30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They’ve Seen In Real Life

In a relationship, both parties should be able to rely on each other, but, unfortunately, that’s not at all how things turn out. A woman shared her experience with a husband who could not manage a bowl of mac and cheese, which sparked a debate on “weaponized incompetence.”
So we’ve gathered other women’s stories and frustrations with partners who decided to act like they could not do the most basic of tasks. Make sure to upvote your favorites as you scroll through and share your own thoughts and experiences with weaponized incompetence in the comments section below.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My ex always used the “but you’re better at it” excuse. Even the day after my appendectomy, and almost immediately after I had both of our children. When my now-husband first moved in with me and my boys I kept being surprised at the clothes that magically washed and folded themselves, and at how less often I had to drop whatever I was doing to attend to my 3-yr old’s random needs and demands. It’s amazing getting to live with another fully functioning adult who just does the s**t that needs done.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I used to tell my boys - there’s only one difference between you and your sisters, and you don’t use that to hold a vacuum cleaner.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life When our eldest was still an infant, my husband and I were arguing because I was pissed that he didn’t do any of their care without being asked. When things were really whipped up and heated, he had the nerve to say, “but you’re so much better at it!” So I screamed, “THEN GET GOOD! Jesus Christ, you think I instinctively knew any of this s**t, or enjoy changing dirty diapers? Man the F**K UP!” Most of his weaponized incompetence pretty much stopped that day.

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The important thing about “weaponized incompetence” isn’t that someone doesn't know how to do a basic task. All of us have to learn “simple” tasks at some point in our lives. The issue is when, instead of figuring it out, they simply rely on their partner to do it, presumably, in perpetuity.

This is very similar to the approach that many kids take with various tasks, where they assume their parents will do it for them. As a child, this is more acceptable, but as an adult, it’s infuriating, so it’s perhaps not surprising why these women were so unhappy.

30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I once said about the washing machine

- There are 3 buttons. If it explodes and you die, I will mourn you.

he figured it out.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life Can I suggest saying what I say to my kids: “what have you done to solve this problem before coming to me?” When the answer is inevitably nothing, follow up with “please try to solve it on your own and then if your plans still run into trouble, ask me again.”.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life So my adult daughter told me recently she could never understand why her dad and I argued so frequently and hotly over rice when she was growing up. Then she learned about weaponized incompetence.

I would work 10 hour shifts and come home to the expectation that I immediately cook rice (to go with the dinner I put in the crock pot before work, of course). Fam, it was *Minute Rice*. Literally boil water and pour the rice into it. And he just…couldn’t. Wouldn’t. Expected and demanded that I do it. One of many reasons that he is an ex husband.

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Refusing to learn is one thing, but being entirely capable and then pretending is a degree of delusion that is hard to fathom. Imagine watching your spouse slave away over some task that you know isn’t fun to do and not even trying to help. Remember, this task is, clearly, so annoying that the man is already looking for ways to get out of it.

Many, many years ago my husband complained he didn't have clean underwear. I asked him why he didn't wash a load and he said he didn't know how the washer worked. The directions for the washer were on the inside of the lid. My response was: you read blueprints for a living and you can't read the instructions for the washer? He's always had clean underwear since.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My favorite saying always works here. “Pretend I’m dead. What would you do?” I will not allow the weaponized incompetence.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life Once I was sick in bed and asked my then boyfriend to make me some (boxed) Mac and cheese. He brought to me cooked and dry noodles with the cheese powder “mixed” in. It looked a little weird so I asked how he made it.
He didn’t add any milk or butter. When I told him he had to add other ingredients not just what’s in the box he was flabbergasted exclaiming that he didn’t know how to make it, how was he supposed to know. It’s literally on the box. He then refused to add milk or butter saying it was fine. Obviously no longer my boyfriend.

