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There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.

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Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

I wish I could upvote this over and over.

556points

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/55fsjc/what_is_the_worst_parenting_trend_to_date/d8afsh8/ Report

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.

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Kimi Tomminello 2 years ago (edited)

This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁

515points

The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.

Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.

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597points

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Laura Edwards 2 years ago

Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.

318points

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.

MissElphie , Allen Taylor Report

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545points

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Fitz_N_Fartz 2 years ago

How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.

316points

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.

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523points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.

142points

But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”

Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.

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GirlFriday 2 years ago

I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!

503points

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Gender reveal parties.

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.

451points

Vetus Vespertilio 2 years ago

I disagree with Tamra. Gender reveal parties are the first most boring social event.

70points

Natalie Kelsey 2 years ago

Your kid will turn 20 and tell you what their gender is anyway. Surprise! 2nd gender reveal party! Mine did, and it wasn't what the ultrasound told us. So having a big party about it when they're a baby is pointless.

41points

isa alves 2 years ago (edited)

baby showers are ok, if the parents call only close people it can be fun, the parents get gifts that will help them with the kid, the people that they invited get food and a good time, but gender reveal parties are extremally boring

27points

Sinkvenice 2 years ago

I completely agree with you. So, SO dull.

21points

Mick Casey 2 years ago

I think baby showers are good because you can support the family.

20points

Cathy Shirley 2 years ago

Yes. Thank you. I'm really so tired of people being so invested in their child's gender that they are willing to injure other's or burn down their neighbors homes.

19points

Lawrencium 2 years ago

When they are not boring, they end up starting forest fires...

19points

Karen Taylor 2 years ago

Oh my god I'm so glad someone else thinks it. I see these as just another excuse to get gifts/money out of people "you've got to buy a gift/give us money for the gender reveal/baby shower/ birth and if you don't I'll make your life hell and show everyone what an awful person you are!"

19points

Miss Cellania 2 years ago (edited)

Right- I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, and I'm the grandma! I will love him or her either way. The only difference it makes is because baby clothing is so totally gendered these days and people want to give gifts or hand-me-downs. We can just tell them when we know.

17points

Bender Bending Rodríguez 2 years ago

Baby shower... and the reception and the wedding ceremony and the bridal/groom shower and the engagement party and the said parent's birthdays and the …. yeah basically I don't like attending s**t.

14points

the Me_greatest 2 years ago

But what if the child turns out to be trans?

10points

Lea S. 2 years ago

I've only ever seen a gender reveal AT a baby shower.

7points

Mykidsartrocks 1 year ago

It is a cash grab. They get gifts at gender reveals and at baby showers. I didn't have either for mine.

2points

Jackie Harrod 1 year ago

Tamra Stiffler, we are definitely on the same page. It makes me cringe just thinking about having to attend either of these events. 🥴

2points

Paula Allison 2 years ago

Yuppers.

2points

Carla Olavarría 2 years ago

Absolutely agree with you,!

2points

pat hayes 2 years ago

my opinion too....

2points

Pattiejn 1 year ago

I agree 💯 but as the grandma I feel obligated to go to reveals and showers. Also birthday parties and watching kids and parents open a s**t ton of presents.

0points

Romy Arena 2 years ago

Maybe the people who attended wanted to know.

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Karen_smile 2 years ago

You know what else works as a gender reveal? Giving Birth!!

34points

Marco Hub-Dub 2 years ago

YES!

5points

Sarah Fitzpatrick 2 years ago

"Wehadababyitsaboy" 😂

2points

Me Gravy 1 year ago

Lolols! I'm wheezing 😂

1point

JensenDK 2 years ago

As a mother of a transgender son, these things makes me giggle. When people say they're expecting a girl, I think 'yeah, that's what you think' 😉

23points

Carmen Robaldo 2 years ago

My girl is not into any of the usual girly stuff. If I wanted a 'girl' I would be very disappointed. Instead I am grateful to have a child who is happy as she is and won't be trying to keep up with societal norms.

8points

D K 2 years ago

When I was pregnant in 2009, all I did was send a “it’s a girl!” text who whoever mattered in our lives.

22points

Marco Hub-Dub 2 years ago (edited)

It’s a great way to immediately force stereotypical gender roles and ideas on a newborn. If it’s a boy, blue and trucks and sports stuff. If it’s a girl, pink and soft and cuddly feminine stuff. Just make sure to be consistent. If your boy likes dolls, shut that down and shame him! If your girl is a tomboy, gently steer her into more gender-specific roles. Cajole her into wearing pink frilly dresses. Offer to take her to a princess makeover if she gives up the tank tops and boots. However, if your son wants the princess makeover, shame him and then find good tough manly role models. Buy him a dirt bike, make him play little league. Once you commit to their gender prior to their birth, it’s important to be consistent. Because it’s your job to remind them their physical sex MUST match their idea of their gender. Don’t give them any sign you’d be disappointed or they may mistake that as you wouldn’t love them otherwise. /sarcasm.

20points

Dee Lee 2 years ago

Right? Aren't we past sexual stereotypes these days? Geesh.... And gender is such a phony construct; let's give it a rest!

5points

A Jones 2 years ago

hear hear!

5points

Ann Hadlow 1 year ago

Ugh I know. I always liked Donald Duck. My grandma went to Disneyland and asked me which character was my fav. I responded Donald Duck. Since he was a male and I was a female that was unacceptable and she brought home Minnie mouse and Tinkerbell because they were for girls. I don't mind Minnie but I detest Tinkerbell. I don't raise my kids this way because of that. Both born male, one likes trucks and Mario, the other likes glitter and crochet. I support both.

1point

Some guy 2 years ago

Thank you! I knew somebody here would say it so much better than I could!

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R 2 years ago

Glad I just found out what /sarcasm means. Maybe other people in your comments haven't.

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Jennifer Christensen 2 years ago

Just to clear up any gender confusion: Woman- adult female human Female- gender which produces eggs or offspring Man- everyone else

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Aliquid 2 years ago

or "genital reveal parties"... as they should be called. You aren't revealing the gender, you are revealing the sex.

16points

Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

EXACTLY! Then again, I guess these people are revealing the gender they intend to enforce on their babies, but that has nothing to do with the actual baby!

3points

Some guy 2 years ago (edited)

You're absolutely right. It's just that people (in the USA at least) are pathologically terrified of the word "sex" -- it just sounds so, you know, SEXUAL! -- so they use "gender" as a euphemism. It's especially absurd to hear pets described by their "gender" instead of their sex, but even that's all too common.

1point

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Aliquid 2 years ago

No it is literally NOT the same thing. Gender and sex are two different words because they have two different meanings. This is a fact, not an opinion. There are all sorts of opinions about the implications of this fact, but it remains a fact.

6points

DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

These are so pointless. I've always thought of this as being a sort of private, intimate thing but now it's for the world to know.

12points

LH25 2 years ago

So much of what I thought should be private has become fodder for social media, at the risk of sounding like a boomer. Staged engagements with family and friends hiding nearby for example. What's next, inviting people to the conception?

11points

iseefractalz 2 years ago

Gender reveal parties are just giving family and friends a glimpse into the myriad of ways, given your personality, character and worldview, in which you are going to RUIN this child. Not if you will, that went out the window the second you had a gender reveal party. No one else cares what it's going to be. Most will continue not caring after it's born. This is a "you" thing.

8points

Morgan Futura 2 years ago (edited)

I'd up this one! Your celebration of baby genitals is disgusting

6points

Mary Jeffries 2 years ago

It’s a sex reveal party. I wish these twits who throw those parties recognized that. The baby won’t know it’s gender for a while yet.

