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We’re constantly bombarded by messages that we should seize the day, live life to the fullest, and that we can do and be absolutely anything that we want. It’s either empowering or emotionally exhausting depending on your point of view. One of the problems that lie at the core of this ‘go-gettism’ philosophy is that there often isn’t much guidance behind the energetic urging to not waste a single moment more and embrace an adrenaline-filled, happy-go-lucky lifestyle.
That means that it’s up to every single person to try and figure out what they really want to do, whether it’s professionally or during their spare time. And that can lead to some very naive mistakes. Maybe you realized that bungee jumping really isn’t for you. Perhaps you learned the hard way that camping isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be if you don’t have a tiny Aragorn living inside your heart. Or maybe you got burned after trusting your colleagues too much.
Reddit users opened up about their worst experiences and mistakes in a brutally honest thread full of worldly wisdom. Scroll down for the anti-bucket list of things that people will never ever do again.
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#1
Work in a covid unit. It was worth it in the beginning when I felt like I was trying to rescue victims of an unknown enemy while risking my life to buy precious time for a game-changing miracle. However, parts of me have died over the last two years. The patients that come into my ER now days have turned up their noses at a vaccine that many have died in my presence waiting for. The ones dying of covid are shouting at me, hitting me, threatening me, and trying to pull the PPE off of my face because they don't think that covid is real. I've had to drive past protesters on my way home from a shift where I had to take an eight year old off of life support because her unvaccinated parents gave the virus to her. I don't even feel sad anymore when a patient passes because now I have a ventilator open for at least one of the next three patients circling the drain.
I'm tired of getting yelled at by antivaxers and their families. I'm tired of risking my life for people who won't do the bare minimum, like taking a jab, to live.
I've spent my life trying to help people, but no one is worth it anymore. You win. I'm done. I regret it all. Everything I ever stood for is dead. The only thing that matters to me is my dog. She will never understand why I never came home, but she has widespread cancer, so that won't be long either.
Spring Fisk 2 years ago
We need to really focus on providing doctors and nurses with quality counseling and other services. The stress of the last 2 years would break anyone. High-quality services for them at the hospital so it is convenient for them and time off could help a lot.
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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
I could've written this, minus the dog. Two more days and I'm done. I am not renewing my license to practice medicine. I am *out*, back to the reseaerch, and away from .... all he described.
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
again, sending you hugs, Leo. It has been incredibly traumatic for you medical personnel. i don't blame you in the least for wanting to be done with patient care. 💔💕
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Jaguarundi 2 years ago
It has been a brutal 2 years for people in healthcare. We've gone from heroes to the enemy in such a short time because "internet research" is so much more "factual" than actual education and experience.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Yes, the years of medical school were apparently all part of the Covid scam.... Ugh. I feel you.
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SuperChicken 2 years ago
This is very distressing. I am truly sorry that you have to deal with rude anti-vaxxers and anti-masks. The reason why we, who believe that COVID is real, are not in the ER is because we know how to take care of ourselves. Hang in there. There is still hope in life.
Tina Hugh 2 years ago
Hey, what do you mean why you never came home? Please don’t harm yourself.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
He means what we all mean ----- we're on shift 72 hours straight sometimes. Yes, that's how bad it is. I'm done in another 72 hours, by choice. I'm not renewing my license to practice medicine. I did my time as a volunteer support personnel, then as an MD, and I've had two toddlers taken off life support to die b/c of their parents in the last 9 months. We don't go home. At the start, we were camping in the parking garage in tents to be sure we didn't contaminate anyone. He may self-harm, but he's still talking about his pain, so hopefully, he won't.
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phoebe julien 2 years ago
This is so sad, i hope ur getting better or are better now. Medical people go through so much, this isnt fair for what people do to people in medical similar to you!!! hope ur doing okay though!!!
Heather Lambie 2 years ago
Please, please know that MOST people are on your side and do everything they can to prevent the spread etc. I cannot imagine the utter pain you are in…☹️ Hug your dog, hug your family snd most importantly hug yourself!! I am so sorry for all that uou have gone through…. SO sorry. Take care of YOURSELF now, ( and go gif beautiful walks with your doggie)❤️
Nonya Bidness 2 years ago
To be honest, I was in this dark place, too. Working at the hospital during COVID was an eye opener. I quit in October. I moved home to take care of my mom who is only 65 and is in the later stages of early onset dementia. At least I'm with people who love me. Hospital administration are horrid. They have no idea what it's like. Patients kept getting worse & worse. While I miss working, I'm so glad I left.
CCLoos 2 years ago
I'm sorry about your mom. You are right about hospital admin.
