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In a sense, online dating is like gambling — only very few hit the jackpot. The chances of meeting someone kind, generous, gentle, and compassionate are, well, extremely low. Yet, thousands of lonely souls still spend hours looking at their screens, being lured into believing their one true love is just a swipe away.

But as so many of us have learned from personal experience, this whole dating game is not for the faint of heart. It’s full of uncomfortable situations, tasteless jokes, and pretentious people who believe they somehow have a right to treat others like pawns in their little games. And there are plenty of women who had the "pleasure" of encountering such guys and decided to call them out.

Enter Bye Felipe, an Instagram account that posts screenshots submitted by women who seem to be on a mission to expose the most vulgar and downright creepy online daters out there. We handpicked some of the most surprising posts we found on the account, so continue scrolling and be sure to tell us what you think about them in the comments!

#1

Who Did This? 👏👏👏
found Via @irlrosie

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#2

I Don’t Have A Problem With Shorter Men, But I Don’t Think I Can Date Anyone Smaller Than My Dog. 📏

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Bye Felipe (the name is a play on the Bye Felicia meme, often used as a dismissive farewell) was created in 2014 by author, speaker, and podcast host Alexandra Tweten. It started as a means to allow women to share the most offensive messages they have received via dating sites and apps and hold men accountable for online harassment.

When Tweten started posting screenshots of her online dating misfortunes, her email flooded with submissions from others with similar experiences. "I realized these hostile messages were a trend that women see online," she told The Huffington Post. "That started a conversation about creating an Instagram to keep all of these insane messages so we could discuss them. All women get some degree of creepy or weird messages when they sign up for online dating sites."

"It's a standard reaction that I've now seen over and over again with the submissions," she noted. "Guy hits on girl, girl doesn't respond, guy lashes out with insulting message. It really shows the entitlement these guys feel, and I think it shows our cultural misogyny problem."

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#3

"He Then Told Me That Nobody Wants To Rape Me And Unmatched Me" Haha So Funny! Lol 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

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#4

🌀it Is A Dimension As Vast As The Internet And As Timeless As Misogyny. It Is The Middle Ground Between Reality And Fantasy, Between Sex And Porn, And It Lies Between The Pit Of Man's Idiocy, And The Summit Of His Predictability. This Is The Dimension Of Complete And Utter Nonsense. It Is An Area Which We Call... The Online Dating Zone.🌀

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#5

It’s A No From Me.

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To better understand the world of online romance, we reached out to Abi Blears, a UK-based dating coach and matchmaker. "Apps can be a brilliant addition to meeting people in real life and enable us to connect with people we might not cross paths with otherwise. However, there are downsides to them," she told Bored Panda.

Blears explained that apps give us a false perception of having a great deal of choice and might make us feel like people are easier to replace. "They also inadvertently make us focus on things that might not be that important," she added.

"They encourage us to make snap decisions about people based on very little information. Another downside to an app is that you could fall victim to a catfish (someone who is pretending to be someone they are not), in the real world it’s harder to be misled."

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#6

Trolling Fuckboys. 🌮🌮🌮🌮 🙌 Genius. #byefelipe

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#7

☠️⚰️ #byefelipe

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#8

*does Not Compute* 🤷🏻‍♂️

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When asked why so many women have online dating horror stories to share, Blears believes this is not necessarily specific to dating apps. "Everyone who has dated a lot has likely had a bad experience somewhere along the way or dated someone who behaves less than ideal. People tend to share negative experiences and remember negative experiences more readily than positive ones," she said and added that for every negative online dating story out there, there’s likely a positive one.

Yet, matching with someone on an app doesn’t have the same level of accountability compared to meeting them in real life through friends or in the workplace. "You’re more likely to be respectful of someone if you know it could impact your peer relationships or life in the future. If you meet someone on an app, there’s less of a chance that you’ll run into them in the future or that your peers will hear about any nefarious behavior," she said.

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#9

Bye. I'm Dead. ⚰😂😂😂😂😂😂

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#10

Normally I'd Delete This Kind Of Shit, But Nah. #byefelipe

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#11

🤷‍♀️ Should I Weigh Them? ⚖️

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While toxic masculinity might be one of the main reasons men believe they have a right to act this way, Blears said it’s important to not encourage the narrative that men shouldn’t express their emotions. Women can be abusive too and men are less likely to report abuse because it’s deemed by some to be emasculating, she added. "That said, it’s not even nearly on the same scale and toxic masculinity does need to be explored and dealt with."

