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“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents I occasionally drink. My sister died from alcoholism.

She was in a coma in the bed at the hospital suffering from liver failure. I was there with my Dad.

He said "I always though this would happen to you. Not her."

I have ALWAYS been the straightedge kid, she smoked, drank, did d***s. I was the Church youth group kid, she was just there if her bf at the time was. I barely drink, she was an alcoholic. I never smoked, she did. I don't do d***s, she did. I've always been monogamous, she was not. I've given them money to help them through tough spots, she convinced them to give her their retirement and blew it.

The exact opposite of her. But my Dad and my Mom always made her the priority and thought she was a 'princess'.

So as she was dying from the things she did. They dared to act like it should have been me on the bed.

I will never be able to forget that.

dasnoob , freepik Report

Final score:

122points

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StrangeOne 1 month ago

That's a family to cut out of your life. No need to put up with that.

76points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents “You’d better lose some weight and hope someone marries you for your looks, because your personality sucks.”

I was 14 and had just been fired from my very first job. He doesn’t even remember saying it; for me it was one of the worst days of my life and lives in the back of my head, for my father it was a Tuesday.

brelywi , freepik Report

Final score:

110points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Words can hurt more than physical pain, and stay with you forever.

51points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents "Look, everyone has some kind of pain. Grandma, Dad and I all have arthritis and other things. Grandma's hip replacement wore out, Dad has sciatica, and I have bursitis. Stop complaining and learn to deal with it." - My mother, driving me home after I received my fibromyalgia diagnosis.

Karma got her later when one of her friends verbally smacked it into her head that fibromyalgia pain is severe and debilitating, that it could get worse over time, and that I may end up wheelchair-bound. She also talked about how badly the brain fog f***s a person up.

My mom was almost in tears as she apologized. She gave me a fibromyalgia awareness bracelet and started coming to my rheumatology appointments to ask questions for me whenever I had brain fog.

Cthelionessroar , freepik Report

Final score:

104points

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WinterLady 1 month ago

This one has a good ending

114points

HurlWurk 1 month ago

Sadly, I know a few people that are dismissive of the pain of others. I've gotten to the point with them, that I just say "it's my pain, not a ducking competition, I'm not talking about your pain, I don't feel your pain, I feel mine!"

9points

Anna Drever 1 month ago

Very much this.

0points

D. Pitbull 1 month ago

It's impressive that she apologized. I mean, it's sad that it's impressive - it shouldn't have happened in the first place - but... let's be honest, how many of us have been very unfairly crapped on, the truth of the matter comes to light and the vicious individual just pretends like they never heard a thing.

3points

Emily 1 month ago

While this is harsh, there is SOME truth in that statement as well. Everyone IS going through their own battles and it IS up to the individual to take care of themselves and be accountable for their health. HOWEVER, this mom went the wrong way expressing that and managed to invalidated the pain and diagnosis instead. Place and time people, and choose your words wisely and carefully.

3points

Tabitha 1 month ago

How about this instead: Knowing full well how awful it is to be in constant pain, you have EMPATHY and sincere COMPASSION for the other person’s pain? You will automatically have the right words to express that, instead of telling them they’re accountable for their own pain and health—-and what the actual flying f**k is that supposed to mean? That they somehow caused their suffering? What kind of corkscrew rationalization is that? If you’re going to go round blaming the victims for their problems, then let me just say to you how much YOU need to take care and be accountable for your own stupidity and lack of compassion and empathy. Chew on that for a while, and really take a good, hard, brutally honest look at yourself. Then reread what you wrote.

8points

Anna Drever 1 month ago

How can one be accountable for their health if it’s an autoimmune problem? We don’t go courting this stuff. We can’t isolate and not catch it. We just want understanding and we’d like to vent sometimes without hearing ‘everyone has problems’.

2points

Aranora 1 month ago

I have multiple health problems but after going in to anaphylactic shock when visiting a grocery store 7 years ago I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I have lots of food and d**g allergies and have limited pain relief options. I live on my own but I manage. But there are many days when I wish I were dead, when I fallen and lay on the kitchen floor, curled up in a ball because my whole body feels like it's being boiled in acid.

0points

35 cabbages in a trenchcoat 1 week ago (edited)

Suffering isn't a competition. She didn't need to understand anything about fibromyalgia to be compassionate.

2points

Alexia 1 month ago (edited)

My late aunt: "Everyone has back pain, stop complaining all the time!" I was 20 years old. It turned out I had double scoliosis, and the deformed vertebrae were pressing on some nerves. She never apologized; moreover, she went on how "kids today are so weak".

