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34 Moments Guys Got Turned On By A Woman Due To Something Non-Sexual, As Shared In This Online Group
Family and relationships always remain one of the most important aspects in the lives of each of us, so it is not surprising that choosing a partner - a person who will be with us throughout our lives (in an ideal case, of course), is so important. Otherwise, you cannot avoid angry or simply disappointed posts in the AITA Reddit community...
However, you can’t do without Reddit anyway. For example, in the AskReddit community, someone recently asked this question: “Guys: What’s something non-sexual that would attract you to a woman?” A rather rare situation, by the way, is when the number of comments in the resulting thread is almost twice as large as the number of upvotes - 2.3K against 1.3K. Anyway, here’s the selection of the most interesting opinions there, made for you by Bored Panda.
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#1
Being funny. I met a woman recently who did different voices to describe an interaction she’d had. It was so charming and entertaining.
FakeOptimist 1 year ago
Totally ! And apart from it being nice to be around, a sense of humor is also a sign of intelligence and being able how to interact with people.
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#2
If they have a similar sense of humor to mine and get my jokes and can make funny jokes themselves. Able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves to seriously. I swoon every time. That s***s more important than looks. Looks fade, personality lasts forever.
Lil Miss Hobbit 1 year ago
So true. I have a 15 year old friend (female) who tells the BEST dad jokes ever.🤣
#3
Deliberately dancing badly when a bad song is being played.
Almost any woman can dance well or dance sexily but to openly clown around like that is far more attractive.
That's what actually attracted me to my wife. I later found out she wasn't trying to be funny, she was just really bad at dancing.
Of course, choosing a partner is definitely a two-way street, and each person has their own criteria for finding the ideal - or close to ideal - person to live with. One of the most comprehensive studies on this topic ever was conducted in 2018, by the University of Gottingen together with MyONE Condoms. The survey included 68,068 people from 180 countries around the world.
And so, according to the study results, among the main features that interest women when choosing a long-term partner were their kindness, supportiveness, intelligence and education. As for men, kindness also confidently takes first place, followed by supportiveness, ethnic similarity and intelligence. As you can see, the main factors almost always coincide for men and women. But what's more interesting is how different the criteria are when it comes to short-term partnerships...
#4
Her being an animal person. I've had multiple pets my whole life so it's pretty much a requirement for me to be in a relationship with someone.
Also if she's the type of person that doesn't play mind games and is direct about how she feels.
SnackbarKaat 1 year ago
My hb wasn't an animal person at all, but I am glad to say I saw that change :)
#5
Humour, geekiness, mischief, artistic ability, storytelling ability.
That’s how I knew my wife was the one.
#6
If they love to read, as it's something that's deeply attractive since very few people I know are avid readers.
That and a good sense of humor, especially dark humor :D
So, speaking of short-term partners, among women in this survey the leader is 'attractive face', then kindness and confidence. For men, accordingly, the most important factors here are 'attractive body' and 'attractive face' - that is, mainly physical features. Yes, the criteria vary greatly, but sometimes it happens that short-term relationships develop into long-term ones - and then we desperately wonder why the person with whom it was so good at the beginning turns out to be completely different in the long run...
#7
Intelligence and charisma.
Having a good talk with a woman has always been a huge turn on for me. I never understood clubbing hookups, doesn’t give me anything, drunk people are a mess…
#8
Quick wit. If she can drop a smart/funny comment in the middle of a conversation, I am in love.
#9
Apparently , my bf was blown away that I cook.
He is used to dating party girls. Skinny, really pretty, club-scene girls that like to do some molly & coke on the weekends and go wild.
Me? Im a single mom and im coming out of a 10 year marriage.
No idea wtf he sees in me.
“In fact, all these criteria that people love to talk about are all great, but often things don’t work like that at all,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here . "You always need to remember two things. First, we are not choosing a new car or smartphone, and in the case of relationships, all impeccable logical reasonings often go straight to hell. Secondly, it can always happen that the perfect match, as it seems from our side, doesn’t look like that at all from the side of a possible partner.”