6points

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Marty Sunderland 2 years ago

These are just idiotic. I miss the days when you used to find out baby's gender when it was born!

5points

Dee Lee 2 years ago

The baby's sex was revealed at birth, not its gender. Gender is a socially constructed stereotype regarding how one should act depending on your sex.

5points

Frankenfrog 2 years ago

*genitalia reveal

4points

royal_antelope 2 years ago

at least it should be called a "sex reveal party".

4points

Ruth Hempsey 2 years ago

All these different parties for occasions are multiplying like flies. All they do is make people spend money. I have a family member who worked in retail for many years and absolutely refuses to acknowledge their own birthdays because they saw how the stores fill up with disposable rubbish for Valentine's day, Halloween, showers for every possible reason to get stuff from friends and family etc. It's like destination weddings. A whole industry making money that people can't afford just for some bragging photos. Makes a person very cynical.

4points

Cheyenne 2 years ago

Nobody gives a damn about the gender of the expected baby except the expectant parents and maybe the expectant grandparents.

4points

Dee Lee 2 years ago (edited)

They probably care more about the gender presentation than the actual sex, lol!

4points

Callie Ge 2 years ago

Such B******t, post the ultrasound picture on the fridge like all the other normal people

4points

Pam Campbell 2 years ago

Hate these! Who cares??

4points

Lara Verne 2 years ago

"Gender reveal" parties are just weird, even without causing fire.

4points

Liu Woods 2 years ago

I read something about how the first woman to do a gender reveal party lives in fear of what she’s created

4points

Marco Hub-Dub 2 years ago

I wonder if her child came out or presents as transgender. If so, I hope she has a gender re-reveal party!

3points

Martha Juliene 2 years ago

The epitome of self-centered. I didn't get to know what my kids were going to be in advance. Sometimes, if you want to know the truth, I was too tired to care. I sure as heck don't want to know what gender your kids are going to be. Anyway, I thought there was no such thing as a fixed gender.

3points

M. 2 years ago

Yeah, you don't know a kid's gender until they TELL YOU.

3points

Melissa S. 2 years ago

The most annoying part is the incorrect use of “gender” instead of “sex.”

3points

Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

Yes, yes, yes! A million times YES!

2points

MammaG 2 years ago

They need to stop calling them gender reveals. They’re biological sex/genital reveals, not gender. And WHY DOES IT MATTER? Stop treating boys and girls differently. They are babies, FFS.

3points

bill marsano 2 years ago

These people are WAY too interested in themselves.

3points

Mermaid Elle-Jaye 2 years ago (edited)

At parties I do for kids we try to teach - NO MORE BALLOONS PLEASE ❤️ 🐢 🐟. I have a small joke for under 10s where I cough and a used balloon comes out, cos I had dinner with turtle friends and all we found were colourful hard to eat jelly fish, and they explain what a balloon is to me 😂 so cute, but seriously please NO MORE BALLOONS I feel like gender reveals added another reason for adding to balloon pollution

3points

Sarah Spencer 2 years ago

Just obsession with your kids gender at all! You have a gorgeous baby on the way. Bloody great! Congratulations! But let's not get over excited about what gender they are, or obsess over having just the right pink or blue baby nonsense and toys and clothes and whatever - why do we still feel the need to make such a big deal and treat different genders differently? Aren't we past that yet?

3points

Bored Phoenix (he/they) 2 years ago

as a trans guy, i hate them. no one cares what genitals your child has. at the very least do it with like a cake or for gods sakes use biodegradable glitter and NO FIREWORKS! even better, don't use pink or blue - just say you're having a boy/girl

2points

Pidge W 2 years ago

Imagine having a huge gender reveal party only for your kid to be trans.

2points

lib 2 years ago

honestly it shouldn’t matter to you if the baby is a boy or girl at birth because that could change. be happy/wish for a healthy child!

2points

Nay Wilson 2 years ago

i watched a gender reveal video a few days ago. 20 odd people in a garden each biting into a cupcake trying to find the colour at the centre. surprise surprise it was the last person who had the coloured cupcake. it was so dull

2points

Key Lime 2 years ago

As the parent of a Trans Man, I can tell you that Gender Reveals can happen at any time.

2points

Beachbum 2 years ago

Yes! I was so hoping this would be on this list!!! I freaking hate these things!!

2points

Diane Patrick 2 years ago

Hey, parents-to-be we don’t care what gender your baby is.

2points

Stephanie Goadsby 2 years ago

The first time I heard the term gender reveal party was a story on the radio. I just assumed it was some kind of celebration about a person revealing that they decided they were going to go through the process of becoming the other gender. It was only after listening to the full story that the reality dawned on me. Woke times or what?

2points

Wendy 2 years ago

Should be #1

2points

Lene 2 years ago

I never understood gender reveal parties.... in my country (Denmark) ppl just ask you if you know the sex yet (if you are expecting...)and you just answer that question. It doesn't need to be a party. It can be a yes/no-answer. Also, baby showers.... what is that? There are sooooo many other opportunities for getting presents for mom and baby. In my family, the grandparents have given our kids a little present when they met them the first time. And then again at the name giving-ceremony. And then again at birthdays and Christmas. I just do not get it. At all.

2points

Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

"Gender" (really genitalia) reveal parties are just ridiculous & there's no logical reason for them. The baby shower exists to help give first-time parents things they'll use to care for the child (diapers, clothes, bath & feeding essentials, with larger gifts like high-chairs and car seats typically coming from close family). We don't have a baby-naming ceremony, but people usually bring a small gift when they first meet the child. After that, it's like you said, grandparents give gifts to the children at birthdays and Christmas.

3points

Jose Carlo 2 years ago

Gender reveal gotta one of the most stupid things on EArth!

2points

Dutchman Callypso 2 years ago (edited)

Millions of kids are born every day, yet so many couples act like they're the first one to ever have babies and making it everyone else's problem... get over yourself, will you? Tell your closest family and friends, literally nobody else cares...

2points

Amy Taylor 2 years ago

UGHHHHHHHH just why???

2points

mary norton 1 year ago

What’s so wrong with gender reveal parties 🎉???

1point

Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

When did this even become a thing? It's bonkers. Just another way for parents to be to gouge their friends for more gives. A couple in S. America died a waterfall and contaminate a river that served an entire village. A "custom" which should be shot down right now.

1point

whalien 1 year ago

YES I HATE THIS. WTF are we supposed to say to "but I spent $x000 on your party how are you gonna pay that back if youre trans"??? I never asked for the party its ridiculous

1point

Jozie de Roo 1 year ago

The cakes looks tasty!

1point

Martha B. 2 years ago (edited)

They aren’t gender reveal parties, they are genital reveal parties. Gender cannot be determined by looking at sex characteristics. People come to their own understanding of who they are and while gender and genitals usually correspond, that’s not always true and a person might not know that until they are far into adulthood or might know as a toddler.

1point

Lion Whackett 2 years ago

I am old enough to have missed the whole gender reveal party thing with my friends. Thank God.

1point

Julianne M 2 years ago

YES. THAT SHOULD BE DURING THE DAMN BABY SHOWER

1point

Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

Or just a phone call or text, really.

0points

Amanda Evers 2 years ago

I disagree with this one. It’s important to the parents-to-be, and if they’re important to me, then so is this. It’s like 2 hours out of your whole life. But if that’s too much to ask for, then just don’t go.

1point

Lauren Kallas 2 years ago

Like who do this people think they are that everyone cares?! I dk I feel like it it’s all so phony & im beyond over these staged “life moments”..

1point

Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

It's attention-seeking on the parents behalf and promotes detrimental ideas of enforcing gender on babies who haven't even been born yet.

