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“The Lack Of Mobility”: 30 People Explain What They Hate The Most About Being Overweight
The World Health Organization reports that, as of 2022, 2.5 billion adults around the globe were overweight. And 890 million adults worldwide were living with obesity. But despite the fact that it’s so common to be plus-sized, fatphobia still seems to be running rampant in many societies.
To start a conversation about this, one woman recently invited fellow overweight individuals to share the worst aspects of being fat on TikTok. The comments were flooded with over a thousand open and honest replies, so we’ve gathered the most popular ones down below. Whether you’re plus-sized or not, we hope you can approach this topic with empathy. And be sure to upvote the responses that hit home for you.
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#1
feeling like ppl have less respect for u as a professional because "u can't even control what ur own body"
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
This is a more general comment: bariatrics surgery works. I had the sleeve and went from 310 to 177! I also no longer ever experience hunger. Medicaid and insurance pays for it because it adds 3-5 years to your life. There are no old fat people.
Namea 4 months ago
My Grandma is 89 and she's fat. Her fat mom was 94 when she passed.
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#2
Being gaslit by medical professionals and being blamed for my weight when it’s not physically possible for me to be eating enough to weigh DOUBLE what I should for my tiny height of 5’2”. It wasn’t until I found a nurse who looked like me in terms of height and build to get the help I needed to start losing weight again once I was put on the right meds. I wasn’t being lazy and overeating. My hormones were so out of whack that my body wasn’t cooperating and I was on the wrong meds. It’s sad how much women esp plus size women are mistreated medically. We are more at risk for neglect.
Malakai 9 months ago
This happened to me for years before I got a proper PCOS diagnosis. I was always overweight as a kid, and it got worse as a teenager, but it was always treated as a personal failing and my fault no matter what I did. Once I got my diagnosis, things finally fell into place, but by then years of depression and self-loathing had taken their toll, and now I'm struggling still to undo all of that. Fighting all of that internalized hatred and having my body fight against me makes it harder, and I wonder a lot that if someone had just listened to me or if I'd been diagnosed sooner how different things could be.
Amy Force 3 months ago
EVERY SINGLE WOMAN in my biological family has thyroid issues... But when I bring that up as a *possibility* of MY being overweight, i am DISMISSED, time and again. "your blood tests were normal, so..." SO F**KING FRUSTRATING! I am doomed to be fat forever b/c NO medical professional will take me seriously. :'(
Jake Bertz 9 months ago
Go watch a few epsiodes of My 600lb life. It's not only 100% possible, but the most likely case in 99% of cases.
#3
It's the first thing people see and judge you before they even know you
Mariotevez 9 months ago
I'd hope a healthcare provider would notice my unhealthy weight issue, as much as my drinking or smoking habits. Healthcare is healthcare, we either believe doctors or we don't...
Load More Replies... Weasel Wise 9 months ago
Yup, like every other single human being on the planet. 🙄 Large people complaining about this as if they don't judge the shìt outta others based on first glance.
#4
not being able to walk long distances, being exhausted after climbing 10 steps, etc... the lack of mobility was so hard
Blue Bunny of Happiness 9 months ago
Can we talk about shoes if you’re overweight? Finding comfortable durable shoes that you can work distances in is ridiculously hard. If you want the to look fashionable as well, you quadruple the problem. Due to the extra weight you wear them out more quickly too.
embi miller 9 months ago
This is a horrible cycle. I need/want to lose weight to be healthier and experience less joint pain, but I don't have the stamina to walk far enough or fast enough to help lose weight.
Sparkle 9 months ago (edited)
I've been there and therabands were my best friend!
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Tobias Reaper 9 months ago
this was the worst for me when i was overweight not being able to walk long distances. It meant not being able to go places i like.
Malakai 9 months ago
This is as useful as telling as telling someone with depression to just smile more.
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it's getting warmer soon and that scares me so much, can't "hide" myself anymore
Mariotevez 9 months ago
You don't have to hide. Love your body, as it is a part of yourself. So long as you are healthy and happy, the world's opinion is still worth less than a cent...
