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Parents Wonder “How Long Can I Continue To Do This?”, Decide To Not Buy Each Kid A Gift
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Parents Wonder “How Long Can I Continue To Do This?”, Decide To Not Buy Each Kid A Gift

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Gifts are a part of the holidays, but as families change, so do their traditions. For Nikki and Marty Tomczak, this year marks a shift as they embrace a new approach to Christmas. Instead of buying something for all of their kids like they used to, the couple has decided to have a Secret Santa to make the season less of a hassle. However, the parents acknowledged that it felt a bit strange, so they asked moms and dads on the Internet to share how they handle presents.

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    We associate Christmas with many things, but gifts are often at the center of our celebration

    Image credits: Helena Lopes / pexels (not the actual photo)

    But when you have multiple (adult) children, it can be challenging to strike a balance between material expectations and the true meaning of the holiday

    Image credits: martyandnikki

    Nikki: Parents of adult children. At what age did you guys start slowing down on Christmas gifts for them?

    Marty: Yeah, our kids are 29, 23, 22, and in the last several years, we’ve had a son-in-law, daughter-in-law, a couple grandbabies.

    Nikki: So this year, we decided to do a Secret Santa for the first time. So we’re only going to be buying for the little kids, and then we’re only gonna be buying for one adult each, which means we’re not gonna be buying for all of our kids for the first time.”

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    Marty: Oh, but we’ve been taking good care of them and the bonus kids this entire time.

    Nikki: I’ll admit, we’ve been helping with some big things the last couple years. You know, weddings, houses, engagement parties, baby showers, hospital stays, nurseries. Yeah, we’ve been helping with some big things, but it still feels super weird to me not to be buying for each one of the kids. It makes me really happy to see them open 10 things each. I love to buy them things, but how long can I really continue to do this? You know?

    Marty: Not for me, I say, f**k these kids. I don’t even know what the hell they’re getting anyway.

    Nikki: He’s just kidding.

    Marty: No, I’m not.”

    Image credits: martyandnikki

    For many families, Christmas presents become a burden even before their children reach adulthood

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    Image credits: JESHOOTS.com / pexels (not the actual photo)

    A 2023 poll by Ipsos found that three-quarters (73%) of parents think that the expectations of how much to spend on children’s Christmas presents have gotten out of control, with a similar proportion (74%) saying that children should be happy with whatever they get.

    However, more than half (54%) of parents still feel pressured to get their children the latest toys, gadgets, and clothes to commemorate the occasion.

    That is probably because almost half (46%) of parents say they are concerned about their child(ren) being disappointed by the presents they give them, and 44% are concerned about their child(ren) comparing their gifts with those received by friends.

    Six in ten (62%) parents are concerned about their ability to afford Christmas presents for their kids, and 40% say they buy at least one of their children’s presents on credit because they couldn’t afford them otherwise.

    So hopefully by the time their kids are entering adulthood, families have already had open discussions about finances and expectations, helping children understand that the value of Christmas lies in spending quality time together and not just the gifts.

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    The couple’s video has since gone viral

    @martyandnikki What’s everyone doing for their adult kids this Christmas? #martyandnikki #adultkids #adultkidschristmas #parenting #parentingquestion ♬ original sound – Marty & Nikki

    And people are pretty much split on the tradition

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    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still grapple with the concept of going into debt because of a one day celebration of a fantasy figure.

    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You really don't have to... these 500€/$ gifts are insane. When my sister asked what to gift me besides our traditional christmas tea I proposed my favourit chocolate truffels or a cook book. spolier: she found some from our parents and will gift those to me. That's totally fine. My gift to her is about 30€.

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    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the idea of not giving gifts, but playing games and winning them. It tickles me greatly. But I'd want to make sure the games were chosen so everyone has a reasonable change of winning something.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family does that, but I hate getting gifts. I don't want/need stuff. I try to opt out of getting anything. I would rather cook for everyone and not get a gift.

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    Crystal M
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have three adult children and their spouses (no grandchildren yet). We each draw a name and purchase that person a nice gift. We also play a game for prizes and each person contributes one gift for that pot. It's fun and works well.

    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe Christmas, he thought, doesn't come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”

    Robert T
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conversely when do children stop buying gifts for their parents. It is getting so difficult to find something, anything, that they actually want besides clothes. My dad has gradually given up on his hobbies (he is 86), so no more golf or photography things. They still buy me gifts. This year I'm getting a petrol tank for my classic car! LOL

    LaserBrain
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a kid, the rule was We pick names from a hat, you buy one person a present, maximum 10 bucks. I liked it that way. And no problem continuing that into adulthood, if everyone wants to. Oh and we had to write a poem for the recipient :)

    mandy the capibara
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you by any chance Dutch? ;) I recognize the traditions. Tbh: to me, those are the best kind of presents, because its not about the money, but the fun, and the effort. I'll take a sinterklaas poem and small gift over the crazy big gifts any day

    Load More Replies...
    g90814
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Marty: Not for me, I say, f**k these kids. I don’t even know what the hell they’re getting anyway". Go Marty!