3points

Stephen Hutchison 2 years ago

Especially obnoxious if the kid's one of the one in about a thousand who doesn't have normally developed male or female genitalia at birth, and even worse if they have something different that doesn't need surgery to support them surviving.

1point

Pete from Cali. USA 2 years ago

A couple I knew were having their first child. I think I attended three or four different types of parties, each time giving a gift. I was so over the birth of their first born before I even saw the child for the first time.

1point

Scipio Africanus 2 years ago

I don’t have a problem with them if they’re not destructive

1point

Candace Walden 2 years ago (edited)

I'm fine with gender reveals, just don't do anything stupid to reveal the gender. And don't always expect a gift. If I bring a gift to the gender reveal, don't expect a gift at the baby shower. JS.

1point

MammaG 2 years ago

They don't know the gender. Only the biological sex.

1point

Laura Brown 2 years ago

Just tell me, "We're having a girl," so I know which yarn to use when I knit a baby blanket...glad you're excited about your kid, but I got other s**t to do.

1point

Apachebathmat 2 years ago

It’s just so silly to do a gender reveal. It’s either a girl or a boy (at birth) and has been for eon’s. Our idiot neighbours did a gender reveal that they were having a boy… after already telling everyone that it was a boy… f**k trumpets

1point

Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

I am not impressed by gender reveal parties, but calling it a parenting trend seems...excessive?

1point

Dianellian 2 years ago

But it is a trend.

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Cheyanne Pavan 2 years ago

It's definitely a trend among new parents-to-be. At first I thought it was something only "idiots on the internet" did, but I've heard about them from people I know and even my cousin had one. I went to hers because I love her, but there are very few people I'd do that for because I think they're absolutely ridiculous.

2points

Aliquid 2 years ago

it wasn't a thing that existed previously, and now it is becoming common (at least in some demographics). That is literally the definition of a trend.

1point

Cindy Brower 1 year ago

We called the people that wanted to know, my parents, my inlaws , my bestie.. gender reveal parties are just an excuse to have a party and bring attention to yourself.

0points

Nezuko_Chan 1 year ago

When my mom was pregnant with my lil sis she didn’t do anything like that she just came into the living room and said to my brother and I “Yay it’s a girl!”

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Hope Cows&Chickens 1 year ago

You want a gender reveal? Get a cake. Dont blow sh¡t up. That's literally how one of the big bad wildfires started in California.

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Tyler Koblitz 1 year ago

I'm requoting everyone else here, and they completely backfire I'd the child turns out to be nonbinary, transgender, or even agender

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Mbfsc63 1 year ago

There are SO few good surprises in life. To me, finding out it's a girl or boy when they come into the world ranks right up there.

0points

Nay Wilson 1 year ago

i heard of a gender reveal that was an aeroplane trailing a banner (i cant remember the gender of the child). the plane crashed and the pilot died. all so thousands of strangers could learn someone somewhere was having a baby. its ridiculous

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Shapree Mallory 1 year ago (edited)

I like how political these questions are. Or opinions are, or comments are. Ppl have always celebrated sex of a child ...now all of a sudden in "this" society it's boring or politically incorrect???! Get the heck outta here! This whole whole world is politically incorrect!

0points

Lori Lewis 1 year ago

I think they're ridiculous. Just tell people for crying out loud

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Maureen Laneski 1 year ago

It's exciting, but mostly just for you. I've been there. I've been the woman who talked only about her baby for the first 6-12 months of his life. But really, there aren't many ppl who are genuinely excited about your kid. They are politely humoring you.

0points

ReginaC 1 year ago

It's a boy or a girl no real surprise!!

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Matt Smith 1 year ago

I think this largely depends on how the reveal is done

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Marie Gauthier 1 year ago

If it’s a baby shower, and we are there to support the excitement of a family that is growing, I go and fully support them and bring an appropriate gift. If it is a gender reveal party with more of the emphasis on revealing the gender and not the fact that a baby is coming to enrich the family, I don’t go. I send diapers and a note apologizing for my non-appearance. Whatever happened to being thrilled about having a baby and not caring what sex it was as long as it was healthy? 🥰

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CC 1 year ago

Why isn't this higher????? No one cares. It's either a boy, a girl. Reveal it at the baby shower. Sheesh.

0points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

I hope this trend WILL NOT catch on here! I‘ve heared of some parents doing it, but not too many yet, thank goodness.

0points

Alison Shanahan 2 years ago

Just wait for the baby to be born. You are taking away all the birth excitement.

0points

L.a. Williams 2 years ago

Yes babies are special but the whole have a party just to find out if it's a boy or girl. Like a pre baby shower.

0points

Generation of softies 2 years ago

People don’t realize that having a baby shower is just you patting your friends on the back, for having unprotected sex. Just saying.😳

0points

Marty Sunderland 2 years ago

One of the magical parts giving birth was finding out whether you had a boy or a girl. So much better than this idiocy.

0points

Sally Barry 2 years ago

No one cares, but any excuse to 'have a party! yay, cake!'. and make fools of themselves.

0points

Jo Sargent 2 years ago

One of life's greatest and last mystery and people are so impatient. Not knowing is the best. You missed out on the greatest reveal party of all.

0points

Svetlana Mitsina 2 years ago

If you don't like gender reveal parties - don't go to them. Parents know that only super close family and friends are excited to find out the gender of the baby. There's nothing wrong with having a party to celebrate whatever the hell i want.

0points

April Dancer 2 years ago

Once upon a time - not that long ago - you had to wait until the baby was born to find out whether it was a boy or girl. And guess what? We all coped.

0points

kai 2 years ago

gender is a social construct sex is assigned at birth and medically there 5 sexes so suck it people who say there are only two

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kai 2 years ago

watch me my baby's gonna wear whatever they want to hell with the color

0points

Pjerrot 2 years ago

🙈🤮

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Ken Van Egdon 2 years ago

Fine for immediate family only.

0points

Fancy that 2 years ago

The boomers didnt crate that. Next. Please.

0points

Poly Amorous 2 years ago

It's doesn't say boomers, though

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Patricia Smith 2 years ago

No it's my opinion too along with millions of other's I'm sure

0points

Fat Harry 2 years ago

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. The most asinine, idiotic "contribution" that the US has ever made to the world.

0points

Anna Gabrielle Borbolla-Menare 2 years ago

Also IQ reveal parties. These idiots who start forest fires shouldn't be allowed to reproduce

0points

Ambry Petersen 2 years ago

Gender reveal parties should be restricted to close family. For my daughter we just went to visit my in laws and popped a little Ballon with colored glitter and my child's name. Then we sat and visited about everything under the moon. I don't mind doing something cute for a gender reveal, but you shouldn't make a Hollywood production out of it.

0points

Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

Gender reveal when I had my kids was the obstetrician saying "it's a boy (or girl)" I miss those days

0points

Heaven Anticipated 2 years ago

Total bore

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Richard Henderson 2 years ago

Especially ones that cause major forest fires.

0points

Matt Kough 2 years ago

On this one, mind your own business

0points

Rebe 2 years ago

This generally only happens in America. The point is as long as you don't have a genetic reason why it's important or two bedrooms and already have children the only important thing is the baby is healthy.

0points

Allyson 2 years ago

Does anyone else have a problem with smash cakes??? What a waste, not to mention, pictures of food smeared all over your children and environment is not cute.

0points

Janet Graham 2 years ago

The worst modern trend! Just let us know so we can pick an appropriate gift. Beyond that, no one really cares the gender.

