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Our siblings are our first friends on this planet, and if we’re lucky, they can be our closest and most long-lasting relationships too. But unfortunately, sometimes our friends betray us, and the sting of a knife in the back can hurt much more when it's coming from a brother or sister.
One curious Reddit user asked others, “What was the most [messed] up [thing] your sibling did that you can’t forgive them for?” And many readers have responded with unthinkable stories. Below, you'll find some of the most egregious familial offenses, as well as an interview with family and sibling therapist Dr. Karen Gail Lewis.
Don’t forget to upvote all of the betrayals that you wouldn’t wish upon your worst enemies (let alone your siblings!), and if you're reminded of you how lucky you are to have brothers and sisters who love you, now might be the perfect time to tell them how much they mean to you.
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#1
My family was in Mexico for my step sisters wedding... It was the wedding night and we were all absolutely wasted from drinking free tequila.
After leaving the club on our resort, my step brother and I got into some sort of argument over a movie or something. (I am not sure what happened) but he has always had a temper issue.
I guess I told him I would punch him, so he came at me full speed and football tackled me but lifted me into the air over his shoulders and body slammed me onto my back.
I slammed the back of my head on the uneven rock tiled ground..
Next thing I knew I was at my hotel room about 10 minutes away and a bunch of people were in my room standing over me. My step brother was crying like crazy.
These idiots left me in my room and I slept for 12 hours. Woke up the next day with absolutely zero hearing. Panicked and ran into the shower thinking I had water in my ears. Thankfully it came back within 10 minutes...but then I noticed my temple on the left side of my head was swelling out like a basket ball..
Long story short I had an Acute Subdural Hematoma brain injury.
My brain was bleeding & swelling.
I finished the trip and flew home on a plane, all which should've killed me and didn't get to a hospital until we got home to Canada. Where I was immediately put into a controlled coma state.
This happened in 2011. I haven't worked a normal job since , I'm on disabilities. Worst of all it caused major issues years later which affected me emotionally and painfully with severe cluster migraines. It destroyed my relationship with the love of my life and mother of my child.
My whole life has been altered.
Barbara Skolly 2 years ago
Glosses over what he said to his brother. Also ignores the giant injury and boards a plane. There were multiple bad decisions made by multiple people that night
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
Not sure if getting good medical care there was an option... I am all about not having a bunch of people getting drunk out of their minds in a foreign country.
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SZ 2 years ago
Is there any kind of legal action that can be taken for something like this? It's aggravated assult, does that have a statute of limitations?
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
Potentially attempted manslaughter considering the life threatening injury he sustained.
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RoanTheMad 2 years ago
Maybe, just maybe, don't threaten the guy you know has anger issues first? Or are we all just glossing over that fact? I mean yes, it was an extreme response from the brother and unfortunately an extreme "reaction" due to the injury caused , but still.. also, maybe don't go on a plane the next day with such a near-fatal injury? Perhaps if they had stayed and gotten healthcare there and then, and not got on the plane, the injury would not have been as bad as it became. Some of the blame is on OP here, honestly.
Sabra Faire 2 years ago
OP probably wasn't making good decisions in regards to boarding the plane due to the head trauma.
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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
No mention of an apology from the a*****e brother either. The a*****e brother who should now have to work however many jobs they have to, to pay all OP’s bills for the rest of their life. A*****e brother should now be a nice hefty check in the mailbox every month. Still doesn’t make up for what he did, but at least it’s a hard penance for it.
Winnie the Moo 2 years ago
This one is so so bad… I hope somewhere down the line there is a doctor that can help you.
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
She wasn't the love of your life if she couldn't handle it. Her leaving just made room for the right person.
To gain more insight on this topic, we reached out to family and sibling therapist Dr. Karen Gail Lewis, who was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda. We were curious how common conflicts between siblings are, and what tends to spark these issues. "Problems among siblings, for the most part, stem from situations that parents have not handled well. (Children do not come with instruction books!)," Dr. Lewis told Bored Panda. "But, if there is conflict between parents, the children often are brought in, or do it out of loyalty to one parent, to 'take sides'."
She also noted that some of the most common issues creating sibling conflicts are parental favoritism, children recreating their parents’ conflicts, parents recreating their own sibling issues with their children, parents being “switchboard operators” for the siblings, parents assigning crystallized behavioral roles to each child, dysfunctional parents causing siblings to direct their anger at each other, dysfunctional parents causing sibling to isolate themselves, a younger sibling feeling abandoned as an older sibling moves away, cultural preference in looks, abilities or personality, and mental illness or neurological conditions.
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#2
My wife and I had been trying for years to have kids. Meanwhile, my Sister was Fertile Myrtle popping the first 2 out without even trying.
My wife and I conceived twins, and we were so excited. We told the family the names were were going to use, etc. We ended up losing them.
My sister doctor shopped around until she found someone that would diagnose her with Infertility and got prescribed drugs that would make it significantly more likely to have twins.
She used the names we had planned to use.
It took well over 10 years before we spoke again
#3
My brother locked me out of the house when there was a tornado warning. There was blasting wind, rain, and hail, and the sirens were going. I had a full-blown panic attack.
He later laughed at me and mocked me.
Our parents came down on him like a ton of bricks and majorly punished him, but it didn't really work.
This was just one of the many horrible things he did to me. He hated me from the day I was born because he didn't want a sibling. Our parents would punish him but like I said, it only made him worse.
Thankfully, karma finally got him. He wrapped his car around a streetlight two weeks ago.
He can rot in the ground now for all I care.
I may make a post about this in AITA later on.
EDIT: Yes, he died.
Shyla Bouche 2 years ago
My brother was really messed up. He had extreme behavioral problems, ADD, on the spectrum, just a mess. Back in the '70's, there was very little that could be done. He physically and mentally abused me for years. He joined the Navy when I was 14, and when he came back, he had things a little better together, plus he didn't have the stress of school. Having had time to grow without him, I was no longer in the place where I would have accepted the abuse unquestioningly. We were able to co-exist. We had a peaceful, although not friendly, relationship until he died. Alone with him in the ICU, knowing he was dying, I gave him the only thing I could -- my forgiveness.
JoJo Anisko 2 years ago
Your feelings toward him were/are legitimate, however, give yourself the gift of therapy so you can, hopefully, leave the pain behind.
Marleina Hershberg 2 years ago
NTA!!! Just because he came from the same place you did, doesn't mean you have to feel anything good for him. A toxic relative is just that!
AppletreeChild 2 years ago
Dude... that sounds like attempted murder for all I know. that boy didn't need punishment, he needed therapie! @@ sounds so wild.... damn...
h to da izzle 2 years ago
NTA, when someone leaves you out in a catastrophe, knowing you could die or get severly injured and you did not retaliate its only fair to let Karma run its course...
"As a sibling therapist, I always start with the assumption that there is the possibility of helping siblings understand the origin of their conflicts (which, as I may have already said, is rarely what they think it is)," Dr. Lewis told Bored Panda. "I have helped siblings where one has physically/emotionally/sexually abused another. But, there is also the possibility that reconnecting/understanding is not possible."
"When I see that continued contact (if any) is harmful without any movement, despite the therapy, I recommend 'taking a break', which can be of any length," she explained. "If not this year, maybe 5 or 10 years from now. What is most remarkable, I find, is how many siblings who have done the bullying/abuse, if approached in the right way (that's part of the therapy), are willing to participate. Abusive siblings aren't born mean. Something happened to them that allowed/brought out that meanness."
If you'd like to hear even more wise words from Dr. Lewis on this topic, you can find her book Siblings: The Ghosts From Childhood That Haunt Your Love and Work on her website right here!
#4
As my grandmother lay unwell in her bed, from what would later turn out to be the first stages of kidney and liver failure...
He stole every single bit of cash in her handbag, over £900 we think.
She died in a delirium, screaming about how one of her grandchildren stole from her. My mother thought it was the toxins in her body.
When my parents found out they did nothing and let him keep the items he bought. This is the not the worst thing he has done in his lifetime.
I will never forget and I will never forgive.
JuniorCJ82 2 years ago
I hope the not forgiving and forgetting extends to the parents as well.
Adam El Helweh 2 years ago
My grandma nearly had a heart attack from the stress my ADD diagnosed brother put on her, and he STOLE HER CREDIT CARD AND WENT ON A SPENDING SPREE, spending hundreds of dollars just like him, and buying multiple pairs of shoes. my grandma thankfully recovered and he unfortunately only got minor punishment since we can't really do anything at the moment
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
when my grandfather died his kids raided the house while my grandma was still alive, it was the restraining order put on the only family left that cared about her that was put by the selfish pricks that ended her. she gave up when she lost the only family she had left.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago
I can think of way worse things that he could have done but, regardless, it's super fücked up as is your parents' choice to validate such filth.
#5
My sister phoned every new employer I had over the years and said bad stuff about me. She would invite me over to diner to find out who my boss was. Then weeks later she would invite me over and ask how it's going at work.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I'd stop speaking to her and block her on all platforms and submit a formal disownment to the government in case I accidentally die and she accidentally stood to benefit from my estate.
Imjust jim 2 years ago
This ahhh happened more than once...did she tell them you weren't too quick on the uptake?
rob 2 years ago
Same as the other story. I want to hear more. How would she find the employer and call him? And why?