2points

Sami-Jo Ross 1 month ago

I get the feeling the friend also had it and Mom thought she could complain to them.

2points

Jon Steensen 1 month ago

I hate it when someone tries to dismiss your hurt by one-uping you, or in a futile attempt at consolodating you. Sure it could always be worse, but that does meant that this is good, and as such it is utterly irrelevant. Pain is pain, and when you are in pain it does not matter that it could be worse.

2points

Liliauna Whitlock [STUDENT] 2 weeks ago

I don't feel sorry for the mom.

0points

Meaghan Stewart 1 month ago

My fibromyalgia is severe enough I’m disabled from it. I can do SOME things but if I push myself a little too hard then I pay for it. Only problem with rural life in Canada is lack of easy access to a pool, which is truly the best therapy.

0points

Stella Johnston 1 month ago

I tried to explain my fibromyalgia diagnosis to my dad and summed it up saying "generally speaking, my brain is misinterpreting information from my body as pain" and he said "oh so it's all in your head then."

0points

Lady Lestrange 1 month ago

Why are some parents like this? I never understand.

0points

Anna Drever 1 month ago

Fibromyalgia is invisible and unless you complain about it people, whether it be family or friends, forget about it when it suits them. Whilst also offering ‘helpful’ suggestions. Oh I’d never thought of that thing which I’ve actually been told a gazillion times but doesn’t actually work, thanks. And if you complain they don’t like hearing it and we’re labelled moaners. So we suck it up and just live with it. It’s only fellow fibro warriors who get it.

0points

Lola July 1 month ago (edited)

I've had fibromyalgia for over 40 years and have never heard of it being so "debilitating." Try also having Lupus which will kill you, is also extremely painful. Most of us do have pain, health issues. Don't let it define poor you.

0points

Amelia Jade 1 month ago

Well, bully for you. I also have fibro and mine is currently managed. I do ok. I have it on top of Hashimotos thyroid disease and have some crappy days. But I know it has the potential to get crappier. I'm just grateful it's not there yet. But what I don't do is announce how I've never heard of it being debilitating, and trying to one up everyone by saying "try having lupus" and invalidating a whole swath of people. Guess what? Your experience doesn't define everyone else's. How self involved do you have to be to write a response like this?

-1point

Jessany Trotter 1 month ago

At least she learned in the end

0points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents Literally as we were walking out of the hospital, after having to take our three week old daughter off life support. My mother chose that moment to remind me that she really thought we should have baptized our daughter because now she can't go to heaven. Yeah, I just got in the car and ignored her. If I would have reacted, she would have needed to go back into the hospital.

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Final score:

100points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Because God needs a magic spell casting on a child before he will accept them into Heaven. Makes total sense, if God is a monster.

119points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents 'If you come back to this house I'll beat you and k*ll you'. Haven't seen him for 3 and a half years after that & I don't intend to. Blood thicker than water my a**. I'll always cut off toxic family.

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Final score:

98points

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Guess Undheit 1 month ago

"Blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb." THAT is the phrase, meaning chosen relationships are more meaningful than genetic family.

84points

My biological mother told me that I should be in the urn with my dead son. She was convinced that because I was sometimes a danger to myself (I’m epileptic), I obviously k*lled him somehow… despite him passing in his sleep from SIDS.

I don’t speak to her anymore.

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Final score:

92points

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Miss Mali 1 month ago

I am so sorry for loss of ur son . . . And I am so sorry that ur mother would ever think that of u. Just know we all know it was not anyone's fault especially not urs.

43points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents "If you get AIDS we're going to let you die alone because we're not letting you bankrupt us." I was 18 and they found out I was gay from a letter I had thrown away. They also said one of the funniest things to me during that same time, "What if you want to be President?!".

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Final score:

82points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Are presidents not allowed to be gay? And fuq the parents for the aids comment.

60points

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents My parents are tied.

Dad: “So they diagnosed you with depression and anxiety? By definition those two things would cancel themselves out. You won’t be going back.” I was 13.

Mom: She told me over and over while growing up “You can ALWAYS come home! No matter what you can always come home!”

I was 22 and lost my job and could not find another with enough hours. We went out to lunch, I spilled my guts and how ashamed I was at failing. She looked me dead in the face and said “Tell me how that turns out.” I slept under a bridge for 3 months.

Hobo_Knife , freepik Report

Final score:

81points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Depression and anxiety cancel each other out? What freaking definitions was he using?