#12

Why Are They So Boring? 😴

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#13

😬😬😬 He Said The Quiet Part Out Loud

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#14

I Posted This Four Years Ago, But It’s Still So Good.

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When it comes to online harassment, each situation is different. However, if someone is being directly abusive, "the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the interaction. If you’re on an app, block and report the person. It’s important to know your own boundaries and uphold them."

"For example, you might have a zero-tolerance for being sworn at and the person you’re talking to swears at you. If you think they are generally reasonable, the approach would be to express how it makes you feel when they do that, express what you want in the future, and express the consequences if they repeat to offend. Then stick to your word."

She continued: "It’s also important not to get too wrapped up with people who are only nice from time to time, if someone isn’t consistently nice then they aren’t nice and it’s not your role to change them, as tempting as that might be."

#15

Blackmail Is So Boring 🙄 Thank You, Next.

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#16

Christian Is Trash. 🗑 #byefelipe

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#17

😂😂😂

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As you scroll through this post, you might feel discouraged to dive back into the deep waters of the dating pool. If that’s the case, Blears has some suggestions for you. If having nightmarish experiences is a reoccurring theme, she advised considering how you’re using the apps, finding out if there are any common issues, and seeing how you can avoid repeating them.

“If it’s a one-off experience, it’s important to remember that whilst there are bad people online, there are also many good people out there so don’t let one negative experience tarnish your entire outlook. Pace your relationships slowly moving forward so that you do not become overly invested in someone very quickly. In time, people reveal their true colors so staying grounded in reality and not rushing things is key."

#18

The New Episode Of The Bye Felipe Podcast Is Live Featuring The Lovely And Hilarious @losannelise. Link In The Bio. ✨✨✨

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#19

🍕? 🍭? 🤷‍♀️ Thanks @emmajwylie

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#20

Lol @meredithactually

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Blears told Bored Panda that the most important factor with online dating is not only your physical safety but your emotional safety too. "You want to only continue conversing with people who are consistent in their behavior and who make you feel either good or neutral."

"It might come as a surprise but someone who is overly keen very early on might not be as safe an option as a guy who is more neutral and takes time to reveal his feelings. There’s a balance to be struck," the dating coach added.

#21

💧💧💧💧💧🚿 Water For That Burn

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#22

@rosieeeeeyuh Took Me On Another Wild Ride With This Expert Level Trolling 😂

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#23

Way More Excited To See Your Duck. // If You're In Minnesota, I'll Be Speaking Tomorrow At St. Cloud State University On Fighting Back Against Sexist Harassment Online. Link To Event In The Bio. ✌️

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"If you aren’t sure about taking it from online to offline, it’s perhaps wise to suggest a phone call or a video date before meeting up. If you’re generally worried about safety, you can suggest a daytime date somewhere public and be sure to inform a friend of your whereabouts. No matter how tempting, I would not recommend traveling in someone’s car when on a first date, going to their home or bringing them to yours," Blears concluded.

#24

🌹🌹🌹romance

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#25

I Don’t Believe You.

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#26

And They Wonder Why We’re Scared Of Them

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#27

Lmao 😂 Wtf This Boy Has No Chill. Submit A Funny Conversation On The Convo App For A Chance To Get Your #byefelipe Conversation Featured Here! Download The @convo.lol App Link In Bio. #ad

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#28

What Does It Mean???

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#29

Oh Really? 🤔 Interesting. #slidingintoyourdmslike

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#30

👋*mic Drop*
#byefelipe🎤

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#31

Hope You All Played April Fools On Some Idiots Today. #byefelipe

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#32

Things We Deal With. 🙃🙄 #byefelipe

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#33

What A Charmer!

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#34

…what?! That’s Where You Go Next?