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
it's really easy once you know the company name, where it is, roughly. If you tell me you work for say, a bolt company in Arkansas, Imma go to www.arkansasbolt.com and email sales@ that domain and ask for the boss by name. It's trivial.
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#6
Call me fat as an insult in our arguments for years. Said it so much I always believed I was fat... now that I am fat and look on all my pictures of my skinny years, I hate that mo fo. He ruined my confidence even though my body was perfect
h to da izzle 2 years ago
i feel you, every time my mother or sister visits the first line is "oh, you just got a little fatter since last time" even if i lost some kilos due to excercising, its always the same. have reduced the visits from them to a minimum.
Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago (edited)
I feel this one to my core. My mom and older sister have always been overweight (borderline obese) my whole life. Lately I’ve put on weight due to depression and they both call me fat and tell me how gross I look. Just… lol. (I’m 5’5” and 160 lbs for reference.)
James Tartaglione 2 years ago
my family (all) did that to me about everything about me. it messes you up
Imjust jim 2 years ago
Mom (when i was like in my mid 50s) "You're getting fat jimmy" ME: "Sure beats always being fat."
CarpeDentum 2 years ago
I know this feeling. I was always a "fat" child. People, especially adults, kept telling me to eat less because I'd only get bigger. When I look at the pictures of me in the 90s and early 00s now all I see is a child who is taller than average for her age and not bone thin. I've always had a kind of broad body and thick bones, that didn't make me fat. I'm now a medically obese adult with an eating disorder and I don't think anyone wanted that. At least I'm happier now when I live far away from the people nagging me about my weight.
#7
I bought a motorcycle. Before I bought it I had a lengthy discussion with my wife of in case of accident what quality of life of be willing to live with. We talked and she knew my mind. I did have a catastrophic accident. I was in a coma for 42 days. I died 3 times. Talk came about what my quality of life would be afterwards and pulling the plug. My siblings wanted me to live at all cost no matter my wishes. They tried to take my wife's medical rights away. I have a good life, my wife made the right choices but asked me not to subject her to my family anymore. I went no contact.
PSimms 2 years ago
This is confusing. Sounds like you have a good life because your family kept you alive, and for that you cut off contact with them? Or you cut off contact with your wife? I'm mystified about what happened here.
Rivka Ostroff 2 years ago
It sounds like his family wanted him to live no matter what but the wife wanted to see what the doctors said in terms of quality of life. In the end his prognosis was not severe enough to ruin his quality of life so she agreed to keep him alive. So he is Happy she decided to keep him alive but doesn't agree with his siblings who would have kept him alive no matter his condition.
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Jaya 2 years ago
Did the siblings know this person's wishes though? Always make sure your other family members know your wishes too, or that your wishes are written down in a way that can't be disputed. Otherwise you're making the situation even more difficult for your loved ones.
arienne libbrecht 2 years ago
Even if they didn't, it wasn't their right AT ALL to dispute what the wife was saying.
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Kines Tezja 2 years ago (edited)
Sorry but if my sibling would be dying, I wouldn't want to let them go either. I love my family too much. It's not that simple to just let your loved ones die.
AK to LV 2 years ago
Would you help with the medical bills that family is saddled with if this is the US, continuing medications and medical equipment ? Would you be there day and night to help with feeding tubes and changing diapers? Would you help modify all of their house for better wheelchair access? OP discussed with his wife what he wanted and what he was willing to live with. The only problem here is that OP didn't discuss it with his family.
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Mora Chilis 2 years ago
This makes no sense. Wife is Legal next of kin. She makes the decisions. Your siblings do have a "right" to express their wishes. Wife doesn't have to follow this. This sounds like a stressful time for your wife, maybe she could see a counselor to reframe the experience she reported to you. Not worth losing family over it.
Exotic Butters 2 years ago
TBH I don't t blame the sibs. If this were AITA I d say yes. You are.
Niall Mac Iomera 2 years ago (edited)
You didn't die three times. Death is the process of a life ending. Your life didn't end, therefore, you didn't die.
SirWriteALot 2 years ago
How hard is it to understand? He was clinically dead 3 times. Dead. Death. Doctors brought him back to life.
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My older brother once stole a bunch of my stuff to sell to a pawnshop to pay for drugs. He apologized to our parents for breaking their trust. To this day, he still refuses to apologize to me, because in his messed up logic, it was only our parents trust that was violated. This was over 10 years ago.
Susan Bosse 2 years ago
My ex-husband staged a break in and traded our newborn's stroller, pack and play, some of my maternity clothes, and MY tv that was in our bedroom. Nothing of his went missing. Found out later his drug dealer's gf/wife/whatever was pregnant. Yes, I divorced him. Haven't seen him in years and years. Our son is almost 21 and has virtually nothing to do with him. The ex's own doing. He's also a felon for domestic violence because Homey don't play that...and I had no idea he'd already been arrested for that before we met. He still can't get an apartment. Still can't get his s**t together. It's all still MY fault, somehow. Lmao Like, dude. We've been divorced for 20 years. Grow the f**k up and move on. Victims will always be victims until they decide to change. My son and I are living our best lives.
I'm.Just.A.Girl 2 years ago
My oldest brother stole all the money my grandma had put aside for me to put towards school later. He forced her to open her safe and give it to him. And yes, I know it should have been In a bank... However, it just happened to be during a time in which my grandmother's bank had lost some of her money. He spent it on drugs, and continued to rip apart the family stealing and lying. He would still be doing so if anyone would talk to him.
Kate Jones 2 years ago (edited)
My brother was a hardcore drug addict and often stole and did a lot of horrible things to me he never apologized for, even when he got clean. He robbed my grandparents at gunpoint and broke into their house when they were away once. He rarely robbed stores or other people....it was always done to his family and the people actively trying to help him because he thought he might get away with it. Then we had to deal with the guilt of turning him in for some of the things he did, even though in hindsight we shouldn't have felt guilty. He eventually died of an overdose in our family home and it really affected my parents, of course. They couldn't stay living there. A part of me is grateful it's just over. He was on and off over and over and it was always a nightmare. He was over 40 still living with my parents. Incredibly selfish. He was a user. He targeted his own family with violence. I know it sounds cold but only other families of addicts can understand that his death was almost a relief. I hope he's just in peace now.
Freda Faulkner 2 years ago
P**n shops are nothing more than legalized 'fences'. Once they get their grubby hands on your stuff, you have NO rights to get them back unless you buy your stuff back from those crooks. Been there, done that. It's so sad to have to buy back family heirlooms from crooked dealers.
#9
Outed me in front of my homophobic family.
Mulberry Juice 2 years ago
DO. NOT. OUT. ANYONE. EVEN IF YOU THINK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW. ITS NOT ALWAYS SAFE. Sorry this is a soft spot for me as someone who’s been outed
Katy McMouse 2 years ago
I'm sorry you had that happen to you. No one has a right to know, but everyone has a right to privacy. I'd kill someone if they did this to my boy.
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Ariadna 2 years ago
You don’t need hate from your own family. That people don’t understand or care about your happiness, if they are like that, and don’t value the happiness of their child, the best you can do for your fisical and mental health is close that door. No one deserves hate, that will consume them
Roman Hans 2 years ago
My father chose religion over his gay son. Fine, his choice. When he died, neither his religion nor his son showed up.
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Neuridivergent 2 years ago
But this is something my sister would have done. She curried favor by telling on me. I never returned it and at 48 years she still hasn't apologized or acknowledged it.
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
Dude. My daughter doesn't want my ex to know because he and step mom will "pick on her." My son knew and kept it to himself before she came out to him.
pat martin 2 years ago
Loving or leaving is something that unfortunately has to be done. If they can't love YOU, THE REAL YOU, then why try to keep them in your life if it hurts you? To please them? Fūck them if they can't love all of you, don't give them the satisfaction of winning
pat martin 2 years ago
You're a winner in my book, and i don't know you. But if you can't BE you, then you aren't. And that's a losing battle. Sometimes bridges get burned, and sometimes they need torn down.
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
But what if they were a kid and had nowhere to go
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My brother planted drugs in my car - packaged for sale, 5 year mandatory prison sentence - and called the police saying there was a dog locked in a car in front of his house with no water or open windows. Luckily I pulled up at the same time as the cops & showed them my dog was fine, the sunroof was open & he had full bowls of food and water.
Susan Bosse 2 years ago
Why was your dog in a car yet you "pulled up" as the cops did? I need more info.
Jon Anthony 2 years ago
Yeah the narrative as posted is an affront to my sensibilities
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Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
From OP on Reddit: "I'm pretty sure it's bc my mother had just lost her home of 51 years in a fire & received a HUGE settlement. Bro looked at it like a winning lottery ticket & believed - correctly - that I might derail his manipulation of my 85 year old mother. Luckily I didn't go to prison, & my mother finally saw what a POS he is. AND he was out whatever the drugs cost. LOL"
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Neuridivergent 2 years ago
Probably more like the only who could have and would have. Not admissable evidence
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Abandon his son with me for the last 6.5 years....
Nephew is amazing, brother is a piece of s**t.
Lord Mysticlaw 2 years ago
I think it's better that he left his son with someone who could take proper care of him if he knew he wouldn't/couldn't do it himself.
BlackestDawn 2 years ago
For the kids sake it was probably the best thing to do, but still a s**t thing to do in the first place.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Try to get full custody of your nephew, so your brother can’t just reappear and take him, leaving you with absolutely no recourse but to let him. To keep the child safe, you should be his legal guardian and your brother have no way of taking him.
