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amazedbykayy , Sathyaprabha Rakkimuthu / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Pay attention when you're leaving places, your rearview mirror, who's following you. Pay attention to the cars parked around you before you even get out of the car to go in the store. These are the type of mindsets and tactics and awareness that the type of people that are looking to harm single women, or women in general, they are not going to target you because you're too hip to things be super consistent with being inconsistent.

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45points

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DB 8 months ago

Vehicles I avoid parking near: NRA, concealed carry or other gun rights sticker. Tricked out Hondas with wide rims and giant, useless mufflers. Pickups with giant tires and stack mufflers. Any European luxury vehicle.

27points

amazedbykayy , Hassan OUAJBIR / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Become a better steward of your vehicle. A lot of women are taught to just like utilize the car for what it's good for. But in reality, it really keeps you safe to its best ability. It gets you from A to Z in scary moments when you want to leave. And the way that you can do that is by making sure that you don't let any of your vehicle functions get down to the nitty gritty of wear and tear. So always make sure that you're paying attention to your tire levels. Always make sure you're on top of your oil changes. That is one of the simplest things you can do. Wear and tear on your car in moments of emergency and staying safe is just so unfortunate. So do a better job in loving your cars like men love their cars.

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33points

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Kerry Carolan 8 months ago

I don't even have a car

1point

amazedbykayy , Jennifer Magnolia / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Kaylen Zahara, known as @amazedbykayy on TikTok, is a lifestyle and beauty personality who has recently been going viral for a video of hers.

Among other things, she discussed the need to be “consistently inconsistent”. By that, she meant that you can’t have a daily routine—a publicly visible one, at least—because that might help potential trouble-makers make some trouble to your disadvantage.

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When traveling be very wary with telling employees on the property of the resort where you're at, what room you're staying in. There are employees that work for crime organizations to traffic, kidnap, don't do it.

Final score:

30points

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

The employees at the resort should already know your room number.

28points

amazedbykayy , Erik Mclean / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Change the setting of your car keys. When you go into your car, if you have a newer car, it'll say the option of when you press to click your car button, do you want all the doors to unlock, or just the driver door, choose just the driver door because if you're running from someone, trying to get away from someone, if it unlocks all the doors, all they have to do is go to the passenger back door while you just jumped in the passenger and now they're in the car with you.

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30points

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LizzieBoredom 8 months ago

" if you're running away from someone..." That's optimistic.

9points

amazedbykayy , RDNE Stock project / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Always make sure that you have enough gas in your tank for your car at night specifically. You never know what could happen. You could be driving home from your parents' house. And you notice you've got a quarter a tank. What happens when you realize your car's gonna run out of gas? If they're continuously following you, and they're making every move, and they're letting you know, yes, we're following you. What are you going to do? Because when you stop what happens? Always make sure you have gas in your car.

Final score:

29points

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BoredPossum 8 months ago

If you're travelling to Mars, make sure to stock up on rocket fuel.

13points

amazedbykayy , Karolina Grabowska / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Kaylen explains that the idea behind being consistently inconsistent is being unpredictable. One of the key things that criminals, human traffickers and similar rabble look for in a victim is patterns. They might study your route to work, to the store and the like, and they could construct their plan of attack based on that. Kaylen suggests getting ahead of things and making sure they can’t plan.

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Always do your best to get receipts because there are some establishments that have managers and employees who like to rob their customers. You pay for something $12, and they go 'You want your receipt?' and you say no, and you'll never know that your card was charged $40 because they know every day that their cash register always ends up being short. And that's how they're saving the difference. Or they're just flat out robbing everybody that says no to a receipt.

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26points

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FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago

Unless they are double charging you, which they can do after you leave, the number on the register/till/handheld apple scanner etc is the number that goes through. I've never been anywhere that doesn't display the total. If you don't see a total, that's very suspicious.

24points

amazedbykayy , Craig Adderley / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Whenever you have a maintenance person coming, or a general contractor to work on your home, always make sure that you have men's work boots at the front door, leave out boxers and clothing all over your home or your property, so they see it and they clock in their head, 'I don't know if she's pretending but I'm not going to risk it, leave it alone'.

Final score:

26points

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Pix 8 months ago

Or, you could hire a female tradesperson? We do exist!

83points

amazedbykayy , Jonathan Borba / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Refrain from putting very personalized bumper stickers on your vehicles that would make it obvious about where you go to school, what you're into, what gym you go to, all of those different things make you trackable.

