Nobody likes it when a person always tries to one-up you in a condescending manner, pointing out the supposed ‘flaws' in your arguments and trying to explain to you that their point of view is actually the right one, no matter how much experience and expertise you might actually have. And the arrogance, oh the arrogance! If it were a power source, climate change would be a thing of the past.
Twitter users have been posting all about mansplaining, and our Bored Panda team has collected some of the most ridiculous recent cases, as well as some witty remarks on the topic for you to read. As you scroll down, upvote the ones that think have no place in modern society. And if you've got any stories of having been mansplained to, you can share them with all of the other Pandas in the comment section at the very bottom of this list.
Kim Goodwin, the author of 'Designing for the Digital Age' and the creator of this informative flowchart about whether something is or isn't mansplaining, told Bored Panda that the context which usually helps men understand women's perspective when it comes to mansplaining is parenting. "Plenty of men are expert baby-burpers and diaper-wranglers, but lots of women will just assume they’re incompetent. Now imagine that happening in almost every domain of your life—and especially at work," Goodwin said. Read on for her full insights.
Once you're done with this list, have a gander at our earlier articles about the most ridiculous things that've been mansplained to women right over here, here, and here.
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Bored Panda was curious to find out whether it's the intent or the way that something's said that's more important. "There may be helpful intent, but the problem is the conscious or unconscious assumption that the -splainee doesn’t know something. People without societal privilege are frequent targets, which is why the behavior gets labeled mansplaining (or sometimes white-splaining, since white women often do this to women of color, too)."
Goodwin added that trying to label the term as being reverse-sexism ignores the reality about life: "Trying to police the term is attempting to deny that communication patterns are influenced by systemic sexism or other pervasive imbalances."
For those not in the know, mansplaining is a mix of the words ‘man' and ‘explaining' that denotes when a man comments on or explains something to a woman in a ‘condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner.'
Very often, it has everything to do with the explainer in question having little to no clue about the details of the topic and trying to pose as an expert. It's less a comment about gender and more a comment about human beings tending toward overestimating their abilities, wanting to be right, and claiming the spotlight for themselves. However, others disagree and argue that the term is meant to be gendered.
The term ‘mansplaining' also led to the rise of words such as womansplaining, whitesplaining, rightsplaining, and others. The suffix -splain was added by Dictionary.com in 2013 and it's been an official part of the English language since then. However, its origins are older than that. The verb ‘splain' has been in use for over 200 years and has increasingly come to refer to condescending or verbose explanations.
Some critics have pointed out the irony that calling the term ‘mansplaining' is sexist in and of itself, biased, dismissive of men, and creates the very same double standards that those using the term claim they'd like to avoid.
While there are tons of examples of mansplaining (or, to be honest, all kinds of -splaining) in the world, there's always the lingering suggestion that all men are somehow inherently flawed. Even author Rebecca Solnit, who is known to have coined the term, seems to think that “it seems to me to go a little heavy on the idea that men are inherently flawed this way, rather than that some men explain things they shouldn't and don't hear things they should.”
Meghan Daum, writing for the Los Angeles Times, pointed out that the term can be used to silence anyone with a different opinion or useful insights. “To suggest that men are more qualified for the designation than women is not only sexist but almost as tone-deaf as categorizing everything that a man says as mansplaining.”
Finally, if you're not sure whether or not something is or isn't mansplaining or any other kind of -splaining, here's your reminder that Goodwin has created a handy chart. It's a nice roadmap to have to keep conversations civil, instead of letting them devolve into petty arguments with no friendly resolution in sight.
It’s the “we do it to men too” crap dies out ffs. When they meet what they perceive as an expert _man_ they back down, but it doesn’t stop them when they meet expert _women_.
“Now, I’m not a [BLANK], but...”= “I am such an irredeemable [BLANK].”
A radio talk show about violence against women. Four panellists. Three of them men. Male hosts. One female panellist. Guess who didn't get to say so much as a word?
Not all annoying things men do is mansplaining. Y'all overuse the term and render it useless.
This is getting beyond a joke, mansplaining is getting thrown around so much to the point that a lot of things aren’t even mansplaining and is just a way for people to get outraged over nothing. Yes there are times where mansplaining happens, I am not minimising that at all. But the people complaining about mansplaining when it clearly isn’t are the ones that are making it harder to take it more seriously. I am actually getting to the point now that when I hear the word mansplaining I just roll my eyes.
I feel the same way. Many of these instances are either ignorance or arrogance that could just as easily come from women. There's so much hate going on against men these days that's frustrating even for me, a woman.
