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Not watching a movie with my dad before he died from cancer.

My dad was months into his chemo treatments at this point, and he just asked me one day if I wanted to watch some old movies with him for a bit. I declined and said I needed to work on school stuff. I was living at home at the time, and I was taking about 15 hours of classes, so I was generally busy, but not then. It tore me apart to see my dad that way. The d***s had been rough on him, and it pained me to see him like that. My dad passed maybe a month or two later, and it is still to this day my biggest regret. We both loved movies, and I would give anything to go back and watch anything with him. I still randomly have moments of despair thinking about it, and I know he would not want me to continue beating myself up, but it's hard.

Don't have regrets like me. Spend those precious moments with your loved ones.

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This is the validation I need right now. At this moment, I am getting ready to sleep on the couch perpendicular to my sleeping mother who is recovering from one of a series of serious surgeries that will hopefully give me another year with her. We have watched a dozen movies this week; movies that we enjoyed together over my life. I had to quit my job and leave my city life to be here and take care of her 24/7. Thank you for reminding me how much this matters.

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As another who lives with regrets and would give anything for one more time, cherish every moment. Slightly off topic and just a suggestion bc you may already know quite a bit, but learn about her life before children. I knew my mom only as my mom. Now that I'm older and care about these things I wish I had gotten to know about her childhood, her as a teenager, young adult etc. I hope your mom has a speedy recovery and you guys have many, many more years of memories together.

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Pardon my stupid screen name, but you are a living angel. Please watch her favorite movie again with her for me! — Sandra. Sending love and support from LA.

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I’m lying on a couch across from my mother’s hospital bed in her living room. I wish I could think of some movies that she liked that would lift her spirits. Law and Order and Chicago PD aren’t the best for her emotional well being in my opinion but I can’t get her interested in something else. We did watch lethal weapon the other day which was a nice change.

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Oh Karen, my love. You are an incredible daughter, and person, and I can only imagine you got it from her. Love her well, and embrace this time, as I know you are. If I may, from one human to the next….please, please care for yourself as well. You are so important, so don’t neglect yourself. ❤️ I’m sending you all the love I have within my heart, and tell your mama there’s a strange lady in New York thinking of you both. ❤️

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I took care of both parents at the end. This is what matters.

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It matters so very much and I would give anything to have more time with my mom. Anything.

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Also remember people that you can't be there 24/7 even when your loved one is seriously ill or dying. And I don't think your loved one would like for you to put your life on hold like that either. Death comes to us all and you'll almost always have things left undone.

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My mom asked me to go look at her flowers. I had just worked all week, and was tired. I told her I would be back in the morning and I'd look at them then. She passed away during the night. Stop and spend time with your loved ones.

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They really don’t need to censor drūgs in a medical context!!!

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I was unable to locate my Nan for a number of years. When I did finally find her I tried to spend quality time. I was supposed to go to lunch but didn't feel great and had work and studying to do so blew it off. She lapsed into a coma before I saw her again and subsequently died. Seeing her lying comatose broke me and I will forever regret not going to that last lunch. I miss her every single day. Truly, she and one of my aunts were the only relatives with whom I had adult relationships.

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That was something my dad and I did often he loved sci-fi and we'd watch Dune and the Star Wars movies sometimes Star Trek, Aliens, or Starship Troopers...he called that one the bug movie lol he loved it and would always laugh at the same parts too...I miss him so much and as cheesy as that movie is I watch it occasionally for him :)

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I have regrets that I did not do things with my parents when they asked me to spend time with them doing something they enjoyed. My mother's dementia started in 1991 and she passed in 1999 and my father passed in 2007. There are times I get depressed over not doing something I remember them asking me to do. But, now as I have grown children in their 30's and 20's I can say there are plenty of times I've asked them to spend time with me and they have decided to do other things, hang out with their friends instead etc. I don't hold that against them. I might make me a little sad at the moment but, I'm glad they have lives and friends and people who love them. I'm glad they are doing things they enjoy and I get enjoyment out of just knowing they are ok and they are getting to live their lives. I cherish my memories with them and I cherish the times I get to spend with them. Your dad loved you loved knowing you were a good student, and he knew you loved him.

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This makes me so sad for him. I only had 30 days with my mom after she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Did everything I could with her

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oh s**t. i am so, so sorry this happened to you. don’t blame yourself, please.

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My great grandma was 99 + 1 day years old when she died. I'm so glad I visited her on her 99th birthday.

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So busy with life & relationship problems I declined Thanksgiving with my brother. He d*ed of su***de 1 month later. Make The Time.

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I feel this. I truly do. My sister and I were supposed to visit my dad in August of 2018. She had a slight cold and couldn't be around him due to his cancer returning. I could have gone alone but didn't. Next time I saw him he was in the hospital and couldn't talk to me. A few weeks after that, he died. It tears me up that I didn't get in the car and drive 3 hours to visit him when I could have seen him in a better way. I know he understood at the time, but I'm still processing my decision 6 years later.