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Pamela Blue 2 years ago
Many medical staff feel the way you do. I know here in Canada, we've had way too many medical professionals simply walk away. Our provincial government is desperately staff hunting because the nurses and docs (esp. ER and ICU) just don't want to deal with it anymore. As you said, they went from being heros to being castigated by anti-vaxxers outside the hospital exits and near emergency entrances. I mean - how ill-bred and ignorant can you get?
VikingAbroad 2 years ago (edited)
I know it will never be enough, but big hugs to you and all those who fight unreasonable fights to keep the rest of us alive. I don't think any one of us living in this nightmare are really sane anymore, but my heart breaks a little to hear your story. I'm a minister, and I have buried the dead ones. I still think you are all heroes, and for every single simpleton out there being mean, evil and dangerous, not to say patronising as hell, there are ten, hundred, thousand of reasonable people, who cheer on for you and your coworkers. We love you, stay safe! ❤️
No you can't have my name 2 years ago
Once this pandemic is done, there's going to be a shortage of medical professionals worse than the teacher shortage of the last two decades. And we will have only brought it upon ourselves.
Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that, but I hope you know that for all of those people, there are many who see you as a hero.
Lara Verne 2 years ago
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It must be incredibly frustrating to see what covid can do and still have antivaxxers shouting at you.
Michael Searer 2 years ago
We can all thank that loathsome, insidious, warped, and delusionally narcissistic orange blob of syphilitic pus for brainwashing so many people, or at least being the catalyst that led to their brainwashing.
Jeremy Bode 2 years ago
Please know that you are dealing with the bottom of the bottom of the barrel at this point. A vast majority of us owe our lives to your hard work. We’ve heeded your warnings - done the things you’ve told us to do… and in doing so don’t NEED to end up in your care. WE… are eternally grateful for your hard work and sacrifice… even if THEY are not. I’m so sorry - heros should not be treated this way.
MJLstrd 2 years ago
Please hold on. There are those of us who have taken all precautions. We have seen loved ones -- masked, isolated, vaccinated but older & vulnerable because of other health issues. Some of them loved, some didn't. But they all had a chance because of people like you. Thank you
Laura Dorn 2 years ago
I feel your pain. I'm a nurse in long term care & I can't begin to explain what we have to go thru at this end of the spectrum. Hang in there it is getting better.
Lisa Intally 2 years ago
Just to say again that, for everyone who doesn't think mass media matters, it's part of the root of this distrust of sound medical advice. If anyone tries to dismiss our governance as "politics" and the garbage opinion media channels pretending they are "fair," this is what happens when propaganda meets a serious problem. I cannot believe that anyone votes for a party that promotes death by brainwashing their people into thinking the pandemic was "fake," masks don't work and the vaccine are poison. But, here we are and the sad and inexplicable fact is that the Republicans are leading the polls. Why? How on Earth can people be so dumb as to vote for the people who brought us into this mess?
Paula McNeely 2 years ago
And the anti vaxers believe because their list in chief told them so. Hah! The jokes on them. He not only got the jab but the booster too. Don't believe everything some small minded person tells you & that includes your self.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago
the people that think its not real are dumb if it was a conspiracy then every doctor in the world every scientist every world leader thats millions of people that many people part of a secret conspiracy theory plus all the people that have lost loved ones would have to be in on it that many people part of a secret plot wouldn't ever be able to stay secret
Patti Vance 2 years ago
and this is why there is a shortage of healthcare workers. i feel for them. they were abused by people for not getting seen fast enough or getting the treatment they thought they needed pre covid but now they have to witness how selfish ignorant people keep those who did everything they were supposed to do get sick and not have access to things such as a ventilator. in the beginning of all this my son went on a rant that every person who refused to get vaccinated and/or wear a mask or stay home and got sick needed to either be denied medical care or, as they did in other countries, make them the ones that became the people who had to transport and bury those who had died; maybe even work menial job in covid ward. i thought that was harsh. now, i don't.
RafCo 2 years ago
This person needs immediate help. If anybody knows them, please call a suicide hotline. Please reach out. This person has saved so many lives and now it's our turn to help them. The suicide rate for healthcare workers is the highest it's ever been. Please please be there for the ones in your life. They need us now more then ever, and we owe the. So much.
Katinka Min 2 years ago
Quit. Just go and quit and work somewhere else. We as a society have failed you so there is no need for you to stick around and rescue us. Go and live a happy life!
DDmaybeandor 2 years ago
You sound like a cop I know. When you’re doing a job to save and protect people but all you get is abuse.