    Shannimal
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My side of the family stopped giving gifts a few years ago. Me and my brother (40, 46) are both married, no kids, and have houses. We already have more than we "need" and my parents have even more. I live in a different state and we don't spend Christmas together (my parents stay here for Thanksgiving). Mom tends to always send "small" gifts to us regardless, but it's food stuffs like coffee and Biscotti which lasts a while and is very nice. We all know we love each other, so we took the pressure of finding gifts off and hop on the phone instead. I sent cards this year. 😀

    Any
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    o.o Its so foreign to me. I always ever got one or maybe two gifts from my parents, now that we're adult we get some sweets and sometimes money. But not too much, maybe about 50 or something, sometimes less sometimes more, but we also gift our parents something this year they will get some selfbaked cookies because officially we don't gift anything.... turns out we always gift something...never the less 🙃. We help with their house and the garden (it's a veeeery big one) and do other things, like a family should. At least if it's a family you like. I love my family so it's always a giving and taking. As it should be.

    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do the same. I help out anytime my family needs help for anything. Throughout the year. Christmas? I host, I make the meal, parents might give us a little bit of money ($100) and maybe a practical gift (couple bags of cat litter or cat food) "for Christmas" but usually a few weeks before Christmas. We are adults, we don't have a lot of money, we don't withhold things that are needed to wait until Christmas...if you need it now, you get it now... We don't need more stuff. We can buy our own clothing when we need it, we know what kind of things we want. We just enjoy each other's company

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    Miki
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything before "but" means nothing. What is in those ppl heads? you never stops. It's not a support. It's a gift. From heart. it can be small.

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We only buy for the kids/minors. I mean, that's what Christmas is all about in children's minds, IMO. We all have Birthdays for receiving gifts.

    Ellinor
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother and aunt are both around 50 and their parents still give them presents for Christmas...

    Betsy S
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would my kids being in a different stage of life make them mean less to me? I don't have much, but there is a gift of some sort under the tree for each of my grown kids, the one's partner and two littles. The other is not partnered. I'll never stop acknowledging them during the winter festivities. What a slap in the face that would be for me to hurt them like that.

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents get us something useful that we would appreciate. This year, she paid my annual car insurance premium. I'm in my 40's.

    y79nmzs9mc
    Community Member
    43 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandchildren found a Plan Canada catalogue several years ago. They were quite interested in what it was. It’s a charity that purchases needed items for people all over the world. My grandkids chose to buy school books, goats, chickens, mosquito nets over the years and have that as their gift. They are 22 and 19 now and we still do a charity gift.

    Jenny
    Community Member
    9 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My kids are 27, 35, 37 and 37 and we still buy them something small. It's just a token gift to give them something to unwrap. Between two of them, there are 8 grandkids we have to buy for and it is unsustainable on the money we have coming in.

    Uncle Schmickle
    Community Member
    17 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Each to their own, but personally I feel buying for adult "kids" is unnecessary, esp. if you've been supporting them over the years with big things. Christmas gifts are great for children, but adults shouldn't expect them. Christmas (as the name implies) is for celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ, if you're of that persuasion, not gift giving because it's "expected".

    somnomania (she/her, queer)
    Community Member
    19 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my parents and i do presents AND stockings still (i'm 37). but we don't do gifts for anyone else, and my mom does a lot of xmas shopping throughout the year when places have deals on things.

    LaserBrain
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In our family, we picked names out of a hat and the price limit for the gifts was ten dollars (in the 70's). Worked just fine for me. Oh and we had to write a poem for the recipient. We enjoyed our time together as a family. More recently I saw a friend buy a mountain of gifts for his child because he felt guilty for not spending enough time with him. Kid ripped open all the presents in a kind of strange, manic frenzy and then looked up and said, "Is that all?"

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A couple years ago was busy for everyone and my parents ended up just sending me money, and I just sent them money too. That felt a bit pointless, haha. It's tough to think of something meaningful every single year, especially as we are adults and mostly have or buy for ourselves the things we need. I have one friend where we do a cookie exchange (we bake different kinds of things and so we both end up with more variety) and then give to charity in the other person's name. I'd love to move to that tradition with everyone I know!