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Unfortunately, this is often how these men are raised. Certain tasks are seen as the domain of a woman and they would not even think about learning the various cycles on a washing machine or how to cook more than a handful of recipes. Often, this is exactly how the household was run in their own families.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I usually slice up the fresh loaf of bread I bake, but one day, my stbx came to me, “The bread isn’t sliced.” I responded with, “I trust you to figure it out.” He did NOT like that.

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#11

My thinking has always been, if its a task required for being alive (cooking, laundry, sewing buttons, changing tires, etc) its neither a woman's or a man's "job". Its just a JOB that needs to be done and everyone should know how to do it. There was a metric c**p ton of things I didn't know how to do before my kids were born, I just learned them because it needed to be done.

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#12

We got an air fryer for Christmas a few years back. I unpacked it and my (soon to be ex) husband wanted to make something with it. I pointed to the counter and said "the quick start guide is over there" he got snippy with me and said "I don't need the quick start guide!!" Then a few moments later asked me if I knew how to preheat it.

Mother f****r.

I pointed to the counter again and said, loudly and with force "the quick start guide...is over there"

So glad we're divorcing.

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This doesn’t mean that women should just accept it, indeed, breaking your partner’s weaponized incompetence is an important first step in creating a better example if you happen to have kids. At the very least, once they have been “taught to fish,” so to speak, they will finally do it for themselves.

#13

30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life Talking of weaponized incompetence...My boyfriend leaves most things up to me to complete when to do with bills, or anything electronic. We went on vacation (that I planned completely). His only job I gave him was to check us in for the return flight home. He literally flung his arms up in the air and said "I don't know how to do this. It's asking me a bunch of questions." Me: " Okay, they are only yes and no questions. They aren't hard". Him: "I don't know, are we citizens?" Like....dude. Come on.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My dad will literally just skip meals if my mom isn’t around to cook for him (and Taco Bell is closed, lol). Once, she angrily asked how he would feed himself if she dropped dead. His answer was, 'Your mom would feed me.'

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My entire first marriage happened before I learned about weaponized incompetence. If I had known sooner that marriage would have gone differently.

When we were sending out wedding invitations, I wanted them addressed by hand. I thought it would be nice if he addressed the one to my parents. He made me sit beside him and dictate the address and spelling of the names. That's not too bad, he really was dyslexic.

But he appeared to have forgotten how to write! He was writing in big, poorly drawn letters like a first grader. I was so confused, because he had normal handwriting. I literally asked if he'd hit his head. He did finally get what he wanted, I did missed him and did all the work myself.

It wasn't until years later that it clicked. He was just flat out faking, to get out of it. Head injury occurred to me before faking. No wonder he chose me, I never saw it coming.

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The final, frustrating part of this sort of behavior is just how out of line it can be with the rest of the person’s life. Some people simply can’t cook, that is true, but a doctor or engineer has to be able to handle something like the instructions of instant mac and cheese. The issue isn’t the complexity of the task, but their willingness to learn.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My husband tried saying he didn't know how to work our washing machine. I asked, 'In the six years you were single and living alone, you never washed your clothes?' 'Yeah, but that washing machine was different!' There are literally instructions under the lid, with pictures.

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#17

If my husband pulls that “oh how do you do *simple task*”, I remind him he has THREE degrees, so I have every faith in him to figure it out.

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#18

"Ok, but if I don't do it right, you're gonna be mad".

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#19

My thoughts always go to the man who can disassemble and reassemble a car engine but can't figure out how to turn on a vacuum cleaner. (yes, it's exaggerated but it's this mindset of men and their weaponized incompetence that they want to try to get away with.)

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I always respond “what does google say?” And “if I didn’t know I would Google it, try that” Because they’re essentially asking us to be their personal search engine anyway.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life My ex once got out of the shower to ask which bottle was the shampoo. I told him it was the one that said shampoo on it, and he told me he hadn’t read them.

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#22

30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I asked my ex to finish making the pizza while I finished a task. He kept yelling what's next... even though he worked in the kitchen of a pizza place for years...

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life I got asked the other day if the dishes in the dishwasher were clean while I was on the couch in the living room and he was literally standing next to the dishwasher. I about lost my mind. Dude's a doctor for f**ks sake.

