People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones

The practices and norms around raising kids change over time, with each generation of parents redefining the classic role. These shifts take place due to a number of factors, including new research, technologies, or the desire to "do it differently than our old folks did." But that doesn't mean that all of them are automatically better than the older ways.

So when Reddit user The_WhiteMantis asked everyone on the platform to share the parenting trends that they wholeheartedly disagree with, people immediately started sharing their opinions. From making your children the butt of your jokes to never telling them "no," below you will find the submissions that received the most attention.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not vaccinating children.

realiz292 , CDC Report

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James016 7 months ago

Big shout out to all the selfish asshats who are allowing preventable diseases and diseases that were essentially eradicated to come back full force.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The trend of oversharing kids' lives on social media. It's like turning your child's childhood into a reality TV show.

aileen_feder , Georgia de Lotz Report

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137points

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Tamra 7 months ago

This is one I feel pretty strongly about. Let your kid have actual privacy and room to grow, be awkward, and make mistakes without plastering everything on the damn internet. Some of the stuff I've seen borders on abuse.

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We contacted The_WhiteMantis, and the Redditor explained that they came up with the idea for their post thanks to the radio.

"The question popped into my head after I heard a conversation on the radio about the usage of phones by minors," The_WhiteMantis told Bored Panda.

"I did not have time to read all the comments due to the huge size of the discussion, however, I did notice some recurring themes: 1) providing devices to minors, 2) parents living vicariously through their children, and 3) being overprotective of them."

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Never saying no to your child.

User-1967 , Kelly Sikkema Report

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133points

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shanila.pheonix_ 7 months ago

they have to know that they can't get everything. adulthood is gonna hit them hard

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I’ve seen a small yet growing trend of homeschooled kids where the parents are completely neglectful of actual education and basically let the kid do whatever they want. They don’t follow standardised curriculum for the sake of “letting kids be kids.” If your kid can barely read at 10 years old, you’re setting them up to fail as an adult.

Am_0116 , Annie Spratt Report

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131points

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Marianne 7 months ago

This is why homeschooling isn't allowed here in Germany.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I hate when people dress up their baby girls in outfits a woman should be wearing. Like there are little girls outfits that are adorable and meant for a little girl. But no little girl should be wearing a body suit and ripped jeans or a crop top and low rise bellbottoms, it gives me the creeps.

hatterhag , look_studio Report

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123points

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Happy to be a wallflower 7 months ago

It's so weird to me, because you KNOW those clothes are super expensive and the kids are going to grow out of it in a month or so

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Moms and dads often do not follow a specific parenting style. In the United States, for instance, a nationally representative survey of parents with children younger than 18 conducted by the Pew Research Center revealed that when asked about their parenting habits, including whether they tend to be too strict or too lenient, excessively praise or criticize their children, be overprotective or grant too much freedom, and push their children too hard or not enough, a considerable percentage of respondents ranging from 34% to 53% reported that neither option accurately describes their parenting style.

Additionally, almost the same number of parents are either trying to raise their children in a similar way as they were raised (43%) or differently (44%).

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not teaching children proper manners/behavior

Please and thank you go a long a*s way in this life.

Also not helping kids with conversation skills. Conversation usually goes back and forth. With no phones involved.

Fun_Intention_5371 , sglazkova Report

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115points

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Epona 7 months ago (edited)

Regarding manners: Chewing with your mouth open is one that really annoys me! And talking with your mouth full. I get that sometimes it’s unavoidable but it does not take that long to chew the food and swallow it and then talk.

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Do gender reveals count? Lighting things on fire, blowing things up and potentially injuring a family member all in an display of obsession over the genitals of your fetus is cringy at best and a small scale natural disaster at worst.

Jeramy_Jones Report

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113points

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Michael Largey 7 months ago

I'm always willing for a gender to be revealed. But instead, it's always those same two genders that everyone already knows about!

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Making your child's entire identity revolve around their extracurricular activities. Let them be kids, not robotic machines for your bragging rights.

sweetopportunityy , Pavel Danilyuk Report

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109points

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troufaki13 7 months ago

Also don't force your unfinished dreams on your kids. They are separate individuals not your extension.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I guess this is kinda specific, but my son is autistic, so it applies to me. I hate the “Autism Mom” thing. The t-shirts, the unsolicited “advocacy”…it seems like an attention seeking thing to me. My kid has autism, ADHD, and anxiety, and it takes approximately 5 seconds of being around him to notice. I will fight for him always, of course, but I won’t use him as a badge either. I won’t hide his diagnosis from him, but I won’t let him use it as an excuse either.