Rianna Lewis 4 months ago
But that’s the whole entire point.. we’re so ashamed of ourselves we don’t even want to show ourselves, let alone show the world where we’ll get ridiculed and bullied and talked about just by our appearances
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my toxic trait is to think that everything would be better if i were skinny
Pink kitty 9 months ago
So much I could say about that statement! If you are fat and have type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol etc you need to be skinnier for your own health. If you want to be skinny because skinny people have the best life and no problems look at people like Ariana Grande who is skinny with health problems (too skinny can be associated with poor nutritional intake, mental health issues, fertility issues etc). It may sound trite, but good personality and good health are the goals to aim for
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
I had the gastric sleeve and went from 310 to 177. Other than my overall health and increased mobility, everything else didn't miraculously get better. My BP stayed EXACTLY the same.
#7
having a condition that isn't visible that causes weight gain but because no one can see it you're just seen as lazy. (pcos)
V 9 months ago
I have mfos, and it causes any weight I gain to be in my abdomen. So when I was fat, not only did I have reproductive problems, I also looked 7 months pregnant and would often have people make comments about how I looked pregnant.
My O My 9 months ago
What is mfos? I can only find metachronus multifocal ostheo sarcoma in the google engine
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My O My 9 months ago
So, I did research. Pcos does not cause weight gain. The prevalence of pcos in overweight women is higher as an insulin resistence and therefor higher insulin blood levels overstimulate the ovaries which can lead to cysts in the ovaries and then pcos
Malakai 9 months ago (edited)
Please sit down and shut up. Weight gain does not cause PCOS, PCOS is HEREDITARY, and it f***s up your hormones among other things your entire life. If you're going to research something, do it proper instead of cherrypicking s**t to fit your narrow views and then spreading misinformation. Sincerely, someone with PCOS and who has talked to multiple doctors about their condition. Even as a child I have always had high belly fat no matter how healthy I was--when puberty hit, it got worse and I went undiagnosed until I was well into my 20s, because I was told over and over by everyone around me that I was fat because I wasn't trying hard enough. The idea that poor eating habits causes PCOS is completely untrue and is not how it works at all.
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Having to make fat jokes about myself to stop other people doing it
Mariotevez 9 months ago
We all have imperfections, depending of the group tone, shoot back at their insecurities,,,
#9
the only clothes that fit and look good are astronomically expensive
Littlemiss 9 months ago
Saw a dress for $500. Seriously who can afford that? It was cheap cotton, you know the seamstress doesn't get paid that much.
Rianna Lewis 4 months ago
Or UGLY!!! Cheap fabric that’s super plain.. there’s nothing like seeing something beautiful on a rack and hoping it comes in your size, so you go wayyyyyy to the back and nope.. there’s nothing biggest size is in like a medium size, it’s because the world doesn’t want to have “fat” people represent their clothing.. because if you’re bigger it’s considered not “ok”
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
When I was 310 and was scheduled for bariatric surgery I bought a Ralph Lauren wardrobe on eBay. His men's clothes go to 5x (I wore a 4x.) As I lost weight I would sell my 4x clothing and buy 2x on eBay.
#10
eating around other people and feeling like you don’t deserve it
Laura Current 9 months ago
this is a big one for me. i REALLY don't like eating in front of people.
Rianna Lewis 4 months ago
Legit had someone tell me “you don’t need to eat that”!! By someone I love so dearly btw..
#11
trying something on that you thought looked too big and it didn’t end up fitting
#12
Taking pictures with friends. I hate seeing myself next to them.
Rianna Lewis 4 months ago
I tend to stand behind someone because I know I’ll have the photo of myself and it’d be all I’d notice if I were to be in front
SirWriteALot 9 months ago
If you do please don't stand off to the side or in the back, take your place with everyone.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
Think yourself lucky to HAVE friends if you're overweight.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
I feel like this comment can be taken in two different ways
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I fear my side profile I don't look at it, I act like I only exist in 2D
Malakai 9 months ago
I feel this. Looking at myself head-on in the mirror just to check my hair bothers me enough, but I've come to tolerate it and tell myself the things I like about myself, like my eyes. But seeing myself from the side? I can't stand the sight of my stomach from the side still.