Matthew Ryan 2 years ago
That's a suicide note if ever I read one... Hope someone is checking in on this person because it sounds like they've given everything for everyone else
Linda James 2 years ago
This is how a huge number of healthcare workers feel on a daily basis dealing with the pandemic. They are quitting in droves!
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I totally get it. And it is terrible how ignorant people have personally affected you, your life, your career. There are people out there who get it. I am sorry for what you have been through. I get angry watching this kind of stuff on the news; I can't imagine being the one going through it as part of my job (that you USED to love)
Mark Karol-Chik 2 years ago
My heart aches for all those in the medical profession, emergency workers, and those with immune deficiencies..
Nancy Bania 2 years ago
I'm so sorry so many people are selfish , ignorant jerks. We need people who care, like this person.
Sapna Sarfare 2 years ago
This is the saddest thing i have heard... if you cannot have sympathy for such saviours or those that have died due to Covid, stop calling yourself human beings..
Gaby Almodovar 2 years ago
I wouldn't make a good doctor or nurse. Not because I'm dumb for it, but I wouldn't freaking do even the bare minimum from stupid people: the sooner their genetics are wiped out from the face of the Earth, the better for humanity.
Cpt. Robert Christian 2 years ago
You do strong work. Let no one else cause you to believe otherwise.
Celsius 2 years ago
I'm sorry you too, became a victim. I work on the same front line, had covid 2x,almost killing me BEFORE the vax came out. I'm vaccinated and still on the front line..but not sick or worried any more. The foolish/selfish unvaxxed people do evil with their disregard, but forgive them for they don't know they're stupid. Find a therapist to offload your grief with. Best money you'll ever spend. Peace.
Lisa Banks 2 years ago
I'm a nurse, and while I agree with the sentiment, the author is misguided in the idea that this vaccine will prevent transmission. It's a logical fallacy that the WHO, the CDC and the various governments of the world have sold us. It prevents serious illness - not transmission. It doesn't kill the virus. It stops us from getting sicker. That's because it's a Covid, just like the flu or the common cold. We will never be able to prevent it's transmission or mutation. That's why we have flu vaccines annually. Mutations happen. Covid is here to stay. The good news is that the Spanish flu managed to mutate itself into what we consider a cold. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it's not an oncoming train.
Monica Leigh 2 years ago
Any patient or customer that heaps abuse on a worker should be banned forever no matter where it is.
Random Anon 2 years ago
I have a lot of respect for people doing the right thing for society standing firm on their ideals. God knows I've lost that since coming to terms with how ugly the world is as a child. I wish these people who still have these ideals would never have to turn out this way. But alas, 'tis not that kind of world we live in.
Lynne Stankard 2 years ago
This is the most heartbreaking thing I've read for a long time. xxx
Stijn Kraft 2 years ago
This is why I am not ashamed to live in my bubble most of the time. I only have 80-90 years on this planet if I'm lucky. Not going to spend my time with asswipes.
Misty Carmen-Persnickety 2 years ago
This is so heartbreaking. This man has gone through the wringer. I don't get how some people are so foolish enough to not want to vaccinate themselves.
Elaine Mattingly 2 years ago
I did take the vaccine but was admitted for another reason, you saved my life. I didn't get a chance to thank you.
Jimmy Crackcorn 2 years ago
Hey, so I’m concerned here OP. When you say your dog won’t understand why you never came home, I hope that doesn’t mean because you’re thinking of escaping this madness by harming yourself. If I got the wrong end of the stick that’s terrific. If not though please PLEASE stay here. Reach out! 800-273-8255 https://www.google.com/search?q=national+suicide+hotline&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS643US643&oq=national+suicide+hotline&aqs=chrome..69i57.9200j0j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#
caron macisaac 2 years ago
You are a hero. Sometimes heroes end up with broken hearts. When you are ready, go get another pup from the pound. They need heroes too. Bless you.
weatherwitch 2 years ago
I'm so incredibly sorry for what this person has experienced. They have done a phenomenal job, protecting and saving people and the actions of complete arseholes have destroyed them. It's just heartbreaking 😢
Hannah Mae Jensen 2 years ago
Why do I read these posts? They're too depressing. Also sorry you feel like your life sucks right now man. Feel better maybe your dog will live who knows.
Suzanne 2 years ago
I feel very sad for your loss ... not all anti-vaxers are cruel and thoughtless, and not all those who are vaxed are blaming others for their condition, and not only unvaxed can pass on to others this illness, but also the vaxed can ... I can only hope and pray you will find a place soon that does not drain the life and love within you, even if it is buried so deep it seems to have disappeared completely, and that could reflourish under the right circumstances - I truly hope you find that ... GOD bless
Michelle Crowley-Quintard 2 years ago
Never forget that antivaxers and Covid deniers only care about themselves.
