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Told me he wished the next guy I met would “cut me up and put me in a dumpster.” Then, left a cupcake and flowers at my door saying sorry because he “didn’t know how to be rejected because no girls turn him down” when I was at work after I told him to p**s off after he said that. Then, called me over 50 times a day from a blocked number, leaving voicemails of him just breathing. I filed for a restraining order and they didn’t grant it because he was in the navy and it “could ruin his career.” He had previous stalking and harassment charges too. Love being a woman.

misscientist , Alex Green Report

Final score:

121points

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sabda niaga 6 months ago (edited)

What!! "could ruin his career" but her life could be in danger

89points

Asleep-Walrus-3778 , MART PRODUCTION Report

Got himself assigned to be my field supervisor when I was doing my dream-career internship, and slowly, methodically destroyed my mind and my future. He told me he would make it so that I was never able to get a job in my field, that he would make it so that I never became anything worthwhile in life...and he did. And then, on the last day I saw him, said "there, now, wasn't that better than rape?"

I'm happy in general in life, years of ptsd therapy later. But I will always be angry that he stole my career, which was a defining part of my being.

Final score:

87points

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Zedrapazia 6 months ago

This is why you should be allowed to attack ässholes and beat them up.

59points

We asked Jhené what bystanders can do if they see someone feeling uncomfortable or unsafe after having rejected a guy. "Realistically, bystanders must understand that they have the power to help. They can be the line between someone going home safely or losing their life," she told Bored Panda.

"People tend to get scared or feel the need to not intervene. When signs of harassment are present, you have to be aware and ready to help. Something as simple as calling out the person's nasty behavior can be enough to scare them away," she said.

"If your or her safety is at risk, don't hesitate to call the police. Always think about how you'd want someone to be there for you in a situation like that."

Held myself and my family hostage till we convinced him to let one of leave (made up reason) and called for help. He spent time in a psych ward afterwards.

Paperduckspie , Kelvin Diri Report

Final score:

83points

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FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 6 months ago

All stalkers should have to get mandatory psychiatric treatment for life, whether incarcerated or not.

30points

noonecaresat805 , RDNE Stock project Report

He started screaming at me saying that I wasn’t allowed to say no because he was a “good guy”. And that I was the reason that good guys turned to jerks. And he hopes horrible things happened to me. And he went back to how he was such a nice guy. He was giving me the opportunity to be with him and I should be so lucky. But he insisted that I couldn’t say no to him. According to him he had already decided for both of us, so I wasn’t allowed to change the plans… yeah he was weird. Luckily I met him at the place so I just waited for him to get distracted pretended to go to the bathroom went out the back door and took a weird route back home and blocked him. I was fortunate enough to never see or hear from him again.

Final score:

78points

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Bonesko 6 months ago (edited)

No is NO! First date, married for 10 years, no is still no

41points

Stalk me, harass me at my workplace, steal my coworkers phone to try and get my number, follow me, threaten people I talked to, and called me a whore for not wanting them… I was married and around 5-8 months pregnant through that ordeal. He got arrested for attacking the security guard where I worked.

Roses-of-Many , Ömürden Cengiz Report

Final score:

77points

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Anna Ekberg 6 months ago

Ffs, having to fear not just for your life but for the life of your unborn child too.

37points

According to Jhené, who sparked the online discussion, toxic men have to be aware of the fact that they are toxic first. "Some are oblivious (or pretending to be)," she said.

"I believe that they have to be called out on toxic behavior. You must communicate to them that what they're doing is making you uncomfortable and ask them to stop."

She continued: "One must put their shoes in the feet of others who have been abused or hurt. How would they feel if their mother, sister, aunt, or grandmother were to be harassed and left feeling helpless?"

I lived in a tiny upstairs place that was carved out of someone's house. The guy just started pushing me inside and toward the couch as if he was going to push me down and get on top of me.

I am a pretty small woman but I pushed back anyway. It didn't take much effort to just push him right out the door. I guess he wasn't expecting resistance. How stupid.

Some guys really believe that "no actually means yes".

Anyway about a week later I went out for the evening. When I came back my front door had been busted in and "someone" had been inside. But nothing was taken. Drawers and my jewelry box had not been rifled through.

Bebe_Bleau , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

66points

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sabda niaga 6 months ago

No is full sentence...no is no

42points

Threatened to tell the principal of the school… like I’m gonna get expelled for not wanting to have sex with you.

