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45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Leaving American mothers with absolutely no support, no paid parental leave, no decent childcare options, poor postpartum healthcare, and then criticizing them ad nauseam for the choices they are forced to make in the hellscape that is American motherhood.

MusaEnimScale , Carlos Ebert Report

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330points

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Steve Robert 1 year ago

Unfortunately so true. We have become the definition of a third world country.

65points

From day one, moms and dads get bombarded with heaps of advice, usually unasked, about how to raise their children. Wait, scratch that. They get flooded with tips and how-tos even before they can welcome their little bundle of joy into their lives.

While virtually anyone has an opinion on the matter, and many seem to believe that their way is the right way, the topic remains a delicate subject. After all, there are as many parenting tactics as there are parents, and each person comes up with their own child-rearing style, tailor-made to fit the unique relationship between them and their kid.

But even if there’s no universal recipe on how to raise children, it’s easy to see that some of the trends parents choose these days are controversial at best and toxic at worst. So to gain more insight on the topic, we reached out to a lifestyle blogger and a working mom of two energetic girls, Holly Connors. After a decade of working in psychology, Holly is now the author of the acclaimed site Simplify Create Inspire where she helps families make their lives easier.

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread I told my kids quite openly about my punk years and raving years and living in a van doing gig job years, encouraged them to do whatever they liked

and they both rebelled by doing really well at school, not taking loads of drugs (neither of them even drink!) and getting themselves sensible careers.

there's no hope for the youth of today. squares, the lot of 'em

dannydevon , Viktor Forgacs Report

Final score:

292points

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Carol Emory 1 year ago

Next thing you know, they will be wearing sensible shoes and budgeting their money. IDK how we failed them. SMH.

24points

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread The parents that say “real” moms don’t have c sections. That s**t needs to stop.

Opportunity-Horror , c section Report

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262points

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Trigga 1 year ago

Do people say that?

86points

"Parenting is the one area of life in which no one is the expert," Holly told Bored Panda in an email. "Not even the experts have all the answers for what is right or wrong in every scenario. As a result, parents are constantly trying to figure out what works best for their own families and this can lead to strong opinions and disagreements with each other."

One common topic that keeps resurfacing in some form or another is how parents introduce and familiarize their little ones with the digital world. "For example, I know of some parents who have opted against letting their children use social media while others believe they should be allowed access at an early age. In our household, there are a lot of tech limits but some supervised access is a way to ease children into something that will be a big part of their future," Holly said.

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread putting every single damn thing on social media

hoperises8765 , Tatiana Syrikova Report

Final score:

255points

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waddles 1 year ago

honestly people don’t need to know and your kids will be happier

48points

MinervaMedica000 , cottonbro studio Report

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Encouraging transgendering or using alternate pronouns JUST because your child exhibits some behaviors that aren't overwhelming part of either of the gender binary.

It's fine if your daughter or son wants to engage in activities that stereotypically are engaged by the other sex. Tomboys are a thing. Experimentation is normal it's not just a sign of being trans.

Hair cuts, toys, clothes etc. Don't drop knowledge far too advanced into children's heads. Let them come to these conclusion of their own volition. Your child is not an accessory

Final score:

228points

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Fred Twiglett 1 year ago

Yeah, hi, trans person here. 1: "transgendering" is not a word. "Transitioning" is the process of moving from one gender to another. 2: There is no such thing as a parent who pushes their child to transition. The notion that this is common among "libtard" parents is a right wing fantasy. 3: For conservative readers, children have just as strong a sense of themselves as you do. You knew what gender you were as a child. How come you don't accept that they do?

60points

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Parents who won't use "no" with their kids.

TheClayroo , Biova Nakou Report

Final score:

224points

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Susan Bosse 1 year ago

Choosing to not discipline your children is a form of abuse and is doing the kids such a MONUMENTAL disservice. I giggle any time I see these kids giving the parents a horrid title because, honey, you created this.

55points

When it comes to the reasons parents adopt controversial methods to raise their kids, Holly explained some of them may be simply "repeating the cycle from their own upbringing without questioning its effect."

"Others may be trying to micromanage their child's life in order to protect them from making mistakes or experiencing failure similar to their own childhoods, even if that means overly controlling their environment," the creator of Simplify Create Inspire added.

Turns out, people may turn into controlling parents because they simply want what’s best for their kids — in their own minds. "This is usually done in an attempt to protect their children from a place of love, but often it can cause more harm than good as the child attempts to gain their own independence.

