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Life is not always easy. People are not always nice. While we can’t avoid life. We can avoid people. Sometimes. One way to do this is to stay home and scroll through social media. We might have found the perfect place for you to visit during your self-imposed social distancing.

Instagram page x__antisocial_butterfly__x has over 2 million followers and has shared thousands of memes since it started. From the funny to the infuriating, there should be something for anyone who is sick of being a social butterfly. Keep scrolling to see our top picks. And don’t forget to upvote the ones you find painfully relatable.

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    Many of us have been there. It’s Friday night, and we've made plans to go out with friends. Suddenly we realize we just don’t feel like being around people. Or, we don’t like people. Not tonight anyway. So, we stay in. It happens again on Saturday. And on Sunday. Maybe even the next weekend too. We might be called anti-social. But we probably aren’t.

    The words “antisocial”, “asocial” and “introverted” are often used interchangeably in everyday life. But in the world of psychology, each has a very different meaning. Here’s how Healthline breaks it down: “Asocial people prefer to be alone, while antisocial people are actively against others and may lack empathy. Introverts, meanwhile, gain most of their energy from their inner world.”

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    Only about 1% of women and 3% of men are truly antisocial. If we’re going by the clinical definition of the word. Antisocial behavior runs a lot deeper than what some people might think. It’s not about not wanting to be around others. It’s not about preferring our own company. It’s not about getting anxious in social situations. And it's not about never going out.

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    You might have heard of Ted Bundy. One of America’s most notorious serial criminals. He terrorized dozens of women to death in the 1970s. His crimes have made it into several movies and books. His mind has been studied by psychiatrists. The title of Netflix’s 2019 movie about him says it all: "Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile". Bundy was a psychopath.

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    In the psychiatric world, “psychopath” is not an official diagnosis. According to Healthline, it’s “an informal term often used for a condition called antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)”. And because the word “antisocial” is in the title of the disorder, it can get a bit confusing.

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    Dr. Prakash Masand is co-founder of the Centers of Psychiatric Excellence. He told Healthline, “Most people might assume this describes someone who is reserved, a loner, keeps to himself, etc. However, this is not the case in ASPD. When we say antisocial in ASPD, it means someone who goes against society, rules, and other behaviors that are more commonplace.”

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    PeachPossum
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not crying. You're crying.... that is a beautiful and precious thing. hang onto that.

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    Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I first got to prison, the guards' winter uniforms were navy blue. Several of us who hung out together, being silly, would sight guards, and say, "Oh no! The blue people are coming!" A few years later, the blue uniforms were replaced by black ones. One can NOT say, "Oh no! The black people are coming!" It just really doesn't work out well.

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    So what is ASPD? Healthline defines it as “a mental health condition involving longstanding patterns of manipulation and disregard for others.” Adding that those with ASPD often “don’t care if they break the law. They may lie and place others at risk without feeling any remorse.” 

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    Science Direct notes “affected individuals may use an alias instead of their real name, and do anything they wish in order to achieve money, power, or sex. Their impulses do not allow for planning ahead or considering the consequences of their actions, as well as the safety of others and themselves." Click here for more Bored Panda mental health content.

    The Cambridge Dictionary describes a “social butterfly” as someone who “likes to attend parties and other social events, often not having serious relationships with other people.” While the Urban Dictionary definition of “anti-social butterfly” is: “a term that is used when a social butterfly has been put into enough situations or trauma to become anti-social. This means they want to be social but feel like they can't or shouldn't for several reasons.”

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    The same site describes itself aka "urban dictionary" as "a place for you to lie about the amount of sexual knowledge/experience you have." And we felt that was important to note since all these terms can get a bit confusing.

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    chrnh@metrocast.net
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never got any birds but the seeds that were dropped from my feeder produced a couple of sunflowers!

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    The next time someone calls you "antisocial", you have every right to correct them. And feel free to school them with some of the terms you've read about today. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be around people. Or not liking them. Sometimes. But if you, or someone you know, might have ASPD, reach out to a qualified mental health professional.

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    What's your definition of antisocial butterfly? Are you one? Let us know in the comments.

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    Lily Robertson
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this was my pop, it would have ended up being sorted at a BBQ at our house with a whole family of new best friends.

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    Paul Brown
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not gonna lie, when I first read it I thought they actually meant a club for people with black Jeeps. I'm an idiot! 🤣

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    panther
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    4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The game developers need a reminder of this. I'm looking at you EA!

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    JJ
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    4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the Dutch course you learn how to say that the rhinoceros is insecure about its toes (De neushoorn is onzeker over zijn tenen.) Very important stuff.

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    J R
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favorite duolingo phrase will forever be "the president will ruin our country" about 2 days after Trump was elected.

    Simona M.
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been learning with Duolingo for over a year now, and I never had any weird sentences. Thinking about writing a formal complaint?

    HI, I'M A SHOUTY MAN
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What language? I did Korean for a bit and that was weird, Portuguese has had some slightly odd ones, but nothing too bad with French yet (but I did skip quite a few units because I've been learning since I was little)

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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bea told me 'J'ai besoin de six mois de vacances deux fois par an' and I just was like 'Same, sis.' (And for all non frenchies: I need six months of vacation two times a year.)

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    4 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only complete sentence I remember from the Finnish course is "Mina olen viikinki" (I am a viking). I know one of the sentences in English was "The Norwegian cat is a wizard" but the only Finnish word of that particular string that I remember is "kissa" (cat). Oh, and there was one along the lines of "I am crying and the onion is laughing."

    Goat express
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favorite in Spanish is "Tienes gatos pequeños?" Do you have small cats?

    Bryn
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    reminds me of rosetta stone. i couldn't greet someone or ask how they were doing. but i could talk about my purple couch in my green house on the corner of road street.

    Mary Peace
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About 50 years ago, my father used to like to say, "My postillion has been struck by lightening." He didn't know it in another language, but it came from a phrase-book. (A postillion is the man employed to stand on the back of an old-fashioned horse-drawn carriage. Why they would get struck by lightening, I've no idea.)

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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a clever cow! Wow! Who'd a thunk it!

    justanotherweirdo
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Duolingo once taught me how to say, “the boy talks to the shark.” 😂

    Petra Schaap
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this came up pretty early in both my Italian and French. (along with the strange ones)

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    XenoMurph
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One is a breach of your terms and conditions, the other is an arrestable offence, voyeurism is illegal in many countries

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    mhoulden
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Roald Dahl suggested she should have got a long sentence for burglary.

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    jon gilbertson
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of that quote from Full Metal Jacket: " You're so ugly, you could be a modern art masterpiece"

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    Cindy Brick
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried speaking French in a Quebec McDonald's. The clerk looked at me with an annoyed expression and said, "Whaddya want??"

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    OneWithRatsAndKefir
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can see how a very literal person could make that mistake, though that is a rather sweet compliment. I, too, would legitimately change my mind about going to the cinema if I couldn’t bring in my own chips and drinks.

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    Paul Donahue
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you don't mind Dominos, you can pin your exact delivery point anywhere (I assume land only)

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    ThatOneFish She/Her
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The word HATE!? Ack! The censorship isn't enough! My eyyyyyyyeeeeees!!! My innocent eyyyyyyyyeeeeeees!

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    jon gilbertson
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eric Burdon and the Animals, wearing proper suits on The Ed Sullivan show. One of the best live performances I have ever seen. They had respect, and they sure as H had talent.

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    Greg
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good thing this one's been repeated so many times, it's no problem to fill in the blanks.

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    Karina
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    4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honesty, good for them. I was hoping he had to take it home and pay extra late fees tho.

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