Load More Replies...How can these type of contents be useful? Most of these so called "mansplanning" are just incomprehensions, they don't even give us the context of these "mansplanning". It seems that this is just another way in which people are craving for attention online and so they decide to post about a over popular issue. Instead of helping women these type of posts make us ridicule. Write about real solutions for real problems instead of these if you really want to help.
Y'all are spelling it wrong. It's spelled "explaining". Now explaining may be unneeded or unwanted at times but it is not limited by gender. I work retail and explain a lot of things to people, I'm sure at times I am telling them something they already know but many times I get, "I don't know, I just drive it" from both genders, and yes I have gotten, "I don't know, I'm just a woman".
I work in STEM. Sexism is rampant. trust me, if I am upset about mansplaining, it was *mansplaining*, not just a plain old explanation, reminder, or answer to a question.
Load More Replies...Having an opinion is not mansplaining. Thinking your opinion is worth more because you are male, is. Expressing that opinion to someone without asking if they want it, might be. Expressing that opinion as if it's the expert opinion without finding out the qualifications of the person you are speaking to, is. Expressing that opinion in a manner that implies ignorance or lack of intelligence on the part of the listener is.
So when my brother walks into the house where I'm sorting my folks' books because they are going into a nursing home I''m a librarian/rare books collector and he tells me that I need to keep the books I've sorted into the Discard pile and I tell them they have no monetary value or academic value and he begins to lecture me on the word value, is it mansplaining or know it all big brother being a know it all big brother?
Half of this isn't mansplaining. Anyways, I've developed a hack to avoid over-explaining things. Carefully construct questions that show your genuine interest in the topic at hand. It's more rewarding when someone else gets to share their knowledge or perspective.
Mansplaining isn't about asking questions. it's TELLING. You missed a few points, methinks.
Load More Replies...Parent of a new client on my caseload the first time I met him: are you fully qualified? Then proceeded to mansplain my field of specialism to me and told me the job would be a great way to get more experience. Yes, I look younger than I am and I'm *gasp* female....I also have 3 degrees and have worked in my field for over 10 years, but thanks for the advice.
Sad thing isn't really that mansplaining exists but that it's so common a thing. Every woman can list a lot of examples of mansplaining and that's sad, and horrible. :/ An example of what would make my list My ex (boyfriend at the time)and I talked about religion and how it's taught in school. Having different opinions wasn't an issue until he began to mansplain how religion is taught, the purpose of it, the goal of the teaching bla bla bla basically he knew everything about this topic and whenever I voiced an opinion I was wrong ofcause. It didn't matter that I was close to bieng done with my studies (religions teacher) and knew how and where to find all the document and more which stated goals, purpose and more..I mean. What do I know I'm just a silly lady who tries to know things instead of pulling 'facts' out of my buttt.
Definition to follow, in caps to get attention, no shouting intended: SPLAINING IS WHEN SOMEONE WITHOUT THE KNOWLEDGE OR QUALIFICATIONS CORRECTS OR INSTRUCTS SOMEONE WHO DOES HAVE THOSE THINGS, TO PROVE THEMSELVES SUPERIOR. E.g., if I tell my husband how to do his job, for which I received zero training; if my husband tells me how to do mine, for which *he* has no training. OK? I agree, some people are oversensitive to being told about things, but blame Google. Everyone is somehow now an "expert", I guess? Peace.
My mom told me about how a woman was going to this hearing and on her way she ran into this guy who was going too and he asked her if she had read the book and she started to say that she hadn't and this guy started mansplaining it and she cut him off and told him how she was the author.
I'm a Mortuary Science student, I got mansplained by a guy who claimed they worked in the field and also called a lying dumb bitch because I called a casket a coffin. well excuse me for having a dialect where we just tend to say "coffin" regardless. But yes, I know that generally, a coffin is the type that is tapered with a lid that can be fully removed, a casket is not tapered and has a hinged lid. However, Casket is a actually much more American term, and was initially coined to use instead of the word coffin in order to soften the terminology and create a more soothing tone for grieving peoples. But really, in a reddit comment I hardly think the terminology is that important anyway. xD Wanna confirm I didn't complain about it on twitter though. I found it funny more than anything. xD
Before everyone explains it as "well, did the men understand that the women were....".... Why do I have to wear my qualifications on my sleeve, hand out a CV, to have a conversation? The men don't, do they? Or have men been secretly handing me their CVs for me to review before we speak on a subject, and I just didn't notice? .....
Look at the s**t that they are telling me. Even knowing my qualifications they believe that the men in my life know better.
Load More Replies...I think you're on to something. The next time I'm being mansplained, I'm going to say, "Stop being such a nag!" I bet it shuts him up.