V 2 years ago
I have a friend who's sister will dump her kids on him one day, then a few weeks or months later take them out of school and take them back to live with her for a while before dumping them again. Poor kids just get settled in to a routine before it all gets pulled out from under them again.
Heir of Durin 2 years ago
I’m in the same boat, only it’s my sister in law’s son. I love him to death and he’s been living with me and my husband for 13 of his 15 years. But man sometimes I just want to scream at her to get her c**p together! We cut her off 13 years ago. It’s better for all of us.
Debrina Blackmoon 2 years ago
Wondering what happened with/to the mom. He did that kid a huge favor.
pat martin 2 years ago
That just shows that there will be 1 less piece of s**t in this world, and I, among others, thank you for that. Good on you
#12
My brother started a fist fight with me in the kitchen, which led to him knocking me to the floor. He got on top and started choking me, all while our mother was on the phone with 9-1-1 hysterically screaming, "He's killing her, he's killing her! Oh God hurry he's killing her!"
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
I would be both calling 911 and hitting him with whatever I could grab. He might be my son, but he’s trying to kill my daughter, so I have to get him off her. I have some nice heavy cast iron frying pans that would do the job nicely..
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
I have those and a rolling pin made from one solid piece of wood.
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Debby Keir 2 years ago
My brother bullied me from a very young age - he was 2 yrs older and so much bigger. He used to pinch me and yell at me. One time when I was 5 and he 7, I snapped - grabbed a hammer from the cupboard and chased him into the utility room. He managed to slam the door shut just as I swung the hammer...and I went right through the plywood top layer of the door. My parents never mended the door, and ever after if he bullied me in their sight, they'd grab him and show him the door....
pat martin 2 years ago
I've defended a few strangers throughout my life, and for reasons like this. I'll call 911 after the fact. At certain points, you either act or react. And I, and I have 4 kids that I raise myself, we will always act. I love you, and know that there are folks that will absolutely put themselves in harms way for you. WE love you
Mary Kelly 2 years ago
he is a menace to women in general...here is from a study on men who try to strange or grab women around the neck "Non-fatal strangulation was reported in 10% of abused controls, 45% of attempted homicides and 43% of homicides. Prior non-fatal strangulation was associated with greater than six-fold odds (OR 6.70, 95% CI 3.91–11.49) of becoming an attempted homicide, and over seven-fold odds (OR 7.48, 95% CI 4.53–12.35) of becoming a completed homicide. These results show non-fatal strangulation as an important risk factor for homicide of women, underscoring the need to screen for non-fatal strangulation when assessing abused women in emergency department settings."
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
And mom decided to call 911 instead of pulling him off??? what, was he like the size of The Rock or what??
Becky Samuel 2 years ago
You don't know any history of this family, or have any idea of whether the mother is half the son's size/disabled/etc. Maybe she has been abused by him in the past and is afraid of both her *and* her daughter ending up dead.
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#13
when I was around 12 and my brother was 9, my mom and dad left to go up north for a day (we are in the south) My mom knowing I was responsible, Let me watch my brother for the day until they came back late that night. Problem was we had a VERY toxic relationship in between the 2 of us. a couple of hours later after the parents left(my brother being the psychopath he is with anger issues) got very offended at a stupid sibling joke i said. Instead of normally lashing out he silently went to the kitchen. I casually went to the bathroom and after I was done I came out and my brother from behind me (the bathroom was in a hall so he was at the end and i was walking away from the end) Ran up behind me with a steak knife he heated up with the fireplace outside. my mf as* turned around and ran into my room and locked the door. He was shoving the knife under the door screaming "open up!" He gave up after a while but i still locked myself in the room until my parents came back.. they came back to my brother passed out on the couch with a steak knife in his hand and me starving in my room locked upstairs terrified. in the end, none of them believed me to this day what happened and my brother still denies it.
Marcellus II 2 years ago
I like your version of The Shining, "Here's Johnny!" axe through the bathroom door and she's filming it... Not bloody likely, though.
Load More Replies... ISeeWendiGo 2 years ago
I'm sorry but at no point should a 12 yr old be left in charge of anyone for hours with the responsible adult hours away. I understand if the adults are at work or on errands around town, they can get home quickly. But more than a few minutes away? What if he had stabbed OP or some sort of other emergency happened?
Ellie Vanille 2 years ago
He went from younger brother to Jack Torrance within a couple of hours.
Laura Williams 1 year ago
Seriously no person in the middle of don't think they might need mental health help.
#14
My dad had a lot of issues and he was super violent towards me when I was a kid. Like beat the s**t out of me over the smallest thing on a regular basis. He never did this to my older sister (we're both girls). When he died I was 21 and she was 26. My sister told me I deserved everything he did to me. It's been 12 years and I still haven't talked to her again. That was the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me.
Jay TheSaltLord 2 years ago
if by help you mean a whallop upside the head with a large trout, then indeed.
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Neuridivergent 2 years ago
In many families, one child ends up taking all of the abuse. The rest of the family ignores it because they are not getting beaten. Also the same child ends up being the scapegoat when anything goes wrong. Some siblings acknowledge that they let it happen and maybe apologize. Other siblings go full ah and twist it in their memory so they don't have to feel guilty.
HellyHacka 2 years ago
Yeah. When I raise something similar with my older sister she broke down and felt so guilty. Strange thing was she wasn't always exempt but she'd blocked all of it. We deal with things in different ways, my trauma and memories aren't necessarily going to be hers (my brother is even worse; hero worships our alco dad). The last bit here is the worst part; the cycle has continued :( none of us had kids. That tells you something!
Load More Replies... Mary Kelly 2 years ago
i hope you are getting therapy to help you deal with her and your father's abuse...and, yes, f**k her
#15
My brother has tried to stab multiple people, including me, my friends, and our babysitter, and my mom has done barely anything about it, the most she's done is ground him instead of getting him checked for a mental illness, and we're not allowed to call the cops on him. He also tried to kill my cat. There's a ton more but, that's for another day
Ariadna 2 years ago
And the worst part is that when police do that, there will be a lot of victims. His mom think that she’s protecting but the real Protection is looking for help NOW, no after something terrible happen.
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Marcellus II 2 years ago
Yes, obviously, was my reaction too! Disregard mother's stockholm syndrome.
Load More Replies... AK to LV 2 years ago
It sounds like OP is a minor. What do you do when you're 12 or 15?
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
If you’re an adult, your mother cannot tell you that you cannot call the cops when your brother is being violent. He NEEDS a full psych eval ASAP, before he murders someone. That includes your mother, whose enabling of him may cost her her life.
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
Legally she can, but family will make her life a living hell if she does. Plus, she may be afraid of what would happen. I was in my forties before i realized that my mom gaslight me about foster care so i would be afraid to tell investigators the truth. Not that our foster system is great, but family on both sides were willing to take us girls in.
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Lisa H 2 years ago
Call the cops on that psycho anyway. Sounds like the most Mom will do is ground you since her backbone is all but nonexistent.
Squirrelly Panda 2 years ago
Probably would kick OP to the curb and certainly blame OP. I know someone who was raped by her older brother. Mom was in utter denial about it and laid all kinds of blame on everyone but the son.
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Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Allowed? Call the cops. Better to be in trouble than to be stabbed. Your mom should be in prison too. Sorry you got hit with a rotten family best for you is to get away.
#16
Still working through this, but I cannot forgive my brother for the crime he is being charged of. I found out over social media, he never told me he was arrested and is currently in trial for these crimes. It is honestly the most f****d up s**t I ever heard of.
My brother is being charged with putting cameras in the bathroom of his place of employment.
I have been having a hard time dealing with this. I know what he did has nothing to do with me or anything I did or didn't do. But I can't help feeling ashamed and sorry for the pain he caused.
ETA: He has been found guilty of all charges.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
That's not the most f****d up s**t I've heard of. I won't say more, but I've heard significantly worse.
Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago
It doesn’t matter how effed up it seems to YOU. It doesn’t matter that you’ve heard worse. (What is this, a contest?) What this person’s brother did hurt them badly and it’s effed up to THEM.
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Cassidy Moore 2 years ago
My step monsters brother was a pedo, even with me and my sister. When he finally went to prison for it she would cry and beg us to talk on the phone with him. She would be mad when we refused and would ask us what we would do if that was one of our brothers and its simple, they wouldnt be my brother anymore. If any family member did something as horrible as that would simply not be family anymore. I dont affiliate with sickos
Debby Keir 2 years ago
The one thing that you have to remember, is that HE did this, not YOU did this. It messes with your head, but you don't need to take responsibility. Don't be another one harmed by what HE did.
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
She needs to worry and distance herself. A franchise ice cream shop in town went out of business when the owner went to jail for being a pedo. Even after his kids took over. And the location in the next town over, with unrelated owners also closed within a year
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Saskia Bockhoudt 2 years ago
Bruv... I thought you were going to say he brutally murdered some people in some weird, twisted way, but no.... Camera's in the bathroom? That only just above a nasty prank 🤦
#17
My younger brother, being the favourite child, would often tell my mum that I abused him when she was at work just to show me he had POWER over me. I would get hit for no reason on a daily basis.
I gave him a left hook once for a seperate argument. Best gift I ever gave anyone.