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#35

Men Are Canceled. 😂 (Issa Joke.) Credit: @erinmcnaughton05

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#36

*not Sponsored By Texas Roadhouse.
thanks @muh_ran_dizzle 💖

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#37

🎯 Nailed It

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#38

When You're Completely Over Tinder... 😆

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#39

This 👏 Is How 👏 You Shut👏 It Down. 😂#byefelipe

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#40

Hey Chin, There's A Tinder Dude Hollering At You. Want To Go To His Place? Chin: Nope. #byefelipe

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#41

It’s Worth A Shot 🤷‍♀️

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#42

*~archaic Beliefs~* Lolololol 😂 #byefelipe

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#43

I’m Going To Need All Of The Botox To Get My Face To Stop Cringing. 😖😫 It’s Like Looking At The Sun. Plz Help. 😭 #byefelipe #cringe

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#44

Useful Tactic For Trolling Fuckboys. 💡 #byefelipe

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#45

🚨incel Meltdown Level 10!! 🚨

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#46

Can We Fund An Anthropological Study To Find Out Why Men Are So Fucking Weird?!?!?!

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#47

At Least He’s Aware?

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#48

He Subsequently Posted Her Number On Reddit. Unfortunately, I Can’t Identify Him Here Because It Goes Against Ig Policy And I’m Not Trying To Get Banned.
ty @toastytoots

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#49

When The Guy You’ve Been Chatting With For One Day Shows His Ass But You Thought He Had Potential

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#50

Merry Christmas 🎄🎁

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#51

Show Me Ur Bob

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#52

When You Look Up His Public Record Before You Meet 🙂 “Dude Had A Domestic On His Record And Two Orders Of Protection. I Got Deleted Once I Called Him Out 🤣 #goodriddance” Thanks @saeraveikko!

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#53

Thank You @darthlux 😂😂

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#54

😂😂😂😂😂 This. Is Too Good. Lolololol

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#55

This Felipe Brought To You By @tindernofilter #byefelipe

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#56

Really Proving Her Point Here. Do You Know What Misogyny Means? #smh 😆#byefelipe

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#57

🍕🍕🍕🍕🍕 > Idiots. Always.

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#58

Who Says “Yes” To This As An Opener?!?!? Ty @shakthij

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#59

Ewwwww. Everyone Tell This Dude From Newport Beach That His Opinions Are Neither Needed Nor Wanted. #byefelipe Ps. Not That It Makes A Difference, But Let Me Tell You, The Woman Who Got This Is Beautiful. Also She Sent Him A Pic Of Her Eating Chipotle. #badass Update: See Next Two Posts From Another Woman Featuring Bruno. This Is Not The Only Time He Gives Terrible Advice.

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#60

“I Just Can’t Get With A White Girl Who’s Like... Way Against Air Pollution While Concurrently Breathing.”
thank You, @leftswingfling!

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#61

It's Just A Dick. #byefelipe

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#62

Reminder That This Shit Happens Even When You're Not Single Or On Dating Apps #byefelipe

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#63

#maleentitlement 👆 #byefelipe

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#64

Why Are Men??

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#65

👌 Brian Seems Really Respectful!

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#66

We Owe You Nothing. #byefelipe

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#67

Merry Christmas! ‘Tis The Season For Tinder Creepers To Assault Your Instagram Dms! 😄🎄

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#68

What Friend Gives Your Number To A Strange Creeper??? 😖 #niceguysfinishlast

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#69

Take A Hint, Bro #byefelipe

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#70

Hahaha, Also It’s “Could Have,” Mr. 4.0 Ducking Mba. Thanks @salsa_tits

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#71

Is It Just Me Or Is The Wave On Messenger Creepy Af?

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#72

What (And I Can’t Stress This Enough) The Fuck. This Has Been Going Around On Facebook Since Dec 2018, But Thought I’d Share It Here Because This Dude Seems Dangerous. (I Reposted On The Bye Felipe Fb Page Too.) Commenters Have Already Dug Up A Lot On Him, Like That He’s Been Arrested For Hiding In Women’s Bathrooms. 😨😱 I Think All Of His Social Handles Have Been Taken Down By Now, But Yiiiikes.

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#73

Dying Over Here At This Fuckboy 😂😂😂 “Tinder Guy Who Started All Sweet Then Quickly Asked Me To Come Over To Do Him. At 8:30 Am This Morning. I Declined. The First Text In That First Pic Is After He Sent A Dick Pic. Am I Supposed To Feel Jealous At That Last Part?? Lolllll #icanteven #bulletdodged” #byefelipe

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#74

Who Else Identifies As A Total Fucking Liberal Cunt? 🙋‍♀️ Plz Send Me Your Quarantine-Dating-Related Meltdowns: Byefelipesubmissions@gmail.com

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#75

Bobs And Vagene
ty @mollysharms

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#76

Thank You To All The Soldiers Who Campaigned To Get Out The Vote On Tuesday. At Least He Was Honest?