Load More Replies...just wanna say to all. See you next week to redo all these comments. And a happy easter weekend
Things that have been mansplained to me recently: How to take care of the garden by my partner (I am a biologist and always take care of the garden and he learned two years ago that flowers make fruit). House chores by my partner (while I do them all). How sex determination works by my FIL (I am a biologist and he is an electrician. My partner believed him and not me). How my own disease works by my father (who has 0 experience with endometriosis). And that’s by people who know me and my studies.
I'm going to assume something, which is a dangerous thing to do, but here we go: can I assume that you don't know everything?
Load More Replies...To the people who aren't sure about why this term is used so much, my guess is you don't work in a technical field or are not one of only a few women in your workspace. Must be nice to have such an egalitarian experience and to always feel heard. Trust and believe, even the freshly-minted male college grads are very eager to explain things to those of us who pee sitting down as if we don't have decades of experience and deep reservoirs of knowledge. Obligatory Not All Men, but even the "nice" ones can and do resort to it. Once had a guy spend a lot of time explaining to me how a particular inventory program worked; my name was clearly up front in the comments as the developer. Tried to point this out but he cut me off saying" there's never anything of value in the comments". He did not even flinch when someone else pointed it out to him. And yeah, he was a Nice Guy in other respects. Sad, but also funny.
If for instance I know a female professor which I know teaches a certain subjet and I saw from a different reliable source some information that contradicts her teachings, I go up to her and explain what I learned for comparaison, is it mansplaining?
I was reminded of that time my husband tried to explain to me and our teenage daughter about our periods.
I am so grateful that there is a name for it now. I remember back in the 1990s, I was getting a degree in Psychology. I had a date after the class that discussed the Stamford Prison Experiment. I mentioned how interesting it was and then had to listen to this guy for 30 minutes discuss how the subjects were all resigned to their roles after the two week period because he interrupted me and wouldn't let me get a word in to let him know the experiment only lasted 6 days. I still don't know what he was trying to accomplish other than boring me to tears. Edit: This happened to me often and it was always men. Not every man I knew, but it was always men.
So an article mansplaining how mansplaining works....while mansplaining to the readers. Irony and redundancy all together! Wait....did I just mansplain?
knowing that I might get downvoted, I really feel the need to say that the word is not overused at all in my opinion... We hear it more now because women actually speak about it, as they speak about sexual harassment or as people speak about bullying or racism... the feeling that it is said too much, usually comes from people that are very lucky and never had to deal with these situations. It doesn't have to do with hate against men or anyone else! It's a need to speak about a daily struggle that many women face especially at the work place! If you are lucky and didn't ever face something like that good for you, but others might need more support.
Not gonna downvote but going to disagree. It is overused and this thread is an example of it. Half of these aren't "mansplaining" at all, but since it was a man saying it to a woman it was marked that way. A normal guy trying to explain menstruation to a woman, sure that's mansplaining. A patient trying to explain a medical disorder to a doctor? That's probably intellectualizing since they're freaked out and have bad coping mechanisms. A mechanic explaining to a client how to tune a bike? That's just good service, and yet it's on here because "OMG my male mechanic explained it to me just because I'm a woman" (even though poster admits they can't tune it themselves so the explanation was likely beneficial). S**t like this makes me ashamed to be woman. We need to do better.
Load More Replies...Hahaha! Yes this is awesome! Wait for the men to start complaining... it's coming in 3, 2, 1....
It’s sad how easily triggered sexist men are. They could learn about it instead of behaving like spoiled babies. If I read an article about how me as a straight woman might offend lgbt+ people by doing X I try to improve not start whining.
Load More Replies...Okay, these were fun enough but this is like the 100thpost we have gotten like this in the past year and it is tiresome.
Nagging: Having to repeat a request to a grown-a** man to do his share. Mansplaining: Not nagging.
Load More Replies...Why are all these unpleasant women getting so much attention from men ?
It's official, men are not allowed to voice their opinions anymore, especially if they're white.
Scyth, what is the penalty for allowing white men to voice their opinions? Asking for a friend.
Load More Replies...No, it's MANSPLAINING is bad. That is an action. Not all men. Get. A. Grip. And check your inherent sexism, please, it's showing.
Load More Replies...Not all annoying things men do is mansplaining. Y'all overuse the term and render it useless.
This is getting beyond a joke, mansplaining is getting thrown around so much to the point that a lot of things aren’t even mansplaining and is just a way for people to get outraged over nothing. Yes there are times where mansplaining happens, I am not minimising that at all. But the people complaining about mansplaining when it clearly isn’t are the ones that are making it harder to take it more seriously. I am actually getting to the point now that when I hear the word mansplaining I just roll my eyes.