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Parents trying to create golden child by enrolling it in thousands of extra activities, something musical, tutoring on STEM subjects from first year of school, some sports activity, etc. To the point where child is basically on doubleshift with school and all extra activities with extremely tight schedule.

Kids are missing out on becoming independent from young age like riding bike around or using public transportation because helicopter mommy drives them from activity to activity all day to met tight schedule, they are robbed out of their childhood and usually create only shallow relationships with people they met during activities but don't have time to expand on them.

Keldonv7 , Budgeron Bach Report

Final score:

208points

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Carol Emory 1 year ago

On the other hand, if your child expresses a passion at an early age, encourage it. No...I don't mean foster little Susie's dream of being a Unicorn when she grows up. But if your kid wants to be a dancer, a chef, a firefighter....find what they will need to make that happen and encourage them.

55points

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread I work as a waitress and I notice some parents allowing their children to do whatever they like in a public place and then not cleaning up after them or apologising… no, it’s not my job to clean your child’s mess, it’s yours - you don’t come to a cafe just so you don’t have to clean up. I am talking food all over the floor, opening up sugar packets and throwing them everywhere, taking clean cutlery setup for patrons who need to use it and throwing it everywhere and leaving it like that… no. Just no.

webofhorrors , Vanna Phon Report

Final score:

199points

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Liv 1 year ago

They should be penalised somehow... One thing is one accident, other is not caring if the kid burns the place to the ground (as long as you have your coffee and don't have to clean afterwards). The client shouldn't be king and we the servants.

45points

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45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Stop comparing your kid with other kids when you are disappointed at them for not achieving *your* expectations

Bon_yaqwq , Tim Mossholder Report

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182points

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Carol Emory 1 year ago

Don't compare them or shame them. Do some research to find out why they are struggling. I had one friend who thought her kid was lazy because the child skipped school and had failing grades. Turned out she had undiagnosed dyslexia. Another kid started getting bad grades out of the blue. At first we thought he was getting bullied until his grandmother notices him squinting at the TV. Turned out he just needed glasses.

10points

"In addition, there are those who think that their parenting style is the only 'right' way to do things and will go to great lengths to defend it. This can be more damaging as it creates tension between family members, in school settings and especially on social media."

However, Holly assured us that there is definitely no single "right" to raise a child. "From cultural differences to the special needs of an individual child, every parent's journey is unique and no two are the same. There may be general principles that parents can follow, but they will still need to be adapted to each individual family's dynamics."

#11

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Parents who are way too involved in their adult children’s lives. Your kid is 23, you don’t need to call his boss to talk about anything unless your kid is dead.

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Final score:

176points

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Headless Roach 1 year ago

However else can I ask the boss to give my baby 30mins longer lunch break today, because I will be bringing him a home cooked meal?

46points

#12

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Disregarding your kids personal physical boundaries for the sake of being ‘polite’. This goes for both parents and any other adult around children. Sorry, if my kid doesn’t want to give you a hug or a kiss on the cheek (or even a high-five for that matter) it ain’t gonna happen. Doesn’t matter who you are to them.

It should never be expected or pushed on a child, period.

Quietly-False , Yan Krukov Report

Final score:

176points

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Kel_how 1 year ago

Yes! I hate physical contact with strangers - it's my body and should therefore be my choice.

42points

GabeNewellExperience , Josh Applegate Report

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45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Never saying sorry to your children. Not really a trend though because this has basically always been like this

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156points

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Lama 1 year ago

I remember once having a big fight with my mom (we used to almost never fight) when I was around 12/13. I hid under my desk in my room, and just a few minutes later my mom 1. Knocked on my door, 2. Asked if she could come in, 3. Apologized for taking her bad mood out on me and 4. Asked if I was okay and wanted to come downstairs to try again. I don't even remember her saying anything particularly bad in that fight, but I will always remember her being human that day. Flawed, but fair and caring. It was the best lesson I could learn at that age. Still miss you mom <3

104points

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"At the end of the day, we can assume that all parents want what is best for their children, even if their method and approach might not always be the most popular or agreed upon. We are individuals with unique views and experiences, so it is important to keep an open mind when discussing different parenting approaches."

#14

Blaming teachers for kid's problems.

Are there some bad teachers? Of course. But blaming the teacher/school when you yourself won't discipline them is refusing to take responsibility for your parenting choices.

Final score:

155points

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Kel_how 1 year ago

Amen! And when we have parent-teacher conferences and nothing changes, definitely don't blame us. Your kid is rarely the angel you imagine.

