I swear this was initially an embarrassment tactic for the boys to stop pestering girls and it originally stopped being said to the boys at "courting" age. (I put quotes because it's so cheesy and old-fashioned to say "courting", and not something I say normally.)

I didn't have a safe place to talk about anything, so I made sure I am the safe place for my kid, too. Nothing will shock me. I will not judge, just listen. However, some things do need to be talked about no matter if anyone wants to hear it or not.

This hits hard. It was the teachers and daycare staff that were saying this trash to me, though. My mom sorta ignored it and thought I was doing something to cause other kids to bully me. No support. Nothing. This carries into adulthood. Eventually you stop caring what other people think but there is a stronger need to be heard the loudest, so you end up repeating the injustices you experience in life to friends and family until they acknowledge your plight, which never happens because you're being a downer, an attention-seeker, and a boring repeater. But you're not really trying to be any of that. You just want to understand why people are shitty towards you of all people.

I don't know this guy's story or where he comes from, if he's homeless or has a home and struggling with something. I was at Subway and saw him chatting with the staff. He left with nothing. As soon as I started asking what he wanted they said he wanted food, and that he comes in frequently and they used to give him free food but can't continue doing that. I was going to buy him something if that was the case. I was a bit hesitant hearing that it's been a regular occurrence but then I thought I've been homeless and hungry before. Why the hell not. I bought a $10 gift card for them to use it towards him the next time he shows up. If he doesn't show up, someone's got a free gift card regardless and that is just fine.

Same here. Mine barely uses basic manners with me. She does with everyone else. Just not me.

I wish I had more access to electronics and the computer and internet.

My grandad taught me that respect is earned, there is no situation where respect is to be given just because. You don't just get respect from being old. He was a man I respected, and he earned it multiple times over.

Mmm, nothing says good parenting like force-feeding :)

I had a tendency of crying to easily when i was younger so now nobody takes me seriously when i am in visible distress

I'm quite skilful when it comes to wasting time ... continues opening a few more boredpanda articles

What the actual f**k

Cowards? They are anything but cowards, they feel all powerful because they literally massacre children who have done nothing to them, well hidden behind the school garbage cans. And if by some miracle this child manages to talk about it, to a teacher or a supervisor, these assholes are smart enough to make everyone believe that it was you who started it and WORST that you deserved it. A "big" (12) girl from daycare (I was 6/7 years old) spent three years telling me every night "your mother is dead, she won't come to get you, she will never come back". It created anxieties in me that I still feel today... But Go die Sarah!!!!

Or any "negative" thoughts and topics.

Aaaaaaaaand that's how you get to be punished (in the best case) for something as trivial as having forgotten to start the washing machine for the mother-in-law...

It's not a bad thing to say, just keep your promise then!

I say this to my son but I mean it! He needs to know that he can trust me when he talks to me. Now we talk about everything!

I told my two girls that and that I would only be angry if I found out they had lied. You have to live up to that. Thank them for telling the truth, but don't try and catch them in a lie. Tell them WHY they should always tell the truth. Both still tell me the truth, at 27 and 33. And BE A GOOD EXAMPLE.

If you want your kids to trust you, you must mean these words honestly when you say them and do your job as a parent to help them figure why it wasn't a good idea, how to avoid making the same mistake and learning what is learn from the error

I tell my daughter I may get upset but we can get through anything together. And I love her no matter what

i am SO SO SO SO SO scared when i hear this

LOL My mom never lied about it. She always said she will get mad. Then I just told her what she wanted to hear because her bark was worse than her bite. There's been times I got a lenient sentence than if I told her dirty detail.

I always say this to my kids. And the hardest part is keeping my words to not get mad. Just remember that you're teaching them, your actions now might decide if they're going to trust you in the future or not.

Okay I have to laugh at this one. I came in very early, one morning. My mother met me at the door "Where have you been?" it took me a moment and I said "I'll tell you if you really want to know." She was so shocked she said "NO".

Dad always told me he could only help me if I told him the truth. He told me true.

I tell my kids, your punishment will be less, telling the truth, but more if you lie to me.

Oh ... that classic colossal lie, when you have done something and you hide it, they pull it out with the pretense of not getting angry and doing nothing to you, and then yell at you as if it were the end of the world. Mine always did it and sometimes they hit me too if I dared to talk. Me: "you said/promised not to get angry..." Parent: "How do you expect me not to get angry when you're did this, are you nuts??" Me: "but you-" parents: " shut up! Now you're going to get punished for this!!" Me now: ¯\_ಠ_ಠ_/¯

My parents were prison guards.

It was rule in my house. And my children weren't afraid to tell me truth because I kept my promise and never get mad and never punished them.

I have taught my daughter that parents always find out the truth. And grandparents figure it out faster. If asked about something particular, chances are that we already know. Tell the truth so if needed you get punished for 1 thing, not that and lying which will keep us from believing the truth in the future.

Yeah...found out early on that was B.S.

If you say it. Do it. Unless they answer with that endangered safety, life or property. Then get mad as all get out so they don't do it again and get to live till adulthood.

Come to think of it I don't think I did anything right - but I tried!

I'm not mad, just ~*disappointed*~

Never had this problem as a parent or law enforcement! Yes there are consequences to your actions! Yet lie to me treat me like I'm dumb then your consequences will be far more then just telling the truth! Must not be any parents here!!

I would tell my kids tell me the truth, you will still be punished if you did something wrong, but if you lie, the punishment will be worse. Usually punishment was removal of an electronic device for a certain amount of time or something similar.

I say this to my daughter but uphold it. I went through this as a kid with my mom and it was a lie every time.. she was always mad. I tell my daughter I'll only ever truly be mad if she lies to me. Everything else can be fixed or managed but a lie is never ok. Thankfully the only lie she says is her homework is done when it isn't. We are working on that lol

In my case, Tell me the truth is u gotta tell me everything from the beginning! Without lying .... Yes I will get pissed but we can get through it and you will.

I don't have to be angry to punish my child. Telling them "I won't be mad" is to encourage honesty with honesty. I won't be angry if they tell me the truth, but THEY STILL GONNA GET PUNISHED for breaking the rules or whatever they did. I can ground my kid without being angry.

It's a lie they will

Tell me the truth, I can't promise I won't be mad. I will talk about it with you in a calm rational matter and if a punishment is warranted it will be lesser than if I had to find out from someone else

I have the rule of tell me first before i find out somewhere else. If you tell me the punishment will be far less than if I get the news elsewhere.

So, I actually tell my kids this and I make it true. I'll dish out punishment for lying, and I investigate to uncover the truth, but I work hard to make sure my home is safe for my kids to tell the truth. Unfortunately their mom is abusive and covering things up is a survival skill at her house, so I have to fight against the programming.

That was how my parents taught me to lie.

"tell me, i won't be mad." "WHAT THE, IM SO MAD!"

I had that one growing up, taught me to lie better. As honesty is punished, and parents lie.

My mother did that, a sure sign I was about to be yelled at and punished, taught me not to trust and be a better liar.

YES YOU WILL!!!!

LIAR!!!

Being mad seems to be misconstrued as not punishing you or not being upset at your actions. Parents like thinkin their kids a aren't morons.

My "best friend" when I was a teenager (15), told me that in love or in friendship, if we didn't suffer, it wasn't real... Yeah, of course...

This basically tells children that their opinions, experiences and feelings are invalid and their parents don't care about them. Good strategy if you want your adult children never to talk to you again.

Wholesome ending :)