Helping a friend, or even a friend’s friend, is always respectable. Not only does it restore faith in humanity, but also is actually helping an individual get through a tough situation that they could have otherwise not been able to deal with on their own.

However, one thing that most people don’t really expect, and hence end up stuck in most times, is when this friend starts taking things too far, either becoming a choosy beggar, moocher, or a straight-up jerk.

It’s a point where you refusing to help will make you look like the bad guy, but continuing to help the guy in need just fuels their abuse of your help.

Well, this one Reddit user ended up in such a situation, which led to her asking the trusty r/AmITheA-Hole community to help understand if she’s wrong here.

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Helping someone out in time of need by preparing a meal or two is great, if they don’t get too comfortable with it

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Meet u/Lillian3435543, or for convenience’s sake, Lillian, who recently came to the AITA subreddit with a story of help for a husband’s friend that quickly turned sour.

So, the Reddit user has a husband who has a very good friend named Dale. Dale had recently lost his wife to cancer and to help him out during this rough time, Lillian started including him in the meals she cooks. This way he would at least have one less thing to worry about.

This Reddit user shared a story of how a grieving friend of her husband grew ever so demanding with her help over a span of 3 months

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Long story short, what started off as one meal a week quickly turned into 3 to 5 meals a week with specific requests and preferences. The cherry on top was that Dale wasn’t even paying for any of it. The husband said Dale had no job, so it would have been rude to demand payment for it.

On top of it all, Dale would send Lillian messages thanking her for the food, but he would also begin sending in comments on how to ‘improve’ her cooking. You probably already know where this is going.

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Well, it all piled up and exploded a few days ago when Lillian, who’s a nurse at a big hospital, was working a full day and Dale sent in a request to prepare some food for him and several guests he had coming over later that day. Because of work, she never got around to reading it, let alone responding.

When she got off work and came home, her husband was upset. Turns out, Dale texted her early in the morning and, having not received any response from her, ended up ordering food last minute.

Apparently, that ended up making him feel ignored and like a burden, leading to a comment that, in his opinion, Lillian is working too much, and the hubby pointed out that she should apologize for putting Dale into this awkward position.

Image credits: Lillian3435543

What followed was her strict refusal to continue cooking for Dale ever again: “I told [my husband] that I’m no longer cooking for his friend. Not even weekly meals. Period. Since this is the type of treatment I get and I’m being treated like a maid or a personal cook then I’m not cooking for Dale again. Ever. I said this, then I went upstairs.“

The story ended up being posted on r/AmITheA-Hole, asking the community whether she was actually in the wrong here to refuse to cook for Dale for what is now three months, and whether she should have apologized.

So, she went to ask Reddit if she was in the wrong here, and they unanimously determined that no, she’s not wrong

The post blew up, garnering nearly 20,000 upvotes with over 2,000 comments in under two days. People determined that she is in fact not the bad guy here, but rather Dale, or even more so the husband.

You can check out the full thread along with everyone’s detailed verdicts here. But before you go, why not drop us a comment of who you would side with in this situation and why in the comment section below!

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