“Some writer... unfortunately, I don’t remember who exactly, once wrote a wise phrase that our psyche is nothing more than an accidental coating on the endocrine glands. So everything we think about and logically justify when we are asked about choosing a partner can always be thrown aside as soon as we feel that very incredible feeling... In the end, love does not ask us when to come,” Irina summarizes.
#10
Hugs
#11
Passion and expertise in her hobby of choice. Geeking out is super cute.
FakeOptimist 1 year ago
Yep. Even if she's talking about something I don't know or understand : love enthousiasm about something.
#12
My lady will drop new vocab words on me sometimes and I swoon.
Sara Wilson 1 year ago
My ex husband did like my larger vocabulary. He's a math brain and I devour books like crazy, so I'm a word person
However, it is always interesting to read what criteria people use when choosing partners - even if these are just words. Or just beautiful words. We choose, we are chosen... how often this does not coincide, and yet we do think this list is pretty interesting to read and discuss. So please feel free to scroll the selection to its very end, and share your own ideas in the comments as well - because we are always very interested in hearing your opinion!
#13
Being a good person. I was really into this girl who seemed kind and generous, she did some fundraisers for disadvantaged people and stuff like that which made her seem like she would be a really good partner. But then Australia had a referendum on whether or not gay people should be allowed to get married, and she said she was going to vote no because they were unnatural. Immediate turn off.
#14
The ability to enjoy themselves. Not always needing something to complain about. Actually happy.
#16
Cute aberrations, like imperfect teeth or messy hair.
#17
Liking Geek/Nerd stuff. I'm telling ya ladies if you're wondering where the good men are, consider dating a geek
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
I consider a long, meaningful talk about deep Star Wars lore a foreplay /lh
#18
The way she looks at you. Eyes are my weakness.
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
Yes. The ultimate correct answer. Beautiful eyes are a full frontal attack on my very being.
#19
I like a woman’s mind, her personality. Being transgressive and creative is very appealing. Being comfortable in who she is. A woman who can just throw on some old clothes and go on an unscripted adventure.
Mabelbabel 1 year ago
Is transgressive really the word he wanted here? Transgressive behaviour is not an attractive quality in anyone. It doesn't mean someone who is comfortable in who they are, it's someone who deliberately sets themselves at odds with human society and violates standards of normal behaviour, cultural, ethical, and moral standards.
#20
actually caring about me.
#21
I'll need to see a Spotify playlist thanks.
InfiniteZeek 1 year ago
I don't like to judge people on their tastes in the arts. That is a personal thing that no one should be judged for or made to feel bad.
#22
Not sexual, but still physical: an emotive face.
Nose scrunch. Active eyebrows. Playful smirk.
Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago
This could go badly if someone does not come about these things naturally and decides to incorporate them into the next date...
#23
Clear idea of what she wants out of life beyond a relationship.
Whiskey Tango Delicious 1 year ago
Totally this! Relationships cannot survive hinged solely on the partner. Applies to all relationships, find what drives YOU, don't expect your partner to fulfill 100% of you, that's unreasonable and you're wasting everyone's time. Communicate your needs both inside, and outside your relationship before it's too late. Don't ask how I know...
#24
If she's an Intelligent conversationalist. Able to talk about a myriad of topics from anthropology to digital systems integration, and everything in between. Opinionated but not argumentative.
I want to be around you.
#26
Smiles. It was how my wife smiled that made me take interest in her.
For most guys, nothing is more attractive than a woman who smiles or laughs with them.
Pheebs 1 year ago
My hubs told me this was how he became interested. I got called in to an unexpected meeting with him and some higher ups at the company we worked for. Most people who worked there were miserable due to constant threats of being fired, so he was surprised I walked in with a smile. Me, I learned early on in life that starting most interactions with a smile will put you on better footing, so I always try to smile even when I hated my job. Unless the situation called for being firm and serious.