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life Mine asked me how to make hot chocolate. Dear readers, he is an accomplished cook with cooking classes under his belt and makes high end cuisine.

F*****G HOT CHOCOLATE. Like how do you even answer that without sounding condescending? You...scoop the powder in the cup and add hot milk, honey.

I'll never get over that one.

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#25

My Scottish STBX came out of the kitchen holding a bag of oatmeal and interrupted my peace to ask how to make oatmeal - and the instructions were on the bag. Rage inducing!

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life This morning he asked me to wake up our daughter at a certain time so they will leave for an appointment. I deflected that straight and said to set an Alexa reminder, which he did. But why even ask me in the first place... I also always get asked what’s the date or time… or when is this happening… like no. I am not letting that take any of my headspace. Anything you can Google or Alexa use them, not me. And check the family calendar….

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life If I said I was too tired to cook my ex would order in or occasionally cook. When he cooked It would always be one of a few dishes he had cooked several times eg fajitas or stir fry and it was more effort for me not to cook it than cook it. What shape do I cut it up into? What do I add to the pan first? When do I add the other stuff? Is it cooked enough for the sauce/fajita mix? What do I serve with it?

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life The first shower I went to take after my kid was born this man looked at me and asked if it was ok that the baby’s feet were below his head the whole time I was gone because he was afraid the blood wouldn’t make it back up or something? Idk at that point I was just like motherf**ker I will be out of the room for ten minutes, are you serious?

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30 Women Share The Worst Weaponized Incompetence Examples They've Seen In Real Life Mine asked me how to make scrambled eggs. This is a 50+ year old man who lived on his own for years before we got together. I took him at his word and narrated every step while he did them. (“Get out the pan, turn the stove to medium. Crack 2 eggs).

If he had just asked me I would have done it for him because he is generally a great husband and partner but I wasn’t playing games.

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The other day I asked my partner to make the kids rootbeer floats while I picked up another child’s medication. He looked at me and said “I don’t know how to make them”. After I told him that it was ice cream and rootbeer he said “I thought there was more to it”. When I pressed him what “more” was, he couldn’t tell me. He just said “I thought there was more”. No sir.

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Junebugjump! 4 months ago

This is why I am happily now single and will remain so until I meet a competent and extraordinary man. No more will I serve a man who is bare minimum.

31points

LaserBrain 4 months ago (edited)

Weaponized incompetence is a thing I have been reading about lately. Men often do it, to be sure. But I have seen women do it too. "Oh! I can't change the oil in the truck!" "I can't deal with that spider!" etc

20points

Pan Paweł 4 months ago

Most of those stories looks like people that found someone to take care of to feel more important l, that later found out that it does not work in relatioship.

19points

Firefly 4 months ago

My husband was like this. He believed a woman could do any thing a man could, but a man couldn't possibly learn to do the things a wife and mother needs to know to keep a household running. Because he put so much on me, I wouldn't do the few things he was willing to do, like snow blowing, etc. Now that we are separated, I regret not learning to do some of those things and become proficient in them, but physically and mentally I just couldn't take on anymore. Even though I am having to do more now, without him being a drain on my resources, it is much easier to handle things.

12points

Kyra Heiker 4 months ago

My former MIL was awesome. I got a husband who could cook and sewed our curtains for the living room

10points

Brian Michael 4 months ago

This article bothers me because yes the stereotype of men needing to be "babied" is definitely a thing but as many a man who reads this article and has been in a long term relationship with a woman knows it's just as bad the other way. So many of my past relationships the women would always divert into this child like state that needed help with anything car related, physical work related, p2p jobs needing complete like calling a customer service or calling any business in general, taxes being filed, and paying bills. My current wife and I have been happily chugging along these 12 years because we found we like to do specific opposite chores and neither of us expects the other to do something. When you find the right one imo these petty issues just don't arise because you don't let them get to that point.