0points

Gladys Hayes Southerland 2 years ago

Well, it's another reason to have a party & s long as there's nothing dangerous or illegal, l hope everyone has fun. When we go to other ppl's celebrations, it is to celebrate with them. Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's totally boring. It's not always abt how you feel.

0points

Igetsurgical 2 years ago

😂😂👍

0points

Dee Lee 2 years ago

Sex-reveal parties. Gender is a sex-based stereotype.

0points

Adrienne Kushner 2 years ago

A stupid trend! We were asked if we wanted to know the gender of our child and we said no. It was an exciting surprise on our daughter's first day in our family. I wouldn't have had it any other way.

0points

backatya 2 years ago

it's called a baby shower

0points

Jay Weigel 2 years ago

This. Our neighbors across the road had one and set off some kind of explosive that shook the neighborhood. Yikes!

0points

Bee she/her 2 years ago

I went to one when my uncle had one for his son. It was low key but pretty boring for five(maybe) year old me

0points

Maggie Dinzler Shaw 2 years ago

I was against it originally but then, what's the harm if you don't get crazy?

0points

CatGirl 2 years ago

Absolutely - tacky, tacky, tacky

0points

commie pinkofag 2 years ago (edited)

A “gender reveal party” is a kind of pre-pogrom, where soon-to-be parents and their accomplices gather to swill box wine and strategize how they will abuse a child before it’s even born. It’s drafting the blueprint for an environment where a child will compelled to meet its owners’ expectations, by any means necessary. The guests cheer and congratulate the abusers on their mindless, hateful, destructive plan. Friends and family leave with their marching orders: whatever the parents have decided this person must be, make it so. And if that person commits suicide at 15, well… just vote Republican and blame The Gay. Burning a rainbow flag is so much easier than taking responsibility for making your child live in years-long hate crime.

0points

Marc Lauzon 2 years ago (edited)

This is their business. Disliking it is nosey from you, like yelling from your front porch because kids are playing outside, or neighbor is BBQing and it smells at your place. There is tons of "celebrations" I don'T do because I don't care, I don't go hating on them for that.

0points

Jo Firth 2 years ago

Gender reveals should be restricted to a medical practitioner's office. Full stop. And then later in the privacy of the home if a gender is mis-assigned at birth.

0points

Thalia Lovering 2 years ago

Does this happen anywhere else besides the US?

0points

Agent 8433599 2 years ago

I do want a gender reveal party, but something really simple, not those pain in the butt ones that are a menace to society

0points

Phoenix On Fire 2 years ago

No offence but I don't get why some people are so bothered by this. If them having a gender reveal party is not hurting then who cares what they do. If you are not interested, then no one is forcing you to go to they're parties. So how about jjust be happy for them instead of criticising them.

0points

the aftermath is secondary™ 2 years ago (edited)

i mean, it places a lot of weight on childrens’ genitals, and also pressures children and minors to be cisgender. also it’s a total waste of money and time because nothing is gained- if people actually cared, they could ask. // addition: it enforces the pink/blue gender-binary stereotypical colors.

1point

Res Earch 2 years ago

Being excited about the soon-to-be-born baby is NOT the worst thing a parent can do.

0points

Lady of the Mountains 2 years ago

They can by fun if they're not too big, and older siblings should definetky be involved

0points

Ed Smith 2 years ago

Yes, this needs to end. Or at least, muted.

0points

Terilee Bruyere 2 years ago

I think, done small with just close friends and family invited (and NOT posted on social media) they can be fun. It's these huge BS parties that give it a really bad name.

0points

Cin 2 years ago (edited)

We had a very small one, with a balloon that would be popped to reveal the gender. Nothing massive, just a small gathering with a few friends and family. I'll never get why they have to be these massive deals.

0points

Amy Fisher 2 years ago

Why put so much emphasis on the baby’s gender, before the baby is even born? Whatever happened to sending a pregnancy or birth announcement either by snail mail or by email? You can be really creative with those. Save the party for when your kid turns a year old.

0points

Dee Lee 2 years ago

Why put so much emphasis on the baby's sex, before the baby is even born? Gender is just so much socially constructed BS and the very word co-opted by political cultists!

0points

Rachael Sampson 2 years ago

Gender reveals are also stupid for the fact that what if your child ends up being trans?

0points

Jackie Laine 2 years ago

I think gender reveal parties are cute as long as your realistic with like what it is. For my gender reveal I just gathered my husband who didn't know I got the results by myself. So my husband are older son and his parents and I put an outfit in a bag and had my son pull it out to show the gender and then we had cupcakes. But my sister-in-law wanted to throw this giant party and then was pissed off at every single person she invited that couldn't come for whatever reason and like refused to speak to them for a year b Like get over yourself no one cares.

0points

PandaRave 2 years ago

Yes! But I wouldn’t mind some smaller gender reveal parties with some of those cupcakes

0points

Justme 2 years ago

My really young cousin kept referring to her anatomy scan as the “gender scan”. Like all they do is tell you the gender - I sobered her up by reminding her that’s also when they can see any catastrophic anomalies too. Life isn’t a fairy tale.

0points

Don't Look 2 years ago

Yeah, these need to end.

0points

ChimeraBubbles 2 years ago

Ugh, we have to go to one soon. Super excited to have a baby in the family but I just couldn't care less about the gender.

0points

Karina KC 2 years ago

Disagree. Although I've never personally had one, I find them fun and enjoy the get together.

-1point

Jenni Lovsey 2 years ago

Then dont go! nobody wants you there anyway.

-2points

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC

SkeptikalAnus Report

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Iggy 2 years ago

Beauty pageants for kids should be illegal.

730points

So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.

“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.

#10

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers "Boys will be boys".

SunflowerSorrow , Thomas Ricker Report

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451points

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chaotic_charlie (they/he) 2 years ago (edited)

this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)

542points

#11

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."

KnittinAndBitchin Report

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447points

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Hex Gurls 2 years ago

yea cuz unless they’re gonna live in the woods forever away from society they need to know math and how to write

301points

#12

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.

I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.

Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.

DG4z , Allen Taylor Report

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423points

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Iggy 2 years ago

That's not a trend, that's just bad parenting.

341points

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“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.

#13

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.

Final score:

396points

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RandomFrog 2 years ago

A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it

288points

#14

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking youth sports too seriously.

I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.

Scrappy_Larue , KeithJJ Report

Final score:

385points

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Iggy 2 years ago

Those parents need to be banned from attending. They can wait in the car park.

340points

#15

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.

spagyrum Report

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383points

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Jayne Kyra 2 years ago

Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.

189points

Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”

“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”

#16

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Making a kid finish their plate.

SmoSays , Virginia State Parks Report

Final score:

368points

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Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.

392points

#17

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this

tundradutches , Family Handyman Report

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366points

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CV Vir 2 years ago

My kid had diagnosed mental health issues, and would often slam the door repeatedly. In a small house, this can be very loud indeed. Along with therapy, etc, we took the door away for a few months. Had a fabric door curtain for some privacy.

413points

#18

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.

littlepantato Report

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338points

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Bob Belcher 2 years ago

Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.

244points

There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.

“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.

#19

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.

Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.

Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.

A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.

Final score:

326points

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Donna Webber 2 years ago

Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet

262points

#20

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.

mrbios , 14995841 Report

Final score:

317points

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Evelyn Ann 2 years ago

One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".

74points

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#21

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.

Final score:

278points

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SCP-3998 2 years ago

Wild f*****g thought here; TREAT YOUR KIDS EQUALLY REGARDLESS OF WHAT SEX THEY ARE. This s**t damaged me and my siblings so much. The son was the golden child, the girls were all but ignored. This s**t needs to stop

238points

Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.

#22

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.

Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.

HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.

MaddiKate Report

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265points

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2x4b523p 2 years ago

My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??

426points

#23

Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.

sublmnl Report

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261points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.

176points

#24

Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.

Mysandwich44 Report

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258points

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FABULOUS1 2 years ago

I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.

114points

#25

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not dressing your kids like kids.

Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.

nab5the1st Report

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255points

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Jude Fire 2 years ago

Like , when you decide to give your kid a whole makeover with your makeup and then wonder why they dont like the way they look without it.

154points

#26

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.

unknown , Ivonne Lecou Report

Final score:

241points

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Raven Sheridan 2 years ago

If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!

297points

#27

Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.

I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.

OrsoExplorso Report

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241points

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L Melville 2 years ago

Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.

358points

#28

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.

I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.

Look after your f**king kids.

Final score:

230points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

That's not a trend. It's neglectful parenting.

243points

#29

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.

Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.

covok48 , 963797 Report

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229points

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Dagny White 2 years ago

Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.

162points

#30

Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.

brendonlc123 Report

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224points

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whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.

170points

#31

Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.

ScoobyLex Report

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208points

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Jessica Wood 2 years ago

Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?

167points

#32

Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.

MysticalJoy Report

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208points

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Meg G 2 years ago

I don't think punching a kid in the face is a good idea, even if they are being a little s**t. Some of the posts have anger issues.

103points

#33

Weird religious homeschooling.

Paratrooper_19D Report

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Jes 2 years ago

Social skills are not learned through homeschooling. This must be compensated for somehow. It is hard

111points

#34

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.

Prannke Report

Final score:

199points

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Madeleine Flowers 2 years ago

*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.

147points

#35

Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.

Excelgirl200 Report

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192points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.

143points

#36

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.

Final score:

189points

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Stephanie A Mutti 2 years ago

Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice

167points

#37

Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.

I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.

nizza212 Report

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189points

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Random Panda 2 years ago

I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.

234points

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#38

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Unique names.

Final score:

175points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

Youneeke Naighm is what I christened my daughter.

284points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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#39

Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.

Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.

Maskydoo Report

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159points

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MantisGirl15 2 years ago

Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.

213points

#40

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.

wheatfields Report

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158points

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Dianellian 2 years ago

My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.

267points

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#41

Making your kids a social media account that you run. Children don’t need to be exposed to any of that.

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56points

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#42

Not having children wear seat belts & better yet, toddlers weren't in car seats!!

Punky13 Report

Final score:

55points

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Luther von Wolfen 2 years ago

Gen X was raised without seatbelts or bike helmets. That's why there aren't as many of us.

34points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#43

'Enriching' every single moment of your kids' lives. THAT is how you get burned out parents. Throw the little buggers outside with two sticks and rock. And make 'em share the rock!

treemanswife Report

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55points

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propgamer XL 2 years ago

Why not go outside with em and let em find plenty of sticks. You do it with a dog. Why just throw the kids outside? You miss a lot of fun too.

17points

#44

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Everyone is mentioning modern trends, helicopter parents are bad but not nearly the worst.

In the '20s psychologist John Watson said to never hug or kiss your kids, he also was the psychologist behind the "Little Albert" experiment
There was a doctor in the 1700s that said women's brains were too puny to successfully raise children, so men should be in charge of it.

How about giving some morphine for teething troubles or Laudanum (10% opium and 90% alcohol) to your kids to cure whatever you want!

In the '60s a pediatrician wrote that night time feedings would turn your baby into a socialist. He also said that you can start your kids on cereal when they're 2 days old, and by 9 weeks old they'd be eating whatever the parents ate.

There were the cages that hung outside windows in London to give kids some fresh air.

This stuff is all in the last century or so (well not the women's brains are too puny for raising children, but I just thought that was funny). We've made huge advances in infant mortality and children's health, let's not lose sight of that.

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53points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

My mom was told or read from those stupid Dr. Spock books to never tend to a crying baby, pick them up every time because you could somehow "spoil them with love" and that infants like to "cry to trick parents into holding them". I had many, many fights with my mom when my daughter was an infant and I realized why I have always had a bit of resentment and detachment of her. I don't feel much love coming from her.

34points

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#45

Assuming your kid processes everything the same way you do -- and correcting their behaviors that are preference-based and not necessarily "wrong.

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53points

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Hobby Hopper 2 years ago

Or, teaching them "how to be a man" or "how to be a woman". Ugh! How about teaching them to be a decent PERSON?

18points

#46

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not letting them make mistakes. With many people, you can tell them not to do something because ___ all you want, but they will never properly get it until they actually do it and ___ happens. Forbidding your kids from doing anything even remotely risky does more harm than good later on.

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52points

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Luther von Wolfen 2 years ago

With mine, I assess the situation and determine if they are likely to be injured. If the chance of injury is minimal - or if I think they won't get hurt beyond a scrape or bruise - I just let 'em figure it out.

21points

#47

As a former nanny-permissive parenting passed off as gentle parenting. Children need boundaries!

Also I’m a big believer in letting children be bored sometimes; every moment of their day doesn’t need to be structured with activities. Independent play fosters their creativity.

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50points

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James016 2 years ago

We generally let our son do what he wants in that we don't really structure his free time. If he wants to play with his trains, fine. If he wants to draw on his Boogie Board, great - he is getting really good at drawing trains and Snoopy characters. Now that spring is here, he will be out in the garden running around or in the trampoline.

11points

#48

Making your kid do tons of extracurriculars, we all want our kids to succeed in life but they deserve to have a childhood and do things they want!

Talk to your kids, explain when they didn't something wrong rather than just screaming at them.

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48points

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Shawn Brooks 2 years ago

I have friends whose kids do travel sports. It is all encompassing, every free moment is spent getting ready for the next trip. The whole family sufferers.

11points

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#49

Helicopter parents.

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46points

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

My dad is a human parent so I turned out okay. Lol

48points

#50

Using cutesy language/ non- proper terms for body parts, things etc...

I worked in the elementary school system for a while and the amount of cutesy code names parents taught their kids for body parts, especially genitalia was alarming. I understand when kids are young they may not know words for common things (and I'm not taking about kids with learning differences) but your 4th grader choosing to call his penis his "wee-wee" and his mom calls to complain that I'm vulgar when I had to ask him to clarify....parent's need to knock that s**t all the way off.

m100896 Report

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46points

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John Baker 2 years ago

Ask the kid to clarify? Skippy, if you don't know what a "wee-wee" is...

21points

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#51

‘Aesthetic’ parenting. I hate when parents have to make their kids nursery’s, playrooms etc all aesthetically pleasing with cohesive beige colour schemes and all wood effect. These are the same parents that’ll dress their kids like tiny adults, in incredibly expensive outfits that look dull as all hell and aren’t suitable for running around or doing kid stuff.

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44points

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dia patil 2 years ago

where is the harm in this? wanting to make your kid look good isn't a crime. just make sure that if they want to change their aesthetic when they grow older, don't force your version of aesthetic on them.

10points

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#52

Always coddling your kid and act like they can never do anything wrong.

Obviously you shouldn't go overboard with beeing strict, but as a parent it is your job to guide them and equip them with whatever they need to success in life.

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41points

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dia patil 2 years ago

this.

7points

#53

Stranger danger. Taught kids to fear strangers and the man hiding in the bushes. When in reality the danger to kids is usually from the people they know. Uncles, teachers, priests, etc.