Final score:

26points

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BarkingSpider 8 months ago

Don't advertise where your kids go to school either.

9points

amazedbykayy , Andrew Neel / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#10

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When living alone as a woman, probably not the best idea when you're in a large apartment complex, or even a small one, to put a doormat outside your door anything that's cutesy and girly, even if it's neutral or not girly, because it allows people who are in the industry of kidnapping people and doing crimes to know there's a woman that lives there. Yeah, that one sucks.

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23points

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Jeevesssssss 8 months ago (edited)

I'm a woman who's lucky enough to not have to deal with housemates. My house has a big bay window facing onto the street. There's a piano pushed into the bay; standing on the piano are 3 foot-tall Star Wars figures (Vader, Chewie, a Stormie). They look epic (and that's their primary purpose) but they also don't scream 'single female living alone'.

40points

amazedbykayy , Julia Avamotive / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

So, go to different stores every time you need to, and go at different times; go do errands in erratic ways; plan meetings all the same, and make sure you’re never alone. Don’t slack on going the extra mile to do this, it’s all for your safety. The less structure your daily life has, the better as it throws off potential predators. And most of them will back off once they see how difficult you are.

#11

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When you're doing valet, make sure that you're taking your car key off of the little ring that you have for all other keys. Do not underestimate. You should not underestimate that there's someone behind that venue in a big old van that has a key copier, they take down all your information, your place, etc. And then before you know it, weeks later, you're robbed.

Final score:

22points

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Michael Largey 8 months ago

Sign in front of a plush restaurant. "If you use valet parking, be sure to remember what your valet looks like. Because we don't have valet parking."

27points

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#12

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator If you have a camera in your home, make sure to remember that while you're in your home, it's either turned off, facing the wall, there's no audio on it because there are such things as people that can hack into Wi-Fi just for sh**s and giggles. And people do this like they go to school or watch cartoons. And they just watch and listen to people all the time through their cameras while you're at home.

Final score:

22points

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Paul Pienkowski 8 months ago

I'm so boring they'd get tired of watching my fat face. All I do is play PS5 and eat Cheetos.

29points

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#13

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Handy dandy pepper spray, keep it in the car, viewable, not viewable that's up to you. Sometimes, I think it's best to make it viewable and accessible. So you don't forget that you always have it on you.

Final score:

17points

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PandaGoPanda 8 months ago

Obviously, don't do this if you live somewhere where it's illegal to have pepper spray ...

24points

amazedbykayy , Pablo Cordero / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#14

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When it comes to Uber, Lyft, eat deliveries, all that good stuff, don't put your personal information, don't add a photo of yourself, don't put your real name, don't put your apartment unit. Believe it or not, a lot of crazy people on a really low level, not like legitimate organized crime, get into those types of jobs, just to be weirdos, just to be creeps, stalkers, etc.

Final score:

17points

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Daisy1355 8 months ago

By leaving off your unit number, you're saying it's safer to... meet the driver than have them drop off a contactless delivery? The rest of it I can understand to an extent, but I don't understand how leaving off a key part of the delivery address where you can avoid the driver is somehow safer than the driver then having to meet you somewhere.

28points

amazedbykayy , Mariia Ivanova / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#15

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When you are walking on the street, always make sure that you are walking against traffic. Meaning you see all the cars coming toward you, not from behind you. Why? Because if you're walking with traffic, a car can pull up to the side of you or behind you, and snatch you. We see that all the time in movies.

Final score:

13points

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PFD 8 months ago

If there's no pavement (sidewalk) you should walk against the traffic so you can see the behaviour of drivers approaching and because drivers are more likely to see you face-on. But it's a road safety thing, not because of kidnapping. Most of these posts are bloody insane.

31points

Nizumi 8 months ago

Written like someone who's never had to think about these possibilities.

2points

Flora Porter 8 months ago

Agree it's good practice to face the oncoming traffic but more to reduce your chances of being run over because you can see what's coming.

11points

Paula Pattison 8 months ago

I learned this as a child, not to prevent kidnapping but for safety, walk facing traffic, you can see them and they can see you.

9points

MiriPanda 8 months ago

Seriously.... "We see that all the time in MOVIES" - exactly, a little less tv time for this one. And I am a woman.

8points

Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 8 months ago

I think in most places you're supposed to do that anyway, and bicycles go WITH traffic.

