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Sometimes the line between what’s disrespectful and what’s not can be very thin and not everyone is aware of it. Strange, isn’t it? We live in a world with so much diversity, customs, unsaid rules, and all that jazz, that it becomes difficult to know everything that’s appropriate and what’s not.
Such was the case with the original poster (OP), who had no clue whether you could overtake a hearse or not, and ended up being scolded by their mom when they did. It was a complete element of surprise for them, so they vented online and asked for advice.
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The 30-year-old poster was driving home with their mom when they came across a hearse with some cars behind it on a dual carriageway (or a divided highway)
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When they drove past it, they got scolded by mom and found out that it was disrespectful, and not knowing anything about it, they sought advice online
In today’s story, the original poster (OP) tells us about how they had no clue about funeral etiquette when you come across a process on the highway. They were traveling home from school and pulled onto a dual carriageway when they came across a funeral procession with a hearse and some cars behind it.
Thinking nothing of it, the driver pulled outside the lane and drove past it, but this drew intense criticism from their mom who was in the car. She scolded them as it was very disrespectful and even said that she felt embarrassed to be with them in the car.
Our oblivious driver looked into the rearview mirror and noticed that nobody else had passed the hearse, and they were simply shocked by it all. They claimed that they had been driving for around 30 years and had never heard a thing about it.
Obviously confused by everything, the driver posted their story online and wondered whether it was wrong of them to overtake the hearse and they sparked a massive debate amongst the folks who saw the post.
Image credits: The Good Funeral Guide / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
Some people said that it was wrong of the poster to overtake the hearse as it was very disrespectful to the mourners. They said that many people don’t respect these rules; in fact, they noted instances where drivers had tried to race past and ended up in accidents or road rage incidents.
Research suggests that road rage against funeral corteges has become increasingly common in the UK with more than half of all drivers having witnessed incidents against hearses and processions. Looks like what folks mentioned online seems to be true.
On the other hand, quite a few people argued that the driver was on a dual carriageway and it was perfectly fine to overtake in such a case. Someone in the comments mentioned that their partner worked in the funeral business and they vouched that it was fine on a dual carriageway.
According to Dignity Funerals, “Whilst there are no specific laws in the UK regarding funeral processions, there are certain rules which you should try and follow. If you witness a hearse leading a funeral procession whilst on the road, be considerate and respectful. Drivers who encounter a funeral procession should only overtake it on a dual carriageway.”
Many people said that on single roads, they would never dream of doing it, but the poster was in the “ok zone” because it was a dual carriageway and they also felt that OP’s mom was wrong for reprimanding them for it.
What do you think about it? Leave your thoughts in the comments below!
It sparked a debate amongst netizens as some claimed it was disrespectful while others said that it was fine on a dual carriageway
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Image credits: Patrick Quinn / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
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FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
You aren't supposed to break up a funeral procession ie get in between cars, or bother them by being a d-ck, but no reason to stay behind them if you can use a passing lane. It's not like you were blaring music or honking. They will be going slowly on purpose, and will want you to pass rather than hang back and cause confusion. Just on dual carriageway though, just wait on a normal road.
frank behnsen 2 months ago
Dear FreeTheUnicorn, what you say. Thank you for your common sense!
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Jeremy James 2 months ago
I used to walk past a popular outdoor wedding venue everyday on my way to work. There were a couple of occasions when I'd be walking by just as the bride was beginning her walk down the aisle. So I would stop and watch respectfully until she reached the altar/podium. I've never heard of that being an etiquette rule, but it seemed like the right thing to do.
arthbach 2 months ago
In Scotland, the convention/tradition was you would never overtake a hearse. If you were walking, you would stop and bow your head (and remove your hat is you are a man) until the funeral procession has passed. These were common signs of courtesy to the dead and bereaved. My experience is no-one overtakes a hearse, unless they are a member of the emergency services, going to an emergency. Everyone else waits.
Ashlie Benson 2 months ago
In the mid-west of the US we pull over to a stop and wait for the hearse and procession to pass.
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FreeTheUnicorn 2 months ago
You aren't supposed to break up a funeral procession ie get in between cars, or bother them by being a d-ck, but no reason to stay behind them if you can use a passing lane. It's not like you were blaring music or honking. They will be going slowly on purpose, and will want you to pass rather than hang back and cause confusion. Just on dual carriageway though, just wait on a normal road.
frank behnsen 2 months ago
Dear FreeTheUnicorn, what you say. Thank you for your common sense!
Load More Replies... Jeremy James 2 months ago
I used to walk past a popular outdoor wedding venue everyday on my way to work. There were a couple of occasions when I'd be walking by just as the bride was beginning her walk down the aisle. So I would stop and watch respectfully until she reached the altar/podium. I've never heard of that being an etiquette rule, but it seemed like the right thing to do.
arthbach 2 months ago
In Scotland, the convention/tradition was you would never overtake a hearse. If you were walking, you would stop and bow your head (and remove your hat is you are a man) until the funeral procession has passed. These were common signs of courtesy to the dead and bereaved. My experience is no-one overtakes a hearse, unless they are a member of the emergency services, going to an emergency. Everyone else waits.
Ashlie Benson 2 months ago
In the mid-west of the US we pull over to a stop and wait for the hearse and procession to pass.
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