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Thank you for saying this. I have been hospitalized three times in the last two years, and in the first two cases (in the ICU, mind you) the people "caring" for me were so mean. I know it's a very hard job, but I also did not want to be there, and I was there through no fault of my own (not that it should matter). We are in a very vulnerable position, please be nice, even, especially, when it's hard.

And when they change their minds and expect you to have figured that out before they tell you. Like, geez, calm tf down.

I was bullied throughout my school years at an all girls convent school. And I was also bullied by 6-7 women at my workplace to the point that I had to file a complaint with HR. And the whole team got called to an anti-harassment/bullying at workplace meeting. All women >30 or older

There was a potluck at work and I couldn't afford to make anything so I was just not going to participate. I guess someone who also didn't make anything wanted some food and some of the women who planned it told them they couldn't because they didn't bring anything then came up to me and offered me some. It was so so so mean. I didn't touch their "salty" food.

Some people just never leave the high school mindset. Those mean “girls” aren’t girls anymore. They’re grown a*s women who should be old enough to know better.

Meet people like that at different jobs, they behaved like spoiled brats. All over 30 and older. 😑

This is ridiculous. People like this used to be the minority. Now it appears that there are so many of them it's out of control. Our society is sinking, badly, and the types of people that one used to "put in their place" seem to be so numerous now. Why aren't parents "raising" their children anymore?

Last year I stopped leaving Meets if a particular manager was still in the Meet bc she would bully her staff after everyone else had left. God, that pissed her off!

Exactly! I worked at a bar where we were told to just deal with misogyny and if you didn’t, you weren’t “tough enough”. Sorry b*tches, but it’s more difficult to tell someone to F off than it is to smile and laugh pretty. Especially at a members bar.

I got to the point where I wanted to challenge the person who stated "women being the fairer sex". Fairer to whom? Certainly not each other and I don't know why it is that way a lot of the times. I have also gotten to the point where I no longer even try developing a friendship/rapport with any women these days. I became like this at the around the age of 50. I just got bitten or scratch by them one too many times to ever trust the gender again.

I can't stand bullies either but I'd like to remind everyone that hurt people hurt people and that the vast majority of bullies are actually really miserable and insecure. You might not be able to win them all over but sometimes you can!

I told this one 35 yr old why are you still bullying?..., "What, are you like...,12?" Grow up.

I used to believe when I was in my early twenties that adulthood means most of the horrible behaviours of children and teenagers who bully would fade away with enlightenment from maturity. Oh, how sadly wrong I was! Worked in an office and because I dressed very well, travelled and was affluent was ostracized by the resident bullies, ( dowdy, nasty, miserable hags!!!). I befriended the women that they shunned and made fun of. Ended up quitting and leaving the workforce for good. People who do this to others should be tried by ordeal!

Nurses in hospitals can be the worst mean girls..you are either one of them, or you leave..no in between.

There was a bully backstabber who'd alienated everyone in the department. She needed to test something with a number of users logged on making busy. She sent out a request for people to come to the test lab at a certain time to particiate. Nobody showed up.

The bully thing never worked with me. I told a mmanager years ago that I quit and put my foot up his.,... Anyone that something slick would get it right back. People left me alone very quick at work lol

I was in my twenties and the worst bully I found was an 18 year old fresh from high-school. She wormed her way up to assistant manager and ended up giving special favors to her high-school friends and treating the older employees like garbage.

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Mean boys exist too. My husband deals with all men at work who bully him like he's still in high school.

If bullying means they all stick together and ignore you, especially when you ask for help, then for sure

They never mature past 20. Its ugly for sure.

There's a group right here at BP. They got top grades at Mean Girl school, but for the Hot Chick class they were behind the gym smoking cigarettes.

Uhm, I'm going to need you to come in tomorrow. Oh, and Sunday too -- Lumbergh

People who think this is ok have serious problems

Well good for you Eliza, but I still want to be paid for any work I do.

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This is in restaurant culture and is rampant. I got the front of house manager and the proprieter in trouble for being super sleazy and sexually harassing the female staff especially hostesses. Instead of being fired, they were reprimanded and just relocated to another store. I'm glad we didn't have to deal with them anymore but they didn't learn anything and now are probably preying on an entirely new set of staff.

Even the higher up people should have competed substitutes in a well run company so you don't need to disturb them when they're off. The only people who should be treated like they are on call are people who are actually on call and paid accordingly for being on call

I caught one lady at work 2 times doing this with me and another new girl. The switch in attitude she did when she saw I was right there was the most creepiest thing I've experienced on a job.

That's a big complaint at my work. I can hear managers praising one department but never mine.

I paste this canned reply: "I acknowledge that you wish to send me a message, and I await your message. Please send me the message that you clearly wish to send. I give you my permission to send me the actual message. You do not have to ask my permission to send me messages again, now or in the future."

Going along with this is people who talk $#!+ about other people because they think making someone else look bad somehow makes them look good.

I've had a project manager who enforced this type of behavior. He was like "you tell x to do this" I've always responded that I have no authority over my co-workers, so do your job.

I hate this. It's always followed with "We want you to think for yourselves what has to be done. No, you can't decide what you want to do. We will make the decision. Do this. Do that. Can't do this. Can't do that. NO NO NO! That's not how I told you."

Why is " p**n off" censored ?

It doesn't matter what you try to say to defend your choices, but there are certain things you just don't do in communal spaces and stinking them up or leaving a mess is non negotiable.

I will use email to point out a mistake. But I'll only CC another person if absolutely neccessary. And yes, sometimes it is neccessary. I had colleagues who would turn right around and try to pin stuff at me or blaming me for not telling them when indeed I did. That's why the first time telling them will now happen via mail without anyone in CC, but that way I still have a digital trail with a time stamp. Sadly some people still try to somehow make their faults my fault, so then you can be sure their boss will get a copy of that mail and the next time, definitely will be in CC.

My last job was really bad for this. If I brought my own food it wasn't healthy enough. If I bought takeaway I was splurging too much on myself and "starving my family". I would hear comments about other's food. People bitched so much about ethnic foods management put a ban on any scented foods. That eliminated most food.

seems that most of the jobs i had, had that problem. i got tired of working while others sat n the bosses ofc talking bs and being paid to gossip

This is so common and I get the feeling you have to give an answer. I had mine young, too, and I apparently still look like I'm in my 20s. My daughter's grown up now and when people heard she had a 21st birthday everyone was so shocked, asking my age, when I had her. It was super uncomfortable and opened the door for scrutiny for how I decide my life choices. No one should have to answer to anyone about their personal life. It's no one's business. Every job I've had it's been like this.

I got reported because I didn't want to talk s**t about someone who used to work there (one of my only friends in the company) and the boss was in on the s**t talking as well. Glad I left.

This also happens the other way, younger people talking to older people as if they know nothing.

In everyday life too, it is unbearable behavior. Not just at work.

This is very common in my workplace. I love my job, but hate everything that has to do with management, since they don't understand how mentally demanding our work is.

Especially when they mess with real deadlines that are indeed important

No that is just coffee withdrawal... /s

Seems harsh.

Define "better department". Fairly certain, unless you're talking the bloated bureaucracy that fills most civil service jobs, all departments are important to a business to function at a profit.