#14
people treating your friends so much differently than they treat you. it genuinely feels like nobody takes me seriously because my weight is the first thing they see
Tiffany 9 months ago (edited)
People judge you for being thin to. It's honestly both ways. I'm not insensitive to your pain. I was obese growing up (severely ridiculed) and lost it all. I prefer being fit overall as I like to move around with ease. But, ive witnessed judgements, disregard and disrespect being thin from others. Things that baffle me. I had a guy see me as a b***h and all I did was sit there and he wanted to talk with my heavier friend. Even when I went to stand next to her as we were leaving he just gave me a nasty look and shunned me out. Another time I had an employment office lady throw my resume and papers at my face violently saying they couldn't use me. I didn't do anything. I had experience and a letter of recommendation. She was overweight and then flirted with my husband standing next to me who got the job. He didn't even have a high-school diploma. People hate you for being skinny and they hate you for being fat.
Shari Jones 3 months ago
I'll take things that never happened for $500 Alex.
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when i was fat the most sad thing that i thought was when i watched a show and there was the main couple, and then i thought "i will never have that kind of love i'm disgusting, i will never get married, i will never have the first kiss, or child"
Littlemiss 9 months ago
I was that kid. Turned out the only one who hated me was me. Okay so my family convinced me I was disgusting and unlovable, but I discovered that was all lies. I met the love of my life when I least expected it. 12 years still think I got the better end of the deal.
HardBoiledBlonde 9 months ago
Family should love you unconditionally, happy that you found someone who does.
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Tom De Paul 9 months ago
There are chubby-chasers. But you have to give up the dream of eventually losing the weight.
#16
Canceling hang outs bcs I dont want people too see me like that or staring in the mirror in disgust
embi miller 9 months ago
I didn't go to a family member's wedding because I didn't want them to see how fat I've become since Covid lockdown.
#17
Desperately wanting to lose weight but being crippled with fear, about what you will look like afterwards and not wanting people to perceive me while exercising.
Tiffany 9 months ago (edited)
I have exercise equipment inside my tiny apartment. I have a treadmill and a stair stepper. I mostly go swimming in the pool and hot tub. The hot tub is bigger for exercise. I go opening as no one is out. Even a size medium or small I don't enjoy people watching me work out. You have to start somewhere if your unhappy and miserable with yourself. Baby steps work and it takes time. I like walks and bike rides. Lately it's walks. Having a harder time with bike rides now when I used to love them. It's traffic.
KrazyChiMama 9 months ago
Some women go to the gym full make up looking beautiful and come out looking exactly the same way…I am not one of those women…I look like someone dumped a bucked of water over my head I sweat so much…therefore I too prefer to workout at home in my ice cold basement :)
#18
what hurts me the most growing up fat and just being fat is comments made by people I thought genuinely loved me. Like family members etc.. like don’t you love me?? Don’t you think I’m pretty?
Tiffany 9 months ago (edited)
I was obese as a kid with complete neglect. I lost all the weight and became fit and athletic at 21. The family called me disgusting for it. Made up excuses like I was on meth. No, I changed myself for the better including attending trauma therapy. I still deal with the impact of so much ridicule from the past. I had to raise myself and then re raise myself.
Lene 9 months ago
My family would calculate my bmi at gettogethers and tell me I was fat. My bmi was at 25 at the time but I was told it'd be better if it was 24. But my family also got me into the habit of eating popcorn every evening. Looking at pics of me as a kid I was not fat. I was normal.
Emilu 9 months ago
My bestie (who is a gorgeous lady, just happens to be larger than is socially acceptable) says that one of the things that hurts her most is when people say "... but you have such a beautiful face". She absolutely does, but she is also beautiful inside and out. One of those people where you need to pinch yourself to remind yourself she actually likes you back.