33points

#15

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Publicly shaming their kids. Often for not doing something they'd never expect another adult to do.

jackfaire , Karolina Grabowska Report

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136points

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waddles 1 year ago

thisssss

16points

#16

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Using the line "let the kids express themselves" when the kids are running around screaming and tearing things up. I'm not saying you have to hit your kids to get them to behave but do something. Stop them yell at them do what you have to do just try to do something to discipline your kids.

InterestingMall8958 , Monstera Report

Final score:

134points

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Helena 1 year ago

There's a big gulf between letting kids run wild, and being a bully.

37points

throwawaywhoopdydoo , Elina Fairytale Report

Among the new questionable trends that emerge in parenting, one usually stands right at the top of the list — parents who become over-involved and hover over every aspect of their child's life. Even though it seems this helps protect the child from hurt, danger, and failure, in fact, it's taking away the opportunity to learn.

According to Holly, kids of all ages benefit from learning how to make decisions for themselves. "Parents can help create an environment where this is possible by encouraging kids to think about their choices and helping them weigh out the pros and cons of each one," she advised.

"When children are given no control over their environment, there is no opportunity to learn from their mistakes in order to build up resilience or problem-solve. This can make it much harder for the child to adapt to the real world when they are older."

#17

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Not just a parenting trick, but the whole "breaking someone down to make them stronger!" thing... That's just f*****g abuse and will 99, 9% of the time NOT WORK and only make people hate you.

Final score:

134points

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waddles 1 year ago

putting pressure on coal gives you a diamond do that to a kid and you’ll get therapy bills

58points

#18

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Destroying their children’s electronics as a punishment.

bison_johnston , Carrrrrlos Report

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129points

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Joybug 1 year ago

Who has the $$$ for this

67points

#19

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread tiktok mommy bloggers.

theres a huge spike of mommy bloggers on tiktok especially who are posting vids of their babies in the bath, in swimsuits, or in their diapers and when people comment like 'uhhhh maybe you should take this down, theres pedophiles online' the moms blow up and accuse everyone of being a pervert by 'sexualizing her baby'. But the moms are yelling at the concerned people! Not the pedophiles! I cant remember the account name but the situation was f*****g horrifying. For some context for non-tiktok users, the amount of shares/saves/bookmarks on posts is public. Also, if youre popular enough, tiktok pays you per view/interaction/save, so a lot of content creators get money from tiktok. On this mommy blog, the vids of her daughter in her swimsuit or in the bath had about 5x as many saves/bookmarks. At first when people pointed this out, mom ignored it. Then she called anyone who mentioned it a pervert. Then she said she cant stop pedophiles from coming to her account so she cant do anything about it. Then people were like 'wait, you agree that pedophiles are watching this?? and you keep making videos?? arent you basically making cp at this point??' and then it was just a whole s**t show from there. Shes still up and running.

i feel like this shouldnt be a controversial take, but if you're profiting off of pedophiles watching your baby in the bath, you learn that thats whats happening, and you continue to make videos of your baby in the bath to make money from pedophiles, congrats-- you have become a child porn peddler.

ghostthingz , George Milton Report

Final score:

126points

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Liv 1 year ago

A dangerous parent. Fame and money is more important than her child's safety.

52points

Gullible-Lobster-590 , Patricia Prudente Report

Unfortunately, high-control parenting can lead to dire consequences like low-self esteem, "as it communicates the idea that the parent does not trust them or believe they can make the right choices," Holly said. "It is much better for a child's development if the parent gives them some autonomy and allows them to explore their options, so long as they remain safe."

Holly argues that the best way to encourage independence in kids is by "setting boundaries, providing structure, and allowing them the room to explore and make decisions on their own. This helps build up their confidence while also giving them the opportunity to learn from their mistakes."

#20

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Shoving tablets in their face instead of doing things with them

Final score:

124points

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The Doom Song 1 year ago

This.... as an ex hospitality worker it made me sad how many parents did this

27points

#21

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Shaming your kids on social media. Like, making them hold a sign that states what they did and putting a picture of it on the internet. And we wonder why the world is full of bullies...

Wonderlust8675309 , Nicole Adams Report

Final score:

111points

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waddles 1 year ago

i agree but why did bp choose that picture for this

43points

StrawberryRhubarbPi Report

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Having worked in early childhood education, there are a lot of parents who focus on academics rather than social emotional skills, self care, and social skills. "Mrs. Parent, that is absolutely wonderful that 4 year old Raighdyn can read at a second grade level and does 25 worksheets every night, but can we discuss the fact that he has panic attacks, sensory issues, hits his class mates and doesn't know how to wipe himself? No? Oh, ok, you'll give him a worksheet to learn about it. Great..."