5points

Nadine Lynch 8 months ago

It is not really an issue of fear mongering as much as common sense. You walk against the traffic so you can see the cars. You don't broadcast information about yourself so you don't attract unwanted attention (every country has creeps). Putting out a social media post that you are currently on vacation and out of your house invites thieves. Being aware is not the same thing as living in fear. In fact, knowing that you have taken basic steps to ensure your personal security increases confidence. At least, it does for me.

5points

rmandevi831 8 months ago

Walking against traffic also means that you can avoid a car which doesn't see you.

3points

Kerry Carolan 8 months ago

We see all of these nonsense scenarios in movies, and there's definitely a reason for that: movies, I regret to inform you, are not real

3points

El Dee 8 months ago

This also means that you can get out of the way should someone have to swerve..

2points

Michael Largey 8 months ago

Walk against traffic so you'll see oncoming dangerous drivers.

2points

BoredPossum 8 months ago

Don't forget your tin foil hat. Aliens may abduct you. I saw that on a drawing my cousin made in 5th class. Is the US really that dangerous?? Stuff like this is unheard of in places like Europe.

1point

Kerry Carolan 8 months ago

No, it's not. This is just fear mongering.

6points

Claire Kroll 8 months ago

13 year old here- there are quite a few dangerous situations you can get in the us, especially given how easy it is for people to get guns. I have to walk 7min in the dark at 5 am to catch a high school bus. So yes, it is quite dangerous to be alive and a woman over here

4points

Maureen Ustenci 8 months ago

Wow you are really triggered by women trying to keep themselves safe. I wonder why that would be?

3points

MrsV 8 months ago

Brit here. When I was 15 and living in a very calm and usually safe village in the UK, a man I didn’t know pulled up abruptly beside me in his car, told me he knew where I lived and kept trying to convince me to get in the car with him. Luckily it was daylight and I kept saying no and he didn’t leave the car and sped off in the opposite direction but it shook me up. I always panic a little now when a car pulls up beside me out of nowhere. Stuff like this is most definitely not unheard of in Europe. Just because you haven’t experienced something like this doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

3points

MayaGeGe 8 months ago (edited)

Depends on where you live in Europe I suppose, but even living in a country that's really not the safest in Europe, these type of kidnappings are quite unheard of. Cases usually involve the victim already knowing the criminal, who refuses to let him/her go after both willingly met, or divorced fathers that flee with the kids.

3points

marianne eliza 8 months ago

I imagine the danger to girls and women is everywhere. Most of these are for us, and yes. Life really is that dangerous for women.

2points

TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago (edited)

Oh I wouldn't count on that, at least not for the countries on the west side of the polish boarder

1point

Kate 8 months ago

Yes. Girl who went to my high school was walking home from summer school and disappeared. They found her body in a field a couple miles away a week later. And you say women in Europe are never kidnapped? I had not heard that Europe had eliminated human trafficking, that's amazing! Or b******t, one of the two.

0points

Angry Little Hedgehog 8 months ago

No headphones or at the very least only one.

0points

Elchinero 8 months ago

ILLEGAL aliens, too

-1point

quentariel 8 months ago

Usually you walk in the direction you are going and not think traffic too much. If I had to walk against the traffic, I would need to leave to work in the evening and go home in the morning and unfortunately my job doesn't work like that.

-2points

Bewitched One 8 months ago

They mean walk facing oncoming traffic. In the US, you drive on the right side of the road. So to walk facing oncoming traffic you want to walk on the left side of the road

2points

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But that’s not all. Kaylen has several videos talking about safety. Try to avoid personality on food delivery apps—don’t have any more personal info than it is necessary for the couriers to do their job.

If you have cameras at home, then make sure they are facing away or turned off whenever you’re at home as hackers can hijack them.

#16

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator If you go to a certain school, work at a certain hospital, etc. Probably not the brightest idea to leave your little information tag in your car dashboard area, and drive around the city and everywhere else and not take it out. Because all that tells somebody is where you go every day, how to find you next after you leave the grocery store. It's not smart.

amazedbykayy , Artem Podrez / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

8points

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Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 8 months ago

I don't know if this is always the case, but if it's a card, you need it to get in the building. True, they know where you work now, but they can't get *in*.

3points

amazedbykayy , Erik Mclean / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#17

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When you get new tags on your car. Make sure that you are scraping through it with a knife or your key to make sure that no one can simply just pull it off.

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6points

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PandaGoPanda 8 months ago

I don't understand this one. What is a tag on a car? How would scraping a knife through it stop someone pulling it off?

