oh same social anxiety sucks. what i've found to work is talking to the people you sit next to in class. it's a small start but maybe they can introduce you to more people? i made friends with someone in history this year and now i have 3 friends in that class. same with english class. and choir. it was scary to talk to each of them the first time but they turned out to be really awesome people!

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thank you ! i will try and do this

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this could either be the best advice you've ever heard or the worst. i had the absolute worst social anxiety for the longest time. probably until my freshman year was
over tbh. but i learned something that really helped me. if you see someone cool and you're like 'hey i wanna be their friend' just throw them a compliment. that's the first step. just say like hey your shirts super cool. step two is asks a question. so hey your shirts super cool, where'd you get it? if they're answering genuinely thus far you'll probably get a good conversation. i know that sounds like i'm just saying conversational basics but it helped me a ton. i also forced myself to be more outgoing. it was hard at first but it's helped a lot. i noticed confidence is really key. i live in nashville tennessee and i've learned people can be mean here. i was a shy, sheltered, self conscious kid that fell in with the wrong crowd. i was made fun of a lot and my life kinda just revolves around weed (i still smoke, but it's just for fun, not to keep myself alive). it wasn't till around my sophomore year that i realized fake it til you make it actually works. act confident. not cocky but just like you don't care what other people think. not only will you make more friends that way just by seeming confident, but you'll feel better about yourself. that's my advice. it's okay if that's not what works for you, everyone is different. if you need anything pr sure my contact info is on my home page just send an email and i'll give you my number

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this actually helps a lot. i have trouble building up the confidence to start a conversation with people, i always have stuff to say, i just don't know how to say it yk? i also don't want people to think i'm weird or something, i live in south carolina and there are a lot of people here that don't like anyone that's different. and i'm definitely different lol, i dress "satanic" to some people here so that's definitely a factor. i also have the weed thing and nic, it's gotten better though, i'm not addicted or anything like that.. but anyway, this actually helped me so much thank you :)

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