70points

#10

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents In college, my dad told me over the phone, "It's not your mom's fault she doesn't love you as much as she loves your sister. She just doesn't understand you. You're too weird for her."

Thanks, dad. That didn't hurt at all.

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Final score:

81points

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iseefractals 1 month ago

There's a difference between "loving your kids" and "liking your kids" You can love them more than life itself, doesn't mean you have anything in common with them. Besides, look at it from the other side, as a child you love your parents....but you still have one that you prefer.

16points

#11

You were never [SAed]. You are making it up.

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76points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Absolute monster.

52points

#12

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents I proudly told my mom I got 98% on one of my high school exams. She replied “Where did you lose the 2%?”.

HalJordan2424 , rawpixel.com Report

Final score:

72points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Too harsh, too cold.

35points

#13

That I ruined everything she’s ever had.

Joke is on my mom because after my dad died, I went no contact and it’s been AMAZING.

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68points

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Schmebulock 1 month ago

Good for you!

18points

#14

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents “The stress from dealing with you is why I got cancer”.

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Final score:

66points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

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27points

#15

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents My mother told me "You can't wear what the pretty girls wear because you're fat."

Snoo-45800 , freepik Report

Final score:

63points

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Boredest Panda 1 month ago

Lady, I’m already wearing what pretty girls wear because I’m pretty enough

39points

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#16

When he threatened to kick me out of the house because I took a different route home than he would have when coming home from dinner.

It was so out of left field. I thought he was joking but he was raging and was literally about to kick me to the street. Led to this massive argument that came close to having the cops called.

I was 20 and it completely changed my view of him. I found a job across the country a few weeks later and left. Today he doesn't remember the incident at all and wonders why I never accept his help for anything and visit once every five years. Got what you wanted old man.

Final score:

62points

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Pencil McGovern 1 month ago

If it was completely out of left field, nothing similar had happened before, nothing similar since and he doesn't remember it, it very well could have been a psychotic break. It's much more common (particularly after a trauma) than people realize. Based *solely* on what's written here, I think reconciliation would be worth exploring.

25points

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#17

My dad had been single since him and my mom divorced when I was 1 year old. I was 13 and was pretty sick trying to sleep in the back seat going to his house for the weekend. He just recently got a girlfriend at this point who had a daughter a few years younger than me. He forced me to go to his place that weekend even though I was pretty sick and he was frustrated I wasn’t interested in talking to him on the drive to his place.

So he pulls over, looks back at me and says “ya know, I can just take you back to your moms. I don’t *need* you to love me anymore. I have {girlfriend} and {girlfriend’s daughter} now.”

He did in fact take me back to my moms and I didn’t see him again for another 3-4 years after she dumped him cause she found someone richer.

Final score:

61points

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Dread Pirate Roberts 1 month ago

Glad OP's dad got a little bit of karma!

9points

#18

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents My mom had a condition which made it hard to keep a pregnancy. She had 13 total pregnancies, only 4 survived. I was the only planned pregnancy that survived.

“You were the only one I wanted and look how you turned out”.

anon , katemangostar Report

Final score:

60points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

How can mums be so brutal?

29points

#19

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents I told my dad I needed mental health help and he told me I just needed to pray more.

jenhikam , jcomp Report

Final score:

60points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Because praying solves everything.

26points

#20

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents I wish you never existed.

reversedROBOT , peoplecreations Report

Final score:

59points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

That parent is a monster.

36points

#21

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents My Mum died on Mother’s Day 2020. My Dad declined quickly without her. He said to me:

“I just don’t have anything to live for anymore. Everything I did, I did for her.”

Me: “You still have friends, family, kids…you know I’m still here for you.”

Dad: “You were just for her too.”

He died soon after telling me he never wanted me.

The_Town_of_Canada , freepik Report

Final score:

56points

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Kobe (she) 1 month ago

I don't read the Ï didn't want you" in that. I do see a heavily grieved man though. And heavy grief can mess up with perspective a lot. Especially the child being in grief as well. The everything I did, I did for her part, might just as well go for the last years where it was just the two of them. Sometimes in grief one just can't see ( or want to see) the silver lining...

36points

#22

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents That I was a failure and I’ll never be half of my brother.

Sweet-Girlfriend1 , freepik Report

Final score:

55points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Way to build your confidence up.

18points

#23

While my parents were going through a divorce (I was 9 years old), I overheard my mom saying to my father "I don't want (me), I'll take the younger one, he's less annoying".