Littlemiss 9 months ago
Beached whale, fat pig, disgusting, unlovable, no one will ever want you, no one will love you. My mother put ne on medication I didn't actually need. I went from underweight to huge. She helped poison my entire family against me in yet I was supposedly at fault for my weight gain that she caused.
#19
the world never lets you forget it,even if they don’t have bad intentions,they will mention it
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
Growing up, can't count how many times I heard family friends/relatives say ''She's a nice kid. Shame she's a big girl.''
#20
Not being normal in other peoples eyes. Like my weight is the biggest (no pun intended) factor in deciding who I am as a person
#21
for me it feels like my entire youth and 20s has been wasted. I could've been so much more🙁
#22
walking in any fastfood store and feeling the stares.
quentariel 9 months ago
As someone who worked in several fast food restaurants, the workers really don't judge anyone on their weight. They see a huge amount of different people during their career and weight is about the last thing they notice and their behaviour is much more important. Only instances where I judge anyone (inside my head) is when an overweight parent orders a obnoxiously unhealthy amount of food for their young kid.
#23
My mom who is also fat told me that as a fat person you will feel like you cannot have any other flaws and that is so damn true!
#24
Wishing to become Thinner everytime i See a shooting Star or blowing a dandelion, since i was Like 6
The Queen Of France 9 months ago
I wished I had cancer as a teenager. Because if I was that sick I would be thin.
Tom De Paul 9 months ago
I remember thinking that having a "little" AIDS would help me lose weight!
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Littlemiss 9 months ago
Star light star bright, first star I see tonight. Wish I may, wish I might, have the wish I wish tonight.
UKGrandad 9 months ago
There are far more proactive ways of losing weight than relying on superstitions.
Littlemiss 9 months ago
You know a 6 year old isn't responsible for their upbringing right? That's the adults job, not the child's. Quit being a victim blaming advocate.
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For me it was the constant hyper focus of other people what i put in my shopping cart in a grocery store or what i ate
Pink kitty 9 months ago
Are other people paying for what is in your cart? If yes they can judge, otherwise it's none of their business.
quentariel 9 months ago
I kinda hate our intelligent shopping apps that come with bonus cards. They show weird data like what are my most bought things and everything around them. And my data is hilariously crooked as I work next to one brand of store, which is also cheaper, so I buy everything I can from there. But I commute with bus, so I can't buy any freezer things in winter or any fridge/freezer things in warmer weather. So I buy those from different brand's store next to my apartment. So now one brand thinks I'm a healthy model person and the other thinks I live with frozen pizza and ice cream.
#26
Everytime someone looks at me/ or even laughs in a vicinity near me, I think they are making fun of me or thinking ill of me. It could be anyone and I always think they are thinking im a big monster.
#27
feeling always dirty?? and feeling that I waste nice hygiene products or pricey cosmetics cuz I don't deserve them anyway, cuz they are not meant for me? maybe it's weird idk
Justanotherpanda 9 months ago
No, I feel you, even now, on a more healthy weight I feel like nice things are not meant for me, I do not deserve them.
#28
not having any childhood memories, no pictures taken throughout your childhood and teens. I dont have any pictures of myself from when I was younger.
Blue Bunny of Happiness 9 months ago
I sometimes think that when I die, my family will have next to no photographs of me as I hide whenever I see a camera. Back in the 90’s (when you had to go to a photo booth to get a photo for your work ID), I managed to avoid getting ID made for 6 years as I didn’t want to look at the photo when it was taken. I kept saying I was going to do it and eventually the manager forgot. Not one service user asked to see my ID in all that time…
#29
Just the consistent and constant nagging thought about it. Is my stomach sitting funny in these jeans? Is my back showing below my top? Is my double chin super noticeable? It’s torture
#30
Unsolicited comments about my weight from my dad crush me. I feel like he’ll never accept me or truly love me because of my weight.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
I feel you. Been called a ''fkn fat lazy b*tc*'' by the male parent since I was 14.
#31
Skinny people talking about "how fat they are" right infront of you to bait you into giving them complements. Also being treated less than human
Pink kitty 9 months ago
So what your saying is both 'fat' and 'skinny' people want complements to make them feel better about themselves
#32
Never experienced teenage love.