Seriously, parents need to tell their preschool and kindergarten teachers that play based learning is the most appropriate learning style for EVERY CHILD at that age. It doesn't matter if they are advanced and can do the desk work, they still need to build so many other non-academic skills that will bolster their ability to "student" effectively in the future. I recently resigned from my much loved position in a preschool because the administration was trying to go against the state standards and have us start teaching preschoolers how to read. They moved a more senior teacher out of her room against her will and inserted a more malleable, newer teacher in because she was willing to do what they wanted, and guess what happened? Her class was a NIGHTMARE. Now that class is in Kindergarten and they are having so many behavior issues that they can't even teach.

DOWN WITH WORKSHEETS!

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

Final score:

108points

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Kel_how 1 year ago

Oh God yes! In my district, we're supposed to teach Social Emotional lessons twice a week. After trying a few times, I told our school counselor that many of these kids need one-on-one therapy because their issues go beyond a 20 minute talk about cooperation or respect. Multiple kids are being raised by grandparents or other family members as a result of drugs, alcohol, abuse, or prison. Most are living in poverty and live in dangerous neighborhoods. And some of our ESL population are undocumented and fear deportation. There's no way my Masters in Teaching prepared me to be a social worker and psychotherapist.

39points

At the end of the day, parents today face challenges that require them to keep up with the times and the increased demands of their roles. Holly argues that this whole journey is an ongoing process of learning and adapting to each individual child's needs. "Parents should strive for a balance between loving guidance and allowing their children to make mistakes and grow from them. This will give kids the best chance at becoming independent adults with the skills they need to succeed in life."

"We should also be mindful of our own biases and experiences, as these can influence how we parent and how we react to other parenting methods," Holly continued. "It is important to be open-minded and consider different perspectives before making decisions about how to raise our children."

"If we don't agree with something and it isn't causing any actual harm, just walk away," she concluded.

#23

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread 'Everyone's a winner'. Nope. Just nope.

lhj81 , WVTROUT Report

Final score:

104points

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waddles 1 year ago

why not telling your kids they don’t HAVE to be winners

57points

#24

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Never lettings them fail. I see young people who enter the workforce having never failed at anything, because their parents simply swooped in and fixed whatever problem they may have had.

These young people have a real struggle adapting to and overcoming problems, and they often seem traumatized by virtually any setback.

Let your kids try stuff that isn't going to work. Let them fail to solve problems and achieve goals. When they get into a bind, let them struggle and fail. Help them to understand why they failed, and to develop strategies to succeed in the future.

EarhornJones Report

Final score:

102points

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D. Pitbull 1 year ago

The flipside of this... also don't lead your kids to BELIEVE that they failed when they haven't... then try to justify it as 'keeping your kid humble'. No... no that's called being a jackhole...

37points

#25

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Letting your kid eat whatever they want. Way too many kids hitting obese status by 10.

whiskey_weasel_ , sklei Report

Final score:

92points

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Momma Panda 1 year ago

"You have to clean your plate" mindset does this also.

83points

Lou Cam 1 year ago (edited)

I would say this is more of a problem that letting them eat what they want. I know parents who never allow their kids chocolate or cake or basically any treats but the kids get a near adult sized portion of regular food. The same kids are ferried every where in a car so don't get activity beyond structured sports maybe twice a week. As a result are in the overweight category. I've never restricted what foods my kids can eat for a snack and 95% of the time they choose fruit or bread when hungry between meals. They don't pig out at parties nor stuff themselves at Halloween or Christmas. When they are free to choose chocolate for pudding it's no longer a treat food and doesn't have the same dopamine based reward that can lead to comfort eating. They follow their own bodies hunger and satiety signals instead.

13points

MouseyMouse 1 year ago

Clean your plate is still totally engrained in my brain and I can't break it. I refused to do that to my kids.

8points

Carol Emory 1 year ago

@Momma Panda Thanks for that! My mother did this always. I was so surprised when I went to my friends house...her mother made mac and cheese for us. My friend ate half of her bowl and pushed it away. I said "Aren't you going to finish it?" She said "Nope...I'm full." Her mother took the bowl and told her she was ok to leave the table. I was stunned. Guess who the skinny one is now.