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54points

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Bewitched One 1 month ago

Ouch

22points

#24

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents When my mom found out I lost my virginity she said “God is punishing me for everything I’ve done wrong in my life with a daughter who makes the same mistakes”.

nesssaaa123 , freepik Report

Final score:

51points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

The whole virginity thing is backwards teaching and treats women as property.

67points

saccharine_mycology , gpointstudio Report

#25

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents I never wanted children after your sister. (I'm #2).

Final score:

49points

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iseefractals 1 month ago

Well, you had two other options available to ya, but you chose the one that runs the risk of crotch goblins.

14points

#26

While my body was deteriorating from an undiagnosed medical condition my mother said, "Do you know how much it hurts ME to see you just lying there?" This was after a 2 day hospital stay, 2 biopsies, and several doctor's appointments. NOTE: I had lost about 100 pounds of muscle mass in 7 months by the time I was diagnosed, literally my whole body hurt. Getting up hurt, laying down hurt. Anything I did, hurt.

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Final score:

48points

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Nicola Mawson 1 month ago

This can be understood as concern, with a massive misunderstanding

16points

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#27

After my ex-wife remarried, my dad befriended her new husband. It’s especially weird because she abandoned the daughter we had together. My ex and her husband came to Holiday events that I wasn’t even invited to. I confronted my dad and he said that “Brent” was like the son he never had. Brent like NASCAR, country music, and religion. I llied none of those things.
It ended my relationship with him and my mom by extension. I have only spoken to my dad a handful of times since then. That was nearly 30 years ago. We never even spoke when my mom and sister died. I did make peace with my mom while she was on her deathbed. My dad has cancer (stage 3) and I can’t gather a single f**k/ won’t contact him/ won’t attend the funeral/ don’t want a cent from his estate. So yea, f**k that guy.
Fun fact: exwife cheated on Brent too and they were only together for a few years.

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Final score:

47points

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Bewitched One 1 month ago

Dad and Ex sound like real winners

23points

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#28

My mom all my childhood “I should have aborted you”…like yeah but you didn’t so now what?

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Final score:

46points

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CrunChewy McSandybutt 1 month ago

Yeah, I heard stuff like this, too. It's almost as if it's a figure of speech for them. Gross.

8points

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#29

Being anxious and depressed is a choice.

Final score:

45points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

If you have ever had depression you know it's not a choice. No one would choose to feel like that.

42points

#30

My mother lost her first baby. It was a boy and he was stillborn. She told me she got pregnant with me bc she thought my dad would stop drinking if she gave him a son… I’m not a son. It basically made me feel like it was my job to keep my father happy no matter what. And he was never happy so I always felt like a failure.

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Final score:

44points

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whodunnitfan2013 1 month ago

Babies don't heal people or fix relationships.

28points

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#31

"You are born sinful and need to ask for forgiveness and purify yourself, it is going to be very difficult and you will suffer a lot in life, but if you don't do it, you will go to hell after you die."

if you believe in what I typed above, it is morally wrong to make kids, because of the incredible burden you put on your child and very high risk that your child will just suffer in hell eternally.

Final score:

44points

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whodunnitfan2013 1 month ago

My parents preached about how I needed to ask for forgiveness after I was séxually abùsed as a child.

40points

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#32

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents Not to me. I overheard my mom tell my sis she wouldn't be a good mother because she wore pants to church. This was 19 years ago in 2005. My sister and her hubby have two dogs....

experience_everythng , freepik Report

Final score:

44points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Women wearing pants to church? The horror! Women will be wanting the vote next!

66points

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#33

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents My mother often said to me "I wished you had died and your sister had lived."
It still stings to this day.

Final score:

44points

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Boredest Panda 1 month ago

All these parents wish their own children’s deaths! Like, wtf??? If you don’t want kids and can’t handle them, don’t have them!

39points

#34

I had splurged on a box of temporary hair dye when o was 15. Mom told me
If I spent as much time on my hair as I did on my weight, I wouldn't be so huge
For the record, I'm 5'7. At the time I weighed around 130 lbs.

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Final score:

44points

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Miss Mali 1 month ago

Man I'm 5' 7" and would look too skinny at 130, so I hope u know u were not huge, and if u were so what ur still somebody who deserves love and happiness in their life!!!

23points

#35

When I was 16 my mom started to suspect that I was Bisexual after she read through my computer search history. After a pretty intense one-sided fist fight(she started it)she told me she couldn’t love or trust me after finding this out, and starting crying after asking me if I’d ever had “feelings” for my 13 year old sister(I hadn’t).