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#77

Worst Game Ever.🙅 #byefelipe

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#78

Plz Explain

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#79

Can U Not. 😠 #byefelipe

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#80

"I'm Not A Fuckboy, Just Out Of Your League." 😂😂😂😂 #byefelipe

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#81

At Least He Got It Out Of The Way? 😂 #byefelipe

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#82

Ok, Dudes. Please Listen. 👂 We Don't Care About Your Dicks. We Just Want You To Not Be One. #byefelipe

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#83

Let's Be Serious, The Chances Of You Finding A Girl With That Line Are None. 👋 #byefelipe

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#84

🤮

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#85

I ❤️ 🧀🧀🧀🧀🧀🧀 Via @angcast

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#86

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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#87

We Can See Right Through Your "Cuddles," Dude. 🙅 #byefelipe

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#88

#sorrynotsorry #byefelipe

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#89

The 3 Stages Of Online Dating. 😂 #byefelipe #tinderfail

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#90

What Happens When We're Polite. 😊 #byefelipe

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#91

Fetlife #byefelipe

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#92

💁 Ok Bye!!!!! #byefelipe

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#93

Read Til The End 🙄🙄🙄

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#94

No Take Backs 🔪🤗 Thanks @raye_kynna

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#95

Nice Try With The Fat Shaming. 👋#byefelipe

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#96

We Still Doing This Shit?

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#97

Hostile Because She Didn't Use The Heart Eyes Emoji. A New Low. #byefelipe

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#98

But You Just Wanted The Baggage?

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#99

Charming. ✨ Just Another Day In The Life Of Being A Woman Online. #byefelipe

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#100

Stop Being So Selfish, Ladies. The World Deserves The Right To See Your Tits. Share Them With Everyone! 😑 #byefelipe

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#101

I Have Been Getting Submissions Of Terrible Dating Messages For Over 7 Years At This Point, And I Feel Bad That I Oftentimes Don’t Get Through All Of My Dms, But Today I Came Across This One From 2016 And It’s A Doozy! This Man’s Complete Lack Of Understanding Of Humor Is… Something!

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#102

When They Slide Into Your Dms Demanding Attention 🙄🙄🙄

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#103

Ngl, I Had To Look Up “Adversatively.” You Learn Something New Every Day!

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#104

What A Creative Insult. 😂😂😂

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#105

More Depth!

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#106

Ummmmmm... What?

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#107

“Whoa Whoa Whoa. I Just Called At 4 Am To Get To Know You!” 😂

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#108

Psa: 💫 Feel Free To Use This Account To Reject Unwanted Dudes. ✨🌈 (Still Waiting For A Message From Nick Btw) Posted With Permission From @tmsimmz

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#109

Lmao 😆 It Happened Again. Random-Ass Men Showing Up In My Filtered Fb Inbox And Getting Upset About It. We Have 0 Friends In Common. There Is No Reason He’d Be In My “People You May Know.” I’m Just Astonished Dudes Still Be Pulling This. I’m Also Clearly Open About The Fact That I Created This Account And Wrote A Book About Online Harassment. 😂😂😂

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#110

An Apology. Finally. 🙄😑

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#111

Insecurity Is A Hell Of A Drug. 😬
this Was On Plenty Of Fish

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#112

Tale As Old As Time. #byefelipe

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#113

Here’s A Gem 💎

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#114

Dear Men, The World Is Not Your Dating App. This Is From Words With Friends, Submitted By An Out Lesbian. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Also, This Stuff Doesn’t Just Happen On Dating Apps, It’s Fucking Everywhere 🌀🌀🌀 #byefelipe

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#115

"Got Mad Because I Wouldn't Show Him My Tits." #byefelipe

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#116

I Know You’re Horny But That’s Not How This Works, Dude.

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#117

Nice Save, Guy 👌👍

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#118

Oh In That Case, Get In My Pants Right Now! 😍

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#119

🎄🎁🤶🏽🎅🏾🦶#byefelipe

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#120

😑 Yeah, Right. #byefelipe

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#121

No One Wants To Have A Conversation With A Logo. #byefelipe

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