I am widowed and dating again. It's difficult to use a dating app as I came from a time before when I did very well and there were no apps. I met a woman and we decided to meet in Starbucks in Barnes and Nobles bookstore, which is attached to a mall. The conversation is going well. We walk into the mall, and she bumps into her ex. They start arguing and then hitting each other until they are fist fighting. There is a crowd now and security comes. I duck into the crowd and make a beeline to my car. She texts me to later to apologize but comments why I didnt step in for her defense. I just said not interested and I block her response.

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i think just noping out of a fight is just rude, especially since you are on a date with one of them...

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I got catfished. She was heavily editing her photos using facetune or whatever.

At the date, we were talking and she just pulled up her phone and started mindlessly scrolling on social media, at that point I just stopped talking and she was like "yeah yeah you keep talking I can hear you".

The worst part is that I went to another city to meet up with her.

momsdirtysecret , George Milton Report

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One of my more unique experiences was when she brought her 10yo sister to the date. The sister was more fun to talk to.

citky , Eye for Ebony Report

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I was catfished. I thought she was legit, and we talked for months. I went to go visit "her," and it was a guy, claiming to be her best friend, and she had to run to pick up a friend who was drunk. The woman in the profile never returned, and he was trying his best to get in my pants.

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A friend of mine who is a journalist matched with a guy and started chatting. She didn't get his surname so she couldn't Google him. He showed up to the date and looked very different from his pictures, alarm bells. She found out his last name and excused herself, went to the bathroom and googled him. The first article that came up was from him being sentenced to prison for armed robbery. She was the journalist who wrote the story!

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So I started dating a girl a few years younger than me. Everything was fine, we seemed to have a lot in common. One day she called me crying telling me that her dad died. It was really unfortunate and I tried to help her process this as best as I could


Some time later I got a call from my grandma telling me her younger brother died, asking if I want to attend the funeral. It was a bit surprising as they had a really bad fight about inheritance like 30 years ago and as far as I know never interacted ever since.  


I actually didn't make anything out of it at first, only that it's an unfortunate row of tragedies. Well you can already guess who I saw at the funeral. It was extremely awkward but now I know that apparently I have an aunt who's younger than me lol.

SectorSpark , Andre Furtado Report

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Gay Japanese dating app. Met a guy who was oddly excited I had a car. Asked if I could stop by somewhere for him, thought it was minor. 3 places later realized he was just using me for the car to move and pickup stuff.

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The overwhelming amount of people with asian fetish in northwest ohio. The amount of times I’ve been sexualized and infantilized is insane. Doesn’t help that I look way younger than my age and is 5’2”.

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I matched with a goth girl who seemed really down to earth. Profile seemed normal and everything so I swiped and we matched.

Everything went well and we decided to meet at the park and walk our dogs. Her dog went to s**t so I handed her one of my baggies to pick it up.

She bare handed her dogs s**t and carried it about 20 feet to the trash can and wiped her hands on the back of her jeans.

I made sure not to let her touch me for the rest of the time.

Edit: I didn't expect this to get so big so I'll explain a few things people mentioned in comments.

1- Why didn't I end the date there? Well, we were kinda deep into the trail and I wasn't going to just ditch her. I'm not that kinda person and that would be rude.

2- At least she picked it up/ worried about plastic bags. Yes, that's very true. I wasn't upset with her for picking up after her dog, I was just grossed out. My bags are the biodegradable ones that dissolve when soaked, so even if she was worried about plastics she could've said something, lol.

3- Crazy goth girls. I have only met like... 2-3 goth girls and they've all been cool. She was also very kind and genuine and we shared a lot of interests, but between the poop thing and a few other things I don't think we would've worked out long term. Just a bit of differences that would've clashed and so it wasn't worth wasting either of our time.

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I had a great first date with a girl from Tinder. She was super happy to set up a second date for later that week, and was sending me memes and chatting until the night before. The day of, she decides to stand me up in below-freezing weather without warning. I was texting her asking where she was, and I could see her come online just to ignore me.

Besides that, probably the multiple matches who would agree to a date, cancel the day before, pretend to be interested in rescheduling the date, and then drag out the process for weeks until I gave up and unmatched. Interested people will make time for you. 99.9% of the time, no one is "busy" for weeks on end.

Rambo7112 , cottonbro studio Report

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This happened to a friend of mine. Matched with a girl and not too long after they agreed to meet up and have coffee.

Meets her at this Cafe, and she pulls out a tablet pretty much right after they sit down and order. She starts a presentation about some dodgy pyramid scheme.

My poor mate was too polite to say anything. He sat through the whole thing, politely declined and even paid for the bill. Never heard from her again.

siewmai , cottonbro studio Report

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I matched with my oldest cousin's daughter that I hadn't seen for about 20 years. Didn't recognize her until we started talking, then we both had the same "God this is awkward " moment when we realized the fact.

profJesusfish: I've always been paranoid about this. My mom comes from a family of 11 kids, and they're not super close, so I have like 30 cousins I don't know well and may not have seen in 10 years that live in the area. I really don't want to be the guy who tried to hook up with his cousin on a dating site.