7points

Else Sakshaug 1 year ago

Been there, done that😔😥 That's why children sized plates are a very good thing!

6points

WonderWoman 1 year ago

On the other hand, food waste is criminal.

4points

More! 1 year ago

I’d stuff food into my socks when nana wasn’t looking, then flush it down the toilet or throw it out a window.

0points

Nykky 1 year ago

If your kid wants dessert but haven't finished their plate, just have them finish their veggies. That's the most important thing to have, and it encourages them to eat the healthier stuff

6points

JoJo Anisko 1 year ago

Also: give kids smaller portions with the clear understanding they can go back for more if they're still hungry.

5points

Kate Jones 1 year ago

I'm a fat adult and I agree wholeheartedly. Getting kids into a sedentary lifestyle/bad habits is setting them up for such a hard life. I am a huge advocate for not treating people badly who are overweight, for accepting who you are and I even have an Etsy business called 'Fat|Chic'. But it doesn't mean we can't try an be healthier and show our kids there are ways to be healthy without putting other people down. I think some people don't understand that trying to just accept who you are, not hurt yourself/hate yourself for having a hard time with weight loss or simply being happier heavier, and not put off living your life until you 'lose weight' is different than trying to promote being fat. When I see some 150 pound 9-year-old I get so angry because you're setting them up for a life of struggling to lose weight, adjusting the brain's chemical reward systems to not make it feel like an addiction and being treated as less than human by others.

2points

Raccoon panda 1 year ago

I know this isn’t very relevant, but I think that they’d be more compelled to eat if they were allowed to follow you to the farmers market, and pick out something interesting (long as it’s healthy), or start a vegetable garden with you, or even just help prepare the meal. Kids take pride in their work, and joy in collaboration. Then just use a compost bin for the leftovers, or teach your kid generosity by having them bring them in an extra lunchbox to school for that one kid who can’t afford lunch, or inviting that kid over to eat if the school cracks down on it. Community is very important, you know?

2points

Got Myself 4 Pandas 1 year ago

Not going to lie, my kids have been known to stuff themselves with junk on occasion - my son thinks you get dessert after every meal and argues for one multiple times a day - but they are super active and skinny wee monsters - if I were concerned at all about their weight I would alter their diet to suit to keep them healthy. They also love fruit and veg so changing up a pudding for a tub of fruit wouldn't be a big deal, but I've found that the more you make food a no go the more the obsess over it and will stuff themselves silly once allowed it as a treat

2points

Ches Yamada 1 year ago

Many nutritionists are saying this is BS - you *should* let them eat what they want. Give them options, however, and portion control, but if they want a piece of chocolate with breakfast? Let them. *Not* letting them is what makes the connection in their minds that it's taboo, and therefore special. Letting them make their own choices is surprising... not even kids will eat bad foods 24/7 if given the option.

1point

Poeha 1 year ago

We eat chocolate sprinkles on bread for breakfast. 3.01 https://youtu.be/JGjeaHe7GkY

0points

Xenia Harley 1 year ago

I think not doing much with your kids goes hand in hand with this. I taught, and had to do extra minutes of physical education to meet state guidelines. I walked around the field for ten minutes each day. They were often winded (these were fourth graders, about 9-10 years old)! Only activity they got was in school. I love nature so always hiked with my son. Hard to be fit if you sit and watch TV all day. Many had to stay inside, latchkey kids, both parents working.

1point

Christoph 1 year ago

literally malnourished and obese

0points

Mike Beck 1 year ago

"Clean your plate" should be taught in conjunction with "Don't get so much, you can always get more." My step-daughter now uses smaller plates with smaller portions and gets seconds if she wants more. Her plate is virtually always completely empty without stuffing herself.

0points

robin aldrich 1 year ago

Oh yeah and let's not forget parents who will fix each of their children whatever they want for every meal.. When most of us were growing up if we didn't like it was for supper.. oh well...

0points

JaimeeJames WD 1 year ago

Ah the bliss of not having kids with sensory issues. Wait until your child is so self restricted due to sensory challenges that they need regular hospital trips, haven’t ever made it on to a child growth chart and are facing tube feeding. It was tough as a sole parent to make different meals but my kids both eventually made it on to the growth charts and are much healthier now.

1point

Pieter LeGrande 1 year ago

Let the kids eat what they want. If you don't want them to eat something, don't have it in the house.

0points

Pizzagirl 91 1 year ago

That's easier said than done when some people have a strange idea that sweets are something to gift a child whenever you visit... I've never once bought sweets for my stepdaughter, but she has a whole box of stuff from my grandma-in-law and other well meaning relatives...

