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Hey Pandas, AITA For Thinking It’s Rude My Husband Chooses Ex’s Event Over My Feelings?
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Hey Pandas, AITA For Thinking It’s Rude My Husband Chooses Ex’s Event Over My Feelings?

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My husband and I have been married for 28 years. He was married before for about 11 years. They had a daughter who is now 40. She lives with her mother. We have a son (26) and a daughter (23).

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    I have a relatively good relationship with my stepdaughter

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    It has improved over the years. It was difficult at first because she resented me and perhaps wanted her parents to get back together.

    Her mother hosted a Sweet 16 birthday party for her to which I was not invited

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    I told my husband that he should not have gone since I was snubbed by them. He went away, saying he wanted to be there for his daughter. I did not say anything further as I did not want to do anything to affect his relationship with his daughter.

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    Recently, his ex has been having a winter soup event at which she apparently serves different types of soups

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    He is invited but not me. She had one today. He told me about it and that he was going this morning.

    AITA for thinking that this is rude and disrespectful and that he should not go? I did not say anything to him today, but I am sure he must have picked up that I was not pleased about it. He went anyway.

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    Philip Rutter
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    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a HUGE difference between supporting his daughter- and - soup. I think you're entitled to be as PO'd about the soup parties as you like.

    bElLa sTairZz
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    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this! like his daughter will be super hurt if he doesnt go to her 16th birthday. but i think his ex wife can live with him not being at the soup thing.

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    theoneandonlynoira
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    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alright I know I'm about to get downvoted for this but I guess I don't think the ex should be required to invite you. She may be jealous-- a lost marriage rankles for years after. If you have suspicions about the husband's fidelity, it's not okay. He's knowingly going to something that you don't feel comfortable about.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems like a situation where the husband is putting the feelings of his ex over the feelings of his current wife, and that is a problem.

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    Philip Rutter
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a HUGE difference between supporting his daughter- and - soup. I think you're entitled to be as PO'd about the soup parties as you like.

    bElLa sTairZz
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this! like his daughter will be super hurt if he doesnt go to her 16th birthday. but i think his ex wife can live with him not being at the soup thing.

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    theoneandonlynoira
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    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alright I know I'm about to get downvoted for this but I guess I don't think the ex should be required to invite you. She may be jealous-- a lost marriage rankles for years after. If you have suspicions about the husband's fidelity, it's not okay. He's knowingly going to something that you don't feel comfortable about.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems like a situation where the husband is putting the feelings of his ex over the feelings of his current wife, and that is a problem.

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