RoanTheMad 2 years ago (edited)
If I had a little brother like that, he WOULD have ended up being "abused" by my 5kg new rock boots if it kept that up. little s**t.
secretly a kitten wallflower 2 2 years ago
If he says that, and acts like that, I would want to make his lies come true... But I'd be too afraid to
Saskia Bockhoudt 2 years ago
At this point, I would actually start abusing him, and tell him too, if imma take the beatings, so will you mf
#18
My brother told me I would be allowed to see my niece, under his supervision, until she was old enough to "know what you are", at which point he would decide what, if any, involvement I would have in her life.
I'm gay and now have two nieces, the elder of which I haven't seen in nearly 5 years and the younger I've never met. Even overheard a conversation while on the phone with another family member during the holidays, that the elder niece doesn't even know she has an uncle.
Lyone Fein 2 years ago
They will eventually know who you are......when they become so turned off from their own parents and they seek you out to finally establish a relationship.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I can definitely see these kids about ten years later saying things like "growing up my dad was really homophobic and it wasn't until 20XX that I found out I actually had an uncle who's gay. Anyway these days Uncle [name] and I have a great relationship and I've gone NC with my dad. Best decision I ever made".
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Lorraine Woollands 2 years ago
I had a gay Uncle, my father's brother. My parents didn't cover it up and I knew from a young age that he was living with a man. I didn't get to see them much(mainly because they spent a lot of time in Australia), but I will never know why people have such hostile feelings towards gays, male or female. I used to work with a young lady who was gay, she was a bit butch( more comfortable dressed like a boy) but she had the kindest heart
pat martin 2 years ago
Stay true to who you are, you can't fix other people's ignorance. You stay strong, beautiful, and true to yourself.
#19
I was 18, she was 14. I was extremely ill- doped up on the daily and bedridden from what turned out to be a slowly dying organ and some undiagnosed digestive conditions. I was in a complete haze for over a year from pain and meds. I technically wasnt allowed to stand by myself or feed myself without help. I didn't get the assistance I needed at home, and hurt myself pretty often just trying to take care of myself, but thats a different story. Point is that I was incredibly weak, underweight, enotionally fragile, and drugged to the teeth. My sister decided she was jealous of the little attention I was getting and decided to deprive me of sleep as much as she could. Punching me awake, threatening the few things I had that kept me feeling sane, pouring paint on and ripping my things, and then gaslighting me into believing it was all drug dreams and stuff I did myself while high. No one in my family believed me when I complained, and helped my sister gaslight me into believing even if she was hurting me, she was sleepwalking and it wasn't her fault. It only stopped after my then boyfriend heard her screaming at me from the couch downstairs where he was napping and threatened to move me out. I was moved into a different room and allowed a lock on my door as of the next day. The whole family is dysfunctional. I don't talk to any of them anymore.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
wow that is straight-up abuse. If you ever have enough money, sue her.
Rivka Ostroff 2 years ago (edited)
For what? She doesn't mention any long term effects and the only evidence is one witness which is her boyfriend. Trying to sue would be a waste of money.
Load More Replies... Mary Kelly 2 years ago
get therapy and help for yourself...don't sue them as said below...that won't bring you closure...heal yourself and f**k them
Laura Williams 1 year ago
In Texas she can go to jail for 20years. Just for punching you once see what it is where you. Look for abuse of disabled person.
#20
My sibling checked out of any care or responsibility for our elderly parents, left me to handle it all. Doesn't even visit them, hardly ever calls. Only lives 15 minutes away.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
it depends. Maybe that particular sibling hated and/or was abused by the parents and never got over it. Or maybe the other sibling (that does the caring), lives closer, or has more spare time, etc. I have had this case twice. In both cases, I left the job to my younger sibling who was unemployed and LIVING WITH the dying parent/s.
TomCat 2 years ago
You "left the job" to your younger brother. Didn't have a discussion with him and assuming he can and should care for your ailing parents is wrong.
Load More Replies... Rocco MZ 2 years ago
I did the same thing and don't regret it. My parents were AWFUL to me and treated my siblings like kings. I was disowned for being gay. They spent money on my siblings all their lives and never gave me a dime. They paid for weddings, honeymoons, vacations, plane tickets, gifts, etc. I got nothing. Was reminded time and again that I was the black sheep. Even as a child my mother would use gift giving holidays to show me that she loved my siblings more. So before you judge this guy, make sure you know his back story. Chances are, his parents don't deserve him.
Kill-Bunny 2 years ago
From our recent personal experience, I would say stories like these always have 2 sides. And in many cases, the "bad side", the "ungrateful", "the only money wanting" is actually the one, who is the real victim in the situation.
Weasel Wise 2 years ago (edited)
I'm on the side of the checked-out sibling. I wouldn't give a dime to help my parents in their elderly age, they can rot. They were vile, loathsome people who should have gone to prison when I was growing up and I owe them nothing. There is zero room to judge anyone who spend their younger years trying to survive hell by themselves.
Ripley 2 years ago
This kind of thing seems to happen a LOT. And then when there is an estate to be divided the sibling will be front and centre suggesting "we'll just split it evenly, yeah?".
Rocco MZ 2 years ago
You should know his story before you judge. Chances are he suffered abuse his siblings did not. And even if there is a settlement, he earned his part if he suffered abuse. Yes, there are s****y people out there who abandon family in time of need, but there are those of us who suffered abuse and neglect at the hands of our parents and that's why we weren't there in their elder years. On my behalf, I had long since been estranged from my parents before they got old. My siblings understood and never once asked me to contribute.
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Howl's sleeping castle 2 years ago
Something similar happened to my best friend. He was working oversees when his father had an accident and was left bedridden. His twin, who lives 30 mins away, refused to be any help. My friend had to resign and return to his country to take care of his parents. The twin and his wife still have the audacity of asking for their share in property.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Unless your parents abused them in secret, which would mean finding that out from your sibling. If there was no abuse, and your sibling was always a little s**t, then advise your parents to be careful of their wills, and make any changes they see fit regarding your sibling, and make their wills absolutely airtight. Sibling may make a sudden return to try and convince everyone how much they loved their parents, for no other reason but to collect any inheritance, or contest the wills if they were left out.
Yvonne Montclare 2 years ago
Siblings often completely refuse to see it or believe it. My guess is he isn’t talking to the sibling either.
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I was born with a severe physical disability regarding my eyes (nearly blind). My big brother has always been a total a*****e about this. Sometimes I feel like he completely lacks even basic compassion and he's honestly pretty ableist. He has said countless things that have deeply hurt me but there's one thing in particular I will never be able to forget or forgive him for. Already as a little child, I had to go through numerous eye surgeries. As you can imagine, that was pretty tough for me. The loneliness in the hospital, being scared before the surgery, dealing with the pain post-surgery (for several months usually), having to take all sorts of meds... not the type of thing that kids usually have to go through. When I was 11, I had to undergo one of these surgeries. The whole thing was quite exhausting, both physically and emotionally. I was so happy when I was finally back home. As odd as it may sound, all I wanted was to go back to school. I wanted to be done with the pain and the constant doctor visits and just live my normal life again. During dinner I took off the protective plastic shell because the doctors at the hospital said it would help my eye to heal if some fresh air reaches it. Naturally, my eye was extremely red at the time because I had had my surgery was 1 week earlier. I usually suffer from a pretty painful inflammation post-op that needs to be treated with eye drops. Instead of consoling me or telling me how he feels bad for me, my brother (who is 5 years older) started bullying me in a very aggressive tone, saying things like: "stop looking at me with your disgusting eye" and "you look like a f*****g disgusting monster". He got so angry at me, as though I had deliberately made my eye look this way just to bother him.
In that moment, something inside of me just kind of broke. The fact that I had to go through all of this pain and misery while my siblings were able to live a normal, happy and carefree life already felt quite s****y. As a child, I often asked myself why me. But he called me a "monster" and my eye "f*****g disgusting"... that just hurt so, so badly. I started crying and my dad told my brother to cut it out but of course by this point the damage had already been done.
It has now been over 20 years since this incident and it still hurts me so much that my own sibling would say something like that to me. In my mind, that's different from normal sibling fights where you call each other an a*****e. It is completely impossible for my brother to empathize with my situation and that incident is still the best proof for this.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Your parents intervened way too late. They should’ve nipped that s**t right in the bud long before then.
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
Sounds like a child lashing out because the sick child is getting all the attention. Not saying it's right, but it's not an original story
Winnie the Moo 2 years ago
Such bad parenting with this one. My sons don’t even have to start half a sentence like that to their sibling and they would have been knocked unconscious.
Vermontah 2 years ago
Ouch! I'm recovering from eye surgery, still have purple stitches in my eyeballs. It is the most painful surgery I've ever had and the longest recovery period I've ever experienced and these days the only painkillers are Tylenol. I don't want to ever have eye surgery again and you had several. Again - OW!
Laura Williams 1 year ago
Glad you are done with the painful part. If you haven't consider therapy to work on the emotional damage. Live your best life move away from toxic family if possible.
Rivka Ostroff 2 years ago
A lot of 16 year olds are a******s. I definitely think this leaves room for growth and potential for forgiveness.
#22
This is my half-brother who was been my best friend my whole life. He decided to take his dads side after his dad f****d me out of my life savings because he benefited from it. I had the worst panic attack of my life when I found out, I thought I was dying. This just happened last year and we are well into our 30s. Now I’m pregnant with my first kid and he will never know his uncle, which breaks my heart. And I’ll never see my life savings again. My family is s**t.