#27
their ear, tucking their hair behind them.
I'm not sure why. Simply... HHHNNNGGGGH
#29
Driving manual transmission
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago (edited)
My dad taught me to drive automatic AND manual. He also taught me how to do basic car maintenance and repairs (heck, I can even replace disc brakes). I'll never forget when I was 14-15ish and I was hanging out with my best friend; his aunt drove us to a mall to hang out while she shopped (it was the 90s, okay?!) and then drove us back... and when we got to my house I told her to pop the hood of her van because I could hear something was wrong. I checked a few things and then I realized the sounds had been her timing belt getting close to breaking. The "O_O" look my male friend gave me when I knew what to do around a car and he didn't... XD we still had some outdated gender ideals back then. I wanted to be a mechanic when I grew up... my dad told me it maybe wasn't a good idea since people might not "trust" a female mechanic to know what she was doing :( My dad meant well, but I still wish I'd pursued it anyway.
#30
Any girl that plays the guitar. I find it super hot for some reason
Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago
I think its hot when guys play instruments... particularly guitar, piano, drums... and I have fallen madly in lust many times watching musicals or a lead singer that had an incredible voice
#32
Her voice is definetly one
Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago
I just thought of the guy who called the pizza place then canceled his order and walked in to try to record the girl's voice lol...
#33
Athleticism.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Been a bit burned by this one in the past with someone who wanted me to share their EXACT brand/intensity of athleticism. It was fine that that's what he wanted, but I'm a nerdy geek pudding made of books and computer games. I trip over my own feet most days XD
#34
I would like to say some form of energy exists. An aura perhaps. There are without question particular women amongst a sea of them that distinctly draw my attention, just for the passing moment. It is observable that it is not some ultra superior beauty. It is just some
I encountered one woman the other day on an elevator and for some unknown reason her energy just melted through my defenses. Stared so deep into her eyes while we briefly interacted that I didn’t see her name badge or remember what exactly her face looked like. I was clearly of higher charisma and libido from the moment I walked in her vicinity. There was nothing sexual about it. A day or two later, like an after shock from an earthquake, I found myself pulled to a sudden sense of pursuing her. I’ve never seen her since and don’t even know if I would recognize her. It completely shifted my demeanor though.
I have moments like these, though not as pronounced as that, with various women I walk past. Never figured it out. It is a refreshing sensation though. Maybe it is pheromones. Maybe women have superpowers.
Mabelbabel 1 year ago
The poor woman was probably thinking "why the hell is this stranger staring at me, why is he being so creepy??" and covering her name badge, and desperate to get off at the next stop and hide.
What do you think ?
Jared Robinson 1 year ago
lol I'm sorry but EVERY response missed the point. Title of this is what TURNED YOU ON, not just something that attracted you. You telling me you got a raging uncontrollable boner cause a girl made you go hehe? pull the other one mate, it's got bells on.
Tracy Wallick 1 year ago
I'd really like to know what men like about women that have nothing to do with sexiness. Every day it feels more and more like men only view women as sexual objects, I really want to know what they like about us as people.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 1 year ago
I’ll speak for me. I love that my wife is intelligent and insightful, that she is unendingly f***ing hilarious, that she cares deeply about those around her, especially animals, that’s she’s silly, and that she’s sensitive but strong.
Load More Replies... Jared Robinson 1 year ago
lol I'm sorry but EVERY response missed the point. Title of this is what TURNED YOU ON, not just something that attracted you. You telling me you got a raging uncontrollable boner cause a girl made you go hehe? pull the other one mate, it's got bells on.
Tracy Wallick 1 year ago
I'd really like to know what men like about women that have nothing to do with sexiness. Every day it feels more and more like men only view women as sexual objects, I really want to know what they like about us as people.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/hey you) 1 year ago
I’ll speak for me. I love that my wife is intelligent and insightful, that she is unendingly f***ing hilarious, that she cares deeply about those around her, especially animals, that’s she’s silly, and that she’s sensitive but strong.
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