Yolanda DeJesus 2 years ago
Please don’t give up on us. I know that most of us are so grateful for all of your hard work and commitment. Please give yourself the time to regroup whilst knowing that you ARE both needed and appreciated. Take a minute to be kind to yourself. Sending you prayers
Pamela McInnis 2 years ago
Covid has caused the burnout of far too many medical personnel. To have the ignorant make their lives that much more difficult borders on the criminal.
Benjamin Brogan 2 years ago
I Completely Understand. I Completely Understand Every Word of what this Individual has been Thinking, Feeling and Living. People with "Attitudes of Entitlement" and "Lack of Common Sense" have become quite Abusive towards Retail, Hospitality and Medical workers. Shameful Behavior really.
Tom Wilson 2 years ago
Please try to remember most people tried to do the right thing and we truly appreciate everything you did I'm sorry you had to put up with the idiots
Jill Taylor 2 years ago
I hope this person reads the messages of support by the people with common sense. We are forever grateful to you.
Missi Boness 2 years ago
Omg I'm so very sorry for EVERYTHING you've experienced and for your dog. Please hang in there. YOU ARE VALUED.
Miss.Information🤔 2 years ago
Oh, how these 2 years must have been like a horrormovie for the medicalpersonel! I do understand why, people Are stupid, I myself did not get vaccinated, before I got Covid, so then I just needed 1 and a booster once in a while! But getting the decease Really gave me immunity! It is like I cant get the virus nomore? And people have it multiple times! Why?
MJ 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing the hard facts from your side. I hope your point of view as a health care worker helps others make better decisions. Thank you for everything you and others have done to not only help covid patients but all of the everyday things that still happen day to day.
Sharon Brown 2 years ago
Some of us appreciate your work and some of us are worth it. Thank you. My prays and Thought a for your best friend
Laura Brown 2 years ago
My tears are unstoppable right now...for this Frontline worker and every other one, I am so very grateful for the work you have done, for the lives you save and the sacrifice you make.
Emerald Heart 2 years ago
I hate society right now. This is what it is doing to people who actually give a f**k
Herman Trowser 2 years ago
The floor nurses and doctors suffer and the admins get million dollars bonuses. Capitalism at work
Aditi Singh 2 years ago
I'm a med student and this post honestly make me feel just soooo sad for this noble profession. It's disheartening to see a doc lose hope like this nd at times I wonder if this would happen to me in the future as well. I would still be rooting for him so pls cheer up....
Liza Wolf 2 years ago
... you are in my heart. I'm sorry. My dad used to work in the ER, 30 years as a doc. He and his nurses and the parastaff were and still are my heroes. I now work in veterinary medicine because I love medicine that much. It breaks my heart to pieces to see how hard you've struggled against the very people you're trying to save. Heaven help you all.
LucyGoosey 2 years ago
This hurts to read. Since Covid started, people have become incredibly entitled and aggressive, and I'm lost as to why. Everyone just kinda formed an opinion, stuck to it, and now we're left in shambles when maybe nothing was every okay all along. I stopped talking about Covid and the Pandemic and formed such a negative train of thought for the same reason this doctor is regretting ever being a doctor - what the hell is wrong with people?
Erin Mandrusiak 2 years ago
'no one is worth it anymore', definitely how I feel as well. In a world where 'doing the right thing' gets you abuse, it's hard to feel like anything or anyone is worth it.
Steven Glover 2 years ago
This is the saddest feeling I've had ever. When u get to that point u need a huge vacation an to remember why u r doing what ur doing in the first place. Been there had to take years off of being there for others except my family. My heart goes out to u. It will get better.
Frances Lee 2 years ago
Find some joy somewhere...and don't let the idiots win. You are stronger than that.
Ashley Lyford 2 years ago
This poster needs a friend right now more than ever. I'm scared that they're reaching out like pre-suicide reach-out...
Linda Riebel 2 years ago
Wish I could be psychic and send you really good eraser vibes.... (I mean erasing bad memories)
Cory Tollman 2 years ago
At times I feel that way about people who come in for other reasons that are often based on their choices in life. It helps me sometimes to reflect on how I'm not always making the best choices for my life either and that often there are reasons why people have done to themselves what they've done.
Rachel Hamrick 2 years ago
If this person truly cared then they'd stay. He/she signed an oath.
Rachel Hamrick 2 years ago
So opinionated. The vaccine nearly killed me. Having Covid was enough and I should have just stopped with that.