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Final score:

43points

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Miss Mali 1 month ago

What the actual F . . . Were does it say queer equals insest or pedophilia????

57points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#36

"I'm moving to (halfway across country) with your brother. There isn't anything for me here."

Except me, my sister, her 2 sons-in-law and all 5 of her grandchildren.

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38points

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Bay Bo 1 month ago

Had ur dad died n she was trying to escape constant reminders? Regardless, that's off-putting

1point

#37

“This is just like when your mother had a miscarriage” when they found out I was gay.

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36points

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Feathered Dinosaur 1 month ago

Just wow. So their child really is dead to them now for being gay

27points

#38

In a therapy session when he’s explaining why I seem to piss him off more than everyone else: “I’m angry at you because your mother refused to get an abortion.”

Explained a lot, actually.

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36points

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Lara Verne 1 month ago

Logic has left the chat.

14points

#39

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents "Your mom didn't die just so you could throw your life away." From my dad.

Said while crying during what was pretty much an intervention.

My mom died giving birth to me and I've only seen my dad cry four times in my life.

Certainly hurt, though at the time it was something I probably needed to hear.

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Final score:

35points

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StrangeOne 1 month ago

This one sounds warranted and from a father who's scared and deeply cares.

83points

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#40

Parents who tell their children “You are just like [other parent]!” are awful people.
*You’re just like someone I hate*.

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33points

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Miss Mali 1 month ago

My mom has said that to me I have responded with well u pick him, u married him and u chose to procreate with him what did u expect??? And thanks mom I happen to think my dad had some wonderful qualities and that those are the ones I picked up. All the ways I was screwed up were actually just like u and I decided I didn't want to be like u and so I worked hard to turn that part of me around, what's ur excuse???

17points

#41

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents “I love you, but you’re still going to hell; once you turn 18, pack your s**t and leave.”

lordofthestreets , benzoix Report

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31points

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Beak Hookage 1 month ago

Translation: I don't love you but am too much of a self-righteous hypocrite to admit it.

47points

#42

“You have a simian face”, “It’s lucky you are smart bc you are not pretty”, “You were cursed with your father’s genes to give you that big fat a*s”.

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31points

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Lost Penny 1 month ago (edited)

What a lovely woman and a great mother! (just in case, it's /s)

15points

#43

“I Will Never Be Able To Forget That”: 45 Of The Worst Things People Heard From Their Parents Its not one thing. Everytime I shared a problem with her, she’ll remember it and then turn it against me. Sometimes even months or years later bring it up in a fight and make it as if I am the problem. Because of this, I have hard time being vulnerable with anyone and sharing anything (except reddit I guess)

EDIT: Wow I wasn’t expecting so many people to relate to this. It was difficult when I was younger. Then as an adult I went to therapy because I don’t want to live a life without any connection with people. It has helped a lot (much better than before) including my relationship with my mom. Now if she or any one does this: 1) I know not to take it to heart and ruminate on it and 2) Remind her that it hurts my feelings. I still do love my mother. But those childhood experiences did affect my adulthood a lot.

Our scars from childhood takes time to heal. I still keep my guard up more so than my friends for example but after getting to know more about someone, I decide if I want to share more.

I hope what I learnt through therapy helps everyone experiencing the same thing. I’m learning to take risks and get hurt in the process. I hope it works for you too 🤗.

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Final score:

30points

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StrangeOne 1 month ago (edited)

I can so relate to that, too. Like, some moms can be jerks but then they treat you very well other times, and are there to support you. But with all that, just the cutting words now and then can overpower the positive. It takes a long time to practice to let it slide off your back and not let the words and tone phase you. Once you can start standing up for yourself you'll feel so much better and those bad moments won't marinate in your head.

9points

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Skogsrået 1 month ago (edited)

Wow, what ahole thing to say to your own kid. Even if they were dumb as a bag of rocks you don't say that, you as their parent should be in their corner and root for them, lift them up not put them down.

14points

#45

My dad once told me that he loved me, but he really didn't like me. I was a teen with very low self esteem. Way to bolster my confidence dad.

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Nicola Mawson 1 month ago

There are times I really don't like my teenager. I will always love her

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

"We only adopted you because I didn't want Melanie [older sister] to be an only child." - "Your biological mother is a druggie junkie alcoholic and you're going to end up JUST LIKE HER." - "You should be GRATEFUL I adopted you." - "You're gutter scum, just like your biological mother." And then all of the violence and beatings and getting knifed! Thanks, Mom!