    Big Chungus
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am an adult child lol and my mom and I run everything for Christmas. We set limits for everyone and that's all we spend up to. My toddler gets free reign lol I love Christmas so I will never stop buying gifts for anyone

    Karen Krause
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents cut down on the gifts once we got older, with maybe one "good" gift and maybe little ones such as cosmetics, socks, etc.

    Xip Dizc
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We do a $30 secret Santa for all the adults and any teens with jobs who choose to join. Kids get $10 presents.

    Randy Sanders
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do get token gifts, something they will use daily, but nothing expensive.

    Abraxas59
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok I hate Xmas with a passion but for my kids context I’m 60 kids are 23-20 and I will NEVER stop buying them Xmas or bday gifts EVER what sort of vile parents do that ffs yes my kids have a lot more money than me n live t home but I set a budget and they now give me a list of bits n bobs hard when they buy own stuff totally lmao but I put a ban on it over dec lol so I got ideas 😂 but NEVER EVER would I stop getting my kids gifts I’m a parent and I make sure they know they are loved those two are scum should never have had kids ! End off

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't necessarily do big gifts for my stepkids - in their 30s. I do stockings for them (candy, treats, something fun), their kids, and their partners. I also give them each a digital gift card for a restaurant that I used to work at when they were little because they love the food.

    Lyone Fein
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a maker, not a buyer. All this talk about buying gives me creepies.

    Anony Mouse
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone needs to tell these people that nobody cares about their boring tiktok and that filter is ridiculous. They should be embarrassed.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still grapple with the concept of going into debt because of a one day celebration of a fantasy figure.

    sturmwesen
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You really don't have to... these 500€/$ gifts are insane. When my sister asked what to gift me besides our traditional christmas tea I proposed my favourit chocolate truffels or a cook book. spolier: she found some from our parents and will gift those to me. That's totally fine. My gift to her is about 30€.

    Load More Replies...
    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the idea of not giving gifts, but playing games and winning them. It tickles me greatly. But I'd want to make sure the games were chosen so everyone has a reasonable change of winning something.

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family does that, but I hate getting gifts. I don't want/need stuff. I try to opt out of getting anything. I would rather cook for everyone and not get a gift.

    Load More Replies...
    Crystal M
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have three adult children and their spouses (no grandchildren yet). We each draw a name and purchase that person a nice gift. We also play a game for prizes and each person contributes one gift for that pot. It's fun and works well.

    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe Christmas, he thought, doesn't come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”

    Robert T
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Conversely when do children stop buying gifts for their parents. It is getting so difficult to find something, anything, that they actually want besides clothes. My dad has gradually given up on his hobbies (he is 86), so no more golf or photography things. They still buy me gifts. This year I'm getting a petrol tank for my classic car! LOL

    LaserBrain
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a kid, the rule was We pick names from a hat, you buy one person a present, maximum 10 bucks. I liked it that way. And no problem continuing that into adulthood, if everyone wants to. Oh and we had to write a poem for the recipient :)

    mandy the capibara
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you by any chance Dutch? ;) I recognize the traditions. Tbh: to me, those are the best kind of presents, because its not about the money, but the fun, and the effort. I'll take a sinterklaas poem and small gift over the crazy big gifts any day

    Load More Replies...
    g90814
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Marty: Not for me, I say, f**k these kids. I don’t even know what the hell they’re getting anyway". Go Marty!

    Shannimal
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My side of the family stopped giving gifts a few years ago. Me and my brother (40, 46) are both married, no kids, and have houses. We already have more than we "need" and my parents have even more. I live in a different state and we don't spend Christmas together (my parents stay here for Thanksgiving). Mom tends to always send "small" gifts to us regardless, but it's food stuffs like coffee and Biscotti which lasts a while and is very nice. We all know we love each other, so we took the pressure of finding gifts off and hop on the phone instead. I sent cards this year. 😀

    Any
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    o.o Its so foreign to me. I always ever got one or maybe two gifts from my parents, now that we're adult we get some sweets and sometimes money. But not too much, maybe about 50 or something, sometimes less sometimes more, but we also gift our parents something this year they will get some selfbaked cookies because officially we don't gift anything.... turns out we always gift something...never the less 🙃. We help with their house and the garden (it's a veeeery big one) and do other things, like a family should. At least if it's a family you like. I love my family so it's always a giving and taking. As it should be.