And some of those shirts get borderline threatening too…”If you want to know fear, fight an autism mama bear”…or something like that.

ChelleDotCom , Caleb Woods Report

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105points

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James016 7 months ago

That is so weird, is it like that "boy mum" thing?

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Talking about the main factors that make parenting trends popular (regardless of their effectiveness), the author of the post believes the internet is arguably the main culprit.

"I think most parents get their ideas on how to raise kids from social media. It seems like a significant proportion of the user base on various platforms is over the age of 30, so it makes sense," The_WhiteMantis said.

#10

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Pranking your kids or playing jokes on them. Not all kids understand it’s a joke and it really upsets them. I hate seeing videos of parents thinking it’s ok to throw things at their kids or make them do dumb stuff for amusement. Like the cheese challenge thing. Throwing food at babies….awful behavior.

Violet_Mermaid , Vika Glitter Report

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102points

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Tamra 7 months ago

Any parent who uses their kid as a prop to gain views on social media is a douchebag, and even more so when you're playing on a kid's emotions.

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#11

Not exactly a trend but: having like 5+ kids and forcing the older ones to basically raise the little ones. i know that sometimes the parents are not well informed about contraception, but it’s still not the kids’ problem! it’s one thing to have them help once in a while, but anything that stops them from living their own lives to raise YOUR kids is just ridiculous.
for example: not being able to take an extracurricular activity because they have to be home watching their siblings.

ThatGirlWhoAlmost Report

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96points

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James016 7 months ago

I know someone who was parentified as a child. She cut off contact with her parents, step parents and all but 2 of her siblings.

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#12

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Confusing gentle parenting with permissive parenting.

You can be both gentle and authoritative. Authoritative is *not* authoritarian; it is the role of a parent to provide structure and boundaries for their children while also allowing them to feel their emotions and deal with the ups and downs of being a kid. Go ahead and soothe your children when they are upset and give them a safe space to calm down but you do not have to cushion their world for them in order to avert a meltdown.

heirloom_beans , Kelly Sikkema Report

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Epona 7 months ago

THIS!!

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According to C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children's Health, most parents of young children (80%) indeed say they use social media to discuss parenting topics.

Looking deeper, more mothers than fathers use social media to look for parenting advice or information (84% vs 69%) or share their experiences (63% vs 42%).

#13

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Never telling your kid no. You’re creating a monster that is going to ruin your life some day. Boundaries and consequences are essential to any kid- well human even- being successful in the world we live in.

nannymegan , cottonbro studio Report

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82points

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Tabitha 7 months ago (edited)

Not just your life, but the lives of everyone else they will ever come into contact with. It will not be pretty when their future boss tells your now grown kid no they cannot do some harebrained c**p idea they come up with, and they proceed to throw a full red in the face meltdown tantrum because of it. Boss will just fire their a*s on the spot. You want to end up supporting your kid for the rest of your lives after they burn through every job they ever got with their spoiled brat behavior? Fine. Then never tell them no. But if you ever want to have your kid be a gainfully employed, self-supporting adult, then tell them no when you don't want them to do, say, have, take, touch, eat, drink, walk over---you name it---something that will end up hurting them, you, and anyone or anything else. Teach them how to live in the real world. That's your job as a parent.

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#14

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones “Gentle parenting” b***h hold your kid at the doctor if they need a test done. “I don’t think she wants to do this test/use this medicine” B***H SHE NEEDS IT. (I work in a doctors office).

AdBroad8817 , cottonbro studio Report

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80points

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PiAnisum 7 months ago

I'm sorry, but this doesn't sound like gentle parenting to me. More like neglecting the inconvenient duties of being a parent.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Loud cartoons and games on tablets in public places.

CoconuttyPixel , zhenzhong liu Report

Final score:

78points

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Epona 7 months ago

Same with toys. Why kids toys “need” to be loud is beyond me. Why do they have three volume settings but they’re all too dang loud? The Leapfrog reader books are a good example. It’s a wonder parents of toddlers and young children don’t have hearing damage from how loud their kid are and how loud their kids toys are.