24points

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 month ago

My God. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that. You are worthy of love, but she was not worthy of you.

12points

Tele Avision 1 month ago (edited)

When my Father left my Mom, he told me I could visit him twice a year on Daylight Savings. He than moved to Arizona.

3points

SkippityBoppityBoo 1 month ago

My adoptive mother used to say, more or less, the same thing to me. "You're going to die at an early age just like your parents!"... I was 9.

3points

LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

Skip, I'm so sorry. ::HUGS:: I heard similar things from a young age as well (I think my mom started in with the crud I mentioned when I was 7, which is when I accidentally found out I was adopted) and it's so incredibly... destructive. It's like strong acid thrown onto the foundations of childhood/personhood at the most crucial time of our identity development. It eats away at our pillars even as we're forming them. I hope you are doing better now and that you've found a peace similar to mine: "Thank FÚCK I am not actually GENETICALLY related to this bítch!" It's a cold, lonely peace, but it's a species of peace. <3 to you, my fellow adopted sibling.

5points

_-DungeonKeeper-_ 1 month ago

The longer I'm on BP, the more I learn about you that I wish never happened to anyone. I'm so sorry about everything you go through and hope you have an amazing life now Lakota :)

2points

Guess Undheit 1 month ago (edited)

There were plenty of abusive thinks I endured, several of those listed are familiar. But the one that didn't hurt me is the one that showed the narcs for what they were. "Well go to hell because of you!!!" (the cult telling them if children - atheist me - don't belong to the cult, the "parents" go to hell). It was ALWAYS about them, what they wanted. My concerns, needs, wants, ambitions didn't matter, I was there to serve THEM. And that's without mentioning the violence. [ .................. ] I cut them off permanently over 20 years ago, not a word to them until they croaked. I'll bet they called themselves "victims" because I chose silence and non-contact.

10points

Captive 1 month ago

Wow really messed up things. So sorry for everyone

6points

LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

::hugs:: The empathy and sympathy that you, an "internet stranger" (so to speak) shows for these children/people is way more than most of them received from their actual parents. As an adopted child who went through some... stuff (see my comment on this article for a summary, lol) I can say... thank you. I appreciate it more than I can say with words. It sounds silly to type out, but for someone who took decades of hate and loathing from my mother (my dad was an awesome dad, but he was a weak person and didn't stop my mom... in fact, she verbally AND physically abused him as well) - it really actually means a lot to feel the very basic human empathy and sympathy from someone. Thank you. <3

6points

Seedy Vine 1 month ago

My sister told me that she was SA'd back in high school. When I relayed this info to our mother, she said, "Well, that was years ago. She should be over it by now." And that's why my mom is rotting in Hell.

3points

Nimitz 1 month ago

"Don't come home." When I was 17 my mom and her husband lived 45 minutes out of town. I hated them and their psycho religious c**p. It was 22C below outside, on December 17. I went into town with them to go to school. They said that as I was getting out of the car. "Find somewhere else to stay because you're not welcome in our house any more." I was a sad kid with severe depression/anxiety/ADHD/PTSD and they made everything so, so much worse...

3points

Nimitz 1 month ago

I did have a chance to move past it, about 12 years ago they were on hard times. He was a 5'3" dude who reeked of insecurity who was told by God that he would have a fitness equipment empire, in a town of 100k people where the market was already cornered. He had a CDL and could have gotten a high paying job as a truck driver at any time. My mom is virtually unemployable as she doesn't listen and constantly forces her religion on people. She'll just ignore instructions and do what God tells her. Anyway, they were virtually homeless living in an old camper trailer in the middle of winter. They were food insecure and often times cold. I gave them a gift certificate for $500 of groceries and $1000 in cash and told them it's more than they gave me when I was cold and afraid.

3points

Carla Phillips 1 month ago

Here's some good ones from my lovely mother: the electric bill would be lower if you'd keep your fat a*s out of the refrigerator. I wish I had aborted you. You're going to eat through your bariatric surgery and fail. Called my daughter, her granddaughter, an n-word lover. I honestly can't count the number of times she called me fat. She denies any of it happened, even after being told by several other family members.

3points

Doctor Strange 1 month ago

Ooh ooh, I can play! Brought home a report card. Had a few A's, some B's, and three C's. Nothing lower, but three C's. My dad said, and I quote, "Get out of my sight. I don't even want to look at you. You make me sick."

2points

Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin They f**k you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were f****d up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself.

