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“My Roommate’s Mom Passed Away Unexpectedly”: Woman Baffled After Her 27 Y.O. Friend Kept Insisting That She Should Pay Her Part Of Rent
Death is inevitable, yet, every time, it crawls up to us when we least expect it. Some folks have a more peaceful approach to this, shall I say, process – others find it particularly eerie. Perhaps the fear comes from all the unknowingness that is bound to fall upon us, or maybe it’s the simple hesitation of not wanting to say goodbye to our once blissful lives.
Losing a loved one is incredibly distressing. Throughout what seems like an everlasting existence, humans still struggle to find a way to cope and accept this rather cruel event, and every person deals with it differently. It’s crucial to be surrounded by the people you can depend on – however, sometimes, folks end up using their loss to get out of certain obligations.
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Losing a loved one is hard, however, abusing the support of your friends is not the way to go
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This woman took it to one of Reddit’s beloved communities to get a piece of advice from fellow online users regarding her rather tricky situation. “AITA for asking my roommate to pay rent after her mom died?” Even though she’s been a great supporter to her roomie, the grieving woman started to abuse the author’s kindness and openly hinted that she should cover her share of the rent.
Redditor wonders if she’s a bad guy for not wanting to pay for her mourning friend’s rent
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Naturally, when your peer is going through a hard time, it’s important to be as considerate as possible. For instance, supporting them, talking to them and simply making sure that they have everything they need. This online user has done exactly that, though something ended up going a little bit south.
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The author began her story by revealing that she’s currently sharing a place with her 27-year-old roommate whose mother, sadly, has passed away. Of course, the woman understood how devastating it is for someone to go through something like that – especially when it happens unexpectedly, so she’s been doing her best to support her. The OP mentioned that her friend flew home for a couple of days, but she was mainly staying at their place, while also taking fewer shifts at work. Without asking, the woman took over the house duties and even offered to clean her roomie’s bathroom.
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At one point, when it was time to collect the rent money, the author asked her friend whether she could give her the share so she could pass it on to their landlord, to which the woman replied with the puzzling “you want me to pay rent after my mom just passed away?” The friend said that she hasn’t been working much lately and she really can’t afford to pay. Of course, the author couldn’t blame her as she understood that she’s still mourning her late mother – however, she is a student that doesn’t have much money either.
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Moreover, the woman doesn’t want her friend to think that it’s acceptable to get her to pay for things, however, she did manage to ask for an extension and luckily their landlord was willing to cooperate. Interestingly enough, despite having that 2-week gap to get the money, the author’s roommate is still insisting that she should cover her share as she’s still grieving.
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The OP kept pushing back and asking the roommate to pay, but the woman refused and even called her an a-hole. What’s more is that their mutual friend didn’t share the same opinion and told the author to just “suck it up”. Fortunately, the woman listened to the feedback that Redditors gave her and ended up taking her share to their landlord, leaving this unpleasant situation behind.
Fellow online users supported the author in her decision
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Hedgeh og 2 years ago
I just don't understand people. This woman is either ACTUALLY that clueless, or she is conniving and calculated and trying to grift off her roommate. Either option is appalling.
WilvanderHeijden 2 years ago
It really does come as a surprise to a lot of people that a tragedy in your life doesn't mean that you don't have to pay your bills anymore or take care of your own business. If you want to go in hiding and mourn, you'd better had saved up some serious money to pay for your vacation from real life. Life does go on and so do the bills, no matter how much you are grieving or mourning.
Cold Contagious 2 years ago
You're exactly right. While it's heartbreaking to lose a parent, my husband and I lost both our fathers in our early twenties and only had the customary 3 days off work for the death of a immediate relative, that's what is most common in the US. No one gave us money, paid our bills, or watched our children. In most cases these days, you have to work to pay your bills. It honestly feels like the amount of this kind of thinking has exploded in the past couple of decades. Maybe some of it is the fact that people's opinions are more visible now, but I don't remember as many people feeling this way when I was a child.
Load More Replies... Gwyn 2 years ago (edited)
To her mutual friend telling her to suck it up and pay it ... ok why doesn't that friend just pay it??? Yeah, I thought not.
Stargazer66 1 year ago
OP needs new and better friends that don't agree that the little fragile snowflake roommate should mooche off of her. Having your mom died is not a good enough reason to leave your roommate in a lurch. If she wants to stop adulting, she should tell the roommate to find a new one and go back home and stay with her dad.
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Hedgeh og 2 years ago
I just don't understand people. This woman is either ACTUALLY that clueless, or she is conniving and calculated and trying to grift off her roommate. Either option is appalling.
WilvanderHeijden 2 years ago
It really does come as a surprise to a lot of people that a tragedy in your life doesn't mean that you don't have to pay your bills anymore or take care of your own business. If you want to go in hiding and mourn, you'd better had saved up some serious money to pay for your vacation from real life. Life does go on and so do the bills, no matter how much you are grieving or mourning.
Cold Contagious 2 years ago
You're exactly right. While it's heartbreaking to lose a parent, my husband and I lost both our fathers in our early twenties and only had the customary 3 days off work for the death of a immediate relative, that's what is most common in the US. No one gave us money, paid our bills, or watched our children. In most cases these days, you have to work to pay your bills. It honestly feels like the amount of this kind of thinking has exploded in the past couple of decades. Maybe some of it is the fact that people's opinions are more visible now, but I don't remember as many people feeling this way when I was a child.
Load More Replies... Gwyn 2 years ago (edited)
To her mutual friend telling her to suck it up and pay it ... ok why doesn't that friend just pay it??? Yeah, I thought not.
Stargazer66 1 year ago
OP needs new and better friends that don't agree that the little fragile snowflake roommate should mooche off of her. Having your mom died is not a good enough reason to leave your roommate in a lurch. If she wants to stop adulting, she should tell the roommate to find a new one and go back home and stay with her dad.
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