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Experts aren't surprised.

"I think this data reflects what we've seen over the past few years," said Titania Jordan, the chief parenting officer of Bark, a parental control app that allows parents to manage their kids’ digital worlds.

"Parents are reaching out more and more for advice on social media for three main reasons: Convenience, new technology, and different ways of parenting."

#16

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Giving your child an iPad as soon as they can hold it.

Pinkgirlxxx , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

76points

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James016 7 months ago

Depends on what you let them do with it. For example a few years ago we put a piano app on my son's iPad and now he is starting to prep for his grade 1 exams. But just unfiltered access to everything is bad. It can be a great educational tool

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#17

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Parents not having even minimal standards for their children’s behavior, and expecting other people to be alright with it. I really don’t care that he is having “big feelings.” He is lying in the aisle of the supermarket, screaming at the top of his lungs, having a full blown tantrum because you said no. Grow a pair.

GoodFriday10 , natee127 Report

Final score:

76points

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Marianne 7 months ago

While I do agree with the sentiment, this is not a good example. The child is screaming, because their parent is setting up standards. Standards like "I won't buy you anthing you fancy". And toddlers can't deal with those kind of emotions in a different way. They only learn it through experience. And what exactly are you supposed to do with a child to immediately stop a tantrum (if you don't want to cave in every time)?

36points

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Giving them "unique" names.

SidewinderTV Report

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74points

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Ace 7 months ago

Yewneik, you mean?

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#19

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Driving your kids 200m to school.

Christine4321 , Jan Baborák Report

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70points

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Ban-One 7 months ago (edited)

Yes right, for safety reasons. And then driving like crazy and endangering other kids on the school ground...Where I work as a teacher this becomes more and more of a problem. Kids aged 13-16 with only short commutes, lots of bike lanes and great public transport. Wouldn't be necessary. I do understand it depends on the schools location and country. But here this just isn't necessary...and driving together with bikes or tag along in the bus would be good from a social aspect as well...

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However, Jordan has concerns. "It’s not all roses. There is a ton of misinformation out there, and just because another parent is talking about something, it doesn’t mean they’re knowledgeable."

And this thread proves it.

#20

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones I’m gonna go in a little bit of a different direction: parents not watching their own behavior when it comes to screen time, frustration tolerance, discipline, etc.

You’ve got to dig deep and figure out how to role model the behaviors you want your kids to do. If you are on your phone 24/7 and throw a fit every time the slightest thing inconveniences you you aren’t gonna have a good time with your kids doing anything different.

kimtenisqueen , Kev Costello Report

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69points

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Katrina Nixon 7 months ago

This is huge.

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#21

I disagree with ALL trends. Parenting is not supposed to be trendy. Figure out what works for you and your family and do that, but don’t expect everyone else to do the same.

Foreign-Hope-2569 Report

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68points

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Mikey Kliss 7 months ago

Right! Kids are not a one size fits all thing

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#22

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Taking your kids to a restaurant and putting screens in their hands. How are kids going to learn how to behave in polite society if you don’t train them how to behave in social situations?

contrariwise65 , kseniia_ph Report

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61points

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B 7 months ago

When my son was little before smart phones. They had placemats for kids to do puzzles etc. Bring that back.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The lack of discipline and manners taught to the kids. I get soft parenting, I'm on board with no hitting and all of the abuse but kids still need to learn boundaries about what they could and couldn't do.

bappopipang , Jep Gambardella Report

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60points

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Katrina Nixon 7 months ago

Went to a friend's plc and her 4 yr old starts screaming at me, freaking tf out, I'm like what's going on? My friend says " she wants your scarf. She won't stop screaming until you give it to her." Sorry..what??

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#24

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Being overweight and allowing your children to follow the same path of obesity.
(Yes I get sometimes it's genetics, but genetics is not why appx 1/3 of Americans are obese and why the rest of the world isnt).

Chemical_Party7735 , puhimec Report

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60points

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Ace 7 months ago

A lot of 'the rest of the world' is just as bad. This is not an American things at all.

28points

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#25

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones The sad beige mom trend. If you want to make the rest of your home sad and beige, that's up to you. But my God! Please let your child's nursery have some colour for their own development and well-being.

