@Holly Smethurst: I’m sorry about what you went through. I think your date must be decent enough for you to risk dating during a pandemic. Being old, fat, and idiotic are not necessarily qualities that would ruin dinner/lunch...it’s the misrepresentation of one’s qualities that bother me. I hope you have fun in the dating world and eventually laugh about the misadventures.

Actually scared now. My husband and only relationship I’ve ever had left me after 20 years. I’ve got my first date on Tuesday and he seems lovely but now I think he’s going to be old fat and an idiot!

The man would actually have to have a conversation with them and not just mansplain while they smile silently...? Stab in the dark...

Intelligent women can think for theirself (themself?). "Unfortunately" for some men, they also tend to do so.

Thank you @Fidgets McGee and @Mike Beck. So what they’re both saying is, it’s this dude’s insecurity.

K. ?

He told me outright that he was 15 years younger than he was... so he lied to me. I actually wouldn't have cared about his age if he had told me the truth but he lied. He also chose to use a picture that didn't represent his current appearance which is also lying! I had been totally honest with him, sent him photos taken that week and we had briefly discussed my phd and research so that wasn't a surprise to him. I find it really problematic that you seem to be blaming me for his creepy attitude and misogynistic behaviour. He lied, was rude,insulted me and then asked to see more of my body... and yet that's somehow all my fault! We really need to stop blaming the women and start making the man responsible for their own actions. Women deserve better which is why I walked away!

He misrepresented himself even before meeting up with her. Frankly, it’s a bit worrisome that you can be meeting someone completely different from the profile they put up. (Yeah, yeah everybody wants to put their best foot forward and you never really know who they are and etc...) I didn't get the feeling that Celeste was put off by his age and weight so much as the way he acted on the date. She stuck around long enough to be subjected to his nonsense.

If he's stupid enough to use a really old picture of himself on his dating profile, he's just asking to be judged on his appearance.

@Celeste Grant. You say that now, but how many girls previously turned him down based on his age and looks. Probably figured if they thought he was younger and thinner, they'd at least talk to him and find out he's actually a nice guy. Obviously you thought so..otherwise..why meet him for coffee? I'm just saying, when you are on these dating apps, you have to expect that there will be fabrications on appearances. Some people just get kicked in the gut too many times to stay honest.

I appreciate your kindness, but I’m in no mood to do her any favors.

Is that troll still here? I complained about "it" last week.

That would be like choosing to sit through one of these dates and then asking for a second one