Mateo Buysse 2 years ago
Honestly, for a big part, this is how it should be. There should be some worldwide awareness that not all lives are worth saving, based on character traits. Though i do respect medical personel, i will never understand what brings people to try and save people diagnosed with ASPD from anything, drug users from an OD if they got a history of OD'ing and saving Antivaxxers from avoidable diseases there are vaccins for, let alone anyone acting entitled or physically agressive for no medical reason, except just being a pain in the butt. The sooner this is realized, the faster we can look forward to a brighter future.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
The physicians' creed is "First, do no harm". Eugenics is frowned upon.
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Laura Mish 2 years ago
And people that don’t trust the “vaccine” are tired of getting yelled at by people that do.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
We didn't sign up to be stalked, threatened, harassed, given death threats, from organized groups of people, sometimes armed, who'd even follow us home and leave little presents on our doorsteps of bags of dogshit or worse. So, y'know, no, we did not sign on knowing all this would happen.
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#2
Facebook. Deleted the account, never going back. I don’t miss it at all.
#3
Vote Republican. I was a lifelong R until they picked Trump. My eyes were opened to what they were and I'll never donate another cent or vote R for any position ever again. I love when I get the calls from them, begging for money. I get to explain why the money they used to get is now going to their opponents.
Amanda Black 2 years ago
I've decided as long as there are starving children and pets in this world, no political party is getting a cent of my money.
The anti-bucket list is the complete opposite of the bucket list, a list of all the things that a person hopes to do in life.
They say that the best teacher is cold, hard experience. And there’s no denying that trying out a whole bunch of different activities can quickly help you filter out what you actually enjoy doing and what sounds great on paper but is horrible in real life.
However, things aren’t so easy when you deal with underlying assumptions like trusting everyone, not just leisure activities. If the fundamental ideas that make up your life get shaken, you can be in for a rude awakening. And with a lot to think about while you’re sitting there, angry, ashamed, embarrassed.
#4
Buy clothes that don’t fit well in hopes that “someday” I’ll lose weight and be comfortable in them. Just size up, damn it, and be comfortable now!
#5
Settling for a relationship knowing you are not really happy.
Never. Again.
#6
Attempt [to end my life].
After maybe three of four days after the attempt I experienced what I think is called epiphany. Started everything all over. Loved myself, finished therapy etc. No matter what bulls**t life throws at me I will never do it again.
Something that we all have to remind ourselves of from time to time is that it’s all right to make mistakes. Nobody’s perfect. And, heck, you could argue that perfection is overrated. What really matters is learning to embrace the mistakes that we make and learning the lessons that are there to be learned, without regret.
Vanessa Bohns, an Associate Professor of Organizational Behavior at Cornell University, explained to us earlier about embracing mistakes, dealing with our embarrassment, and why hiding our mistakes isn’t healthy for us.
"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa told Bored Panda during an earlier interview that many of us want to seem perfect.
#7
Give a f**k about other people’s opinions of me. Not my business.
#8
Now I always pee before cutting jalapeno peppers. The other way around, never again.
LeighAnne Brown-Pedersen 2 years ago
Apparently a mistake only done once. (Careful around your eyes…)
#9
Assume that every co worker is a friend.
I truly believed most of my colleagues were friends in a place I used too work, to the point I’d go above and beyond to help them. Even if it was rarely if ever reciprocated. Yet whenever I needed help they were nowhere to be found or were ‘busy’. If I got in trouble they were quick to throw me under the bus without hesitation and would lie to my face about doing so.
Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago (edited)
I thought some of my co workers were friends and even invited them to my engagement party. They did RSVP yet none of them showed up.
"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing,” she explained how embarrassment works.
“One thing that’s interesting about embarrassment is that, for as much as we might experience it as painful in the moment, it’s actually very socially adaptive. Being embarrassed signals to other people that you care about what they think. And that actually draws people in to you,” the expert pointed out that when we admit to our mistakes openly, we become better liked.
#10
I refuse to ever do retail again, people are literally such a**holes and don’t realize your trying to help them and still get their job done.
LeighAnne Brown-Pedersen 2 years ago
But…. Everyone should work in retail or food services for a while. To appreciate the crap work and how vital it is. And to appreciate where you’ve been and where you’re going.
#11
Smoke. Did it for 14 years. I feel so much better having quit. Been about 10 years since and the amount of money saved and the smell and the cough.
#12
Having sex without wanting to. I was in a relationship with someone who'd frequently pressure me into having sex, and I'm definitely never ever doing that again.
StarmanWaitingInTheSky 2 years ago
Same. I'm stilling getting over the trauma. It just never feels right again.
“So blushing, burying your head in your hands, laughing, acknowledging how embarrassing something was, are all totally healthy ways to react.”