Debbie Nicholson 9 months ago
All through school, all one of my best friends wanted in life was to get married and to have children. She died in her late 40s, never going on a date, never getting kissed, and obviously never having a child. I think about her often and still feel so very bad for her. We were both overweight, but she was much more than me.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
I'm 44. Haven't had a friend since primary school. Never been to a sleepover or a party, never had a boyfriend, never been on a date.
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does anyone else feel like they can’t be mentally ill as a fat person, it’s so weird to explain but it feels like i have to be skinny to be considered actually mentally ill— not just in an ED way
Wintermute 9 months ago
This one makes a weird kind of sense. Like, pretty people with mental issues have an air of romance and mystery about them, or at least kindle a caring or compassionate vibe. Ugly people are just sloppy and cringey and need to get their s**t together.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
Anyone can have a mental illness. See your doctor for help. If they don't help see someone else. Use internet resources to get help such as Head to Health, Lifeline, Reach Out, Beyond Blue, Kids Help depending on what country you live in
#34
the awkwardness of hugs, i feel so big and awkward, like I'm making them uncomfortable with my size
Firstname Lastname 9 months ago
As a person who hugs people bigger than her, I feel all cuddly like a teddy bear. It's awesome.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
Can't remember the last time I got a hug from a human.
#35
Side profile, feeling, the way others treat you, the way you don’t ever wanna get dressed and Ik this is a common experience but wanting to stay in hoodies, sweats. Pictures of yourself and realizing
#36
"why is everyone else so pretty whilst being fat, when I'm so disgusting looking whilst fat?"
SweetCheesySpaghetti 9 months ago
I had no idea that I wasn't the only one who felt this way. "Why am I the only one who can't look pretty and fat at the same time?!"
#37
It’s never quiet in my head. I’m always watching for someone laughing, staring, judging. I can’t just *be* somewhere because I’m always looking for it
#38
having “friends” who will post the ugliest pictures of you where it’s very obvious you’re the biggest one in the group.
#39
Feeling like i can’t be the “clean girl” i feel so manly? Does this make sense? I just feel like i can’t be normal
#40
not the worst, but bittersweet; being able to love and adore my own features on anyone, as long as it’s not me
#42
being told by my mom that i shouldn’t wear certain things bc my stomach is out.
#43
Honestly? Feeling like a literal bigger target when out and about, especially at night. I am not the ‘norm’ and it draws attention I’d rather not have late at night!
#44
I hate that I keep failing at calorie deficit idk what’s wrong with me
My O My 9 months ago
Nothing wrong per se. Calorie deficit is just f*****g hard, in my opinion the mental part is worst about it
UKGrandad 9 months ago
The mistake that most people make is to try too much too soon. If someone is used to eating 1500 calories over their recommended daily intake and make the decision to diet, they will usually cut out those 1500 extra calories on day one. There may be an initial drop in weight but because their body is used to those extra calories it 'rebels', causing increasingly intense cravings until the dieter can no longer resist and slips back into overeating. That is why crash diets too often fail. It is often easier to gradually reduce intake; cut down by maybe 100 calories for a week or two so the body barely notices the reduction and any cravings are minimal. Once the body gets used to the new intake, lower it again. The actual process of losing weight will take longer but does it really matter how long the journey takes if the destination is worth reaching?
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I hate my (non)jaw, and my double chin. But at the same time i cant change who i am. Thats a struggle
#46
literally avoiding every single mirror in my life to the point where when I do catch my reflection, I see a total stranger
#48
Not being able to find love
#49
Knowing i could be so pretty
#51
never knowing how is to just take less space. to roll up and be a little ball. i imagne it to be more cozy sensory wise. but maybe im just romanticizing what i never got to experience
#54
Being told I’m unhealthy. I actually eat pretty healthy, walk my dog for an hour a day minimum, go to the gym and do a martial art yet I’m still fat
#55
not being able to wear the clothes i want- half because they never look right on me and half because i rarely find cute things in my size
Tobias Reaper 9 months ago
not being able to find my size in a normal clothes shop this was the happiest thing for me when I lost weight the first time I could buy clothes from a regular shop.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
Consider people in award ceremonies. They have money to get clothes custom made and still wear what other people consider to be weird or a poor fitting outfit
#57
Calling myself the most vile things since I was a little girl just so I could prepare myself for what others called me so I wouldn’t be offended by it.