    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do the same. I help out anytime my family needs help for anything. Throughout the year. Christmas? I host, I make the meal, parents might give us a little bit of money ($100) and maybe a practical gift (couple bags of cat litter or cat food) "for Christmas" but usually a few weeks before Christmas. We are adults, we don't have a lot of money, we don't withhold things that are needed to wait until Christmas...if you need it now, you get it now... We don't need more stuff. We can buy our own clothing when we need it, we know what kind of things we want. We just enjoy each other's company

    Load More Replies...
    Miki
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything before "but" means nothing. What is in those ppl heads? you never stops. It's not a support. It's a gift. From heart. it can be small.

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We only buy for the kids/minors. I mean, that's what Christmas is all about in children's minds, IMO. We all have Birthdays for receiving gifts.

    Ellinor
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother and aunt are both around 50 and their parents still give them presents for Christmas...

    Betsy S
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would my kids being in a different stage of life make them mean less to me? I don't have much, but there is a gift of some sort under the tree for each of my grown kids, the one's partner and two littles. The other is not partnered. I'll never stop acknowledging them during the winter festivities. What a slap in the face that would be for me to hurt them like that.

    Donkey boi
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents get us something useful that we would appreciate. This year, she paid my annual car insurance premium. I'm in my 40's.

    y79nmzs9mc
    Community Member
    43 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My grandchildren found a Plan Canada catalogue several years ago. They were quite interested in what it was. It’s a charity that purchases needed items for people all over the world. My grandkids chose to buy school books, goats, chickens, mosquito nets over the years and have that as their gift. They are 22 and 19 now and we still do a charity gift.

    Jenny
    Community Member
    9 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My kids are 27, 35, 37 and 37 and we still buy them something small. It's just a token gift to give them something to unwrap. Between two of them, there are 8 grandkids we have to buy for and it is unsustainable on the money we have coming in.

    Uncle Schmickle
    Community Member
    17 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Each to their own, but personally I feel buying for adult "kids" is unnecessary, esp. if you've been supporting them over the years with big things. Christmas gifts are great for children, but adults shouldn't expect them. Christmas (as the name implies) is for celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ, if you're of that persuasion, not gift giving because it's "expected".

    somnomania (she/her, queer)
    Community Member
    19 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my parents and i do presents AND stockings still (i'm 37). but we don't do gifts for anyone else, and my mom does a lot of xmas shopping throughout the year when places have deals on things.

    LaserBrain
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In our family, we picked names out of a hat and the price limit for the gifts was ten dollars (in the 70's). Worked just fine for me. Oh and we had to write a poem for the recipient. We enjoyed our time together as a family. More recently I saw a friend buy a mountain of gifts for his child because he felt guilty for not spending enough time with him. Kid ripped open all the presents in a kind of strange, manic frenzy and then looked up and said, "Is that all?"

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A couple years ago was busy for everyone and my parents ended up just sending me money, and I just sent them money too. That felt a bit pointless, haha. It's tough to think of something meaningful every single year, especially as we are adults and mostly have or buy for ourselves the things we need. I have one friend where we do a cookie exchange (we bake different kinds of things and so we both end up with more variety) and then give to charity in the other person's name. I'd love to move to that tradition with everyone I know!

    Big Chungus
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am an adult child lol and my mom and I run everything for Christmas. We set limits for everyone and that's all we spend up to. My toddler gets free reign lol I love Christmas so I will never stop buying gifts for anyone

    Karen Krause
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents cut down on the gifts once we got older, with maybe one "good" gift and maybe little ones such as cosmetics, socks, etc.

    Xip Dizc
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We do a $30 secret Santa for all the adults and any teens with jobs who choose to join. Kids get $10 presents.

    Randy Sanders
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do get token gifts, something they will use daily, but nothing expensive.

    Abraxas59
    Community Member
    1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok I hate Xmas with a passion but for my kids context I’m 60 kids are 23-20 and I will NEVER stop buying them Xmas or bday gifts EVER what sort of vile parents do that ffs yes my kids have a lot more money than me n live t home but I set a budget and they now give me a list of bits n bobs hard when they buy own stuff totally lmao but I put a ban on it over dec lol so I got ideas 😂 but NEVER EVER would I stop getting my kids gifts I’m a parent and I make sure they know they are loved those two are scum should never have had kids ! End off

    R Dennis
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't necessarily do big gifts for my stepkids - in their 30s. I do stockings for them (candy, treats, something fun), their kids, and their partners. I also give them each a digital gift card for a restaurant that I used to work at when they were little because they love the food.

    Lyone Fein
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a maker, not a buyer. All this talk about buying gives me creepies.

    Anony Mouse
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone needs to tell these people that nobody cares about their boring tiktok and that filter is ridiculous. They should be embarrassed.

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