Zedrapazia 2 years ago
This screams lawsuit. Family or not, dude should be pulled to court for theft
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Lawsuit? Naw, theft is a crime, even if you're related to the victim.
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Laura Williams 1 year ago
Theft is Theft depending on amount they might get side by side cells.
#23
Broke in my diary, took pictures of it and sent it to my crush. Its been 3 years, i still cant look my crush in the eye
Angela Kelley 2 years ago
If your crush didn’t respond to him with anything less than, what you did is really messed up or offer you any empathy, regardless, you don’t want that crush. You deserve better.
#24
Two weeks after mom died my sister broke into the house to get her jewellery and money. I was home and changed the locks. She tried her key and when it did not work she came into the back yard and through the sliding glass door. My back was to the door when I heard it open.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
"I told her to leave otherwise I would call the cops. That was the last straw. Never again. I am now an only child." (She didn't get anything)
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Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago
To STEAL it?? If there was a will etc., you pursue disputing it or getting your share LEGALLY, not via breaking and entering and theft!
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#25
I insist on forgetting this, because I want to forgive it, but it's still pretty fresh.
I went to visit my family (I study in a different city now) and a couple days after I came back, I noticed my debit card was missing. I prefer to pay in cash so I didn't need it until then, but naturally, I panicked.
I INSISTED, when the bank lady asked me if I had any younger relatives that could take it, that my brothers would never do such a thing. She convinced me to at least call my parents just in case, because that's a lot more common than the card actually being stolen, and after asking once my mum told me noone came clear.
Two days later, when the police got included, my mom called. Apparently, when my little brother realized how easily he could be caught and held accountable, he confessed to taking the damn card and buying some stupid game with it.
I had to call the police and tell them. Which wasn't easy, for someone with anxiety (it was terrible). My brother apologized, returned the card and the money, and a few months later, proceeded to ask me to buy him an expensive toy this year for his bday, as if nothing happened.
It gets me that I was SO sure. I trusted my family, why wouldn't I? We got along. It hurts. (Aaaand now I'll do my best to re-forget this so it stops making me sad)
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
How old was the brother and did he learn a lesson from it? You need to tell him you are still upset about it and that hes' lucky you didn't press charges.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago (edited)
Wrap the police report and gift it to your brother instead with a grim reminder of many more to come should he try that stunt again... Smh!!!
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
When purchasing online it can be used a credit card. If your card says visa or MasterCard it is probably the same.
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Laura Current 2 years ago
my sister has disowned my parents. she has disowned me too because i still have a relationship with my parents.
#26
Threw a party at our house while the rest of the family had gone to a funeral out of state. Many people there were kids my age/classmates who went in my room (which was bad enough in my eyes) and stole things. I’ve never felt so violated.
Scooter Mcgavin 2 years ago
You could have predicted that a kid you don't know would have thrown a party while everyone was out of town at a funeral and this would lead to stuff getting stolen from OP's room? What are the winning Powerball numbers?
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My brother got married in Vegas. Our small family isn't the nicest and he was afraid my mom or her husband would make a scene. Nobody was invited. I was completely fine with it. In fact, kind of wanted to do that myself.
Then years later, it's my wedding. What does he do? He made a scene. Tried to fight my husband right after our first dance in front of everyone.
Still love my brother, but man... that hurt.
Jessica J. 2 years ago (edited)
This happened to someone I went to HS with. The brother pushed the new husband. The husband hit the ground, and died, from an undiagnosed medical condition (this was maybe 15 years ago, so I don't remember what medical condition). It wasn't the brothers fault he died, but what a tragedy.
Mrs Irish Mom 2 years ago
Maybe he was jealous that you got the big family wedding and mom and step dad didnt start fighting so brother got drunk and made an as$ out of himself
#28
When I confided in my older sister that my husband and I had been trying for a baby unsuccessfully for over a year, she sarcastically said yeah I would like to see you with a baby. Was probably the worst thing anyone has ever said to me.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Just ask her for clarification on why she said that. She'll either back off or double down and you'll get clarity on what she really thinks of you. If she has a lot of hate for you, you can then find out the cause of that.
Saskia Bockhoudt 2 years ago
Ah yes, my family also likes to tell me I shouldn't have (more) kids, because I simply can't handle it... My grandmother had two kids and was a neglectful alcoholic, my mother had two kids and was horribly neglectful and traumatized me greatly, I have 3 kids, am doing a hundred times better than them, and am currently not taking s**t from any of them. I wasn't actually planning on having more kids, but the fact that they'd say it like that just hurt, so now I make it into an argument every time they say that, until they get the hint that that behaviour is unacceptable
Neuridivergent 2 years ago
Sometimes it is jealousy. Sometimes it is ah way of saying you shouldn't have kids. Which would be valid with severe mental health issues as you can't take meds while pregnant and nursing.
#29
Raid my bank account while i wasn't home under the motto of "Sharing is caring."
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Here, let me show you how I care, via sharing what you did to the police and ensuring you have a rap sheet for theft!!! Smh!!!
ginny weasley 2 years ago
Could have just gone through papers and found a statement. Or written a check
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My sister was sick of sharing the television with my brother and me, and so she had her friends steal our Sega Genesis we had just got for Christmas a few months before.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Shees what kind of friends does your sister have? that's like full on gangster stuff.
#31
My mom went into the hospital last summer. She was in a really bad shape, barely eating, couldn't get up on her own, forgetting who we were and stuff. I didn't know that the day I helped my dad bring her into the hospital would be the last day I would talk to her. We talked about making her a special dinner. I asked her, "but will you eat it?" Because she was eating so little, like I would eat more in one bite than she would eat all day. She said she would. She complained a lot about being cold. I had been waiting for the hospital to find her a proper bed. She was in a bed, but it was something like a waiting room bed. The place was jam-packed, where some very sick people were sitting in chairs. So my mom was lucky to have a bed for the time being. I had to help her get up to use the toilet. It was really hard, even though my mom had lost so much weight, being under 100 pounds. After that the hospital created a policy where no one could visit due to covid. My mom would contract covid two weeks in. She was already so weak, and the hospital staff was doing their best to keep us informed, but they were so over worked. My brother bitched about this, and I understood his anger, but he couldn't be convinced that they hospital staff was over-whelmed and that they still managed to call us every couple days was amazing. My mom would eventually die in the next couple of weeks. We couldn't visit her. There was one day when me and my dad went to see her, and we weren't allowed in this new facility that was JUST covid patients. We got to look at her through the window and call her on the phone, but it was like she didn't understand we were there. It's like she thought she was seeing us on tv. She didn't talk to us on the phone, because the nurse couldn't get her to understand. It was the last time I saw her alive. My brother lives in another state, so this is why he couldn't be there. I was talking to my brother after my mom died, and he was complaining about how his kids weren't in school, and who covid was an over-blown hoax. He predicted that after November (after the election was over) it was all disappear and we won't hear about it again. I didn't say anything at the time, but I was furious with him for saying that. Naturally my brother was wrong about how covid would "go away" and I don't bring it up to him. But I am having a really hard time forgiving him for saying how covid was no big deal, like it didn't just leave my mom to die all alone in the hospital surrounded by strangers.
Lyoness 2 years ago
I'm so sorry. Anyone who still thinks covid is a hoax is certifiably insane.
#32
My sister was the one who told me I was adopted when I was 11. She was 21- so old enough to know that kind of news should come from a parent. It felt as though she was using that knowledge to alienate me from the rest of the family. In actuality, it made me even more loving toward and grateful for my parents. They are wonderful and I’m lucky to have them
Rinso the Red 2 years ago
"At least our parents chose me" would be a good comeback in this instance.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Even better, “At least our parents didn’t get stuck with me like they did with you”.
Load More Replies... Mjskywalk 2 years ago
The problem here is not actually your sister. It’s your parents for not telling you sooner. Adoption shouldn’t be treated like some shameful secret.
eternal gay panic (they/them) 2 years ago
agree, my parents told me i'm adopted when i was ~5. i understood pretty quickly and moved on. however, my mom is very abusive and would occasionally threaten to put me back in foster care. i lived in fear until i was ~9 and realized it wasn't true.
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When our dad was diagnosed with colon cancer and given months to live, my oldest sister (who basically disowned the family after high school) called my parents house and asked how much life insurance money she was getting. I was very glad that my parents were out and I was at their house to take that call. Dad lived for over a year; she never visited.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Hope she’d already been taken off the will that was so airtight she can’t contest it.
#34
I am a middle child. When I was 17, I had worked at Burger King since I was 15, to buy parts for a gaming computer. This was a pretty big build, for 2015. I bought the parts and assembled it on my own. The day after I got it, My sister (14) asked if she could use it, and I *politely* said no. She proceeded to lie to my mother saying that she had caught me watching unsavory content from unsavory websites. Without even checking my browser history to see about the validity of these wild accusations, my mom immediately says I’ve proven that I’m too irresponsible to have a computer, my sister standing smugly at her side. I was sitting at my desk playing Black Ops 2 with my friends confused, forgetting about the earlier conversation. She then proceeded to pick up my water glass and throw it at my desktop. There is a pop and a flash of light from inside the computer and the screen goes black. I ran away from home for like two days to cool my s**t. After the weekend at my friends house (his parents were super chill and didn’t tell mine because they I understood my predicament) I came home to inspect the damage. I learned from my big brother that my mom had poured water on it in the sink. He had tried to save it, but alas, it was f****d. 2,400 Bucks down the drain.