Jane-Lake , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

63points

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Anna Ekberg 6 months ago

Was he the principals son or what?

20points

ExpensiveReality_78 , Liza Summer Report

Told everyone I gave him oral sex on guard duty and effectively ruined my reputation and subjected me to a lot more harrassment. We were deployed in Iraq at the time.

Final score:

60points

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Oskar vanZandt 6 months ago (edited)

That must have been extremely stressful and isolating when so far from home...

6points

How you deal with rejection, whether in a romantic or professional setting, says a lot about you and your character. Rejection—like failure—is a part of life, and it’s hardly ever personal. When someone tells you that they’re not interested in your advances, they’re doing so based on first impressions. Folks who are self-aware, respect others, and have confidence in themselves as people will see it as a learning opportunity. They’ll simply accept the rejection, dust themselves off, and move on with their lives. You can’t win ‘em all!

However, someone who has serious self-esteem and entitlement issues is likely to take any rejection as a personal attack on them. They cannot fathom not getting something they want. Instead of accepting the rejection, they might lash out, resort to threats or stalking, or try to change their romantic interest’s opinion through manipulation. This is a nightmare scenario if you’re the one who’s being pursued.

#10

I've known three different men who told me I was a whore when I rejected them. In each case, I told them that was disrespectful, and in each case, I was reassured that if I slept with them, it would somehow make me not a whore anymore.

vanishingcartoon , Gustavo Fring Report

Final score:

58points

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Anna Ekberg 6 months ago

"You are a w h o r e if you don't sleep with me", were is the reasoning in that? Also the creeps biggest hit, somehow it always comes up with rejection. That or bashing your looks.

40points

#11

Led a fake life for 10yrs in which everyone he knew thought we were engaged, and then [ended the life of] ]another woman that he wanted a relationship with.

potattooed , Ron Lach Report

Final score:

57points

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Rahb in Oz 6 months ago

I simply cannot wrap my head around this! Obviously a TOTAL loony; even more than the usual.

19points

#12

I was followed by a guy for 20 minutes after I told him no and that I had a boyfriend. He just replied, 'It's okay, I can be your side guy. Your boyfriend wouldn't have to know.' I think it's a huge blow to their egos when a woman says no. Some can't handle rejection.

SenisbleCami , Ruslan Khimrad Report

Final score:

56points

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Bonesko 6 months ago

I remember a guy asking me out, I told him I have a boyfriend. He responded 'well I don't see him here'. Like in gonna be 'reasonable argument perhaps I will blow you' 🙄

31points

If you are ever scared for your safety or that of your loved ones, immediately contact the authorities. The police will do what they can to protect you from the person threatening you. Meanwhile, you may want to consider getting a restraining order against someone who is stalking you. This shows that you’re in control of the situation: you’re willing to stand up for yourself, and you will not give in to threats or bow down to harassment.

In the meantime, if you’re still feeling unsafe and want to be more empowered, you can always sign up for self-defense classes. You may also want to consider getting some equipment to deter any assailants (e.g., pepper spray if it’s legal in your country). Having the support of a strong community of family, friends, and neighbors is also going to help you feel safe(r).

#13

Acted like I had sent him nudes, then texted me nudes of a girl that did look very similar to me (at first I was like wtf did I actually take these but there were minor differences) and then used it as a reason to send me d*ck pics. Blocked all his social media accounts, deleted mine for awhile and blocked three numbers. Couldn’t escape the guy. I started dating someone and he sent the nude pics to him claiming I sent them to him and was cheating. I had all the messages from before saved and showed him 🤦🏼‍♀️ it was insane.

Cbunnie22 , Mary Taylor Report

Final score:

54points

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Jill Rhodry 6 months ago

If my daughter gets a peeny pic she sends 🤣🤣🤣

23points

anon , Rafael Classen rcphotostock.com Report

#14

He stalked me and tried to break into my dorm room – I wasn't there at the time, but he did scare my roommate. He also stole some personal things from me.

Final score:

50points

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Rahb in Oz 6 months ago

Police? Your roommate could testify.

23points

Hannah-Benana , RDNE Stock project Report

#15

Threatened to gather his friends from prison and come to my house.

Which is really funny because he was a white guy living in an suburban middle class area, the most criminal thing he and his friends has ever done is littering and speeding lmfao.