1point

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45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Beating your kids till they fear coming home, I was one of those kids and I hated every moment of my childhood.

IRISH-SLAPPER , Kostiantyn Li Report

Final score:

92points

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Rens 1 year ago

To this day, as a grown woman of 50, I still have a panic attack whenever I hear something that sounds like the garage door of my parent's house opening... Knowing that when my stepfather got home I would be punished for something or other. I left home at 17.

54points

#27

Scaring their kids as a prank, regardless of whether it’s filmed or not, before the children can comprehend what a prank even is

“Let me put on this scary monster mask and jump out in front of my toddler”

spwf Report

Final score:

91points

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waddles 1 year ago

and then when your toddler pees their pants you’re gonna reprimand them

31points

#28

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Sharing their childrens' problem to their friends. Parents should be trusted by their kids of keeping their problems. Maybe that's the reason why most kids and even teens dont share their problems to their parents but to their friends

Mr_Prophet_22 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

87points

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Helena 1 year ago

Nothing has embarrassed me as much as my moms coworkers giving me a cake and clapping when I started my period at 13. The woman told everyone everything. I learned to never tell her anything.

43points

#29

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Not being able to discipline your own kids.
Discipline and abuse are two totally different things!
You either correct them now or let the "system" do it for you later.

Cryptangel13 , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

87points

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Else Sakshaug 1 year ago

Please discipline your kids yourself!!! Don't "let the system do it later". Teachers e. g. have MORE THAN ENOUGH to do with teaching x numbers of pupils, where many have different needs, etc and do DEFINITELY NOT have time to bring up children who cannot behave in class because they haven't been disciplined at home.

23points

#30

I’m 17 and my parents don’t allow a closed door.

ICEE-C7 Report

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87points

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Widdershins66 1 year ago

I don't get this practice. What's the parent's logic?

36points

#31

Treating your kids like they’re the center of the world. My son is the center of my world, but I can’t treat him that way. It would be a rude awakening when he’s not the center of attention wherever he goes.

DRuckus22 Report

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83points

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Carol Emory 1 year ago

Agreed.

11points

#32

Hitting them

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79points

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Widdershins66 1 year ago

Yes. This should be way higher.

25points

H3A_V33-wEa_PuNz666 Report

#33

Enforcing religion, teaching kids materialism will make them happy, not looking into the child's mental health

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75points

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phoenix_rising 1 year ago

This should be higher. Don't push religion on your kids, my parents did that to me and I've ended up having trouble with my parents and religion because of it

20points

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#34

Treating your child like they were perfect and blaming everyone else for your child's and your f**k ups.
Oh, and taking your child's side no matter what, even if they're wrong.

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Widdershins66 1 year ago (edited)

Happened to me. Friend believed their two boys over EVERYBODY ELSE including friends, me, school, babysitter, playschool volunteers, shopkeepers, all unsundry... The boys were oh so hard done by. Btw, they were both expelled from their private school (UK). We actually fell out over the boys and I haven't seen or heard from them in 15 years.

15points

#35

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Some gentle parenting techniques go too far. My ex-nephew had a tantrum in the middle of my ex-MIL’s living room one day because his bagel was cut in half (typical toddler stuff). SIL at the time just kept saying in this over the top voice “ohh, I’m so sorry. I know you didn’t want your bagel cut. I know, it’s so hard, blah blah blah.” She just kept on like that to him forever while the rest of us just had to sit there with a screaming toddler melting down in the middle of the room. Remove him! Take him to another room and have him calm the hell down to behave with others. There’s gotta be a balance on supporting your kids through their feelings and teaching them how to function around others.

She also helicoptered him so much he was developmentally behind in motor skills/physically for a while cause she never let him fall or explore/ figure anything out like toddlers do. She treated him like he was made of glass.

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71points

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Laura Ketteridge 1 year ago

That's not 'gentle parenting'. That's being a wimp. gentle parenting is something quite different. It's all about giving your child age appropriate choices, and giving then the tools and techniques to learn to manage emotional outbursts etc. What being described is the antithesis of gentle parenting.

40points

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#36

Homeschooling kids to protect them from what happens in the education system. I don't like everything that happens in schools, but kids need a real education and regular exposure to kids their age.