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38points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

I have to disagree on this one. Even as an adult, one guy in a car stopped in front of me at an intersection asking me "where do you live?" and drove off. I got so freaked out I took an extra long way home. My region has a lot of sexual predators, and there's always police warnings whenever they're released from jail but still high risk to reoffend. These are strangers to the victims. I'm not disagreeing that predators are often known to the child, but from experience growing up and from raising my own, I've come to know that there is something to stranger danger and it doesn't hurt to teach kids how to protect themselves and be cautious.

33points

#54

Oversharing personal pictures and information about their kids online/on social media. Your child is entitled to privacy as much as anyone else and posting all these photos and details about them online isn't a wise decision for their confidentiality and safety.

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37points

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Lil' Roo 2 years ago

Totally agree. When your kid is older, if they shall decide they want privacy (not be on social media), they don't get that choice because their parents over-shared the kid's life.

14points

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#55

Zero negative reinforcement, and talking out / negotiating every disagreement with the kid. Sometimes the answer is just plain “No.”

I watched my friend spend 15 minutes patiently explaining to her five year old over and over again that she didn’t have any candy for him, and he needed to wait until they got home to where they had candy. None of her explanations satisfied him. He just fake cried harder and harder the more she pleaded with him and explained how sorry she was. I was like why tf are you even saying you’re sorry?? He’s not going to die if he has to wait a few minutes for candy. By the time she finished bargaining with him for 15 min, they could’ve gotten home already. It was so painful.

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37points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

Off to home with a healthy snack and bed. No candy.

18points

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#56

Not letting your kids walk to and back from school. Somehow "freerange" is a trend. In Europe, at least France, it is the norm as it SHOULD be. Then you don't understand why you get irresponsible obese kids in the US. Let them go outside, let them exercise, let them experience.

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36points

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Kimi Tomminello 2 years ago

Car culture in America makes streets very dangerous for people to navigate a adults, let alone children. Where I live in the US out kids are outside from whenever they wake up until sundown still but cities here aren't like that.

54points

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#57

Elf on the shelf.

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34points

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chaotic_charlie (they/he) 2 years ago

how is this bad? it's cute and whimsical :D

7points

#58

Rewarding your kids for EVERYTHING. I'm all for giving your child something special if they got an A+ or something along those lines, but rewarding your child for everyday tasks such as doing homework and eating without complaining is a horrible idea. These are things they should be doing anyways! If my experience as a nanny has taught me anything it's that this trend only spoils your child.

Edit: I'd just like to clear something up. Let's take me for example. Growing up I didn't get rewarded for doing normal day to day things like reading, practicing my instrument, doing homework, setting up the table, eating my dinner....etc. I don't mean to be arrogant but I was a pretty easy child, rarely did I ever complain about doing these things because they were simply expected of me, just like they were expected of my mother as a child and so on (plus I knew there were consequences if I didn't) I didn't have any friends who got little rewards all the time so to me it was normal.

Now, I've taken care of two sets of kids who I believe were spoiled beyond belief because of this system, unless they get a reward they refuse to do anything that is asked of them, I mean ANYTHING. Meanwhile, a few years back I took care of some kids without this reward system and they were an absolute delight. Never had to repeat myself twice, they did what was asked of them. Forgive me if I'm wrong, it could be like some of you are saying, it depends on the kid. I can assure you though, I won't be following this trend anytime soon.

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33points

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Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

It becomes a barter system...I'll do what you ask if you pay me.

17points

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#59

Over coddling and doing everything for your kids instead of giving them some responsibility and letting them fail or struggle a little bit. I think it’s called “lawnmower parenting” and some parents even do these things with their adult children:

1. Calling the teacher every time your kid gets a low grade

2. Helping with homework too much

3. not giving kids any age-appropriate chores

4. Red-shirting your kids

5. Calling your kids employer on their behalf to call in sick

6. Doing everything for your kids like cleaning their room, doing their laundry, picking up after them, calling to make all their appointments, etc

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30points

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Megan Curl 2 years ago

What is Red Shirting?

23points

#60

Sheltering them from music that they don't want them to listen to. like for example, the parent only allows radio Disney. What if the kid who is 8 doesn't like it? That's not fair to the kid to not be allowed to explore and get their own taste. Glad my mom never sheltered

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29points

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Luther von Wolfen 2 years ago

I was at a 3rd grade "dance" once and they played "Gangnam Style". All the kids were just jumping around with cake. It was hilarious.

18points

#61

Gently asking kids to do s**t they have ZERO capacity to do or even understand. Your kid won't move out in front of the store door, and it's not the next customer's fault that they fell down because they were in front of the door. Stop letting your kids run around restaurants like you're renting the f**king place and TEACH THEM TO SIT AND EAT WITH THEIR F**KING FAMILY.

Final score:

28points

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Kevin Felton 2 years ago

This is situational. If you're at a Chuck E Cheese then you should expect to share your dining experience with a bunch of snot faced kids. But if you're at a restaurant that doesn't include a play ground children shouldn't be there until they're old enough to understand basic table manners.

11points

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#62

Letting your child become obese.

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28points

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dia patil 2 years ago

there's a huge difference between "body positivity" and "you are killing yourself by calling your unhealthy habits 'normal'".

24points

#63

Indigo kids. Parents believing that their children have super powers because they are acting like brats. Sure, let's not only tell the bratty kids that they are better than everyone, but let's also put them with the other brats. I'm sure this won't end badly.

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27points

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Hex Gurls 2 years ago

i’ve never heard of this lol

25points

#64

The absolute f**king venom if someone disagrees with your parenting choices. There's no such thing as a simple disagreement any more.

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26points

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L Melville 2 years ago

By the same token though...I may not AGREE with everyone's parenting choices....but unless it's illegal/abusive to the child, it's not really my call.

23points

#65

I hate it when parents let their 6 year old walk their 3 foot tall dog and they can't control it so it goes around licking people everywhere.

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25points

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dia patil 2 years ago

who decided that was a good idea 😭

9points

#66

Using tracking devices on your kids car or phone. Sorry but that's creepy and only [messes] up their ability to trust anyone.

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24points

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Benita Valdez 2 years ago

Yeah there's a difference between invading their privacy and checking up on them because they're not responding or late. As long as it's done respectively then I see no problem with GPS on kids. And some situations may call for checking their phone but as long as you're not doing it just to invade their life without just cause then it can be ok; just cause isn't if they're lying about studying and went to the movies for example

12points

#67

During the harambe mess, a friend of mine told someone that his opinion was irrelevant because he didn't have kids.

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21points

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Megan Curl 2 years ago

Harambe Mess: a 3 yr old fell into Harambe’s (a gorilla) enclosure, and when Harambe started to drag the boy around, Zoo officials had to euthanize the animal. Don’t know what this has to do with not having kids.

17points

#68

I’ve seen videos of parents letting their child’s be free spirits. The child chooses what to eat, when to go to bed, and how much school work to do. One video a child had ice cream for breakfast and was “homeschooled”.

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20points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

It's okay to give your kid choices but don't give them total free-range like they know what's good for them.

17points

#69

The thing the Kennedys did where they lobotomized their daughter without anesthetic is probably up there.

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19points

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Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

Awful, but I don't think it was a trend?

25points

#70

I work at a childcare facility and the parents with younger kids dose their juice and milk with Miralax. Daily. It’s so freaking weird and it’s NO WONDER they’re having issues pooping. They have no idea what it feels like to naturally do it.

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14points

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LagoonaBlueColleen 2 years ago

What is that and why?

8points

#71

Parents being scared of children. Your kid will be a f**kup if you think you need to be their friend. When I was a boy I was showed tough love, but it gave me skills I needed. Stop letting the kids be in control.

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13points

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Candace Walden 2 years ago

I don't know about tough love, it depends on how far it goes. You can have a good relationship with your kid without being their friend. My mom was never my friend. I'm all for tough love if it is not abusive like beating them (I said beating, not spanking), locking them out of the house, depriving them of things they need, not just want.