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We dont have free will We dont control shite Stop beating yourself up Over things that you dont control.

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Stop watching movies and talk together

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I didn’t ask my parents enough questions about their lives before they died.
When people die, their history dies with them. Stories about them, what their lives were like, what their parents were like. It all disappears.

Ask your parents and grandparents all the things, you won’t regret it.

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I jumped in the shallow side of the pool. Was drinking and thought it was the deep end. Tried to do a front flip and smacked my head on the bottom. Came up reaching for my head and my face flopped into my hand. I quickly held it in place against my skull and got out of the pool. We wrapped my head in a towel and I threw up. The ambulance was there within 10 minutes. They sent 2 ambulances and a fire truck and there were 10+ responders. I think they might have been bored and wanted to see the carnage lol. Anyways at the hospital my neck started hurting and they did a scan X-ray and nothing was broken, however my face was spilt from the bridge of my nose straight up my forehead then goes to the left a couple inches. Ended up getting 20 stitches to hold my forehead together and 20 staples on my head. Healed pretty good. Now I just have a scar people are scared to ask me about. I'm extremely lucky, I was able to walk out and go home about four of five hours later. I've heard so many stories since this happened to me and now I am extra cautious around pools. So yeah don't dive drunk.

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Talking to police without a lawyer. Don’t do that, kids….

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I worked at a Marine Mammal Rescue Center in Alaska.

It could be really fun and rewarding, but the work itself was *anything* but glamarous.

During the training, we were told emphatically "when approaching a rehabbing sea lion from the front, you have to hold your breath until you can get to the side - their breath will knock you out." We laughed but the teacher said "oh I'm not kidding"

Should have taken it more seriously...

My first week there, I approach a sea lion we're rehabbing and when I'm about 5 feet away, it opened its mouth wider than my head and let out a 4-second-long belch, as sea lions are known to do.

I immediately fell to the ground puking. Couldn't think straight for 2 minutes and felt nauseous most of the rest of the day, and had to go home early.

**Still** feel sick thinking of it.

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Trusting the wrong person with important secrets.

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I worked in child care and suspected abuse. I went to the director of the childcare center and asked if I should call CPS, and she said no. I didn’t call CPS.

The little girl died about a month later. She was 2.5.

I will never forgive myself for trusting someone else over my own gut judgement. Worst mistake I ever made.

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When I was a kid we used to ride our bikes to the top of a hill and peddle as fast as we could down to the beginning of a sidewalk that was pushed up by tree roots and we would hit super sick jumps off them. No helmet. My bikes front wheel and handle bars became loose from the abuse and when I landed my handles were straight but the wheel sent me right into a tree. Went over the handle bars head first and hit the tree. Knocked out cold. From what people tell me my personality changed as did my penmanship, grades and everything.

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Took an antibiotic for a possible infection I never had to begin with that the doctor gave me. Didn’t realize the medication was banned in certain countries and has a black box warning. Doc called a week later after I had taken it for 6 days and says I actually didn’t have an infection. Antibiotics were never necessary. I now am disabled and have full body small fiber neuropathy from it among other things at 25 years old. It affects my vision, bladder, muscles, walking, etc. nerve damage all over. Had this for 2 years now, life is a struggle unfortunately.

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Got stuck on my balcony before work one morning. Door latched as I shut it. Was approximately 6 feet off ground, so I decided to jump off. Landed on my feet. Grass was wet, feet slipped...

Fractured three vertebrae, spent nine months in a hospital bed.

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Giving all my best in my last company, had almost no much social life, I was a workaholic , I was like the best developer, thinking it would all result to sth eventually got laid off 😅💀.

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Now I'm 8 years wiser and realise no one knows what they're doing and I would've been fine with 20 hours on udemy.

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I skipped a class for organic chemistry in college before finals. Didn't get the memo that final exams would be given in a different room. Showed up 45 minutes late and my professor wouldn't let me in. I failed the class and nearly failed out of college that semester, I was on academic probation after that.

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I made many mistakes growing up, but here’s one that stands out the most.

In early high school, I hurt people emotionally through targeted bullying and social exclusion. I was picked on for many years prior to this, so it was mostly redirected anger. I hated the world and most of the people around me.

However, this changed during the later years of high school and I started accepting people and vice versa. I’m not sure how this came about. I’m in my thirties now and a completely different person. I get emotional thinking of all the times I’ve made people’s lives hell for no reason, and it’s hard to forgive myself for it.

If you are going or went through a tough time in school as a result of bullying, I’d like to apologise on behalf of the bullies. Most of them will certainly regret it at some point.