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68points

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PleasantCrocodile 1 year ago

Homeschooling can be great when done well, as long as the child is enrolled in plenty of extracurriculars and the parents stay on top of things. I was homeschooled since kindergarten and at age 16 got into college, where i was a straight A student. While I agree that some parents can't be trusted with such a huge responsibility and eff it up, it's a little pretentious to say homeschooling is not a "real education."

53points

#37

ALL of them. There is no trend or even broad tactic that will work every kid. They need to know that love is unconditional but respect is not. That they have rights and responsibilities.

They have to know they are the most important thing in the world until they believe, and then you have to dial that back to where they understand that their parents love them but they are one member of a bigger society.

Parenting is hard, and every kid needs to be patented different. Every parenting trend is just one more layer of b******t trying to sell you stuff based on your fear of inadequacy.

Talk to your kids and put the phone down.

Source: ten years in child care.

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Nykky 1 year ago

Thank you. If you're thinking of becoming a parent and aren't ready for a child with psychopathy or autism or for them to be especially sensitive or think they'll be independent at 5, you need to seriously rethink having children right now. You need to be ready for anything, and it's HIGHLY UNLIKELY that your kid will be a mini Einstein. It's very much more likely that your child will have high functioning autism, depression, anxiety, and/or ADHD. If you don't think you're ready for that, you are NOT ready for children.

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#38

Filming or taking pics of crying younger kids and posting it on social media like it's cute/funny. Sure, they may be crying for a silly reason, but they aren't old enough to process their emotions properly, so to them it's a big deal. Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but it feels like their main protector giggling and taking their phone out to film them during a meltdown can't be something good for their emotional well-being and ability to trust in the long term.

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65points

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Tamra 1 year ago

This one really, really bothers me. If your child is emotionally distraught and your first instinct is to record it for later posting, then I feel really, really sorry for your poor kid.

30points

#39

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread No punishments at all. You cannot tune a complex system with positive feedback alone.

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63points

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Else Sakshaug 1 year ago

... just don't hit the kids! Take away one benefit e.g a piece of chocolate to pinpoint your statements.

20points

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#40

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread I used to bicycle long distances regularly to get to friends, swim lessons and when I was old enough, to work.

Now it seems you are a terrible parent if you let your child out of your sight? From the perspective of building independence, confidence and saving the planet from helicopter parents driving their kids everywhere can we please just let kids bicycle again?

Final score:

63points

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Alvia Vseobecna 1 year ago

I understand your point but there are so many weird people around... in all kinds of neighborhoods. Depending on the age of the child there is only so much you can explain and not scare them to death.

26points

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#41

The lines between gentle parenting and permissive parenting are getting blurred.

I 100% believe children should have their feelings validated and be spoken to like actual human-beings. I abhor corporal punishment and feel that it is lazy and abusive. However, it is not good to have the pendulum swing too far the other direction. Too many parents make the decision to never say “no,” and withhold any form of discipline. Their kids grow into spoiled, demonic, terroristic little shits and believe the entire world should bend to their will.

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59points

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Laura Ketteridge 1 year ago

That is not gentle parenting.

15points

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#42

Kids/babies in dating app photos. I think there should be a rule against it no minors. Mind boggling how many guys have them on there.

Final score:

59points

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B B 1 year ago (edited)

Because they like to use their children as little trophies of their nuts working but forget to add they don't pay or help out with the children

19points

#43

“Cry it out”. I think it’s cruel and didn’t do it with either of my kids. If my baby is crying it needs me, it’s natural instinct

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53points

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Philler Space 1 year ago

Kids who don't cry are the ones who know they get ignored or punished for it. It's actually often a pretty reliable indicator of abuse. Instinctively, crying is asking for help; amongst the Five Fs (fight, flight, friend, flee, flop) it is the act referred to as Friend. Even crying in frustration or railing against God imply a mindset that believes in basic justice and support. Obviously once in a while a kid is going to be overwhelmed or just need a good cry, but consistently Ignoring or abusing it only teaches a child to be a bad friend and/or that you are one.

21points

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#44

Instagram for fetuses and babies, keep your children away from that kind of exposure

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45points

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Astor.exe 1 year ago

yea. my cousins child (8) use tiktok and insta and stuff like that daily. im 13 and i hate those apps

17points

#45

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Blaming the phone for any sort of pain

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41points

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waddles 1 year ago

“OH MY GOD I’M HAVING CHEST PAINS I THINK I’M HAVING A HEART ATTACK” “it’s because you’re on that damn phone too much”

33points

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#46

Unschooling. Intentionally not educating your kids academia items.