I feel the same way. Many of these instances are either ignorance or arrogance that could just as easily come from women. There's so much hate going on against men these days that's frustrating even for me, a woman.
Load More Replies...How can these type of contents be useful? Most of these so called "mansplanning" are just incomprehensions, they don't even give us the context of these "mansplanning". It seems that this is just another way in which people are craving for attention online and so they decide to post about a over popular issue. Instead of helping women these type of posts make us ridicule. Write about real solutions for real problems instead of these if you really want to help.
Y'all are spelling it wrong. It's spelled "explaining". Now explaining may be unneeded or unwanted at times but it is not limited by gender. I work retail and explain a lot of things to people, I'm sure at times I am telling them something they already know but many times I get, "I don't know, I just drive it" from both genders, and yes I have gotten, "I don't know, I'm just a woman".
I work in STEM. Sexism is rampant. trust me, if I am upset about mansplaining, it was *mansplaining*, not just a plain old explanation, reminder, or answer to a question.
Load More Replies...Having an opinion is not mansplaining. Thinking your opinion is worth more because you are male, is. Expressing that opinion to someone without asking if they want it, might be. Expressing that opinion as if it's the expert opinion without finding out the qualifications of the person you are speaking to, is. Expressing that opinion in a manner that implies ignorance or lack of intelligence on the part of the listener is.
So when my brother walks into the house where I'm sorting my folks' books because they are going into a nursing home I''m a librarian/rare books collector and he tells me that I need to keep the books I've sorted into the Discard pile and I tell them they have no monetary value or academic value and he begins to lecture me on the word value, is it mansplaining or know it all big brother being a know it all big brother?
Half of this isn't mansplaining. Anyways, I've developed a hack to avoid over-explaining things. Carefully construct questions that show your genuine interest in the topic at hand. It's more rewarding when someone else gets to share their knowledge or perspective.
Mansplaining isn't about asking questions. it's TELLING. You missed a few points, methinks.
Load More Replies...Parent of a new client on my caseload the first time I met him: are you fully qualified? Then proceeded to mansplain my field of specialism to me and told me the job would be a great way to get more experience. Yes, I look younger than I am and I'm *gasp* female....I also have 3 degrees and have worked in my field for over 10 years, but thanks for the advice.
Sad thing isn't really that mansplaining exists but that it's so common a thing. Every woman can list a lot of examples of mansplaining and that's sad, and horrible. :/ An example of what would make my list My ex (boyfriend at the time)and I talked about religion and how it's taught in school. Having different opinions wasn't an issue until he began to mansplain how religion is taught, the purpose of it, the goal of the teaching bla bla bla basically he knew everything about this topic and whenever I voiced an opinion I was wrong ofcause. It didn't matter that I was close to bieng done with my studies (religions teacher) and knew how and where to find all the document and more which stated goals, purpose and more..I mean. What do I know I'm just a silly lady who tries to know things instead of pulling 'facts' out of my buttt.
Definition to follow, in caps to get attention, no shouting intended: SPLAINING IS WHEN SOMEONE WITHOUT THE KNOWLEDGE OR QUALIFICATIONS CORRECTS OR INSTRUCTS SOMEONE WHO DOES HAVE THOSE THINGS, TO PROVE THEMSELVES SUPERIOR. E.g., if I tell my husband how to do his job, for which I received zero training; if my husband tells me how to do mine, for which *he* has no training. OK? I agree, some people are oversensitive to being told about things, but blame Google. Everyone is somehow now an "expert", I guess? Peace.
My mom told me about how a woman was going to this hearing and on her way she ran into this guy who was going too and he asked her if she had read the book and she started to say that she hadn't and this guy started mansplaining it and she cut him off and told him how she was the author.
I'm a Mortuary Science student, I got mansplained by a guy who claimed they worked in the field and also called a lying dumb bitch because I called a casket a coffin. well excuse me for having a dialect where we just tend to say "coffin" regardless. But yes, I know that generally, a coffin is the type that is tapered with a lid that can be fully removed, a casket is not tapered and has a hinged lid. However, Casket is a actually much more American term, and was initially coined to use instead of the word coffin in order to soften the terminology and create a more soothing tone for grieving peoples. But really, in a reddit comment I hardly think the terminology is that important anyway. xD Wanna confirm I didn't complain about it on twitter though. I found it funny more than anything. xD
Before everyone explains it as "well, did the men understand that the women were....".... Why do I have to wear my qualifications on my sleeve, hand out a CV, to have a conversation? The men don't, do they? Or have men been secretly handing me their CVs for me to review before we speak on a subject, and I just didn't notice? .....