On the flip side, when we try to hide our mistakes and embarrassment, we’re shooting ourselves in the foot, socially speaking. In other words, it’s not only cathartic, it’s also socially useful for us to admit to the times we utterly embarrassed ourselves or messed up beyond all belief.
#13
Work as a bartender.
I know, I know, the money is good. But getting home at 4am or later, the booze and drug scene, surviving on Red Bull and pedialyte, and getting grabassed by strangers while trying to pay my bills is not the life for me.
787 days sober and I’ll never look back. Got my degree and working as a design specialist/content developer for a museum now and I LOVE MY JOB. Also started my own small business and it’s going really well so far. I have an art show coming up soon and I’m really excited for it.
#14
Stay at a job I’m unhappy at.
StarmanWaitingInTheSky 2 years ago
I've been gruelling at a job that hasn't fit my values and personality for a decade. I have an interview at a place I've always wanted to work at this week. Hope I get it.
#15
Trying to be liked by everybody by always being nice and never saying no. Never again.
“The unhealthy way to react is to pretend you’re not embarrassed, that you didn’t make a mistake, or to get angry. Those things undo the positive effect of embarrassment typically has on other people by conveying insincerity and pushing people away rather than drawing them in,” Vanessa said.
#16
Sharing too much.
I used to tell people my life goals and plans, and upload everything on social media as well: what I was doing, who I was dating or in a relationship with, where I was... all that.
Now I realise there is so much more peace and happiness in living a low-key life. I high-key enjoy that s**t.
#17
Camping. Never again will I leave my perfectly comfortable house for a weekend to sleep on the ground and share a disgusting bathroom with 150 strangers.
#18
Loan a friend money with the expectation of getting it back. Haven’t loaned money since and if I ever do, it’s a gift.
Beeps 2 years ago (edited)
I’m aware that this might come across as slightly arsey, but I’ve stopped loaning anything at all. (Ie not money, but books, CDs, clothes, household items, etc.) I’ve grown tired of being the one who keeps pushing to get my stuff back, and then, when I do finally get it back, it’s usually in a pretty bad condition.
#19
Being obese.
I didn’t realize how much it negatively affected everything in my life until I lost 80 pounds. Then I was like “oh THIS is how I’m supposed to feel.”
#20
Go to Disneyland or Disney World.
Paid waaaaay too much money to stand in waaaay too many lines, fighting crowds of waaaay too many people.
Disney parks are not a fun way to spend a day.
RandomHumanBean 2 years ago
i went to hershey park a few years ago with my family. i havent been to disneyland/world, but they have a lot of the same things, less long lines, and CHOCOLATE
#22
Forgive a cheater.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
If it happened once, it can happen again. Also, it happened for a reason, maybe they wouldn't admit it or you wouldn't believe it but something was the precursor.
#23
Bungee jump.. as soon as my feet left the edge all I could think was "well that was stupid"...
It was exciting and probably safe enough.. but it was enough for me to know I will never willingly do that again.
#24
Childbirth and the postpartum period. Love my daughter to death. One and done.
K Witmer 2 years ago
Yep. I had my daughter and went through so much anxiety and was told it wasn't real that I did not have another child even though I wanted one. I just couldn't imagine going through that again. Now people talk about it more so I would be able to get help but 19 yrs ago doctors got frustrated if you complained about anything to do w mental health after pregnancy. Plus I was afraid they'd take her from me if they knew how axioms I was. To the point I held her for a year straight. I couldn't put her down I was so scared. I would sleep for a few hours a night as long as my husband held her while I slept.
#25
Allow my mood to get tethered to someone else's.
With my ex, I was only ever happy when she was happy and if she woke up in a bad mood, my day was ruined. I need to live my own life without clinging onto someone else's.
StarmanWaitingInTheSky 2 years ago
Ah, emotional vampires. My mom is like this. I'm not allowed my own feelings. Every emotion she dictates. Now I don't know if I'm a strong empath or just can't deflect others emotions.
#26
Working in academia - left two years ago and never looking back. F**k that noise.
Soon as the business folk became in charge of the institution instead of the professors, it was all over. Changing the model from " how can we best teach and research knowledge" to "how can we make more money to expand" destroyed the core philosophy.
Stephanie IV 2 years ago (edited)
This is already coming back to bite us in the collective behind. Never before have I encountered so many bachelor degrees with high hopes, high work ethos and just very little knowledge of anything other than their very insular topics.
#27
Have a relationship with someone with children, thus finding myself in the stepfamily situation with never fully feeling accepted, the ex being omnipresent, and always being the one to adjust because… those poor children. And it’s true: they cannot help their situation. But I aint doing it ever again.
#28
Pulling an all nighter. Age is catching up on me.