4points

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#72

That hideous rat tail at the back of toddlers' heads.

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11points

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Madeleine Flowers 2 years ago

You mean a ponytail? When hair gets long enough it's better to have it and have other people call it a hideous rat tail than have long, annoying hair getting in your eyes and face.

5points

#73

The “boy mom” thing. It seems to have started out as a cute meme but now seems to be a cultish parental style rooted in Oedipus complex weirdness that I can’t quite understand and don’t really want to.

mmkaytheniguess Report

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11points

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John Baker 2 years ago

I have no idea what you're talking about.

27points

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Beth S 2 years ago

My takeaway…. If you have kids, you’re doing it wrong. Sincerely, the internet. Trust me most parents worry enough that we are or have messed up our kids. Parenting is a LOT of trial and error as well as hoping you got the balancing act down enough that your kids will be ok adults.

42points

Natália Boanerges 2 years ago

That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.

11points

Brivid 2 years ago

I agree. I was very judgemental when I was younger. I was "never going to let my kids...". But once my daughter was born I realized that even though I can control my actions, you can't control popular culture or other adults and kids that they interact with. It is much harder to raise a kid than it looks. They don't come with instructions. If I knew then what I know now I definitely would have considered not bringing a innocent child into this horrible place.

4points

propgamer XL 2 years ago (edited)

The best sailors stand at the shore. It's just like professional soccer players getting told by the couch potatoes they should run harder.

4points

Josh Gilland 2 years ago

People fail to realize that parenting is largely a new age concept. Before it was try to keep them alive until they can walk on their own and then put them to work.

3points

P.A.B. 1 year ago

It’s the parents who don’t even TRY to do “the balancing” act. Parenting is not a sport or a hobby. It’s a job. Demanding. Full-time. 24/7, 7 days a week. How our kids treat other people is a reflection of how we treat our kids and others around us. Your kids are paying attention, people.

2points

Mary Jeffries 2 years ago

If you wouldn’t go to that person to ask advice, don’t give weight to their criticism. Love that advice.

2points

Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago

I think I did OK, I am still good friends with my kids (old adults :-) Life would be bleak without them.

1point

Kesam 2 years ago

Really well said, Beth S!

1point

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Parenting is hard. Really hard. I have been so incredibly fortunate to be able to be a mom (I have one son), but I know I've made lots of mistakes, and I'm still learning. I think if you're open to learning, love them, keep them safe, support them throughout the ups and downs, teach them to be kind and honest...well that goes a long way. I don't know why I'm blathering on here...I need more coffee.

27points

Frannie Kaplan 2 years ago

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Jasper Cool 2 years ago

There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.

24points

Anna Volkov 2 years ago

Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/

10points

Chloe Price 2 years ago (edited)

I get the ones concerning actual safety but elf on a shelf and unique names? Mind your business lol the elf isn’t hurting anyone and biblical names aren’t popular times change. If they didn’t we’d all still be named Ebenezer and Agnes.

12points

Jasper Cool 2 years ago

Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.

4points

Che 2 years ago

Agnes is actually pretty popular.

0points

leah 2 years ago

I actually love the name Agnes. It was in our top five with both our daughters. We went with other names and named our dachshund Aggie.

0points

Lara M 2 years ago

The parenting trend that's really horrible is that parents (like everyone else) work such insanely long hours that they don't actually have time to parent, and are too exhausted to parent by the time they do finally see their kids. You can't raise functional human beings that way.

10points

Aliquid 2 years ago

My god posts like this drive me crazy. READ THE ASSIGNMENT. I wonder if these people failed all their tests in school as well. To clarify, the assignment was "What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date". Not "name things that bug you about kids". Examples above like "boys will be boys" is NOT a current "trend", it is an age-old mindset, if anything the trend is to STOP putting up with that philosophy. And "kids have no manners these days"?? Really? There are quotes from Socrates saying that close to 2,500 years ago, and every generation since then has complained about "kids these days". Antivaxxers? Yeah, that's a new trend. Helicopter parents? Yeah that's a new trend. But most of these are BS

8points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

I know this may be very unpopular, but I think it's disturbing when parents allow or even encourage underage (ie, under 18) kids to get surgery that will permanently alter their appearance in some way. I saw this happen when I worked in the modeling industry often. 14 year olds getting nose jobs or other plastic surgery.

6points

moonlit muffins 2 years ago

i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over

0points

MonsterMum 2 years ago

Using filters on kids photos when sharing on social media. What is wrong with how your kids look naturally?

6points

whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.

6points

Res Earch 2 years ago

Not bringing something to keep your young child entertained. I know you need to repaint the bedroom, but your 2-year-old doesn't want to sit in a buggy quietly while you stare at samples for three hours. Or sit in a restaurant booth doing nothing while you ignore them. My parents always had books, a small toy, some crayons, something to keep me occupied when I was little, or at the very least they would TALK to me, they would engage me so I wasn't bored and pitching a fit.

5points

Lurleen Beckneywimple 2 years ago

My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.

5points

Mad McQueen 2 years ago

Piercing girls ears as newborns

4points

1.21Gigawatts?! 2 years ago

I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.

3points

Kathleen Hansford 1 year ago (edited)

So much this! My dad (wanker) told me "Only babies cry," and I was always punished for being upset or emotional by him and other adults around me. I still can't handle anger properly because I was never taught how to.

2points

leah 2 years ago (edited)

The year our oldest was born we spent the night at my parent's house on Christmas Eve. She was 6 months old and you'll never guess who kept opening the door, locked even, to make sure that her parents knew what they were doing after 6 months. Forty year old parents, mind you. If you guessed my mother you would be correct. She did that s**t all the time while I was growing up and when I came home from college. She was stifling and I was extremely sheltered. You bet your a*s I knock on our daughters' door. I even wait for an answer when I hear giggling and know they're up to something "naughty." They're 5 and 2 so their naughty is still something we can cover with paint or the dolls stay bald.

2points

Chloe Kosch 2 years ago

My mom won't get the covid vax, bothers the c**p out of me. I'm 14 so not much I can do. A past teacher of ours son's dies right after he got the vaccine. Its the vaccine that caused it. He was very young. I'm not sure if I recall correctly but I think it was a heart attack. He could have led an unhealthy lifestyle. She thinks fake since vaccines like the small pox took years. Its 2022 things are more advanced. I haven't talked to her yet about getting the vaccine. Do you think I should? Byw I have several other vaccine just the covid one.

2points

Chloe Kosch 2 years ago

Follow up my mom is a nurse

2points

Susanne B 2 years ago

This post is not supposed to put down parents for making mistakes, but for not taking responsibility for their childrens life and future

2points

the aftermath is secondary™ 2 years ago

Parents: please don’t invade your kids’ (especially teens’) privacy. It’s seriously detrimental to trust and doesn’t contribute much to the relationship. Unless you’re willing to trade love for personal knowledge, don’t snoop. Just stay out of our stuff. Please.

2points

Wren Hard 2 years ago

My parents should know that me sitting on my bed is not an invitation for them to come in and start forcing me to tell them everything in my life.

2points

Julie M. 2 years ago

I think those goodie bags after a birthday could be gone. What are they for anyway? Is it a reward for attending the birthday? Same with why inviting the whole class when the kid is not even friends with all of them? Dont go over the top. Let the kid choose who to invite, the best friends, go bowling, bake the favorite cake, order pizza, kids are usually easy to please when it comes to their special day.