14points

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#18

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator It is important for us as young women to get comfortable with the idea and mindset of being consistently inconsistent with where we run our errands, what we do and how we're doing it. For example, the people that are out here with ill intentions to profit off are looking for specific targets: the oblivious, the ones that don't have awareness and the people that don't have these type of mindsets. You need to be going to different coffee shops all the time, don't go to Target because it's right there at your home and it's just consistent. Do different things, spread it out, drive extra miles to go run your errands, and then next week don't go there anymore, then go to the place that is closest to you, switch it up so much.

amazedbykayy , Farhad Irani / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

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5points

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Bonesko 8 months ago

Be aware of your surroundings, don't fall into a routine in case of stalkers, tell someone where you are, don't walk alone, lace your keys in between your fingers like a B-rated Wolverine... all sh*t I and probably most women have been told since we started developing. All great advice, but I'm f**king sick of the conversation on how to "stay safe" being a woman in the world is what we women can do to limit being harrased and maybe thwart off an attack.

38points

amazedbykayy , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#19

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Stop going to the gym every day at five o'clock at your favorite one on Third and Fifth Street. You are completely exposing yourself to a routine, and timeline, and they can just start tracking you, they know your whole routine, you're an easy target to be robbed, trafficked, all this other stuff. So just start thinking outside the box.

Final score:

2points

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Bonesko 8 months ago (edited)

15points

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#20

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator When you travel, especially as a woman, you need to book and state that there's a man's name on the reservation. And when you get into that room, you need to make sure that you check everything. Make sure nobody's hiding in cubbies and closets, and always bring a door stopper that has an alarm on it. So if someone does break in as soon as they open that door and alarm that is going to wake up the entire globe is going to be set off.

amazedbykayy , Josh Hild / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

1point

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Ripley 8 months ago

What happens when you can't get into your reserved room because it's in someone else's name?

22points

amazedbykayy , Charlotte May / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

She also suggests more unorthodox things mixed with standard security measures. Say you have an alarm at home. Trigger it every once in a while—not only will you be testing it out, but you will also be sending a message to everyone about it as a regular drill. It can be annoying, and some might get desensitized to it, but people will be aware of the deterring measures.

#21

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Living in an apartment complex, do certain things that throw people off. Get alarm systems, anytime you open your front door let that ring hell loud. So that everybody on your floor knows 'try it if you want to'. Because unfortunately yes, people live there day in and day out to plot to harm others.

Final score:

-11points

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Ripley 8 months ago

Are you f*****g kidding me??? Create a situation where your neighbours actively wish you harm because you are disturbing their peace every time you open your door? Genius! /s

63points

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#22

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Never go to a carwash in the evening or at night. The ones at the gas station that you drive through. Somebody could be in between the sides of where your car's going through really slow getting washed. And they could carjack you, anything could happen.

amazedbykayy , Pixabay / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

-15points

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Julie S 8 months ago

Just lock the doors

34points

amazedbykayy , cottonbro studio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#23

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator Stop talking to strangers. Stranger danger. There are people that are recruited as like employees for the trafficking world. And a lot of them are recruited as women because they come off as unsuspecting. And they talk to you while you're in Target shopping for tissue paper. When you get approached by somebody in an instance where you didn't ask them to tell you 'Oh my god, your hair's so pretty. What do you put on it?' Just be like bye, and move away from the aisle.

Final score:

-20points

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Blue Bunny of Happiness 8 months ago

Blimey, they’ve never visited the north of England then. Having a (usually) brief conversation with strangers is pretty standard!

38points

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#24

"Things To Know To Stay Safe That Maybe No One Ever Told You": 24 Tips For Women From This Creator I think it's really unsafe for women and children to be riding around in non-tinted windows where anybody can visibly see them, aka fishbowl.

Final score:

-28points

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Zoe's Mom 8 months ago

In some states, it's illegal to have tinted windows.

34points

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It is important to note that while much of the content online doesn’t aim to fear-monger people into a sense of paranoia about the dangers of the outside world, the sheer amount of it doesn’t help. Not everyone and everything is out to get you and the risks are generally low.

For the record, things like homocides are generally speaking on the decline. The pandemic didn't help, but depending on the policies, some places bounced faster than others and, by this point, many bounced back in general.

But like with any extreme, it’s best to find the optimal level of awareness for the sake of safety because you’ll be better off in the long run.

So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Have some safety tips that proved to be quite effective? Share your advice, takes and stories in the comment section below!

You can check out the video that sparked it all below

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Meowzers! 8 months ago

The paranoia is strong with this one. How exhausting it must be to think everyone is out to get you.