#58
Not even wanting to put on makeup because I have no face structure anymore and nice outfits feel pointless because I have no shape
Pink kitty 9 months ago
A good outfit will detract from what you don't want people to focus on and direct others attention to a positive feature
#59
When people scoot around the topic and it’s SO OBVIOUS that they are trying to avoid any topics abt looks or weight
#60
knowing nobody thinks i’m pretty, feeling ashamed when im out, think everyone is speaking about me, apron tummy that won’t go, weight loss but can’t tell bc of loose skin. it’s hell.
#62
Feeling Like a bird in a Cage. all the other pretty birds flying around you, but you'r stuck there, Nobody can See how pretty you would fly too... soon i'm there too, Just keep going.
#65
feeling like i'm not reaching my full potential, like i could always look better despite how much weight i lose
#67
Knowing people will never say they think youre beautiful. You’re always just “cute” or have a pretty face.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
I have a co-worker who gets upset when I call her cute so I try not to, but cute is an attractive quality to me. (She prefers I call her 'pretty' but that isn't a quality to me nor a word I use much in general)
#68
Hearing my smaller friends talk about how fat they are knowing they are like half my size
Pink kitty 9 months ago
So only 'fat' people are allowed to be unhappy with their appearance? Also your friends can't be comfortable around you and talk about what's bothering them? They should tread on eggshells instead so you won't get upset?
LB 9 months ago
Depends on how they phrase it. Literally saying "I'm so fat" when talking to a person significantly larger than you is mean because you can't interpret that as anything else implying "you're so fat". Saying "I'm unhappy with my appearance/weight" is very different.
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always feeling like i look worse while doing literally everything, always feeling like im huge and like im taking too much space wherever i am and whatever i do
#70
feeling like I'll never be skinny and pretty enough because there's always someone thinner and just feeling disgusting and unlovable
#74
And as someone who laughs all the time I make sure to cover my face.
#76
Feeling intimidated by boys, not being able to dress ‘cozy cute’ just look ragged. Swimsuit
#78
When people give you fake compliments and actually mean no harm but they’ll all of a sudden be nicer and compliment you in a way you know it’s not true and there only saying it cuz they feel like you're insecure, and want to make you feel pretty but you know it’s just to be nice even though they mean no harm, that’s worse than getting fat shamed for some reason
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FC 9 months ago
So sad. My heart breaks for you- society does do this to you, and it isn’t fair. My mother always drilled into me about how overweight people were disgusting. I considered myself lucky that I wasn’t fat, and I’m not now. But I feel that as I got older, and lived, that a person’s weight is not important in determining their worth, and I constantly fight myself and others on s****y snap judgments. I’m sorry. I know that a person’s worth has nothing to do with what they look like. I’m sorry that you have to experience this. I’m sorry that people judge everything about who you are as a person within a second of meeting you. I can’t change society, I’m working on changing myself. Your outside package is not the sum of you. And as someone who has my own outside package burdens, I wish I could share with each and everyone of you that judgment on your weight is b******t, and it doesn’t reflect on you, it reflects on the person who says it.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
I don't know why you were down voted. Your comments are valid. Let me fix that with an upvote 😁
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Deborah B 9 months ago
People ignore that eating is an addiction. Sugar and fat are addicting, modern convenience foods are designed to be addictive, Healthy, low processed food is expensive, takes prep, and requires expertise and equipment. The time cost is high. It's less convenient, and food deserts where there are few "healthy food" options available, are a big problem. Everywhere around you, delicious sugar, ultra-processed carbs, fat and salt are cheap, delicious, convenient, and a comforting escape from the judgement, sadness and anxiety you live with every day. Exercise is expensive, expecially if you are a woman working full time. What are your free options if it's not safe to exercise outside? If your bedsit lacks space for exercise routines that assume you can lie down on the floor and spread your legs and arms without hitting something? If "taking the stairs" means judgement for being slow, sweaty and short of breath. Don't forget, when you're obese, almost all exercise is physically painful.