2points

Nona Wolf 1 year ago

Dear Parents - some girls are just tomboys. Don't freak out and drag us off to a counselor (or doctor, or therapist, or gender program, et...) There is nothing wrong with us - we just like to hunt/fish/play sports/work on cars, et... It's OK. We are not all born to be Disney Princesses.

1point

Oliver Coine 1 year ago

Astounded that they don't have "bully" on this list. Growing up, my folks made it routine to be my bullies because it was fun for them! Get a boyfriend? A crush? Bad grades? Constant teasing and harassment. Then they wonder why I don't visit them after all these years...

1point

D 2 years ago

I hate the counting thing. Once is enough. Why do people bargain with their kids to behave? It takes them 10 minutes to count to 3 and then they resort to bribing tactics. Why?

1point

Ashley Conover 2 years ago

So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.

1point

Portia the Pretty Mess 2 years ago

I was a single mom. I raised 4 kids alone that are now 24-31 years old. They are all educated, mature, responsible and functioning adults. My key was balance. Don’t be lazy, it’s hard work and a full time job but also have your own personal boundaries that they know and understand. A healthy fear of your parents is not a bad thing. It’s strong motivation to do the right thing but not so much that it’s abuse. My kids could tell me anything and often told me more than I wanted to know but we have always had healthy relationships. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Balance, consistency, say no and let them lose occasionally. It builds strong adults.

1point

Azrial Alaria 2 years ago

I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!

1point

Boatswain Bill 1 year ago

Forty people need to get a life.

0points

Black Dragon -RHO- 1 year ago

Screentime, forcing kids to talk to strangers/people, not believing their kids when they think/know they have any kind of disorder/etc, no privacy, abusive parents, I have a whole lot. I know out of experience

0points

Annie Steele 1 year ago

Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!

0points

Stay Off My Lawn 1 year ago (edited)

Also, forcing religion on your kids is a great way to end up with at least one bitter anti-theist adult offspring who make it their life’s mission to let everyone know that you failed as a parent. JS

0points

Dorothy Cloud 2 years ago

Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.

0points

Mari Bryant 2 years ago

How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals

0points

Jennifer Germain 2 years ago

by no means a perfect parent, we try and do our best. Try to teach them to be polite (goes a long way) basics to take care of themselves (cooking, laundry etc) and help when ever I can without doing it for them. So far working out ok :)

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devilicious 2 years ago

Lol. How about keep your nose out of people's business. Parenting is hard. Shut up and stop thinking you're the center of the universe and that you can tell people how to live their lives or how to treat their children. Yes. Some of those are true, without any doubt.. But the rest.. Just mind your own business and stop thinking you're the best parent in the world because you do it differently that the others.

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Patricia Fonda 2 years ago

You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.

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George Whitaker 1 year ago

Love to see a bunch of people who feel entitled to parent other people's children act like the kids are being entitled just for being kids. Kids aren't good at listening, kids don't always remember social rules, that doesn't make them bad kids nor does it make their parents bad parents. While it's frustrating to encounter kids doing frustrating things, you aren't entitled to go off on them or treat them badly simply because they're children and you think it your responsibility to teach them some pedantic lesson.

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Emily 2 years ago

So much “when I have kids I will NEVER…” here.

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.

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MammaG 1 year ago

You don't know what it is, then.

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Raee O_o 2 years ago

What bothers me is all the people trying to tell me COVID vaccines are good for my baby, don't pierce her ears it's wrong, and don't circumcise my son, are the same people voting for young kids to take hormone blockers and cutting healthy breasts of young girls, like gtfoh 2 tiny holes and no flap of skin to worry about cleaning properly your hole life is way better then never being able to breast feed a future child if you decide to detransition in the future cause parents/teachers/doctors pushed it on you when you were young and couldn't fully comprehend what it truly mean to change genders. God forbid my daughter is anything like me and becomes the biggest tomboy, everyone's going to try to turn her into a boy, for something that's completely normal. Smh this world is going downhill fast. And it's so sad people are stuck on this woke agenda I don't mind the LGBTQ+ but don't shove it down our kids throats prek, kindergarten and up don't need to learn about that. Or remembering pronou

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MammaG 1 year ago

We get it, you're a bigot. How embarrassing for you.

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.

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MammaG 1 year ago

Sorry you don't know what it means.

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Glirpy 2 years ago

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Beth S 2 years ago

42points

Natália Boanerges 2 years ago

That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.

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Brivid 2 years ago

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propgamer XL 2 years ago (edited)

The best sailors stand at the shore. It's just like professional soccer players getting told by the couch potatoes they should run harder.

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Josh Gilland 2 years ago

People fail to realize that parenting is largely a new age concept. Before it was try to keep them alive until they can walk on their own and then put them to work.

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P.A.B. 1 year ago

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Mary Jeffries 2 years ago

If you wouldn’t go to that person to ask advice, don’t give weight to their criticism. Love that advice.

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Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago

I think I did OK, I am still good friends with my kids (old adults :-) Life would be bleak without them.

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Kesam 2 years ago

Really well said, Beth S!

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

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Frannie Kaplan 2 years ago

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Jasper Cool 2 years ago

There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.

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Anna Volkov 2 years ago

Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/

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Chloe Price 2 years ago (edited)

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Jasper Cool 2 years ago

Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.

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Che 2 years ago

Agnes is actually pretty popular.

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leah 2 years ago

I actually love the name Agnes. It was in our top five with both our daughters. We went with other names and named our dachshund Aggie.

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Lara M 2 years ago

10points

Aliquid 2 years ago

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Lyone Fein 2 years ago

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moonlit muffins 2 years ago

i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over

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MonsterMum 2 years ago

Using filters on kids photos when sharing on social media. What is wrong with how your kids look naturally?

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whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.

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Res Earch 2 years ago

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Lurleen Beckneywimple 2 years ago

My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.

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Mad McQueen 2 years ago

Piercing girls ears as newborns

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1.21Gigawatts?! 2 years ago

I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.

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Kathleen Hansford 1 year ago (edited)

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leah 2 years ago (edited)

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Chloe Kosch 2 years ago

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Chloe Kosch 2 years ago

Follow up my mom is a nurse

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Susanne B 2 years ago

This post is not supposed to put down parents for making mistakes, but for not taking responsibility for their childrens life and future

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the aftermath is secondary™ 2 years ago

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Wren Hard 2 years ago

My parents should know that me sitting on my bed is not an invitation for them to come in and start forcing me to tell them everything in my life.

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Julie M. 2 years ago

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Nona Wolf 1 year ago

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Oliver Coine 1 year ago

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D 2 years ago

I hate the counting thing. Once is enough. Why do people bargain with their kids to behave? It takes them 10 minutes to count to 3 and then they resort to bribing tactics. Why?

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Ashley Conover 2 years ago

So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.

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Portia the Pretty Mess 2 years ago

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Azrial Alaria 2 years ago

I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!

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Boatswain Bill 1 year ago

Forty people need to get a life.

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Black Dragon -RHO- 1 year ago

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Annie Steele 1 year ago

Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!

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Stay Off My Lawn 1 year ago (edited)

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Dorothy Cloud 2 years ago

Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.

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Mari Bryant 2 years ago

How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals

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Jennifer Germain 2 years ago

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devilicious 2 years ago

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Patricia Fonda 2 years ago

You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.

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George Whitaker 1 year ago

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Emily 2 years ago

So much “when I have kids I will NEVER…” here.

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.

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MammaG 1 year ago

You don't know what it is, then.

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Raee O_o 2 years ago

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MammaG 1 year ago

We get it, you're a bigot. How embarrassing for you.

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.

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MammaG 1 year ago

Sorry you don't know what it means.

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