Look at the s**t that they are telling me. Even knowing my qualifications they believe that the men in my life know better.
Load More Replies...I think you're on to something. The next time I'm being mansplained, I'm going to say, "Stop being such a nag!" I bet it shuts him up.
Load More Replies...just wanna say to all. See you next week to redo all these comments. And a happy easter weekend
Things that have been mansplained to me recently: How to take care of the garden by my partner (I am a biologist and always take care of the garden and he learned two years ago that flowers make fruit). House chores by my partner (while I do them all). How sex determination works by my FIL (I am a biologist and he is an electrician. My partner believed him and not me). How my own disease works by my father (who has 0 experience with endometriosis). And that’s by people who know me and my studies.
I'm going to assume something, which is a dangerous thing to do, but here we go: can I assume that you don't know everything?
Load More Replies...To the people who aren't sure about why this term is used so much, my guess is you don't work in a technical field or are not one of only a few women in your workspace. Must be nice to have such an egalitarian experience and to always feel heard. Trust and believe, even the freshly-minted male college grads are very eager to explain things to those of us who pee sitting down as if we don't have decades of experience and deep reservoirs of knowledge. Obligatory Not All Men, but even the "nice" ones can and do resort to it. Once had a guy spend a lot of time explaining to me how a particular inventory program worked; my name was clearly up front in the comments as the developer. Tried to point this out but he cut me off saying" there's never anything of value in the comments". He did not even flinch when someone else pointed it out to him. And yeah, he was a Nice Guy in other respects. Sad, but also funny.
If for instance I know a female professor which I know teaches a certain subjet and I saw from a different reliable source some information that contradicts her teachings, I go up to her and explain what I learned for comparaison, is it mansplaining?
I was reminded of that time my husband tried to explain to me and our teenage daughter about our periods.
I am so grateful that there is a name for it now. I remember back in the 1990s, I was getting a degree in Psychology. I had a date after the class that discussed the Stamford Prison Experiment. I mentioned how interesting it was and then had to listen to this guy for 30 minutes discuss how the subjects were all resigned to their roles after the two week period because he interrupted me and wouldn't let me get a word in to let him know the experiment only lasted 6 days. I still don't know what he was trying to accomplish other than boring me to tears. Edit: This happened to me often and it was always men. Not every man I knew, but it was always men.
So an article mansplaining how mansplaining works....while mansplaining to the readers. Irony and redundancy all together! Wait....did I just mansplain?
knowing that I might get downvoted, I really feel the need to say that the word is not overused at all in my opinion... We hear it more now because women actually speak about it, as they speak about sexual harassment or as people speak about bullying or racism... the feeling that it is said too much, usually comes from people that are very lucky and never had to deal with these situations. It doesn't have to do with hate against men or anyone else! It's a need to speak about a daily struggle that many women face especially at the work place! If you are lucky and didn't ever face something like that good for you, but others might need more support.
Not gonna downvote but going to disagree. It is overused and this thread is an example of it. Half of these aren't "mansplaining" at all, but since it was a man saying it to a woman it was marked that way. A normal guy trying to explain menstruation to a woman, sure that's mansplaining. A patient trying to explain a medical disorder to a doctor? That's probably intellectualizing since they're freaked out and have bad coping mechanisms. A mechanic explaining to a client how to tune a bike? That's just good service, and yet it's on here because "OMG my male mechanic explained it to me just because I'm a woman" (even though poster admits they can't tune it themselves so the explanation was likely beneficial). S**t like this makes me ashamed to be woman. We need to do better.
Load More Replies...Hahaha! Yes this is awesome! Wait for the men to start complaining... it's coming in 3, 2, 1....
It’s sad how easily triggered sexist men are. They could learn about it instead of behaving like spoiled babies. If I read an article about how me as a straight woman might offend lgbt+ people by doing X I try to improve not start whining.
Load More Replies...Okay, these were fun enough but this is like the 100thpost we have gotten like this in the past year and it is tiresome.
Nagging: Having to repeat a request to a grown-a** man to do his share. Mansplaining: Not nagging.
Load More Replies...Why are all these unpleasant women getting so much attention from men ?
It's official, men are not allowed to voice their opinions anymore, especially if they're white.
Scyth, what is the penalty for allowing white men to voice their opinions? Asking for a friend.
Load More Replies...No, it's MANSPLAINING is bad. That is an action. Not all men. Get. A. Grip. And check your inherent sexism, please, it's showing.
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