#35
One brother got hooked on drugs and basically stole money from everyone in the family. Stole and sold electronics, etc. He went to rehab several times and it never stuck. He put our parents through so much hardship. He eventually moved on to manufacturing the meth, and wound up doing some time in prison. When he got out of prison, he was off the drugs, and basically waltzed back into life with the family. He never apologized or took any responsibility, and just went back to normal relationship with everyone else.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
I had a very similar experience. The emotional wreckage that an addict can inflict on both themselves and their families is really off the charts. And sometimes there seems to be this 'Well I was a different person then' attitude about it. And, while that's true and you don't want to keep punishing someone who is clearly trying to turn their lives around.... you left a wake of pain behind you and it's not easy to just forgive that. Especially when you're dealing with someone who is on and off the drugs over and over. You feel like you're bracing for when they eventually fall off the wagon. My brother was selfish whether he was on drugs or not. But we always felt like he never really appreciated what he did to us and our family, and never said thank you for getting help he got over and over. He was in and out of prison. He eventually overdosed so he was never able to tackle his demons but right to the end he was 46 years old, calling my mom a b***h for not lending him money.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Is an apology really worth more than the fact that he got better? Would you ask someone sick with cancer to apologize for what they put you through?
#36
My older brother tried to hit my boyfriend with his car when my boyfriend called him out for being an a*****e drug addict.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
so attempted murder? yes? did you lay a charge or just whine about it? lay a charge.
Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago
“did you lay a charge or just whine about it?” - wow, what a sensitive and sympathetic person you are! Cripes.
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My sister stole my child's ADHD stimulant medication for over a year. She emptied the capsules, so I thought he was getting full doses daily. Struggling in school behavior-wise (told teachers he wished they'd die, tried to leave the school building) and academically (to the point where his math scores were at kinder level when he was in 3rd grade, now that he's properly medicated again his scores are grade level). Not f*****g cool.
#38
My sister is 6'4 and VERY overweight, I'm 5'7 and and not overweight. She has always been jealous of me. She said some horrible things about my baby dying, she's glad my baby died etc. She made a fake fb page about me using pictures off my profile and saying I'm a prostitute with my address. She also taxied to my house in the middle of night drink off her a*s with her skinhead boyfriend and him to attack my then boyfriend. She now tries to act like nothing has happened and wants to act like we're best friends.
Na Schi 2 years ago
Possibly being overweight was one of the driving forces that caused the sister on hating the OP.
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Oldest sister - I was living with her while going to college. I took a semester off and she and her husband said if I wasn't going to college then I needed to pay rent or move out. I thought that was fair. After thinking about it, I decided to move out because I didn't enjoy living with them and was only doing it to save money. When I told them, they kicked me out immediately and tried to keep my stuff. I had to call the sheriff to get my stuff. My sister's husband added the bonus of calling me a whore because my boyfriend came to help me move out. Middle sister - when I was in 4th grade and she was in 10th grade, she told me I had to wash and iron my own clothes (back when you had to iron). I didn't know how to do either of those things so I kept hanging my dresses up and wearing them again. Our working mom found out and ripped my sister a new one. My mom had told her she had to do the laundry and ironing so my sister told me I had to do it to save herself some work.
HardieBoysMama 2 years ago
"Back when you had to iron" So, like, everyone just wears wrinkled clothes now?
Ellie Vanille 2 years ago
I guess it depends what you wear. I never iron and my jeans and sweaters are not wrinkled at all.
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#40
Tried to Gaslight me into believing the abuse from my dad never happened. Momma set her straight, so it's all good now.
#41
Chose her friend over me after her friend said it was 'too much work' to 'deal with me' because I was autistic.
#42
My brother, who has always been a problem, basically conned my mom out of over $80k, probably more like 90-100k. He was hooked on booze and pills, and homeless. He used some of the money for a hotel room, but the rest went to his vices. He'd call my mom and tell her he'd be homeless without more money, and this went on for a couple of years. Finally, I told her to say "no". That was in October of some year. I get an email the following January where she confessed that she had continued to give him money but saw the light. She stopped giving him money and he's now clean and lives with his ex-wife, who is some sort of saint. To this day he says that he wasn't "all that bad" and has never acknowledged how he damaged his relationship with my mom, or me. I'll never trust him, ever.
Heather Menard 2 years ago
Isn't that part of getting sober? You have to admit to your wrong doings
#43
My older brother knowind full well that i was scared of everything locked me in a outside shed. I was terrified. When he finally let me out my folks did not believe me.... also did not attend my college graduation because it was just a teachers degree. The sad thing is that i could go on.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Hope you’re teaching now, living your own happy—-and safe—-life, and and have gone full no contact with your family. They’re not worth the effort or the hardship to keep ties with.
#44
Claiming I intentionally tried to run him over (I didnt and WOULDNT). Pretty sure he deliberately threw himself at the back of my car, before getting in demanding I drive and screaming at me all the horrible names you can think of, I was an embarrassment and how I should die, he wished i were dead, barely held back from hitting me whilst i was driving. I was sobbing the entire time begging him to get out, an hour later he texted me casual as anything asking if i wanted to go to the pub.... I didnt.
#45
We just moved, first day of school at a new school, I believe it was third grade. It has rained the night before. My older sister, walking to school with me, put her arm around me, as if to comfort me, then proceeded to trip me into a mud puddle. Ran off screaming with delightful laughter while I picked myself up, covered in mud. Looked like an idiot the whole day, had to answer questions dozens of times, even by the teacher in front of everyone.
#46
Had to be hospitalized after a suicide attempt when i was 16 where I ultimately got diagnosed with schizophrenia and a few other things, the hospital in itself was traumatic enough but to make it better once I got out my brother was so angry at me for going to a hospital and getting on meds (extremely anti psychiatry and maliciously straightedge and thinks its all just to f**k people up more) that he beat the s**t out of me and told me I deserved everything that happened to me in the hospital (which was a /lot/ of f****d up s**t). He's been my best friend and basically my only parental figure since we were born so this stung bad, and I really didn't need it an hour after being released back into civilization especially when I was that young. Been distant from him ever since.
#47
My brother made racist comments about my boyfriend then called my sister a c*nt all on Christmas. A few years later he stole my dad's identity and tried to frame him for fraud. He says he's apologized a million times but no one has ever heard him say it...
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
How is the person who stabbed themselves in the eye with a pencil above this?
#48
February of last year we were with family at thier house and $400 went missing from my aunt's purse. Earlier that day my brother had that amount and said grandpa gave it to him.. he then gave me a hundred dollars. Later the whole house had to empty their pockets. A managed to get the money out of my pocket before anyone noticed I had it.. when my brother went, he didn't have the money. He still lied to this day but says I had some of it too. This incident cause our family to divide for months
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
Should’ve gone to grandpa to verify the source of the money. Family might’ve believed him.
#49
I have a bearded dragon who means the absolute world to me and my brother got angry at me one day and picked him up and hung him over the stairs like he was gonna drop him and screamed at me.
#50
My oldest brother dropped out of Penn State after my parents paid his full tuition. He also took all the money he was supposed use for books and living expenses and decided he'd rather move to Manhattan to start a new life for himself as a drug dealing, party promoting, gay male prostitute. It put a huge financial strain on my family. I was forced to work full time to stay in my HS and on my hockey team (went to private school and parents were forcing me into a public HS) and to support myself. All while he was living the dream up in NY and traveling all over the world for months at a time. He cut off all contact for years. But started having financial troubles and just showed up at my parents house one day with an apartments worth of stuff on their front steps. He gave them a BS sob story about working for a failed startup of a friend and manipulated them (he was always their favorite) into moving back home. He never paid them back a dime. My theory is he stole money from his drug supplier or from a party he was planning and dipped out, burning all his bridges in NY. Why else would he just show up randomly after a decade? This was more or less confirmed by the giant leather case I found in his backpack, stuffed with large bills. F**k him SO much.
#51
Tried to f**k my husband repeatedly
#52
My eldest sister. She was/is mentally, and emotionally, abusing our 83 yr old mother. There is currently an open investigation. And my younger brother. He is a paranoid schizophrenic, refuses treatment, and told me he was glad our eldest brother was dead and would be overjoyed when I died because I am not a religious zealot (he is) and won’t listen to his ranting and raving. I can pick my friends AND family members I want to have contact with.
#53
My brother wrote an email to my abusive ex after I told him in secret that my ex was abusive. I had actually gone to go live in my ex’s country, so I was alone. That was horrible.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yep never trust people with your secrets, they will blurt it out at some stage.
#54
Oh, I have loads with my brother, I'll list a few. - He went missing. We couldn't find him. A few days later, someone visited my mother and told her that there was rumours going around my brother had died. My mother was absolutely beside herself. She was a inconsolable mess. I rang around, and eventually got a hold of my brother. He'd purposely got someone to spread the rumour so it'd get back to my mum. When I spoke to him and told him how much he'd worried our mother and how upset she was, he just laughed and said "oh, it worked then. I thought it'd be funny". - A few days after my grandmother passed away, my brother told our mother that he was glad our grandmother was dead. That he never cared. He faked his tears at her funeral. - Before he was in his 30's, he had 6 kids with 3 different women. He only goes for 'weak' women, with a lot of issues, that *need* him. All of them have lost the kids. 3 of them have been adopted with 2 of their other siblings (not my brothers) and the other 3 are in foster care. I'd also like to add, my brother was in his 20's when this all occurred. He wasn't a kid that was "acting out".
