I swear this was initially an embarrassment tactic for the boys to stop pestering girls and it originally stopped being said to the boys at "courting" age. (I put quotes because it's so cheesy and old-fashioned to say "courting", and not something I say normally.)

I didn't have a safe place to talk about anything, so I made sure I am the safe place for my kid, too. Nothing will shock me. I will not judge, just listen. However, some things do need to be talked about no matter if anyone wants to hear it or not.

All of these are so important aspects of life, especially for a teenager. My sister and her husband are doing a great job, but I try to establish myself as "the cool aunt" because some things you might not want to talk about with your parents at first.

My grandma, may she rest in peace, was a doctor and always told me we can talk about anything, even the touchiest topics.

I just had a porn talk with my 13 year old. It was awkward, but it was also honest. I'm not even mad at him for looking. I had a lot of curiosity about sex as a young man and most guys do look at porn in my experience. I just told him what you see most likely is a poor representation of real sex, too much pornography can have severe impact on sexual health, and that I honestly would prefer he didn't look at it until he has a healthy sexual relationship of his own(but not for a few more years!)

I have been open and honest w/ my kid from a young age. She can and does talk to me about alot of things, she has told me things I would never have felt comfortable telling my parents. I want her to have knowledge and not learn things about sex, drugs etc from friends. She asks a question she gets the answer with the correct words.

I found my son’s (19m) toy. I told him the proper way to clean it after use so he wouldn’t get sick and to find a safe hiding spot for it because it shouldn’t be left out for others to see. Also stressed how important it is to use protection with his partner when he gets one to prevent disease.

My daughter knows she can always tell me anything. Much different than mine and my mother's relationship.

It's so fing weird that some of the most important things were nearly impossible to talk about.

What is the common point of thoses subject ? Not talking about them benefit oppressors : money for capitalism, sexuality for patriarchy, politic for conservatism, spirituality for dogmatic religious leader.

We couldnt talk to our parents about anything; we were afraid to b/c we didnt know how mad they would get. We weren’t allowed to talk about periods or PMS in front of my dad. As we got older, my twin brother, my older sister, & i used to joke about saying “the sex word”, b/c as kids, heaven forbid we said it, for any reason. I still have a twinge of guilt for even talking about the sex of an animal. The same thing w/, “alcohol”. My parents would hide in their room, door shut, to talk about anything to do w/ money or the bank. We were never given the opportunity to talk about what happened at school. Again, as we got older, my siblings & I would gather in one of our rooms & talk about things, like what was bothering us. We became our own safe place, & often felt like the three of us were all each other had. My daughter is only four, & i have no delusions that we’ll be best buddies or anything, but I will always make it clear that she can talk to me about anything, judgement-free.

Both my husband I discussed everything with our kids. We agreed that lying (did you try drugs mom?) would be wrong. I helped bring a sex ed class "Our Whole Lives" back to the Unitarian Church in our town. While letting families know it was available I had a few people say they were very happy we were doing it because they didn't want to. This is why you see woman posting about having to argue with men about what is vulva, not vagina, clitoris is not for urine etc. etc.

This is why all my kids friends came to me to talk

I couldn't tell my parents Anything. They seemed to have zero interest in who "I" was. So glad that even as full grown adults my children Still think mom has all the answers, because they can still talk to me about ANYTHING.

I made sure my kids could come to me about anything. And I do the same with my Grandkids.

Amen to this. So many things were looked at as shameful or taboo and it just let to so many problems down the road. I pray my daughter always feels that it's safe with me and that I'll try and explain the best that I can or we can find someone who does know something lol.

I made it clear to my daughter that she could tell me anything, and I'd never be mad. I kept that promise. It was amazing the things she'd tell me. Even knowing, for example, that it could end her seeing a certain person anymore. It was like a relief to her. She did give me tmi, and blew her cousin's mind with her truth. Lol There could be repercussions, but never anger.

I have taught both my boys this. And while I'm listening to my male friends say how awkward it was to have the sex talk with their kids, their jaw is on the floor when I describe my sex talk I had with my teen. They were shocked at how open I was with him. It was easy! I made it normal to talk to me about anything!! Less secrets from your kids and they know you are their safe space!

Why is this on the list? What am I missing?

Those r some of my favorite topics to discuss :)

This hits hard. It was the teachers and daycare staff that were saying this trash to me, though. My mom sorta ignored it and thought I was doing something to cause other kids to bully me. No support. Nothing. This carries into adulthood. Eventually you stop caring what other people think but there is a stronger need to be heard the loudest, so you end up repeating the injustices you experience in life to friends and family until they acknowledge your plight, which never happens because you're being a downer, an attention-seeker, and a boring repeater. But you're not really trying to be any of that. You just want to understand why people are shitty towards you of all people.

I don't know this guy's story or where he comes from, if he's homeless or has a home and struggling with something. I was at Subway and saw him chatting with the staff. He left with nothing. As soon as I started asking what he wanted they said he wanted food, and that he comes in frequently and they used to give him free food but can't continue doing that. I was going to buy him something if that was the case. I was a bit hesitant hearing that it's been a regular occurrence but then I thought I've been homeless and hungry before. Why the hell not. I bought a $10 gift card for them to use it towards him the next time he shows up. If he doesn't show up, someone's got a free gift card regardless and that is just fine.

Same here. Mine barely uses basic manners with me. She does with everyone else. Just not me.

I wish I had more access to electronics and the computer and internet.

My grandad taught me that respect is earned, there is no situation where respect is to be given just because. You don't just get respect from being old. He was a man I respected, and he earned it multiple times over.

Mmm, nothing says good parenting like force-feeding :)

I had a tendency of crying to easily when i was younger so now nobody takes me seriously when i am in visible distress

I'm quite skilful when it comes to wasting time ... continues opening a few more boredpanda articles

What the actual f**k

Cowards? They are anything but cowards, they feel all powerful because they literally massacre children who have done nothing to them, well hidden behind the school garbage cans. And if by some miracle this child manages to talk about it, to a teacher or a supervisor, these assholes are smart enough to make everyone believe that it was you who started it and WORST that you deserved it. A "big" (12) girl from daycare (I was 6/7 years old) spent three years telling me every night "your mother is dead, she won't come to get you, she will never come back". It created anxieties in me that I still feel today... But Go die Sarah!!!!

Or any "negative" thoughts and topics.

Aaaaaaaaand that's how you get to be punished (in the best case) for something as trivial as having forgotten to start the washing machine for the mother-in-law...

My "best friend" when I was a teenager (15), told me that in love or in friendship, if we didn't suffer, it wasn't real... Yeah, of course...

This basically tells children that their opinions, experiences and feelings are invalid and their parents don't care about them. Good strategy if you want your adult children never to talk to you again.

Wholesome ending :)

such a cold blooded hard hearted person, no offence.

Not always.

bullshite. so what if they're gay? if ya got a problem don't look. just live under a freaking rock your entire life

And some elderly folks wonder why their family dumped them in a care home and don't want to contact them again.

Indeed

Let me guess? Religious parents? Why are they SO obsessed with sex & punishment?

yeah im always called ungrateful or selfish or the "dont you know what we have done for you" when i stand up to their abuse

Just like I said last time, NOT ALWAYS!

Any discrimination based on skin color is racism. There are no exceptions.

Hear it often how "smart" I am. Compared to whom? Dk.

It's the LAW!!!

Every parent should aspire for their kids to be better than them not the same