39points

majandess 8 months ago

Yeah. I can't live like this.

2points

Donkeywheel 8 months ago (edited)

It’s been a long time since we’ve had this one. Just like the other times, when you have this mindset, you either need to move away from the shithole country you’re living in and/or reach for a psychiatrist to treat your paranoia. Or both.

27points

90HD 8 months ago

I feel like number two is more common

8points

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TheAmericanAmerican 8 months ago

Not more of this "be afraid of EVERYTHING" BS plz. This is a prime example of how fear "sells" "gets the clicks". It's the online equivalent to Fox "News" for millennial, zoomers, and younger.

22points

Mireille Oosterhof 8 months ago (edited)

Let me sum this up without reading anything: "Always be afraid in every single interaction you have with any kind of person." The reality: the chance that anything happens to you is small to nothing. Adult white women are not the prime kidnapping targets they seem to think that they are (kidnapping happens mostly to kids WITHIN THE FAMILY, or (undocumented) migrant workers), most people are just doing their job to earn a living and could not care LESS about you, and the rare chance you meet somebody who is weird, is just because they are socially weird, not because they want to rape and kill you. Sure, bad things happen to people, but I am guessing these people are still driving around in their cars, even is that is in many place thes ONE thing that might get you killed most. You can't live your life being afraid.

19points

KillerKiwi 8 months ago

Well, the title was right. I have never heard of most of these because they are outlandish and stupid.

14points

Carney 8 months ago

Wow! I guess if you are a woman you need to always stay inside your home, keep the doors and windows double-locked, never talk to someone you don't know, never let someone know your schedule and always travel in a pack. I have a whole load of fears, but I don't fear strangers; I travel alone and talk to people a lot; I drive at night or in cars that have untainted windows and generally feel safe. I view life as an adventure and while danger exists, our fears should not be allowed to dominate to the point that we fail to embrace new experiences. Be aware, be informed and take appropriate cautions, but don't let fear rule your life. Not embracing all of what life offers will keep you so grounded you will never learn to fly.

13points

FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago

Just another way to harm women - make sure even the safe ones never feel safe. Be aware of your surroundings, but if you spend your entire lifenon edge and looking for an attacker, you'll get PTSD all the same. Most women aren't attacked, most that do know their attacker. And if you do live in the US and you don't feel safe, move to a safe place. Plenty of jobs in other places, work remotely etc.

12points

RN 8 months ago

Why not just shoot everyone you meet and be done with it?

11points

Undercover 8 months ago

Meanwhile the majority of people parade detailed accounts of their lives on social media. They hold their full face in the camera and use a shady platform like Tiktok 🤦🏻‍♀️

11points

MayaGeGe 8 months ago (edited)

good point. Maybe these tips should be implemented by people who actually have been giving away very personal details of their life for years on random social media platforms.

7points

David Paterson 8 months ago

Top tip for safety of women - don't date drunk. Danger increases exponentially with the amount of alcohol consumed. This needs to be number 1 in any list of safety tips for women.

9points

sturmwesen 8 months ago

I would add: don't get too drunk or high if you don't have a buddy with you... it doesn't need to be your date who is dangerous

6points

Flora Porter 8 months ago

I'm female, under 5ft2 and in the UK but lived alone abroad and travelled a lot for work. This advice seems dramatic and paranoid unless you're living somewhere with very high rates of violence. The main thing is to be sensible: keep your eyes open, don't wear headphones or show your valuables walking down the street and let someone know where you're going if you're on your own.

7points

DRMAGDN 8 months ago

Social anxiety and paranoia loading in 3, 2, 1...

6points

Steve Hall 8 months ago

Safety is one thing, paranoia is a mental illness.

5points

DarkViolet 8 months ago

Where does she actually live, post-apocalyptic Disneyland?!

4points

Diolla 8 months ago

Seems like in the USA, predators are constantly hunting women, so you're probably best off staying at home and living in a bunker at all times.... In my experience, with a bit of common sense and being aware of your surroundings, you will probably be OK. But I don't live in the US. I have experienced assaults but the really dangerous situations were either completely unavoidable (for example random stranger trying to knife me when I entered a bar) or done by men I knew well like (ex) partners. I was also raised with the idea that there were rapists hiding behind every tree in the park but the real violence mostly was not coming from strangers.

3points

geezeronthehill 8 months ago

These all sound like city people fears. Maybe it's best not to live in US cities.