Firstname Lastname 2 years ago
Attempted to pull a late night this weekend for the sake of having a social life and ended up going home early the next day to take a nap. I think I'm officially old now.
#29
Birthing without an epidural. I had laughing gas instead. Made me high as a kite. I screamed in pain while I was dissociating into space.
Fatima García Soto 2 years ago
Pregnant woman in the Netherlands here. There is now ay in hell I wouldn't want to choose giving birth without the epidural... Why to choose suffering? Hell nah, if I can, I will chose the less painful option to havea beautiful birth experience, hell with "it not natural" who cares? Also wearing shoes is not natural 😂 but hey... My respects to all women who choose to feel what our ancestors did before we had a painless option... Not for me!
#30
Go to a strip club. I've never felt so awkward in my entire life.
What do you think ?
SusanS 2 years ago
For the most part these are NOT bucket list things people tried and didn't like. FFS whose bucket list includes working retail, being in a bad relationship, having a child with someone they don't love. Come on this is just a list, predominantly, of bad experiences with bad things.
memyselfandI 2 years ago
Exactly, it’s not things on peoples’ bucket lists that they don’t want to do again, it’s things that are now on the anti-bucket list of “I’ll never do this again in my life”. No one has “working retail” on their bucket list, but I bet a lot of people have it on the anti-bucket list after having tried it.
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Aliquid 2 years ago
This list sucks. It isn't even vaguely an "anti-bucket list". Why can't people at least try to post ideas that fit the theme, rather than jump on an opportunity to rant about something vaguely related.
memyselfandI 2 years ago (edited)
I thought the idea of “anti-bucket list” was “this wasn’t on my bucket list before, but I’m never going to do it again”. It’s not things that were on the bucket list already and then turned out to be horrible, it’s somewhat normal things that they don’t want to do again. They’re two separate lists, not things from one moved to the other.
Load More Replies... Patti Vance 2 years ago
i'm going to say it....having a child. i have one who is now 42 but, in retrospect, i would not have had him. it's a long story that i won't get into but it was a situation in which i could not choose to abort or adopt out. had i been able to do either i think my life would have been different. but, that being said, i will say that the experience did benefit me as i think it made me a better person. i don't know if that's a 'making lemonade out of lemons' attitude or not but after one i was done.
Sabrina Bowen 2 years ago
Thank you. I have 3. I felt pressured into having them even though I didn't want them and wasn't ready. I love my children, but parenting isn't really for me and they didn't deserve to be born into this world.
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memyselfandI 2 years ago
Snorkeling. Did it once at a camp, hyperventilated and got back in the boat as fast as possible. Everything looked so much closer, slimier, more alive, and much better at swimming than me, and since it was below me, I couldn’t run away except by swimming to somewhere else with new horrors. At one point I nearly kicked a sea turtle that I had no idea was there. The worst part is I then had to go out again with the group the next day and they wouldn’t let me just stay in the boat. I am absolutely never going anywhere in the ocean with clear water ever again. Too many nightmares. I’ll stick to aquariums with walls, thanks.
Kori Chamberlain 2 years ago
Thank you for this actual anti-bucket list thing.
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Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)
For me, ride a roller coaster. I'll do other adrenaline inducing things, like cliff-dive or do the polar-bear-challenge, I just never had any desire whatsoever to ride a coaster as a kid. As a teen, someone begged me to ride one with them, and after a lot of back and forth, I finally gave in. I ended up getting severe whiplash, and didn't even enjoy the ride prior to the injury. It just seemed bumpy and uncomfortable, and not at all exciting. 30 years later, and I tend to throw out my shoulder a lot. I couldn't swear the whip lash is what caused my shoulder to get so screwed up, but that's around the same time it started.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I thought I was the only one who was bored by rollercoasters etc! People expect it's just that you are scared, but I would rather do something like rock climbing.
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Dr. Carlos Dangercat 2 years ago
Once I jumped off a cliff into a lake. I did not enjoy it at all.
Aimee Boswell 2 years ago
Getting married again. One and done. Thank god I can spend the rest of my life with my current husband. We both agree we agree should have eloped. Ceremony + reception, so stressful.
Chinmayee Kalghatgi 2 years ago
Being friends with certain people who either used me as their personal therapist or refused to take no for an answer when he asked me out
Iapetos 2 years ago
Hitting my 8 year old computer in frustration while it was trying to boot. The next thing I hear is a faint error sound. It had been reading from the disk. Thank good I had backups of most of it, but my Minecraft worlds will forever be gone. Were it not for my stupidity, I would still be using my old laptop today.