Final score:

49points

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sabda niaga 6 months ago

Ah little cockroach play with another cockroaches

19points

Hot-Jellyfish8598 , MART PRODUCTION Report

What is the very worst reaction you’ve witnessed from someone whom you rejected, dear Pandas? What did they do and how did you react in turn? Have you ever had to deal with a stalker or someone making threats against you? What advice would you give someone who wants to feel safer while dating?

If you’re feeling up to it, feel free to share your experiences in the comment section at the bottom of this post.

#16

He threatened to throw himself in front of a car if I didn't "at least agree to give him a chance with one date". This was over the phone with the sound of traffic in the background. I called his bluff and went no contact after that..

Colorado_Dream303 replied:
That’s kind of what happens in The Notebook! It’s so upsetting that people think this kind of behavior is romantic!

Final score:

49points

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Bonesko 6 months ago

Jump into traffic as*****e. The rest of us will be better for it

48points

#17

After publicly commenting that he "didn't have sex with me... YET" and me explaining to him it's not gonna happen... He told me I should get off my high horse because if I think I'm pretty I'm delusional and he wouldn't touch me with a stick. "Yet", I guess.

Sufficient_Tank_194 , Vera Arsic Report

Final score:

47points

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Anna Ekberg 6 months ago

Rejection tends to bring out their biggest hits like: "Well your ugly/fat anyways" or the famous "w h o r e/s l u t" yadda yadda yadda.... 🤷‍♀️

37points

#18

Called me every gross name in the book and then begged me to tell him what he needed to do so I'd change my mind.

anon , Timur Weber Report

Final score:

46points

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sabda niaga 6 months ago

Tell him not a single thing you do make you change your mind, nope, nada, never

17points

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#29

While I’ve had a few scary and creepy things…the ABSOLUTE strangest is he tried to hit on my straight, married brother (RIGHT in front of me and my sister-in-law) to get back at me, when that obviously failed he actually apologized, explained he was going through some stuff and paid for our next round of drinks.

alcarrell , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

30points

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Me Oh My 6 months ago

At least he apologized?

11points

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ConstantlyJon 6 months ago

Alright men. Listen up. It's up to us. We can be sickened by this, and sit back and do nothing about it, or we can be the change that needs to take place to make the world not like this anymore. Call out each other. Consistently. If a man around you is behaving in a way anything close to this, they're 10x worse in private. Call it out when you see it. It's seen as acceptable until we make it unacceptable for ourselves. Be brave for women so they don't have to be. No one should have to be victimized. We can't stop everything, but we can make this behavior not okay, because it isn't. It shouldn't be normal for women to endure this. Make it stop.

30points

Feathered Dinosaur 6 months ago

It's very dangerous to be a woman in a patriarchal, misogynistic society. And men who say 'but not all men' are actually protecting these men, instead of calling them out and thus being an ally to women

28points

Marla 6 months ago

It's definitely enough men, that's for sure

5points

Tempest 6 months ago (edited)

Called me every degrading name possible. Punched walls and furniture when he got mad. Physically assaulted me and when I tried to report it, him and his friends threatened to say lies about me to the authorities to jeopardise my university life/career (they didn’t have anything on me hence the need to make up lies). Finally he turned all our mutual friends against me. One was a friend I’ve known since we were 3/4 years old. I don’t blame her. She stood by me until my relationship with him became too much for her. Now not one person from my uni life talks to me and that’s 6 years of my life which feels nonexistent. I’ve only got my school friends now cause luckily I never introduced them to him. I naively stayed with him throughout all this and finally cut him off this year only. Yet he’s still trying to reach out. Just today he has sent a text begging for a response. I never reply. He’s a narcissist and can’t handle rejection. I’m struggling with my mental health because of all this.

13points

Oskar vanZandt 6 months ago

I'm very sorry to hear that you are struggling mental health-wise for having been involved with this narcissistic abuser and the resulting aftermath. I hope you find peace in yourself and get the mental health support you need...

7points

DustBunny 6 months ago

Guys, if you put half the energy into straightening out other men as you do into defending yourselves to women . . .

10points

ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

I was hanging out with an old friend Michael Thomas and we were drinking. It was getting late so I asked my best friend to pick me up, and he agreed. So, I'm waiting for my friend ian to come and Michael gets all handsy. I repeatedly tell him no, and am wondering where Ian is. I start calling him and no answer. It's now clear that Michael is going to rape me if I stay there so I drive (impaired) to a parking lot to pass out. I keep calling and get in touch with Ian and apparently Michael had texted him that I didn't need a ride and Ian fell asleep. Like WHAT?! I initially wrote this anonymously but why the heck would I protect their identities.