Technical-Garlic2672 , Suzana Sousa Report

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My husband refusing to stop using them.

I'm single now!

Separate-Life4570 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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Oh man. I have a few. I drove two hours to a date to get stood up by a salmon fisherman. A firefighter with a big Darth Vader tattoo, who was the spitting image of Jeffrey Dahmer, told me he couldn't get off in the bedroom unless I let him drag me around the house by my hair. A heavily-bearded Jewish surfer met me for coffee and called me fat. (I am not). A redhaired Russian man who continually referenced "the Ukrainian uprising" in disgust and carried a vintage six shooter as his EDC nearly set his bedroom on fire with a candle while we watched Airplane and shotgunned vodka.  An alcoholic with a big hole right in the middle of his kitchen floor told me my Spanish was terrible. Granted, my Spanish sucks. I was stood up by a shredded engineer, and had a short romp with a pile driver who insisted his cows were too smart to eat the poisonous plants that grew all over their field. There was a bodybuilder who told me that guns couldn't stop him from doing anything he wanted, that he was simply too strong to be affected by bullets. Then? Icing on the cake: I got ghosted by a train conductor with a nose ring whom I had dated for two entire months. That joke writes itself somehow. That was a new low for me. .

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Got ghosted after I thought we had a great night.

She hit me up after a few weeks saying she had been “so busy.”

I guess her other option didn’t work out either lmao.

Edit** Just for context, when someone hits you up again weeks later after ghosting you saying that she’s “so sorry” and that she ”wants to meet up again” only to ghost you again literally after that text, it sends mixed signals. Sort yourself out, lady.

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Meeting a girl and after I felt uncomfortable around her I went home. I dunno, it was an extremely uncomfortable experience with things she said to me and how she behaved. I was upfront with how I felt.

She then found me on a bunch of other social media platforms and kept messaging on all those.

Freaked me out.

eddieswiss , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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I dated someone a long time ago. That guy didn't want to use a condom the first time we had sex, because he 'wants to fill me with his babies'. Yikes. So it stopped right there and I never saw him again.

And one who seemed different than the pictures and only talked about himself.

Other dates were thankfully fine or great.

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I met this girl on bumble who seemed really sweet and we clicked super well at first. She told me that she was stuck in a lease with her ex (who she broke up with a couple months before) but she was trying to move back in with her mother. I wasn’t thrilled but I was thinking, whatever it’s not her fault.

A week later I had lost my virginity to her and a couple days after that I got a text from her telling me that she had a wonderful time with me but that she realized she was still in love with her ex. Apparently I made her feel like her old self, and that included being in love with a man who started dating her when she was 17 and he was 26.

Stupidly, I gave her a chance to make up her mind and she said she would pick me even though her brain told her not to. However, the final straw was that she insisted on staying friends with him and that I was ‘controlling’ for not wanting to date her if she would do that.

Bill__Wilson , Kyle Glenn Report

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In a list

1. They lied about not being on medication (manic). They needed bail money because of resisting charges. NOPE!
2. Lied about children. Had two and one on the way (4 months). Bio dad got deported and she didn't want to go back to her country. I understood her situation but too much baggage for the first date.
3. proudly displayed SH scars and described why they were done. Some due to exes. NOPED OUT.
4. Said an emotional relationship to marriage needed to happen within 6 months. A little fast but seemed like the norm in the family. I can't put a time frame on it but she was fixated on it. Left before getting attached.
5. Lied about gender Identity. I get it, honestly, I do. But no one likes being led on only to be put in an on/off scenario and then I am deemed "the bad guy" for not wanting to support the decision. Very confusing time to be honest. Went full cold turkey.
6. Wanted everything income-based, requested criminal record, must have 800 credit score, wanted only to be a SATM, wanted a drafted will within the first year. HELL NOPED SO FAST.
7. Never said a word during the first date not even a reaction. Hard to read the room and keep a conversation going if they aren't interested. Afterward, I let her know that I enjoyed her company but I don't think it'll work out. There was plenty of time for her to answer and continue topics but nope didn't happen. She got depressed and blamed me for it according to her mom who messaged me. I was stunned, to be honest. Weird feeling.
8. She ate half my dinner (Plus hers) and I paid for it. I only ate the salad side which got cold. Wanted another meal to take home. Turns out she was living in her car and used dating apps as meal tickets. Substance abuse is just sad and baggage was really heavy. Easy call-off. She wasn't even bothered and said "Perfect this makes it easy then".

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I have had pretty good luck with dating apps. I did meet a woman that had just been released from jail after 20 years for killing her abusive husband. She seemed cool though. Very healthy and spicy.

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Girl in picture looked normal. We met in person and she had no teeth. Seems weird that teeth in a picture is a prerequisite now.

