I swear this was initially an embarrassment tactic for the boys to stop pestering girls and it originally stopped being said to the boys at "courting" age. (I put quotes because it's so cheesy and old-fashioned to say "courting", and not something I say normally.)

I didn't have a safe place to talk about anything, so I made sure I am the safe place for my kid, too. Nothing will shock me. I will not judge, just listen. However, some things do need to be talked about no matter if anyone wants to hear it or not.

This hits hard. It was the teachers and daycare staff that were saying this trash to me, though. My mom sorta ignored it and thought I was doing something to cause other kids to bully me. No support. Nothing. This carries into adulthood. Eventually you stop caring what other people think but there is a stronger need to be heard the loudest, so you end up repeating the injustices you experience in life to friends and family until they acknowledge your plight, which never happens because you're being a downer, an attention-seeker, and a boring repeater. But you're not really trying to be any of that. You just want to understand why people are shitty towards you of all people.

I don't know this guy's story or where he comes from, if he's homeless or has a home and struggling with something. I was at Subway and saw him chatting with the staff. He left with nothing. As soon as I started asking what he wanted they said he wanted food, and that he comes in frequently and they used to give him free food but can't continue doing that. I was going to buy him something if that was the case. I was a bit hesitant hearing that it's been a regular occurrence but then I thought I've been homeless and hungry before. Why the hell not. I bought a $10 gift card for them to use it towards him the next time he shows up. If he doesn't show up, someone's got a free gift card regardless and that is just fine.

Same here. Mine barely uses basic manners with me. She does with everyone else. Just not me.

I wish I had more access to electronics and the computer and internet.

My grandad taught me that respect is earned, there is no situation where respect is to be given just because. You don't just get respect from being old. He was a man I respected, and he earned it multiple times over.

Mmm, nothing says good parenting like force-feeding :)

I had a tendency of crying to easily when i was younger so now nobody takes me seriously when i am in visible distress

I'm quite skilful when it comes to wasting time ... continues opening a few more boredpanda articles

What the actual f**k

Cowards? They are anything but cowards, they feel all powerful because they literally massacre children who have done nothing to them, well hidden behind the school garbage cans. And if by some miracle this child manages to talk about it, to a teacher or a supervisor, these assholes are smart enough to make everyone believe that it was you who started it and WORST that you deserved it. A "big" (12) girl from daycare (I was 6/7 years old) spent three years telling me every night "your mother is dead, she won't come to get you, she will never come back". It created anxieties in me that I still feel today... But Go die Sarah!!!!

Or any "negative" thoughts and topics.

Aaaaaaaaand that's how you get to be punished (in the best case) for something as trivial as having forgotten to start the washing machine for the mother-in-law...

My "best friend" when I was a teenager (15), told me that in love or in friendship, if we didn't suffer, it wasn't real... Yeah, of course...

This basically tells children that their opinions, experiences and feelings are invalid and their parents don't care about them. Good strategy if you want your adult children never to talk to you again.

I grew up like this. I was raised to believe I was a burden and my only worth was to make my moms life easier. If I wasn't making her life easier than I better stay out of her way and only talk to her until she needed me.

Often said by the same parents that would happily send their kids to boarding school so that they aren't seen either.

The only time I ever got told that was only if I interrupted an adult talking or if my mom was on the phone and I wouldn't leave her alone. My parents never said it any other time except for those. So I always thought it meant do not interrupt an adult speaking and do not pester a parent that's in the phone unless it's an emergency (this was back in the 80s and 90s before cellphones were a thing)... I basically taught my kids the same but I never used that phrase. My kids were taught Do not interrupt an adults conversion unless it's important. Do not interrupt an adult when they are speaking to you until they are done speaking. If I am the phone talking, do not bother me if I hold up "wait a min" finger(I hate talking on the phone so it's not often when that happens. I am partially deaf, I have to wear hearing aides and it's hell talking on the phone with hearing aides, so my kids knows when I'm on the phone it's usually something important or I wouldn't be talking on the phone)

i cant have kids and my dad said women who have kids are taking the taking the easy way out cause he feels he was trapped but then i cant have kids and he says im lacking hes a tool

That is only true if it's a photograph.

That's such an old piece of crap speech! I hated that as a child and I became louder and louder!

My grandfather always said this. I have such little respect for him for this and many other reasons

Was Told that all while growing Up. Now I cannot even make a speech without blushing in embarassment!

What a throwback...it's not 1780

Children should be seen and not heard. And also not seen. And no, I didn't procreate. ;-)

There's a time and place for everything. Kids screaming at the top of their lungs and running / playing is terrific ... outdoors. Not so much in a restaurant.

Calves should be seen & not a herd.

Dang. My dad just straight up told me that my opinion doesn't matter to him, instead of Suger coating it. There was a benefit of it though. I'm almost always neutral because my brain still isn't used to giving my opinion.

Baloney!! Children have the most interesting things to say....at least my students do. I love hearing their stories and answering their questions every day. ❤

How can you learn anything I'd you don't know how to listen to children?

This was my Mom's philosophy. I am 60 years old and still struggling with the low self-esteem it caused me to develop. I had a successful nursing career for 30 years, raised 3 amazing children, have 2 wonderful children, and stood by my husband's 40 year career. But I still think I am not adequate. And just repeating " I am adequate" doesn't change it for me. Admittedly, this rearing was very different than someone just wanting the child to play outside and not go out of sight.

Wow, that's way outdated ! My parents grew up with that. I didn't however. But children need to be taught respect for others. Something I see very lacking today.

Depends on the child. Ive met some real assholes who shouldn't be allowed to speak. Like ever.

I can't stand that one 2

Children have alot to say, especially if they are being abused or just hurt. If something important is happening and they need to say it. Or just plain communication that's how they learn.

Or “women should be seen not heard” like we are objects who are just made to sit and look pretty. Just shut up

neither am i

Wholesome ending :)

such a cold blooded hard hearted person, no offence.

Not always.

bullshite. so what if they're gay? if ya got a problem don't look. just live under a freaking rock your entire life

And some elderly folks wonder why their family dumped them in a care home and don't want to contact them again.

Indeed

Let me guess? Religious parents? Why are they SO obsessed with sex & punishment?

yeah im always called ungrateful or selfish or the "dont you know what we have done for you" when i stand up to their abuse