2points

Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Curse BP for the removal of formatting and paragraphs.

2points

ENSJ 1 month ago

Hmm, let's see. Starting puberty, skinny as f**k: "You're getting a fat a*s." When I had my first boyfriend, had intimacy problems and thought that could be related to the sexual abuse from older brother: "You never told us about that" (I did when I was 12, but they brushed it off). A couple years later when his gf had broken up with him (one of the reasons was the history of abuse) they called me up and told me: "Tell that girl it's all a lie or we'll never help you again" (I was living in an unheated house at the time during winter with no kitchen) My mother to my grandmother: "You know, ENSJ is not a pleasant child, unlike her older brother." Multiple times throughout my childhood and youth: "You are so weird, I bet you were swapped at birth. You're not like any of us." On the other hand, also heard the bitter "You're just like your father." "You shouldn't make the same mistakes I did and not have children. Being childfree is best. I wouldn't have children if I could go back."

1point

Jenn Olges 1 month ago (edited)

After the Nth time of showing up at my parents house or at work (I worked with them at the time), bruised and bloodied from my abusive husband. They never said anything. They never did anything. I'd had so many black eyes and busted lips I lost count. There were times I couldn't sit because of how sore I was. I'd finally had enough. My husband wasn't going to change, and my son was now 4 and trying to get between us because he was tired of daddy hurting mommy. I called home, and explained I needed to leave before he k1lled me. My dad's response? You made your bed - lie in it. You're not coming home. Mom didn't stand up to him. I had no where and stayed. My MIL stood good where my father turned his back, and we got out and stayed with her. I never forgave him, and I never will. That was almost 30 years ago. He died within a year of that time. I don't miss him. I never cried for him. I wasn't the only one that made their bed...

1point

Alexandra 1 month ago

Reading this only reinforces my belief that not everyone should have children. Don't ask me how I think that should be organised because it can't. Everyone and anyone has the right to procreate and damn the consequences.

1point

Ellinor 1 month ago (edited)

"You're a vampire, a leech, draining me from my happiness. And if my boyfriend leaves me because of you, I'll never forgive you". I was 7 and when they broke up when I was 14, the first thing I asked was if it was my fault.

1point

Cee Cee 1 month ago

My mother told me God is punishing you that's why your baby dieď. I was 19. She was déad to me for years and when she did finally shuffle off I refused to go to her funeral. Told my sister (golden one) what she'd said. She didn't believe me. Shocked me as her son had died of a very rare neurological disorder and I thought she'd be more understanding. Stupid of me really as she never said she was sorry about the loss of my child. I immediately went nc. That was years ago now.

1point

Rose the Cook 1 month ago

Being treated for nerves at 12 years old due to abuse by both my parents and my half sister my father said, "Nobody would care if you died tomorrow, it is not like you were someone that mattered like a football player or Olympic sportsperson."

1point

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 month ago

Jesus H. Christ

1point

Louisa Spoke 3 days ago

I believe in man’s inhumanity to man and it’s because of my parents and how I suffered at their hands. How I was never innocent but exploited for their benefit. I’m 60 and still fighting to overcome what I endured.

0points

Ionescu Popa 4 days ago (edited)

mine punished me when i talked ugly at 12 yrs old, supported my brother that did it when 4. they told me to love them, then they favored the other one that didn't give a shite. they don't mean the good things they say, these are mere traps in order to select the most perverted one that breaks their advice then putting themselves behind it. they are a nursery, they raise xenomorphs to destroy the universe.

0points

Jostanquecla 6 days ago

One of our dogs bit me when I was six. My parents were discussing whether to put the dog down. My father suggested putting me down instead.

0points

AbandonAllHope 1 week ago (edited)

Your to black to be my kid,! I bet they switched my real baby for you. Get out.. I was 11

0points

Corri Hendrickson 2 weeks ago

"No man will ever love you" " You're so slow you'll die if there's a fire" "Don't cry, it'll upset your mother" "I always wanted more kids but all I got was you" "Write down what it is exactly you want from me" then proceeds to rip up the paper without even looking at it. He'd been making fun of me for something for days before that and I just wanted him to stop.

0points

T. D. 1 month ago

The axe forgets, the tree remembers :(

0points

Stella Johnston 1 month ago

When I 11 I was crying to my mum about how me and my dad don't get on and how mean he is to me and how I wished he wasn't my dad. He overheard, kicked the door open and screamed at a crying 11 girl "Well I wish we hadn't adopted you!"

