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Hey Pandas, AITA For Declining My Long-Unseen Friend’s Offer To Meet Up?

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My friend, let’s call her Lisa, decided to throw a last-minute gathering at her place. She called me up just a couple of hours before it started and asked me to come. I hadn’t seen her for a long time, but I had already made plans to relax at home, so I wasn’t really up for going out.

While Lisa knows that I like to plan my evenings ahead, the fact that I hadn’t seen her for a long time did cross my mind. However, even with the added consideration of our time apart, I still felt the need to prioritize my well-being and the plans I had made to unwind.

It had been a hectic week for me, and I was looking forward to a quiet evening at home

Hey Pandas, AITA For Declining My Long-Unseen Friend’s Offer To Meet Up?

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Although catching up with Lisa would have been nice, I believe it’s essential to balance social interactions with personal time.

I had already made other plans for the evening, even if they were as simple as staying in, watching a movie, and unwinding

Hey Pandas, AITA For Declining My Long-Unseen Friend’s Offer To Meet Up?

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I declined Lisa’s invitation, and she seemed disappointed, telling me I should have made an effort

Hey Pandas, AITA For Declining My Long-Unseen Friend’s Offer To Meet Up?

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Am I the jerk for not attending her last-minute event, considering the circumstances and the time that had passed since I last saw her?

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arthbach 8 months ago

I'd say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry, that's not going to be possible on such short notice. Why don't we plan something for next week?" and then give some options. There are people who do everything last minute, and others who like everything planned.

27points

Deanna Crichley 8 months ago

I used to have a friend who would just drop in, despite my having told him repeatedly that unexpected company is uninvited company. His reasoning was that no matter your plans it's always better with company. No, Justin, eating Doritos in my underwear is NOT better with company.

20points

Sonya Kimbel (Post author) 8 months ago

Agree!

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BarkingSpider 8 months ago

How you spend your time is up to you. She can be disappointed all she wants, but if she really wanted to see you, she'd know to give you more notice. "Sorry, I already have plans. I wish I'd known sooner, but maybe we can plan something together soon." The end.

9points

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