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
But somehow, according to BP users, the shoplifter who tripped had it worse
JoJo Anisko 2 years ago (edited)
You're not wrong, but every person has a unique set of experiences. Some people will be triggered more by story A, others by story B. imho, no one is trying to put them in an objective order of worseness. No offense meant.
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#55
My older sister didn't try to protect me from the physical abuse in our home, and often lied or set up situations that would result in my beating, if she wasn't doing it herself. She was almost never hurt by our parents outside of punishments she "earned" through poor behavior. It would be one thing if she was concerned about her safety if she intervened, but it became apparent to me at an early age that I couldn't trust her and if the negative attention was on me, she could get away with more. Main abuser was arrested and removed from the house when I was 14 but she wouldn't testify against them and therefore she did not have a restraining order against them, but we both were put in therapy and were informed that she had depression and was exhibiting pathological lying and sociopathic tendencies (too young to diagnose, we were told). She was kicked out of the home when I was 16 for more lying and outside of family funerals, I don't see or interact with her or either of my parents. Those I'm close to or grew up with know my side, but it's honestly just easier to tell people I'm an orphan because that's how I approach the situation. She has a young family back in our hometown, somehow managed to get a daycare job without graduating high school, and for all intents and purposes appears normal, but I have no intention of willingly seeing any of these people again; too much risk for my family's safety and sanity.
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Pity her children, unless they inherited her evil. My parents were two pieces of s**t too, and I left home at 18, and went total no contact. Back then, people still had the mindset that you should always stay in contact with your family, so I just started saying my parents were dead. They really are now, thank goodness.
#57
One of my brothers scratched my Gorillaz CD while the other stole all my books to prop up his broken bed. Bastard a******s.
#58
She stole money from my grandmother, a lot of it. Who does that to an 82 year old?
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Or just s**t people. Stealing is bad all around, but stealing from old people is just as bad as stealing from children. It’s evil.
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He threatened to kill me and physically harm my child. Just no. There is no coming back from that. The reason he did that: I was being a responsible adult and sister and informed him that our children had tried smoking, while at our mother's house, when his child was visiting for the summer.
#60
I became disabled as an adult and my brother would tell "jokes" about how I should be euthanized or how my parents should put me down.
#61
Just all the s**t she stole from me or f****d me out of, and all of the things of mine that she ruined. I've been feeling better about these things through therapy, but I'll never ever give her any money, and I'm not going to trust her again.
#62
A few years ago I was seriously dealing with mental issues due to how my family treated me. At some point, I cracked and phoned them to tell them I was taking some time in my own, blocking their phone numbers and I was going to start therapy. My mother was mad at first but eventually she got scared and understood there was no other way; she said sure, take your time and get better. I didn't even phone my father. I only had a good relationship with my brother, he said he would always be there for me, whatever I needed. But my sister. She was so mad saying it was a bummer cause of how it affected her. I was literally crying on the floor saying I couldn't do it anymore and she was MAD because of the inconvenience, after all the times I rooted for her when my family was focused on making her feel bad. It's being years, I got better, improved my relationship with most of them, but I know I will never be able to forget it or forgive her. I tried to talk about this with her once so make her understand how s****y she made me feel and she was like "yeah I think you are wrong, let's agree to disagree". She's not only incredibly selfish, but she's a bad person and it seems no one else sees it just because she's so self focused no one really gets in her way.
#63
Called him on his birthday to wish him a happy birthday. He was out drinking with friends from school. They ask him who's on the phone. He answers (mic still on so I can hear him clearly) by saying it's his little brother and then insults me for a laugh. When he got back on for me, I said happy birthday one more time and hung up.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
what a pathetic, low self-esteem douche. Did you confront him and quote his remarks to him?
#64
My Sister stole about 300 dollars from me and my mom over a period of a couple of weeks, she was 7
HardieBoysMama 2 years ago
What did a 7 year old do with the money? Not like they can get to Walmart by themselves.
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
Some of you just need to build a bridge and get over it. Holding a grudge against a 7yo, wtf
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago
That may have set the stage for the sister to have a lifetime of being a little s**t.
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Does just not including me in anything for years count? My mom died during covid. I couldn’t be there cause covid exposure. Finally made it into her hospice room she had passed. Then she brings up last incident of ignoring me for a family event and gives “reasons” well my final reason is my mom is dead and I no reason to even try or hope to have contacts. So I no longer do
#66
My dad was an alcoholic for 9 years and it was a really bad time, as anyone can guess. My dad always swore that the last time he drank would be the last time he would ever drink, but of course it never was (he eventually got help for it) well one time, I don't remember the exact conversation, my older brother made a joke about how pathetic my dad was for drinking and not being able to stop himself I've never wanted to hit someone more in my life. I was 13 at the time and if he said anything even close to that now, I would've hit him without hesitating
#67
My youngest brother asked me if I was over "my" kitten (you know how siblings choose pets as their's and all) the *day after she was put down*. Last month, we had an argument, and he used her death against me, saying he was glad she died and stuff like that. Sure, he's not quite twelve yet and I'm seventeen, but he's absolutely horrible to me.
#68
Me and my inlet brother were fighting over a pencil king of tug of war style. I had the sharp end pointed towards me and he let go so I stabbed my self in the eye with a pencil.
#69
When my sister married, she put everyone from her side of the family at one table at the front, and me at a table in the back together with random people. Many more things happened but yeah I don’t see or speak to her again. Edit: I came all the way to Spain for this. 😩
#70
My sister and I got into an argument. She proceeded to grab some Windex and spray it in my eye . We were in high school and we're both in our 30's now and I will NEVER f*****g forgive that s**t.
#71
My younger brother and I grew up in a very religious household. Our parents took us to church 3 times a week. Because of that we also had some religious "action men". Think GI Joe but instead based on people from the bible.
So one day, we were in an argument and mom and dad ask him what's wrong. My brother says, "he keeps messing with my Peter". My mom and dad immediately look at me with a combination of disgust, hate, and rage. That look made me realize what they were thinking.
Immediately I started pointing and hollering, "The doll, the doll, the doll". LOL Good times.
#72
I was interested in a girl but my stepsisters friend had a crush on me so naturally, she spread around a rumor that the girl I liked was a whore, convinced my mom that she was a whore, and tried to have her beat up by some other girls.
#73
I can't say that I don't forgive him, because I truly love my brother, he helps me more than I can repay him. But he don't take mental illness seriously. I recently got into a very weird situation with a girl and, being me, got really f*****g sad about it, was crying in the porch, he saw me and yelled at me on how I got attached too fast to a "girl I barely knew" and that I was faking a breakdown in order to use it as a clutch to run away from my problems. He only saw how bad things was when his wife sat down with me and we started talking about this, and he was hearing it, I think he's trying his best to understand my problems tho.
#74
We got caught shoplifting. We ran and she knocked my asthmatic a*s down and kept running, like a gazelle sacrificing their buddy to a lion.
ForThePeople 2 years ago
ok, sister did something bad, but y where u shoplifting in the first place??????
#75
My older brother threw a soccer cleat at my head. I managed to duck in time, but there is still a hole in the wall a decade later.
#76
I had 148 Pokemon caught on my Pokemon Red when my sister saved a new game over it.
ForThePeople 2 years ago
As a Pokemon player, that hurts. Never let your sisters touch your stuff.
#77
Hours after my Stepdad had died, my older stepbrother turned to my mum and said "your young enough you will find someone else" argued about who was going to carry my Stepdads coffin before finally refusing to carry my late Stepdads coffin himself. As his choice of who should carry the coffin wasn't picked(it was his uncle from his mother's side, someone who hadn't seen or spoke to my Stepdad in 30yrs). And people wonder why I call him thrush!
#78
He basically made my life hell throughout the entire time we have been self isolating (unfortunately we live together because of uni) and spread lies about me to my parents and sabotaged whatever decent piece of relationship I had with them.
#79
We are a family of three girls. Our mom died when we were very young. My older sister got married a year after our father died and didn’t ask my other sister and I to be in the wedding. She only wanted her best friend and fiancé’s brother. Claimed it was a small wedding but had over 100 guests. She was in both of our weddings. Both of her fiancé’s brothers wore tuxedos to the wedding. We were just any other guests.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
pft I had a similar thing but worse, I wasn't even invited to my sibling's. Acted like it was normal.
#80
My sister ruined a total of one wii console, one wii controller, 3 or 4 wii games, 3 Xbox wireless controllers, a wired one, 1 Xbox game. And I think that’s all of the video game related things over my life.
ForThePeople 2 years ago
I never let my sisters touch my consoles, especially the 3rd oldest of the bunch, because she has stolen and broken multiple of my possessions throughout the years.
#81
My older sister told my SUPER religious mother that I was bisexual (am actually pansexual). This lead to a huge fight between my mother and me...
#82
I'm painfully socially awkward, and I had this crush on my sister's friend Amber, she's ridiculously gorgeous she was actually a model for a few years. But I was always too afraid to ask her out, anyway she moved several states away and after she moves my sister tells me that Amber had a huge crush on me. Like thanks for the timely info there sis.