0points

Bay Bo 1 month ago

I think that there are way too many immature abusive kid adults out there that shouldn't have the privilege of being parents. All I can do is learn from their mistakes and be an awesome you 🥰. U kiddos are all amazing 💕

0points

RainyCityMomma 1 month ago

My mom told me multiple times that she didn't want to have children and dreamt of joining the army. My dad kicked me out of the house 6 months before graduation, telling me "get out of my perfect family, you are ruining it."

0points

Susy Hammond 1 month ago

My mom used to say these two things to me: "Why do you deliberately make yourself so unattractive?" and "You can talk for hours and hours and hours about absolutely nothing." Add to that a constant barrage of you're fat, stupid and ugly from my brother--words can definitely hurt. Mom's dead and I've been NC with my brother for 25 years.

0points

brittany 1 month ago

"you are not allowed to lock the door when you shower. your brother needs to be allowed in so he can make sure you arent touching yourself" and "if you die in childbirth, im taking custody from your boyfriend" (bio mom said this after i had lost a pregnancy which she did not know about and was pregnant with my rainbow baby)

0points

D. Pitbull 1 month ago

Where to start... from Mom: "Never have children it will RUIN your life. WORST mistake" or... "We had your brother because you're such a disappointment. We're stuck with you." various comments about being fat... and that I should be thankful to ANY schlub who 'allows' me to be in a relationship with them, because I'm otherwise unworthy... And it just spread. Spouse just told me that someone on a sports team asked him once "Couldn't you find anything better than her?" and he says now "I'm wondering, he was right. I mean.. I defended you then, but maybe I was wrong" - it just continues.

0points

Lara Verne 1 month ago

My cousin had a rough couple of years. She was in a bad relationship, did d***s, got into debt and stole money from her relatives to pay it off. She also had suicidal thoughts. My grandmother told to me: "I don't understand how her life got so bad, I would expect it from you, not from her." I never did anything that would indicate that I'll get so bad, but I was apparently pre-destined for failure, because grandma liked my cousin better than me. BTw, my cousin do better now.

0points

Schmebulock 1 month ago

Way too many of these posts lack context!

-2points

Amelia Jade 1 month ago

No. They really dont.

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

24points

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 month ago

My God. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that. You are worthy of love, but she was not worthy of you.

12points

Tele Avision 1 month ago (edited)

When my Father left my Mom, he told me I could visit him twice a year on Daylight Savings. He than moved to Arizona.

3points

SkippityBoppityBoo 1 month ago

My adoptive mother used to say, more or less, the same thing to me. "You're going to die at an early age just like your parents!"... I was 9.

3points

LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

5points

_-DungeonKeeper-_ 1 month ago

The longer I'm on BP, the more I learn about you that I wish never happened to anyone. I'm so sorry about everything you go through and hope you have an amazing life now Lakota :)

2points

Guess Undheit 1 month ago (edited)

10points

Captive 1 month ago

Wow really messed up things. So sorry for everyone

6points

LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

6points

Seedy Vine 1 month ago

3points

Nimitz 1 month ago

3points

Nimitz 1 month ago

3points

Carla Phillips 1 month ago

3points

Doctor Strange 1 month ago

2points

Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

2points

Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 1 month ago

Curse BP for the removal of formatting and paragraphs.

2points

ENSJ 1 month ago

1point

Jenn Olges 1 month ago (edited)

1point

Alexandra 1 month ago

1point

Ellinor 1 month ago (edited)

1point

Cee Cee 1 month ago

1point

Rose the Cook 1 month ago

1point

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 month ago

Jesus H. Christ

1point

Louisa Spoke 3 days ago

0points

Ionescu Popa 4 days ago (edited)

0points

Jostanquecla 6 days ago

One of our dogs bit me when I was six. My parents were discussing whether to put the dog down. My father suggested putting me down instead.

0points

AbandonAllHope 1 week ago (edited)

Your to black to be my kid,! I bet they switched my real baby for you. Get out.. I was 11

0points

Corri Hendrickson 2 weeks ago

0points

T. D. 1 month ago

The axe forgets, the tree remembers :(

0points

Stella Johnston 1 month ago

0points

Bay Bo 1 month ago

0points

RainyCityMomma 1 month ago

0points

Susy Hammond 1 month ago

0points

brittany 1 month ago

0points

D. Pitbull 1 month ago

0points

Lara Verne 1 month ago

0points

Schmebulock 1 month ago

Way too many of these posts lack context!

-2points

Amelia Jade 1 month ago

No. They really dont.

0points