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Hey Pandas, Aita For Being Concerned About My Friend’s Crush’s Age Gap?
hello. I (F14) have a close online friend whom I consider my best friend. She (F13) recently kicked this rude guy out of her life, due to him being a narcissistic and controlling individual.
She found a guy she has a crush on, but he is 16. I understand the age gap is not pedophilic, but I think there’s a heavy difference between the maturity of a 13 year old and a 16 year old. I’m just worried, because this person can drive and she is just hitting puberty.
I feel like the AH for stating this, because she seemed somewhat upset. I’m worried for her, and really hope she does find someone who is a healthy and not too over her age. She states it’s “okay” because it’s just a crush, but it’s still wrong in my eyes.
I completely want the truth, as I’m really torn on this. We didn’t argue or anything, but I do think I upset her a little bit. AITA?
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What do you think ?
I_Am_So_???? 7 months ago
NTA. I wouldn't be concerned though. As long as it's a crush and doesn't turn into anything more.
Alexa/echo 2 years ago
As long as it’s only a crush then is should be fine. But if it turns into anything more it’s advisable that you do something about it like telling a trusted adult her parents if they don’t already know and your own parents. My cousin dated some one 3-4 years older than her at 13. This guy got her hooked on drugs, sexually and mentally abused her and totally ruined her. She has never been the same since. If is just a crush then it’s perfectly natural. Being young hormonal and seeing how immature guys are is common. It completely natural to be attracted to more mature guys/girls depending on gender and sexuality. You are definitely NTA for being genuinely concerned for your friend.
Alexa/echo 2 years ago
Just keep an eye out for her and Maybe encourage less dating and more growth as an individual. While dating is perfectly natural for adolescents I personally advise focusing on your self and your future . You have all the rest of your life for heart break and toxic exs why complicate your time of freedom of adult hood.
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Emerald 2 years ago
NTA. You're just concerned about a friend. Were you guys older, the age gap might not be so bad. However, you are right in saying that she just hit puberty and he can drive. Unless it starts to become something more than just a crush, like he starts talking to her like he likes her back, or in a creepy way, then you have absolutely have a right to be concerned. However, it doesn't look like it's to that point yet. It's also perfectly normal to have a crush on someone a few years older, especially when you're a girl attracted to guys at 13, who, let's face it, are kind of a-holes themselves. I think for right now, just let this crush be a crush, and if it gets to be too much, talk to your parents or an adult in your life about it.
I_Am_So_???? 7 months ago
NTA. I wouldn't be concerned though. As long as it's a crush and doesn't turn into anything more.
Alexa/echo 2 years ago
As long as it’s only a crush then is should be fine. But if it turns into anything more it’s advisable that you do something about it like telling a trusted adult her parents if they don’t already know and your own parents. My cousin dated some one 3-4 years older than her at 13. This guy got her hooked on drugs, sexually and mentally abused her and totally ruined her. She has never been the same since. If is just a crush then it’s perfectly natural. Being young hormonal and seeing how immature guys are is common. It completely natural to be attracted to more mature guys/girls depending on gender and sexuality. You are definitely NTA for being genuinely concerned for your friend.
Alexa/echo 2 years ago
Just keep an eye out for her and Maybe encourage less dating and more growth as an individual. While dating is perfectly natural for adolescents I personally advise focusing on your self and your future . You have all the rest of your life for heart break and toxic exs why complicate your time of freedom of adult hood.
Load More Replies... Emerald 2 years ago
NTA. You're just concerned about a friend. Were you guys older, the age gap might not be so bad. However, you are right in saying that she just hit puberty and he can drive. Unless it starts to become something more than just a crush, like he starts talking to her like he likes her back, or in a creepy way, then you have absolutely have a right to be concerned. However, it doesn't look like it's to that point yet. It's also perfectly normal to have a crush on someone a few years older, especially when you're a girl attracted to guys at 13, who, let's face it, are kind of a-holes themselves. I think for right now, just let this crush be a crush, and if it gets to be too much, talk to your parents or an adult in your life about it.
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