3points

TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago (edited)

So stay home all day, secure it like the Maginot Line, make sure nobody knows your name and if you have to go out remember the MOUT training to identifiy every possible threat out there. - I think the US can be quite dangerous, but this sounds more like an anxiety disorder or outright paranoia

3points

Wendy Miller 8 months ago

My Dad taught all his girls basic safety. We lived in the burbs outside Chicago. Always lock your car doors. Make sure your keys are in your hand before walking out of the house, store, wherever, to your car. Don't leave things in your car. When I moved out I grew up in the Chicago burbs. My Dad made sure to teach us safety measures. Lock your car doors. Carry your keys in your hand before you get to your car. Don't leave things in your car. Fight dirty. Be aware of your surroundings. I still have the taser he bought me. Also, don't be afraid to be rude. When I first moved out on my own, when telephone books were a big thing, I used my first initial and last name. Now, we have a light on a timer and a security system. Basically, be smart about your safety.

2points

Gozer LeGozerian 8 months ago

Tips for women in the US

1point

Sinnsyk Jakte 8 months ago

If I implemented half of the things suggested here, I'd be hauled off for a psyche eval. I've also been in way more stupidly dangerous positions than visiting the same coffee shop frequently. I refuse to live like prey. (And that mentality alone has kept me from harm.)

1point

Hey! 8 months ago

This is too much. Abductophobia: an intense fear of kidnapping that causes ongoing distress and gets in the way of daily life. It's time to see your therapist. Skinny-Peo...4bfa0a.jpg

1point

Shelli Aderman 8 months ago

This is stupid. These are all common sense, and this ridiculous person is instilling fear where there need not be! 🙄

1point

Michelle my Belle. 8 months ago

All these comments talking about how paranoid women are. As if we are the problem. Maybe if men stopped being violent, we could stop being so vigilant. It seems crazy and paranoid...until it isn't anymore because it happened to you.

1point

The Doom Song 8 months ago

I lived by myself for like 5 years. Best thing I did was get a dog.

0points

Ione Decep 8 months ago

This is why I really want to get a tactical flashlight and maybe an airhorn. Light so bright it burns out your corneas and sound so loud it breaks your eardrums andthat it wakes up everyone in a ten km radius and makes them go, "WTF? Call the cops,someone's being an a*s."

0points

Paul Pienkowski 8 months ago

Some of this HAS to be advice for people from other countries. Most Americans would have a more permanent way to stop intruders. Or at least blast them with electricity until the cops come.

0points

90HD 8 months ago

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Ripley 8 months ago

None of the advice given in this article will protect a woman from date rape. It's all aimed at stranger danger. She says not to talk to strangers when you are far more likely to be assaulted by someone you know. A lot of her advice will put you in *more* danger (alarms on your front door in an apartment block), or are not practical or illegal (heavily tinted windows on your car). Kidnappings off the street almost never happen in OECD countries. I'm deeply saddened for the issues you and your family have faced - following the paranoid advice of this tiktoker will not help in most cases.

7points

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Meowzers! 8 months ago

The paranoia is strong with this one. How exhausting it must be to think everyone is out to get you.

39points

majandess 8 months ago

Yeah. I can't live like this.

2points

Donkeywheel 8 months ago (edited)

27points

90HD 8 months ago

I feel like number two is more common

8points

SadieCat17 (she/her) 8 months ago

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TheAmericanAmerican 8 months ago

Not more of this "be afraid of EVERYTHING" BS plz. This is a prime example of how fear "sells" "gets the clicks". It's the online equivalent to Fox "News" for millennial, zoomers, and younger.

22points

Mireille Oosterhof 8 months ago (edited)

19points

KillerKiwi 8 months ago

Well, the title was right. I have never heard of most of these because they are outlandish and stupid.

14points

Carney 8 months ago

13points

FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago

12points

RN 8 months ago

Why not just shoot everyone you meet and be done with it?

11points

Undercover 8 months ago

Meanwhile the majority of people parade detailed accounts of their lives on social media. They hold their full face in the camera and use a shady platform like Tiktok 🤦🏻‍♀️

11points

MayaGeGe 8 months ago (edited)

good point. Maybe these tips should be implemented by people who actually have been giving away very personal details of their life for years on random social media platforms.

7points

David Paterson 8 months ago

Top tip for safety of women - don't date drunk. Danger increases exponentially with the amount of alcohol consumed. This needs to be number 1 in any list of safety tips for women.

9points

sturmwesen 8 months ago

I would add: don't get too drunk or high if you don't have a buddy with you... it doesn't need to be your date who is dangerous

6points