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Talked a little about this in other posts, but my decision to stay and try to help my mom. After my grandmother died my cousin and I were set to inherit a house, but we gave our halves to her. At the time I was living in Europe, in Budapest, for 3.5 years. I was so close to residency. Then I saw she was having trouble financially when I came to visit for a family reunion. I had a return ticket, my jobs, but I f*****g stayed because I felt bad. We set agreements, that I would pay half of everything and then later give her a bit extra so I can save to help my fiance come here. That in order for this to work, I'd like to live in the house so I'm not paying rent somewhere plus half of the bills (and I wanted to be around the dogs, which I also take care of). Then she took advantage of this by buying more things and investing in the house, which she agreed to sell because she can't afford it without someone helping her. Immediately after I didn't have a way back, things changed. She hated my now ex partner and would demand time and time again we break up, even though she was nothing but kind to her. She decided she wanted more money immediately. She has threatened to [unalive] herself by putting a gun to her head, pushed me, hit me, tried to choke me, because she would start conflicts and not let me walk away, or didn't like what I had to say. She's tried to cut me off from other parts of the family that know and want to help me. I lost everything because of this decision, but I'm slowly rebuilding, and I think next year I'll be able to find my way back, maybe to Prague this time, or back to Budapest. I don't know, I just want the life I had back, and this time she won't get to be a part of it.

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Quitting college to take a management promotion at my fast food job.

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Driving drunk... Blacked out... Car totalled by train.

Don't drink and drive.

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Bring on a sleazy business partner whose shenanigans put me under.

Even twenty-five years later, if he stepped in front of my car, I wouldn't even think of tapping the brakes.

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I let go someone who was really good for me because of chronic depression and insecurities and now here I am, alone because of it.

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Not using sunscreen.

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Not going to the doctor when I should have. I noticed that I was having issues standing up. I thought that now that I'm in my 30s. This is normal. Months go by and not only was I having trouble trying to stand up. My left hip and leg was hurting like hell with every step.

I decided to keep working because I lived alone at the time and I had to make bills. After 8 months of suffering and pain. Climbing on and off a forklift. I had enough. Every step I was fighting a tear from shedding.

After a month of x-rays and MRIs the doctor's found it. A tumor had made itself a unwanted guest on my spine and it was pinching a cluster of nerves. This was in 2021 and covid was in full swing. When the doctor told me they had to do emergency surgery. Part of me was to scared to say yes. The other part of me was ready to get this over with and not be in pain anymore. I'm grateful that half won.

They got the tumor out. It was benign. So I didn't have to worry about cancer. They also told me that if I waited any longer. I would have been paralyzed from the wast down on my left side.

I'm dyslexic and have a hard time reading. So I never went to school after high-school. All I've ever known was working physical labor jobs. I love working with my hands. Now I have to stand and sit at random times. I have can't walk to far without a walking stick. Even with that. I'm limited on how far I can walk. Sitting in a vehicle, and getting in and out of them is painful.

The only thing that make me happy is my motorcycle. The seat was custom made for my nerve pain. So it doesn't hurt to sit in it. But as of now. I have no sorce of income. My insurance on my bike has lapsed. Now all I have is VRChat. I am a extroverted person. So sitting at home all day is driving me mad. I take medication for the pain. But it doesn't get rid of it completely. It just dulls it some.

Because I didn't go to the doctor when I needed to I'm now jobless. I lost the home I was renting. I have no sorce of income. I can't ride my bike. I can't do office work because of my dyslexia (I have tried just to try and make some money). I'm trying to get on disability. But the government is dragging there feet on it. Even with a layer. I'm useless. I'm jobless. No women will talk to me.

My life is a lonely hell just because I didn't go to the doctor when my body told me to.

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Insisted my fiancé and I should take a cruise together when she wanted to stay home. She had a polyp which was bothering her nasal passage.

Turns out it wasn't a polyp, but rhabdomyosarcoma. Diagnosis was further delayed due to COVID, costing her her life.

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Getting breast implants. 6k, scars, scar tissue, permanently damaged nerves. Got them removed 3 years later. 2k saggy boobs. Pepperoni nipples and side boob fat.

I had decent boobs I just got peer pressured by friends who were getting their done.

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Dorky guy in our graphics lab at school was trying to convince us to buy Apple stock as we struggled with our POS PowerPC 6300s. "No man, they're rehiring the CEO they fired! He started the company, he's like...visionary! He's gonna resurrect them!". Riiiiiight.

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I inherited 150,000$ at 18 and blew it all on d***s and stupid things.

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Trying to be someone I'm not to impress people. Turns out, being yourself is way cooler.

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I once tried to microwave an entire frozen pizza and ended up with a fiery frisbee of regret.

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Leaving the Coast Guard after four years. I'd be retired with a full pension and still have been able to have another career.

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Not spending more time with my grandparents.

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Petsitting for a pet fox.

I pet-sit for a living and came across an opportunity to get 10x the money one weekend by petsitting for a pet fox while the owners were on vacation.

It *was* super cute, but now it's a year later, and my car **still** smells like fox.

No idea how that's even possible, the fox was never in the car.

Can't take friends on rides anymore :(.

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Sold 83 bitcoins in 2013......

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