Calvin Girvin 2 years ago
I keep getting calls telling me to pay off my student loans, and the people calling are glad to help me. This is a little bit strange, because I am 75 years old, and I paid off all my student loans some 40 years ago. However when I feel the money people on the phone that, they won't listen. They just keep trying to get my money.
Kori Chamberlain 2 years ago
Would have been better if these were actual bucket list things people did that just weren't worth it, or at least sounded like actual bucket list experiences to someone.
SusanS 2 years ago
For the most part these are NOT bucket list things people tried and didn't like. FFS whose bucket list includes working retail, being in a bad relationship, having a child with someone they don't love. Come on this is just a list, predominantly, of bad experiences with bad things.
memyselfandI 2 years ago
Exactly, it’s not things on peoples’ bucket lists that they don’t want to do again, it’s things that are now on the anti-bucket list of “I’ll never do this again in my life”. No one has “working retail” on their bucket list, but I bet a lot of people have it on the anti-bucket list after having tried it.
Load More Replies... Aliquid 2 years ago
This list sucks. It isn't even vaguely an "anti-bucket list". Why can't people at least try to post ideas that fit the theme, rather than jump on an opportunity to rant about something vaguely related.
memyselfandI 2 years ago (edited)
I thought the idea of “anti-bucket list” was “this wasn’t on my bucket list before, but I’m never going to do it again”. It’s not things that were on the bucket list already and then turned out to be horrible, it’s somewhat normal things that they don’t want to do again. They’re two separate lists, not things from one moved to the other.
Load More Replies... Patti Vance 2 years ago
i'm going to say it....having a child. i have one who is now 42 but, in retrospect, i would not have had him. it's a long story that i won't get into but it was a situation in which i could not choose to abort or adopt out. had i been able to do either i think my life would have been different. but, that being said, i will say that the experience did benefit me as i think it made me a better person. i don't know if that's a 'making lemonade out of lemons' attitude or not but after one i was done.
Sabrina Bowen 2 years ago
Thank you. I have 3. I felt pressured into having them even though I didn't want them and wasn't ready. I love my children, but parenting isn't really for me and they didn't deserve to be born into this world.
Load More Replies... memyselfandI 2 years ago
Snorkeling. Did it once at a camp, hyperventilated and got back in the boat as fast as possible. Everything looked so much closer, slimier, more alive, and much better at swimming than me, and since it was below me, I couldn’t run away except by swimming to somewhere else with new horrors. At one point I nearly kicked a sea turtle that I had no idea was there. The worst part is I then had to go out again with the group the next day and they wouldn’t let me just stay in the boat. I am absolutely never going anywhere in the ocean with clear water ever again. Too many nightmares. I’ll stick to aquariums with walls, thanks.
Kori Chamberlain 2 years ago
Thank you for this actual anti-bucket list thing.
Load More Replies... Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)
For me, ride a roller coaster. I'll do other adrenaline inducing things, like cliff-dive or do the polar-bear-challenge, I just never had any desire whatsoever to ride a coaster as a kid. As a teen, someone begged me to ride one with them, and after a lot of back and forth, I finally gave in. I ended up getting severe whiplash, and didn't even enjoy the ride prior to the injury. It just seemed bumpy and uncomfortable, and not at all exciting. 30 years later, and I tend to throw out my shoulder a lot. I couldn't swear the whip lash is what caused my shoulder to get so screwed up, but that's around the same time it started.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I thought I was the only one who was bored by rollercoasters etc! People expect it's just that you are scared, but I would rather do something like rock climbing.
Load More Replies... Dr. Carlos Dangercat 2 years ago
Once I jumped off a cliff into a lake. I did not enjoy it at all.
Aimee Boswell 2 years ago
Getting married again. One and done. Thank god I can spend the rest of my life with my current husband. We both agree we agree should have eloped. Ceremony + reception, so stressful.
Chinmayee Kalghatgi 2 years ago
Being friends with certain people who either used me as their personal therapist or refused to take no for an answer when he asked me out
Iapetos 2 years ago
Hitting my 8 year old computer in frustration while it was trying to boot. The next thing I hear is a faint error sound. It had been reading from the disk. Thank good I had backups of most of it, but my Minecraft worlds will forever be gone. Were it not for my stupidity, I would still be using my old laptop today.
Calvin Girvin 2 years ago
I keep getting calls telling me to pay off my student loans, and the people calling are glad to help me. This is a little bit strange, because I am 75 years old, and I paid off all my student loans some 40 years ago. However when I feel the money people on the phone that, they won't listen. They just keep trying to get my money.
Kori Chamberlain 2 years ago
Would have been better if these were actual bucket list things people did that just weren't worth it, or at least sounded like actual bucket list experiences to someone.
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