9points

Lara Verne 4 months ago

My ex once did this. I had to leave for a weekend and left my cat in his care. All I wanted was to feed my cat. When I returned, my poor cat was hungry and thirsty, because "he didn't know how to feed a cat". He apparently didn't know to to pour some water and put dry cat food into bowl.

9points

SkippityBoppityBoo 4 months ago

Some of these are not coming across as weaponised incompetence, it's more the person in question just didn't know how to do it. I once Googled a recipe and it said to use "an egg pan"... Erm... I don't eat eggs... And what IS an egg pan??? One for boiling them in or one for frying them in or an omelette one?... I'm Scared!!! The recipe didn't really need eggs anyway so punk rock 👍😉

8points

David Beaulieu 4 months ago

I get every single one of these, and people who pull this c**p deserve to be alone, but... the opposite of this is the perfectionist partner. You know, the one that comes in and remakes the bed after you make it. Adds spice to your cooking. Adjust the shades to just the right height. Re-folds the laundry their way...

8points

Diolla 4 months ago

My mom used to ask someone in the family to do stuff and then be disappointed if it wasn't happening fast enough or not done like she would do it. "Oh never mind, I'LL do it". I am a bit like that as well. Doesn't help that my late husband was a kind man, but came from a culture with very strict division of labour, i.e. men not allowed in the kitchen. I've recently married a man who cooks for me and knows how to wash his clothes. Hope to do better this time around. A lot of this "incompetence" goes both ways, I know many women who don't put out the garbage, "can't" change an electric plug, pump up a tyre, or hang a picture.

8points

Slapdash1 4 months ago

What in the blue f!ck is an STBX? Who says things like that?

8points

Tyke 4 months ago

I read this feeling very smug as my husband is in the kitchen prepping dinner and doing washing up, before heading off to pick our kid up from school club (I am recovering from an operation... not just being lazy myself).

7points

brittany 4 months ago

mine kept asking me to remind him of his appointments. man has 3 calendars. one on his phone, one in the kitchen on the wall and one on his computer. i told him no, he needed to write it down or set an alarm. he said it was easier for me to remember. i stood by my No, and dont remind him. at all. ever. sometimes he remembers on his own and sometimes he doesnt

6points

DB 4 months ago

I love these posts. I grew up with a mom who was off the scale when it came to laziness and incompetence. But she was nothing compared to my first wife. In fact, out of the dozen or so other women I dated I could point to two that were actually capable of taking care of themselves and one of them is my second wife.

6points

Not-a-Clue (she/her) 4 months ago

I can honestly say I'd never heard of or experienced weaponised incompetence until I joined BP! I've clearly been blessed by a father & husband neither of whom were/are idiots and just did whatever needed doing. Just as well since I'm disabled now, Mr Not-a-clue has to look after me.

5points

WhiteClawOfDeath 4 months ago

I have a great husband

3points

Uncle Schmickle 4 months ago

Some of these are unbelievable. I think this behaviour stems from : laziness, being spoiled as a child ( mummy does everything ) or power control. What has stood me in good stead for most of my adult life ( I'm now in my 70s ) was going to college in another country and learning how to look after myself. I recommend it.

2points

Bobby 4 months ago

Handful of the comments by men in this list really make me ashamed of my gender. Y'all are the reason they pick the bear.

2points

marianne eliza 4 months ago

My ex would do most of the driving when we went on trips in our full van conversion. But I had to stay awake and next to him to point out our next exit. I couldn't just say the name of it and leave it at that. I had to be there as the exit came up to say "Take this exit right here." or he would just drive past it. So no naps or playing games with his son from his previous marriage. Ladies: the ex wife or gf can tell you a lot if you will believe them and not get gaslighted by the man.

2points

Gustav Gallifrey 4 months ago

Have any of these Hopeless Henrys ever been in a military service? Because, there, you learn to shift for yourself, or else someone will quickly come along and make bloody sure that you do learn. Laundry, cleaning, sewing, making beds, organising your s**t, being on time, quite possibly even how to cook. No excuses, because there is NO-ONE who is going to do it for you.