Daria 9 months ago
I think posts like this are useful in that they quietly help other people understand what another person feels without causing unnecessary drama. My hope is that it helps people be more kind and less judgmental towards others.
Wintermute 9 months ago
Judging from the comments, your hopes are in vain. But it's a nice thought.
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One writer above opined that as long one is healthy and happy the world’s opinion is without value. B******t, but nice try. Here’s the truth: The world's opinion matters a lot when you’re lonely and need a friend. It also matters when the bank manager decides excess weight = no self-control and rejects your loan application, or the interviewer decides fatness = laziness and refuses to hire you. World opinion matters when all a physician sees is too much patient and refuses to consider you might have an underlying illness. A person could be healthy and happy, but that will never stop complete and utter strangers from confronting obese people publicly about their failure to live up to society's standards of appearance.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
You're invisible, while at the same time feeling like you have this flashing neon target on you. Nobody wants to know you or even talk to you. People act like fat is catching. When you're fat you're automatically slow, dense, lazy, smelly, unclean and spend all day eating. You MUST have diabetes/blood pressure/cholesterol etc; you can't /possibly/ be healthy if you're fat. Society demands you lose weight, but god forbid you do anything physical in public.
Wintermute 9 months ago
Cue the internet experts who've found one last rat hole of hate that they can hide in to pretend that they're better than other people. Sorry, overweight people, it'll pass when hating fat hate becomes passe and they move on to their next target. Hang in there.
Earonn - 9 months ago
Imagine if we talked like this about other illnesses. "Cancer? Oh, you smoked or ate the wrong thing". Making it a "fact of life" that overweight just comes from 'not being disciplined enough' was THE great gift to every bully and twat who wants to feel better by putting others down instead of doing something good themselves. And doctors know better, the data is there, but they either don't speak out or just say "overweight is a strain on health costs", yeah, so were aspiratory illnesses before we cleaned up the air. I dare everyone who tells others "just to eat less" to themselves "just to talk less to others about their weight". But nobody tells bullies to have some self-discipline. Because, it seems, society needs scapegoats.
SleepyVampire 9 months ago
This so so sad and depressing and not universal for plus sized people. I've been plump my entire life, plumper now that I'm 47 and have had four big fat babies, and I can't say I relate to any of this. I've never had issues dating, I had my share of boyfriends throughout my teens and early 20s, I got married at 25 wearing a size 18 wedding dress and I looked BEAUTIFUL. Even the parts about how people treat you. I'm always meeting the loveliest people when I'm out and about. I wonder if a lot of how society treats plus sized people has more to do with their attitude and impression they give than with how they look.
Malakai 9 months ago
It is 100% looks. I've always been a very quiet, very gentle person, and I've been bullied repeatedly for my weight and endured snide, s****y comments from my family my whole life. I'm happy for you that you haven't endured that kind of negativity nor internalized it if you had, but unfortunately just because it wasn't true for you doesn't mean it isn't the norm for anyone else.
Load More Replies... FC 9 months ago
So sad. My heart breaks for you- society does do this to you, and it isn’t fair. My mother always drilled into me about how overweight people were disgusting. I considered myself lucky that I wasn’t fat, and I’m not now. But I feel that as I got older, and lived, that a person’s weight is not important in determining their worth, and I constantly fight myself and others on s****y snap judgments. I’m sorry. I know that a person’s worth has nothing to do with what they look like. I’m sorry that you have to experience this. I’m sorry that people judge everything about who you are as a person within a second of meeting you. I can’t change society, I’m working on changing myself. Your outside package is not the sum of you. And as someone who has my own outside package burdens, I wish I could share with each and everyone of you that judgment on your weight is b******t, and it doesn’t reflect on you, it reflects on the person who says it.
