it’s not their turn with it, life growing up was so unfair and disappointing.

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#40

Lack of discipline, and treating kids like little adults, allowing them to make grown up decisions.

kids appreciate being given clear boundaries, they also appreciate that an adult is in charge, so that they don't have to be.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Teaching your kids about failure by beating them at something and then constantly teasing them for it.

There was a video that made the rounds on Reddit last week of a little girl crying out of frustration because her dad had been constantly whooping her at a video game. Every single thread was full of people saying “dad’s teaching her right!” But I heavily disagree. Beating your children at a game and then teaching them to take the L is one thing; but to get up, walk around your clearly distressed daughter who had been crying before the game was even over, and then striking a victory pose while you look her directly in the eyes is a horrible way of teaching that lesson (that’s what dad did in the video); and to the surprise of no one, the girl tries to kick her dad, which he then starts rubbing it in her face more when she misses.

As someone who was parented that way, it does none of the b******t parents think it does to the kid’s development. All it does is make them resent you and it shows them that being a sore winner is the right way, when a sore winner is far worse than a sore loser.

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#42

Over pampering. Lack of disciplining.

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#43

Using their child to promote their own political objectives.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, I agree this is really gross; I cringe so hard when I see parents do this -_-

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#44

Not letting kids wander about the world.


Yes, the world is fraught with dangers but if your kids has never walked around by themselves, how will they ever learn to navigate their own lives independently?  .

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

they can't navigate their own lives independently if they are kidnapped, run down by a car, or dead. The fact is that most countries are pretty dangerous. Unless the kid is like 17, I do not think so.

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#45

If it's from Korea, it's the trend of putting their kids through private education to the point where they have no life beyond school and education. If they manage to get into uni/college, they have no idea what they are doing with their lives. Their parents have controlled every aspect of their lives since birth, so when they are an adult, they don't know how to make any life decisions on their own. Life goal? Career goal? It's whatever their parents would want them to do. To Korean parents, kids are an extension of themselves. (I'm sure other cultures can relate to this phenomenon.).

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not Korean but this is exactly my life as well. Went off to university for a degree my parents wanted and now I’m a graduate struggling to fit into the challenging world of employment in a field that I don’t feel comfortable in.

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#46

Sleep training by letting them cry when they are so young.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones It seems like there can't be a happy medium for many people. Either they are letting the kids run the household, or they are so afraid of being 'soft' that they borderline abuse their kids to make them 'strong'.

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#48

I can't stand putting kids in sports/activities these days and pushing them to become athletes. It is one thing to expose your kid, they enjoy it, and you let them keep doing it. It is a completely different thing when you see kids in elementary school playing in every league their parent can enroll them in and doing training camps. If they are really good and you give them the tools, ok, but if your kid is mediocre at best then you are setting them up for disappointment.

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Mark
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I tried out a lot of sports, from soccer to golf, and figured out my own area of interest. Let your kids choose

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I don't like the idea of letting them spend their life staring at screens. Instead, I tell them to go out and find some neighbourhood kids to get into trouble, and if any adult has a problem with it, they should keep their distance, and tell them to go talk to me.

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#50

Blaming non-parenting on covid.

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#51

The absolute obsession with counting "screentime" and keeping children away from anything technologic -- even here, under this post, there are numerous people being against teaching children technology from a young age.

I was born in the 1970s, and even I can see that's the direction the future is taking. By not allowing children to access smartphones and/or tablets until they are school-age (or even older!?) is not doing them any favors. Teaching proper etiquette and about the dangers is the way, not abstinence.

It's really ridiculous when it starts to look like American sex ed, where they think teens won't have sex if they're not told about it.

I'm 100% in favor of teaching young children how to use the things, and what to expect. Not just pretending they don't exist.

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Daya Meyer
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The one side is to show and teach them how they can use digital devices and how they should behave when online. The other side is children who get access to smartphones and tablets like a pacifier to calm them down. They are just scrolling around and see everything randomly, teaching themselves how to use the internet.

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#52

"If the child does not understand after several repetitions, then you can hit." This is just a terrible trend, because in the process of learning about the world, the child does everything that seems unusual and interesting to him, and when parents, instead of teaching why something cannot be done, beat the child, then he eventually loses confidence in them and begins to fear for his mistakes in front of them in the future.

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm pretty sure the "trend" is in the other direction. A hundred or two years ago beating children in an attempt to make them learn was so normal that expressions like "spare the rod and spoil the child" were used to scorn parents who did not beat their children. These days it's a very small (but still too large) proportion of parents who still do this.

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#53

Raising children as "genderless".

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censorshipsucks
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why? What specifically gendered thing should we teach them? Fixing cars? Making sandwiches? Mowing the lawn? What is a skill that we should NOT teach someone because of their gender? I do not think there's any need to gender upbringing at all, until the kid gets to teens and needs to know about things like pregnancy risk.

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#54

A lot of kids eating in KFC etc after school. Or getting a Donut. Rather then have a home cooked meal. It seems to be something i have noticed a lot off.

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ADZ
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say menu logging and getting food delivered is way to common entirely in this day and age.

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#55

Having them dress up like the fleet is coming in.

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James016
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's it to you if little Dread Pirate Ashleighlynn wants to wear an eyepatch and 3 pointed hat? 😛

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