Most of the time, people take 15-20 minute showers which is not ideal if you are babysitting. I know in the western countries many people are afraid to leave their children unattended for 20 mins (seen this in the comments on other Reddit posts where a parent would leave a child for like 20+ mins). Also, you are the parent not the babysitter. Babysitters should not leave the kids unattended at all really because if something were to happen within those 20 mins it is on them. (I babysat a lot). Also you just don't take showers at the family's house, especially if you were working there for only 2 weeks. If the dad is there, go home to shower. What she did was weird and what makes it even stranger that her hair took 6+ hrs to dry.

Go home to shower... so you expect her to get into her car covered in milk? No way I would do that; once you get milk in your car it is going to smell like spoiled milk and it would be very difficult to get the smell out! No, the weird thing here is being upset that someone used your shower after your kid spilled milk on them. Totally OP's right, but still weird.

The dad was there, she can go home. Plus, like in my other comments, she really didn't need an actual shower. A change of clothes and a wipe down will do. Happened to me multiple times and it worked perfectly.

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It is her house and babysitters most definitely need to ask for permission to use something in the house they are babysitting at... A shower is not the same as using the toilet. She hired her and she is paying as far as I can tell so she is the one the babysitter answers to, not the husband. And who are you or the babysitter to deem something NOT inappropriate? OP is the one to decide that because it is her house, her kids, she hired and pays.

Woooooh you're quite the piece ain't you? So SHE is the one who decides in the family because she pays? First thing first darling : sexist. Second what kind of family did you grow in? Wtf? SHE didn't decide to hire a babysitter alone. The husband agreed to it too (or there's a big abuse problem here). She is not the only person responsible for the house here. The husband is too and has perfectly the right to allow someone to use the commodities. Third, there's something called HUMAN DECENCY, yes this is her house but if she uses that to treat her employee like s**t... F**K THIS B***H!

I don't know what kind of family/relationship you have, but if one person in the relationship is uncomfortable with something like essentially a stranger taking a shower in their house, they shouldn't be vetoed out by the other. You both have to agree on this. Human decency would be contacting the wife and 1. letting her know you are home and 2. the babysitter really needs to take a shower. Also, how was this sexist? The wife is the one who pays and hired the babysitter, she is the "boss" in that area. Sexist is allowing the husband make all the decisions and not caring about his wife being uncomfortable.

No darling, sexist here is assuming one part of the couple loses its right in the management of the family because the other pays. And da fudge is the problem with using the shower? She got the ok from one of the house owners and it's just a shower. She got dirty taking care of the kids, and even then... She asked, he said ok what's the problem?? Dude!

You are calling others sexist and yet use pet names when arguing? Darling? Wtf you for real? I had two male coworkers who did that to any female coworker who disagreed on something in the projects. They got booted out so bad. Patronizing a*****e is all I get from you and a hypocritical sexist if you are a guy and the other two commenters who you called darling are women. And your argument about one part of the couple loses its right in management is so wrong. The guy had nothing to do with hiring the babysitter, so he isn't in charge here. And you really went the whole "if the MAN in the house says everything is fine then HOW DARE the woman say she is uncomfortable and this was inappropriate decision to make without her!" Letting OP know that he is home and that the babysitter needs a shower is all that was needed for it to be fair in the relationship. He did none of that. You sound like a huge red flag so shut the f**k up before you start sounding as an even bigger a*****e.

Lol I am a girl. Not 18 yet either so this darling s**t was giving such pedo creep vibes tbh Not just sexist or whatever.

Haha they sound even worse now in my head. Listen, just honestly don't reply to them. Even if they comment something else, It will be all b******t anyway. They are either a troll or actually a delusional a*****e gives pet names to people to feel above them.

Yeah Claire agree with this. Well said.

Do you even hear yourself? You think that letting the husband make decisions for the wife after SHE was the one to hire the babysitter, with HER being the person to pay for the babysitter, is completely fine and not at all sexist? And most of all, you think it is completly fine for the husband to tell his wife what she should find comfortable? And lol, "darling"? I am not a "darling" to you. You are the one who sounds sexist here. Like a sexist, middle-aged man who thinks they can talk over women and decide what they should find comfortable and appropriate in relationships. Hypocritical much aren't you?

What is your point? You have so many comments just being toxic trash?