#83
I dont think this is really f****d up but once me and my little brother had a fight i had him completely on the ground trying to calm him down, he was going crazy, when he calmed down a little i put away my hands and he grabbed a glass cup and smacked it against the left side of my head, the glass then made a little cut on the side of my head, it didnt really hurt but there was a lot of blood and i had a panic attack, luckily my parents came home and took me to the hospital
Nayla Kanaan 2 years ago (edited)
I might be misreading so please don’t downvote me just correct me but I read it as the younger brother was being aggressive and/or violent so the older sibling held them down to protect themselves I’m guessing in a pinning way like pinning the arms and chest trying to passify them then when the younger brother seemed calm they let them up. Edit: I thought of a good example: like when you need to give a shot to a small child so you have to hold them in place so they don’t hurt themselves or the doctor
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#84
Almost cause me to go blind. She jokes about it too. It makes me so mad, to where I wonder why I try to be nice. She also almost caused me to choke to death once. . . I uh- cut of her circulation, causing her to pass out for about ten minutes. As revenge. She doesn’t remember that though
#85
Honestly just being mean. My brother's not a bad person but there's no specific reason to want to be around him, he's not even pleasant.
#86
When my brother was a toddler 3Years old, he took my 14 karat gold charm bracelet and dropped it into the concrete foundation of the house being g built nextdoor. We were never able to get it back.
JoJo Anisko 2 years ago
It's very rare that a 3yo has sufficient reasoning power to understand how badly you were hurt by this.
#88
Them existing, will never forgive them for that. I am the youngest so was basically the guinea pig for all there jokes and insults to be tested on.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
yeah sorry that happens to all siblings. Not nice, but that is pretty much how it is.
#89
When we were younger he snuck into my room and messed up my dollhouse rearranging all the goddamn furniture. B***h.
ForThePeople 2 years ago
I admit that I have done that to MY sisters, but I was 7 and they broke one of my favorite stuffed animals, so I got my revenge.
#90
I mean, he is pretty chill, he just broke a Monster High figurine when I was 7 nothing more
What do you think ?
David Fox 2 years ago
Couple of things for me was that before I was put in care my biological older brother (in his 20s) raped and killed a 14 year old. After being adopted, when I was 12 my 'sister' once said matter of factory 'I wish you were never adopted to this family, you ruined it for us'........aye, she gave a shallow apology and my parents didn't do a thing. That stuck with me and made me realise I didn't get treated the same either. I ended up going off the rails, doing drugs and stealing. Ended up getting kicked out at 16 for just checking to see if my games console was truly broken by testing it on my sister's wires..........my 'parents' just wanted an excuse to kick me out. Spent a while on the streets until I was placed in a hostel and that's when I felt free and came off everything. A week into my hostel I received a letter saying I could go for tea (not go back home to live).......I've never felt so rejected. Glad to say I never went back, never spoken to my 'fake family' for 15 years.
Tamra 2 years ago
That's a really rough way to grow up, I'm sorry. I hope you have good people in your life now, and really good job on overcoming some very heavy stuff.
Load More Replies... TMoxraaar 2 years ago
Stop using "blood thicker than water" incorrectly! It means exactly the opposite. It means the blood of the BATTLEFIELD is thicker than the water of family blood. That means there's a difference between relatives and family.
GenericPanda09 2 years ago
One of the first times I went back to my hometown from basic training with a few quid in my pocket my sis asked me to look after my niece and nephew... I noticed they didn't have shoes that fit properly and went out and got them some and then went to t he cash machine to go out that weekend and my card got swooped up into the machine cause i'd spent too much. For years I was pissed she never even mentioned it. Cue about 25yrs in the future and she came into a sizeable sum of money and asked me what i'd like as a gift and I didn't really need anything cause even by that stage w hen i'd been disabled and financially poor, i'd got all i needed and she said something like 'oh ffs Generic, I've never forgotten you buying my kid's shoes when you didn't have much.... let me buy you something' and that was more than enough for me, to know that she had noticed, but maybe been a little embarrassed at the time. I love my sister to bits..but sibbling relationships (cont.)
Will Cable 2 years ago
One thing I have come across several times are siblings who expect the/a gay member of the family to look after the parents. They seem to think their (straight) life is far more important. I've even seen it happen where a gay grandchild was expected to do it all while the other family members lived their life.
Solandri 2 years ago (edited)
I'm not sure if that's a thing or just a spurious correlation. Homosexuality is oddly correlated with birth order. The firstborn is least likely to be gay, second-born more likely, the third-born even more, etc. Most societies still seem to follow the historical norm of the oldest child carrying on the family legacy (focus on business, career, etc). So that coincidentally results in more gay people being asked to look after their parents in old age. The correlation you're seeing may not be because they're gay, but simply because they're later-born.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
wow I couldn't finish reading, some people are just straight-up disgusting. Here's my summary view. If they abuse you, move away. If they continue, get a restraning order. If they insult you publicly, lay a charge of crimen injuria or defamation. If they attack you physically, lay a charge of assault with intent of GBH.Do not tolerate or support drug addicts, alcoholics, etc. F**k family. If they act like criminals, treat them like criminals. Being genetically related does NOT give you a free pass to be a criminal towards your own family (or anyone else).
HellyHacka 2 years ago
Why should a victim be the one to move away, though? That's not fair. All of these suggestions are for an ideal world, but family or domestic violence prove it's just not that easy. I'm the same, though...just couldn't keep going. I'm glad for my dysfunctional, but kind, remaining family.
Load More Replies... James Tartaglione 2 years ago
years ago, my brother used to beat the sh!t out of me just so he could spy on the neighbors from my bedroom window. he used a surveyor's scope he stole from my grandfather (which he made think he lost). i've since forgiven him, but i havent forgotten
David Fox 2 years ago
Couple of things for me was that before I was put in care my biological older brother (in his 20s) raped and killed a 14 year old. After being adopted, when I was 12 my 'sister' once said matter of factory 'I wish you were never adopted to this family, you ruined it for us'........aye, she gave a shallow apology and my parents didn't do a thing. That stuck with me and made me realise I didn't get treated the same either. I ended up going off the rails, doing drugs and stealing. Ended up getting kicked out at 16 for just checking to see if my games console was truly broken by testing it on my sister's wires..........my 'parents' just wanted an excuse to kick me out. Spent a while on the streets until I was placed in a hostel and that's when I felt free and came off everything. A week into my hostel I received a letter saying I could go for tea (not go back home to live).......I've never felt so rejected. Glad to say I never went back, never spoken to my 'fake family' for 15 years.
Tamra 2 years ago
That's a really rough way to grow up, I'm sorry. I hope you have good people in your life now, and really good job on overcoming some very heavy stuff.
Load More Replies... TMoxraaar 2 years ago
Stop using "blood thicker than water" incorrectly! It means exactly the opposite. It means the blood of the BATTLEFIELD is thicker than the water of family blood. That means there's a difference between relatives and family.
GenericPanda09 2 years ago
One of the first times I went back to my hometown from basic training with a few quid in my pocket my sis asked me to look after my niece and nephew... I noticed they didn't have shoes that fit properly and went out and got them some and then went to t he cash machine to go out that weekend and my card got swooped up into the machine cause i'd spent too much. For years I was pissed she never even mentioned it. Cue about 25yrs in the future and she came into a sizeable sum of money and asked me what i'd like as a gift and I didn't really need anything cause even by that stage w hen i'd been disabled and financially poor, i'd got all i needed and she said something like 'oh ffs Generic, I've never forgotten you buying my kid's shoes when you didn't have much.... let me buy you something' and that was more than enough for me, to know that she had noticed, but maybe been a little embarrassed at the time. I love my sister to bits..but sibbling relationships (cont.)
Will Cable 2 years ago
One thing I have come across several times are siblings who expect the/a gay member of the family to look after the parents. They seem to think their (straight) life is far more important. I've even seen it happen where a gay grandchild was expected to do it all while the other family members lived their life.
Solandri 2 years ago (edited)
I'm not sure if that's a thing or just a spurious correlation. Homosexuality is oddly correlated with birth order. The firstborn is least likely to be gay, second-born more likely, the third-born even more, etc. Most societies still seem to follow the historical norm of the oldest child carrying on the family legacy (focus on business, career, etc). So that coincidentally results in more gay people being asked to look after their parents in old age. The correlation you're seeing may not be because they're gay, but simply because they're later-born.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
wow I couldn't finish reading, some people are just straight-up disgusting. Here's my summary view. If they abuse you, move away. If they continue, get a restraning order. If they insult you publicly, lay a charge of crimen injuria or defamation. If they attack you physically, lay a charge of assault with intent of GBH.Do not tolerate or support drug addicts, alcoholics, etc. F**k family. If they act like criminals, treat them like criminals. Being genetically related does NOT give you a free pass to be a criminal towards your own family (or anyone else).
HellyHacka 2 years ago
Why should a victim be the one to move away, though? That's not fair. All of these suggestions are for an ideal world, but family or domestic violence prove it's just not that easy. I'm the same, though...just couldn't keep going. I'm glad for my dysfunctional, but kind, remaining family.
Load More Replies... James Tartaglione 2 years ago
years ago, my brother used to beat the sh!t out of me just so he could spy on the neighbors from my bedroom window. he used a surveyor's scope he stole from my grandfather (which he made think he lost). i've since forgiven him, but i havent forgotten
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