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Momma Panda 1 year ago

How is this even legal?

8points

#47

No rules, no saying no. It creates entitled and spoiled kids who have complete meltdowns well past meltdown age. Plus it leads to a much harder adulthood when the world doesn't give them everything they want to shut them up.

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25points

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phoenix_rising 1 year ago

My youngest sister is a prime example of this.

0points

#48

45 Modern Parenting "Trends" That People Just Can’t Stand, As Shared In This Online Thread Actions have no consequences. If they do wrong, discipline them!

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24points

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Stephanie Did It 1 year ago

Most people equate discipline with punishment, but the true meaning and purpose of discipline is to teach. Explain, reason, teach them to think and make good decisions, and that there are consequences to every type of behavior.

8points

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#49

Completely ignoring your kid when they're acting up in public and letting them p**s everyone else off.

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#50

Pushing kids to go a certain way in life vs. what would best suit their child(ren).
Parents will not be living the lives of their children.

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22points

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#51

Attachment parenting. You know, those weird a*s mother who let their kids breastfeed until they the kid decides to stop, often times ending up with 5+ year olds sucking on their tits every day.

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22points

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Horst 1 year ago

OMFG YES. My mother was so afraid I’d slip in the bath and drown myself that I didn’t learn to shower BY MYSELF until I was 10! And it was my SISTER who taught me!

3points

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#52

Banning books.

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22points

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MarcyParlomerNerdGirlsRock 1 year ago (edited)

Whaaaaaaa??? Why the hell…

6points

#53

Kicking them out at 18

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21points

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Carol Emory 1 year ago

Not every kid is prepared to walk out the door at 18. Give them time to adjust to adulthood.

6points

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#54

amber jewelry

spraying whip cream in the mouths of kids in the middle of temper tantrums

misspelling common names and complicating others:. Ambyr, Brodyn, Charliquann, Trishtan, Kaylaie, Merriaya, Kaytlyn, Dominique

using electronics as a baby sitter.

If you aren't with the kid while he is using the 'educational software for genius 2 year olds' then it is basically a babysitter

Multiple first names (brandyn Mark, Billey Dominiques

unvaccinated kids but then bitching about it when they can't enter public and education services

abortion bans

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18points

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Pandalea 1 year ago

Dominique is a perfectly legit name here in France. One of the very few suitable either for à boy or a girl.

19points

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#55

Just anything that involves vocal and physical aggression. Makes me sick

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#56

Telling kids they can be anything they want.

Your 5’6” kid at 17 will not be drafted for the NBA.

Your kid made a C in bio 1 and had to retake chem 1 twice, they’re not going to get into medical school.

Your kid plays video games all day, have mountains of soda cans piled up in his room, and wears the same shirt 3 days in a row. They’re not going to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company.

Final score:

18points

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waddles 1 year ago

imagine how 5 year-old me felt when i was told i could never be a lobster-corn

16points

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#57

Leaving them to scream themselves to sleep.

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17points

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Niki A 1 year ago

I don't understand the whole leaving a baby alone in a room with a closed door.

0points

#58

Looking through the comments I now realize that this is actually a bad parenting trend and I never knew.

My parents are unnecessarily hard and strict on me, especially in school. For example, me report card came in recently and they were microanalysing everything. I asked my teachers if my grades were good and they said that my grades were actually way above average and some slightly lower grades are expected (we use the 1-2-3 system), but my parents yelled at me and punished me because my grades weren’t perfect (all 3’s and 4’s [4’s are basically extra credit])

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16points

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Benski Trenkins 1 year ago

Sorry to hear that. With such a good overall score I woud entourage YouTube to explore the things YouTube excel at to see if you enjoy those fields to pursue a carreer in it. Key words Explore and Encourage.

3points

#59

Unrestricted screen time. Even worse is unrestricted internet access. There is a 7 year old on our street with their own iPhone. I can’t imagine the s**t that kid must encounter.

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16points

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James016 1 year ago

My 7 year old has an iPhone but it is locked down completely. I think only the BBC Bitesize website is in the allow list for the browser. When 7pm comes around, the phone goes into Downtime so that none of the apps are accessible. He has the phone for some games and music apps

1point

#60

Herbal drugs like valerian root, cannabinoids psychoactive or non, kava, kratom etc instead of Dr. Prescription.

Melatonin

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12points

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crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago

I'm sort of against this onw- I have insomnia and had to use melatonin for a bit before figuriqng out a natural way that's a lot less intense and hard on the immune system.

1point