8points

me myself and i (she/her) 6 months ago

What in the Kentucky fried f**k is this behavior on this post??? I have no words--

8points

Lyoness 6 months ago

I had 2 scary experiences. First was an ex who showed up at my parent's house (I wasn't living with them) to try and convince them to help him get me back. Second and far scarier was a guy who came into my (stupidly unlocked) dorm room one night after I'd gone to sleep because - in his words - I'd "flirted" with him and "clearly wanted to sleep with" him. Thank god I convinced him to leave, but the next day when I asked my roommate not to let him in the house again and she refused because "it was an honest mistake". I moved out as soon as I could. Ladies, we need to support each other on this stuff - if someone says they don't feel safe, take them seriously.

7points

clairebear 6 months ago

Men, you need to do better. Women are people, not fantasy projections.

7points

Guess Undheit 6 months ago

Cisgender heterosexual males prove EVERY DAY why women choose the bear.

6points

Daggie_style 6 months ago

All of these examples are why recording without consent if only intended to be used to substantiate a threat should be legal and admissible in court.

5points

Panda-sized Potato 6 months ago

This is why women are choosing bears.

5points

censorshipsucks 6 months ago

you mean hairy gay men?!

2points

Hannah Taylor 6 months ago

Glad to be single and unattached.

5points

Feathered Dinosaur 6 months ago

Sadly being single (or in a relationship for that matter) doesn't protect you from men like these, who think they're entitled to you

17points

Amanda Allen 6 months ago

Once, a guy text me and describe in vivid detail about how he dreamed he repeatedly smashed my boyfriend's head into the pavement and then kidnapped me. All because I chose my boyfriend over him.

3points

Secret Squirrel 5 months ago

If the police won't do anything, Dox him. At least get his name, number and texts out there. Potential future employers and partners may Google.

0points

Chilli 6 months ago

Welcome to auntie Chilli's life advice, where we learn to be decent human beings and bring some light into this endless dark void we call life. Today we're learning how to respond if you ask someone out, and they say no. First, you ask them out. Then, they say no. Then, you respect that decision and don't pressure them to change their answer.

2points

Gozer LeGozerian 6 months ago

A bear wouldn't do any of these things....

2points

Livingwithcfs 6 months ago (edited)

Meet an online guy once, didn't click and I said so (about 10years younger and half my size) that was ok but later he would call me. No matter how many times I blocked him and changed my number he still got through. In the end I got really blunt and told him he was so tiny I'd break him with a single hug... that offended him but he did leave me alone after that. If we say no that doesn't mean you can change our mind by pestering us

1point

FABULOUS1 6 months ago

Not to lessen the horrible things these men did, but women can be stalkers also. My ex-wife (I am a woman also) stalked me every time we separated. Jumped out of cars when she found me and tried to pull me in. Would call me over and over again, and show up everywhere I went. Even after we got divorced and both remarried, she stalked with her new wife. She tried to contact me on social media recently to ask me to do her a favor, and tell me I should help her because she is a good person. NOT TODAY SATAN...NOT TODAY

1point

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ConstantlyJon 6 months ago

30points

Feathered Dinosaur 6 months ago

28points

Marla 6 months ago

It's definitely enough men, that's for sure

5points

Tempest 6 months ago (edited)

13points

Oskar vanZandt 6 months ago

7points

DustBunny 6 months ago

Guys, if you put half the energy into straightening out other men as you do into defending yourselves to women . . .

10points

ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

8points

me myself and i (she/her) 6 months ago

What in the Kentucky fried f**k is this behavior on this post??? I have no words--

8points

Lyoness 6 months ago

7points

clairebear 6 months ago

Men, you need to do better. Women are people, not fantasy projections.

7points

Guess Undheit 6 months ago

Cisgender heterosexual males prove EVERY DAY why women choose the bear.

6points

Daggie_style 6 months ago

All of these examples are why recording without consent if only intended to be used to substantiate a threat should be legal and admissible in court.

5points

Panda-sized Potato 6 months ago

This is why women are choosing bears.

5points

censorshipsucks 6 months ago

you mean hairy gay men?!

2points

Hannah Taylor 6 months ago

Glad to be single and unattached.

5points

Feathered Dinosaur 6 months ago

Sadly being single (or in a relationship for that matter) doesn't protect you from men like these, who think they're entitled to you

17points