2points

Aaron McArthur 4 months ago (edited)

The only "you do it better than me" that is allowed at our house is that certain dishes "belong" to a respective cook when planning meals. I was embarrassed by several male relatives weaponized incompetence when I was a kid and vowed never to do that c**p. It makes me very appreciative when my wife chooses to do something for me that I said I was going to do. This is part of why after 24 years of marriage we still like each other.

1point

Teutonic Disaster 4 months ago (edited)

As a dude who moved out at 18 (and whose mum was the breadwinner, whose dad therefore knew how use the dustbuster etc) I absolutely do NOT get the mindset of these dudes. I honestly wish my parents would've shown/taught me more at the time. I had to figure a lot of stuff out on my own, but considering I'm still alive nearly 20 years later, safe to say I managed it. As would these dudes, if only they gave a dämn.

1point

Reset Game 4 months ago

So happily single 🤣

1point

Randy Sanders 4 months ago

Some people, like me, like sassy women. especially when the give you THAT smile.

1point

Ali H M Salehuddin 4 months ago

Why does it only the males that are labelled with weaponized incompetence? I have seen cases done by the opposite sex. Some females who can't (on purpose) learn how setup universal remotes; top-up windshield washer fluid, etc. The worst case I known so far happened to my friend. His wife has a degree in electrical engineering. Yet, she still waited for few hours for him to come back home to change a blown bulb in their house.

1point

Csaba Horvath 1 month ago (edited)

Some of these are surely not weaponized incompetence examples, but self-defense :D So my significant other often plays that asks for something and then picks a quarrel of anything. So i first get a formal approval of ANY activity, or so, because she can not blame me for anything it gets in her mind. (And for example, i'm not allowed to use the washing machine when she's at home, but i can perfectly wash my stuff when i'm alone :D ) :P :D And yes, many of these stories are weaponized incompetence, but not all. (To add; women do this as many times as men; but not with household terms.)

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Judy Chandler 3 months ago

Loved it!!

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Jude Laskowski 3 months ago

When a friend divorced, she made sure to teach her 8 year-old son how to cook simple dishes, do the laundry and separate the whites from the colored clothes, and to fold his clothes and put them away. She said she wanted to make sure he would never be a burden on a woman.

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Baali Venomax 3 months ago

I think some guys are morons and are seriously challenged when it comes to anything domestic, either because they CANT do it or dont want to learn. If they are single, they'd have to have a housekeeper just to take care of them assuming they have no sisters and Mom isnt still alive.

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cat olson 3 months ago

hoo boy my father is/was the picture of weaponized incompetence. in fairness-ish, when I was young, I suppose the set-up made sense. he commuted two hours each way every day so as not to uproot us (especially my brother and me in school) and my mother didn't work outside the home, but when he retired he barely lifted a pinky finger stil expecting to be waited on hand and foot, and made everything more work for everyone else when he was demanded of something. the man was a literal rocket scientist, as in, worked on the Apollo moon mission, but putting something in the microwave? whoaaaa big ask!

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Jackie Thinel 4 months ago

I used to get "You are a women's liber, do it yourself"...as when I asked him to carry the 100lb of horse feed into the barn. Sure I can spend 20+ minutes dragging it into the barn, while it would take him literally one minute to pick it up and carry it there. Part of why he's my ex.

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HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 4 months ago

Reminds me of a student. I teach business English to adults in Japan. A lot of international people in this Japanese company prepping for the TOEIC test. There was a word one of the Japanese students didn’t know, but practically all of the non-Japanese did. The following he tells me about this (once a week classes) word thst bothered him all week. He requested that I teach him ALL the meanings of this word. I asked him if he had a dictionary, he did but since I was the teacher it was MY job. Nope, told him he needed to do the work and then and only then if he still had an issue I would clarify. Ever after, if he had a question all I would do is give him a look, he said he would check and THEN get back to me. Yeah, nip that in the bud!