Pink kitty 9 months ago
I don't know why you were down voted. Your comments are valid. Let me fix that with an upvote 😁
Load More Replies... Deborah B 9 months ago
People ignore that eating is an addiction. Sugar and fat are addicting, modern convenience foods are designed to be addictive, Healthy, low processed food is expensive, takes prep, and requires expertise and equipment. The time cost is high. It's less convenient, and food deserts where there are few "healthy food" options available, are a big problem. Everywhere around you, delicious sugar, ultra-processed carbs, fat and salt are cheap, delicious, convenient, and a comforting escape from the judgement, sadness and anxiety you live with every day. Exercise is expensive, expecially if you are a woman working full time. What are your free options if it's not safe to exercise outside? If your bedsit lacks space for exercise routines that assume you can lie down on the floor and spread your legs and arms without hitting something? If "taking the stairs" means judgement for being slow, sweaty and short of breath. Don't forget, when you're obese, almost all exercise is physically painful.
Daria 9 months ago
I think posts like this are useful in that they quietly help other people understand what another person feels without causing unnecessary drama. My hope is that it helps people be more kind and less judgmental towards others.
Wintermute 9 months ago
Judging from the comments, your hopes are in vain. But it's a nice thought.
Load More Replies... Margaret Shannon 9 months ago
One writer above opined that as long one is healthy and happy the world’s opinion is without value. B******t, but nice try. Here’s the truth: The world's opinion matters a lot when you’re lonely and need a friend. It also matters when the bank manager decides excess weight = no self-control and rejects your loan application, or the interviewer decides fatness = laziness and refuses to hire you. World opinion matters when all a physician sees is too much patient and refuses to consider you might have an underlying illness. A person could be healthy and happy, but that will never stop complete and utter strangers from confronting obese people publicly about their failure to live up to society's standards of appearance.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 9 months ago
You're invisible, while at the same time feeling like you have this flashing neon target on you. Nobody wants to know you or even talk to you. People act like fat is catching. When you're fat you're automatically slow, dense, lazy, smelly, unclean and spend all day eating. You MUST have diabetes/blood pressure/cholesterol etc; you can't /possibly/ be healthy if you're fat. Society demands you lose weight, but god forbid you do anything physical in public.
Wintermute 9 months ago
Cue the internet experts who've found one last rat hole of hate that they can hide in to pretend that they're better than other people. Sorry, overweight people, it'll pass when hating fat hate becomes passe and they move on to their next target. Hang in there.
Earonn - 9 months ago
Imagine if we talked like this about other illnesses. "Cancer? Oh, you smoked or ate the wrong thing". Making it a "fact of life" that overweight just comes from 'not being disciplined enough' was THE great gift to every bully and twat who wants to feel better by putting others down instead of doing something good themselves. And doctors know better, the data is there, but they either don't speak out or just say "overweight is a strain on health costs", yeah, so were aspiratory illnesses before we cleaned up the air. I dare everyone who tells others "just to eat less" to themselves "just to talk less to others about their weight". But nobody tells bullies to have some self-discipline. Because, it seems, society needs scapegoats.
SleepyVampire 9 months ago
This so so sad and depressing and not universal for plus sized people. I've been plump my entire life, plumper now that I'm 47 and have had four big fat babies, and I can't say I relate to any of this. I've never had issues dating, I had my share of boyfriends throughout my teens and early 20s, I got married at 25 wearing a size 18 wedding dress and I looked BEAUTIFUL. Even the parts about how people treat you. I'm always meeting the loveliest people when I'm out and about. I wonder if a lot of how society treats plus sized people has more to do with their attitude and impression they give than with how they look.
Malakai 9 months ago
It is 100% looks. I've always been a very quiet, very gentle person, and I've been bullied repeatedly for my weight and endured snide, s****y comments from my family my whole life. I'm happy for you that you haven't endured that kind of negativity nor internalized it if you had, but unfortunately just because it wasn't true for you doesn't mean it isn't the norm for anyone else.
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