Ok_Procedure4993 , Jakob Owens Report

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58points

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Marianne 7 months ago

Part of this problem is that most children's toys/furniture etc. are available in either pink or blue or beige. And if parents don't want to strictly color-code their children, they have to go with beige. Which is really sad.

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People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Child vlogging, its a bit weird tbh and I feel like things are gonna go to s**t for the parents when the kids become adults.

Substantial-Grape597 , simbiothy Report

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58points

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James016 7 months ago

I read an interview recently about a child who's mum was a mummy vlogger. She had no sense of what was reality and what was the bubble her mum created. It was essentially child abuse.

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#27

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Weird orthorexic parents who make their entire personality their kids' hundreds of allergies . Gluten free, dairy free, nut free , meat free . EVERYTHING FREE! I’m sorry, I do not believe them .

Lucyinthskyy , wutzkoh Report

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58points

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Eastendbird 7 months ago

I have celiac disease, I cannot understand why anyone would go gluten-free if they didn't have to. I miss nice bread so much!

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#28

Lawnmower parenting. Not only do they hover over their kids, they mow down anyone who does something they don't like. They're the "you can't wear that shirt where my kids might see it" and "you'd better allow my child into this 21+ establishment but not show them anything inappropriate" type.

SailorVenus23 Report

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53points

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Do-nut touch da donut 7 months ago (edited)

Lawnmower? Thats new! Makes a lot of sense sadly :/ poor kids

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#29

Those “boy moms” that are grossly obsessed with their baby or toddler boys. Ew, f**k out of here with that emotional incest s**t.

lizard_crunchwrap Report

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50points

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Epona 7 months ago

It’s just as creepy (actually more) when their (the moms) still doing that behaviour when their son is grown and dating/married!

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#30

People Are Sharing Parenting Trends They Disagree With And Here Are 30 Of The Most Hated Ones Not (sensibly) challenging their comfort zone. How are they supposed to grow self-confidence when they're never challenged?

TheDadThatGrills , Julio Rionaldo Report

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41points

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Do-nut touch da donut 7 months ago

Can i add? Vice versa challenging it too much and making the kid uncomfortable or not accepting their no because 'their a kid'... kids need to learn to step out of their comfort zone yes but they also need to learn that if they are in an uncomfortable situation they are free to decline.

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What do you think ?

Key Lime 7 months ago

Late toilet training is my pet peeve. Kids going to preschool in diapers.

4points

Bec 6 months ago

My cousin just did not seem to care about it, I think they just straight up told him he couldn't go to kindergarten w/ a pull-up, and he was like 'ok'. They bought him a toy for no more accidents and that was it.

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The Doom Song 7 months ago

Constantly yelling at your kids. My s****y neighbour screams at her kids all the time, tells them all sorts of horrible things. Recently tho I heard the 14 year old scream at his mum "your a f*****g horrible mother" I was actually kinda proud of him

3points

Jon Steensen 6 months ago

Religion: It is like a d!ck. It is ok to have one and it is ok to be proud of it. But don't air it in public, and don't force it onto children. I get it, you may have been brainwashed into believing in fairytales as a grown up, but please don't pass that on to the next generation. Teaching children good values and how to behave properly, can be done without threatening them with torture, or adding some kind of Devine authority into the mix. Religion does not have the patent when it comes to knowing how to behave, it has just highjacked some good ideas that is helpful when it comes to how to act around people (this is evident from the fact that some of the worst a$$holes can be "faithfull" Christians, and that there are good people amoung the atheists too). Let your children make up their own minds when it comes to how they see the world, instead of installing your own default software in them and letting the virus spread.

2points

C. S. 6 months ago

"...instead of installing your own default software in them and letting the virus spread." LOL! 🤣 I was initially raised Catholic, but saw some of the contradictions as a young child. This led my mother to question some of her religion's practices. Neither of us feels there's any good reason to be 'instructed' by other people in their viewpoints of a so-called faith, which is exactly what it's been for millennia. My now-wife respects this and accepts it, and I merely try to be a good contributor to society without the shaming and ostracizing that 'organized' religion keeps trying to force upon all of humankind in the name of their 'god' or 'belief' systems. Religion is ultimately a poison used to shame and coerce others, typically to hateful and divisive ends. The many documented versions of the Bible are an excellent example of how imperfect and bias-driven so-called organized religion ultimately is.

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