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WineDrinker2022 4 months ago

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Christine M Quigley 4 months ago

Playing dumb doesn't win any friends..especially girlfriends.

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Julie Hock 4 months ago

I’ve experienced this, and then they wonder why I am a feminist……. One chap told me that I was better at vacuuming than he was. It was the beginning of the end. He definitely didn’t appreciate me.

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Jaya 4 months ago

Interesting how we consider those things 'weaponized incompetence' when a man does them, but when a woman says 'but I don't know how to change a tire" or "but you're just better at taking out the garbage", we don't call it weaponized incompetence.

0points

michael Chock 4 months ago

Another way my wife and I do not follow gender norms. Her: How long will it take to drive to x? Me: How would I know? I'm not google. Her, angrily: I just thought you would know!

0points

David 4 months ago

you do know weaponized incompetence foes both way, not just one way?

0points

Steve Hall 4 months ago

Most of these posts just sound like complaints from people who should be living alone.

-2points

Roland Nijveld 4 months ago

I'll be honest, I hate the tasks in these examples that much that I would do everything to get out of it. Some people just don't like doing certain stuff or don't feel comfortable doing it.

-3points

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Junebugjump! 4 months ago

This is why I am happily now single and will remain so until I meet a competent and extraordinary man. No more will I serve a man who is bare minimum.

31points

LaserBrain 4 months ago (edited)

20points

Pan Paweł 4 months ago

Most of those stories looks like people that found someone to take care of to feel more important l, that later found out that it does not work in relatioship.

19points

Firefly 4 months ago

12points

Kyra Heiker 4 months ago

My former MIL was awesome. I got a husband who could cook and sewed our curtains for the living room

10points

Brian Michael 4 months ago

9points

Lara Verne 4 months ago

9points

SkippityBoppityBoo 4 months ago

8points

David Beaulieu 4 months ago

8points

Diolla 4 months ago

8points

Slapdash1 4 months ago

What in the blue f!ck is an STBX? Who says things like that?

8points

Tyke 4 months ago

7points

brittany 4 months ago

6points

DB 4 months ago

6points

Not-a-Clue (she/her) 4 months ago

5points

WhiteClawOfDeath 4 months ago

I have a great husband

3points

Uncle Schmickle 4 months ago

2points

Bobby 4 months ago

Handful of the comments by men in this list really make me ashamed of my gender. Y'all are the reason they pick the bear.

2points

marianne eliza 4 months ago

2points

Gustav Gallifrey 4 months ago

2points

Aaron McArthur 4 months ago (edited)

1point

Teutonic Disaster 4 months ago (edited)

1point

Reset Game 4 months ago

So happily single 🤣

1point

Randy Sanders 4 months ago

Some people, like me, like sassy women. especially when the give you THAT smile.

1point

Ali H M Salehuddin 4 months ago

1point

Csaba Horvath 1 month ago (edited)

0points

Judy Chandler 3 months ago

Loved it!!

0points

Jude Laskowski 3 months ago

0points

Baali Venomax 3 months ago

0points

cat olson 3 months ago

0points

Jackie Thinel 4 months ago

0points

HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 4 months ago

0points

WineDrinker2022 4 months ago

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0points

Christine M Quigley 4 months ago

Playing dumb doesn't win any friends..especially girlfriends.

0points

Julie Hock 4 months ago

0points

Jaya 4 months ago

0points

michael Chock 4 months ago

Another way my wife and I do not follow gender norms. Her: How long will it take to drive to x? Me: How would I know? I'm not google. Her, angrily: I just thought you would know!

0points

David 4 months ago

you do know weaponized incompetence foes both way, not just one way?

0points

Steve Hall 4 months ago

Most of these posts just sound like complaints from people who should be living alone.

-2points

Roland Nijveld 4 months ago

I'll be honest, I hate the tasks in these examples that much that I would do everything to get out of it. Some people just don't like doing certain stuff or don't feel comfortable doing it.

-3points

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