ScottyP1176 , George Dolgikh Report

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First date I went on with this guy we went to a breakfast place. Had the personality of a wet newspaper, no hobbies, and he smelled like moldy laundry. He ordered a short stack of pancakes with NOTHING and water. NOTHING ON HIS PANCAKES! No butter, no syrup, no powdered sugar, no jelly, no fruit, no whipped cream, NOTHING.

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I got cat fished, but it was more so she was using older pics. I stayed for the coffee date and had a lovely conversation. But when it was time to go, she like lunged at me and went for a kiss. She missed mostly and we just kind of said nothing and parted ways lol.

anon , cottonbro studio Report

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Literal zero response from anyone ever.

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I had a guy steal my laptop and phone. We finished, he went to the bathroom and got dressed. He ran out and grabbed my stuff which was right by the door and ran. I learned my lesson.

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Got into a ferris wheel with a chick who started discussing her mlm scheme. Longest 20minutes of my life and to top it off, I tried to change the conversation to mangoes and how amazing they are. She said she hated them and continued her spiel. ugh.

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It’s June, 2013, I’m 22m.

Met for BBT with a girl I’d been talking to for a couple of days. We hit it off pretty well. Like 3 hours non stop talking. The I asked her if she was in school or working? She goes “oh yeah I’ll be back in school in September @ (local high school). I go “oh like as a TA?” And she’s drops the bombshell of “oh no lol, I’m going INTO GRADE 11”.

instantly picked up my remaining BBT, wallet, keys, got up, got in my car and left.

Chris Hansen will NOT be seeing me anytime soon.

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Just how they kinda grind away at your soul or self esteem.

lnx84: Yeah, this is it. I went into it a year ago, knowing full well it's a terrible place and mentally prepared, and it's fine for a while, but the extreme shallowness, constant rejection, and never feeling good enough wears you down with time, no matter what. I deleted it a few months later and have resorted to just being happily single now.

ZonedForCoffee , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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Hooked up with a guy who didn’t disclose he had herpes until a couple hook ups in.

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Getting catfished, one girl used images from 15 years ago and lied about her age and 200 lbs.

On the other hand I did meet my wife on tinder and we have two kids, been married 6 years.

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I matched with a girl once, she waited five days to respond only to tell me "i look like warmed over s**t" and then blocked me.

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The whole damn thing honestly, ghosting, cheating, pretty sure the only thing I have gotten out of this whole experience is depression, trust issues, and budding alcoholism. I have no clue why I bother continuing to try.

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I was on Tinder for a few years and never had a single positive interaction on it. I felt like I was being long-form pranked. 


More recently, it's the like limits that are driving me nuts. The microtransactions in these dating apps would make EA blush.

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Got catfished by the same dude twice lol , very dark period in my life.

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Being scammed for sure. But one in particular. One person was trying to convince me she was a girl. So I said ok, take a quick vid and just say my name. It took almost an hour, and guess what I got??



A 2 sec video of Diana Taurasi!! The WNBA player. She was being interviewed at half court.



I let that one go one for a while.

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I struck out on a date so fast I got the same Uber driver for my ride home.
Unfortunately, there is not much of a story. The date was at a bar right by the beach with a beautiful European woman here for post-doc work. I guess she wasn’t feeling the spark with me and/or wasn’t attracted to me because it ended in less than an hour. I can’t really point out anything that I did wrong. When the Uber arrived, we were both shocked to see each other. It was an awkward ride home. No second date, of course. The experience kind of mentally wrecked for a few days.

litex2x , cottonbro studio Report

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Guy tried to recruit me to be a “hostess” after approx. an hour or so of message exchanges.

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So so many.. i had a dating app phase after my last long term relationship.

I remember meeting a girl i met on an app that looked nothing like her profile pic. I mean it was her but she looked so much better online, totally my type.
In reality she was a little, fat girl with green brown teeth. No body shaming but what do people expect when they use pics that dont aligne with reality?

Another time i met this gorgeous girl. She wasnt exactly local so she told me she would drive here and stay at my house. I was a little suprised but i offered her to crasch on the couch and didnt think much of it. We had a nice evening. She went to the bathroom, came back and told me with tears in her eyes she will drive home now. Never heard anything from her again.

Another time i met a beautiful latina on tinder while i was on a road trip with my sister in california (we are from germany) and we met at our rbnb. We sat in her car for hours and talked and in the early morning she said she wished i had done something. So i kissed her and we hooked up. Then she left. That was 4 years ago and we still talk sometimes.

Then there was this chick that totaly vibed with me.. but her friends we met later didnt and talked her down so she wanted me to leave bc they wanted to go to a party and i wouldnt fit in xD.

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She was a virgin. I didn't know. She turned the lights off. It looked like a murder scene after. .

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Years ago, matched with a girl on tinder, hit it off, she rolls me to coke over because she has the house to herself. Excited, I get dressed, (singlet and trackies because like... why dress up to dress down?) And once I found her house and walk in there's a place at the dinner table set for me with her family sitting around it.

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