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It's been three decades since the publication of the bestseller 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,' but the debate over how and why men and women are different is far from over.

Most women who see gender differences in the way people express their feelings, excel at work, and approach parenting say they are primarily based on societal expectations, while men who see differences in these areas tend to believe biology is the cause.

Interested in everyday examples, Reddit user Unfair_Quantity1413 made a post on the platform, asking everyone "What are some things that are normal to women but mind-blowing to men?" Here are some of the most popular answers they have received.

#1

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Going to the doctor for a legitimate problem only to be treated as dramatic/lying/attention-seeking/depressed/overweight and then outright dismissed because you are female. And not getting the help you need.

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tuzdayschild
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I solved this by only having only female docs. This doesn't guarantee anything, but it definitely increased my odds. I did some research and got myself a great team.

Angrykitten
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I solved it by having my husband speak for me to male Dr's. It sucks but they listen to him and take him more seriously then they ever did me.

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BisexualBat
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The misogyny in so many industries. oof. and Im a man

Kaye
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being accused of d**g seeking. I already HAVE pain meds. This is different pain. Once it was gallstones. Another time it was a blocked colon.

Elizabeth
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's demoralizing in a whole other way when they want to give you a pregnancy test when you haven't had fallopian tubes in a minute. Thanks for proving you neither glanced at my chart nor listened to the words coming out of my mouth. I wonder how this bill will get messed up and bankrupt me...

Debbie
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And according to the posts I read here, not believing you when you say you can't be pregnant.

Becky Samuel
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1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother worked all her life as a midwife. The number of women who came in in active labour who insisted that they were not pregnant was substantially more than zero.

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D W
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guy here, it's happened to me several times. Was told by one GP my skin cancer wasn't skin cancer and just to use aftershave on it.

Charity Angel
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... ... I'm trying to figure out the logic there. The only thing I can think of is that if it looked like a zit, alcohol might dry it out. But any other skin issue, that would be a disaster. I think my mum did very well with hers - her practice had a GP with a dermatology speciality, and they got her in to look at it, and she sorted it (it was a little thing, a scrape and the chemo cream sorted it). She's left now, but the GPs still probably better educated than most about skin issues, so this time they still didn't mess around with getting a referral for biopsy.

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Lola July
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're leg or arm doesn't really quit working, quit attention seeking. No, your numbness is imaginary. It only took 7 years to find a Dr who listened, did several brain scans, found brain lesions and diagnosed MS.

Manana Man
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that this is a bigger problem for women, but I can also assure you that men are not always believed either. A lot of times it's because they think you're just trying to get d***s.

Leigh
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a doctor insist on giving me a pregnancy test despite my repeated attempts to explain I was asexual.

Sammie 19
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have fibromyalgia and every time you I see my doctor about a health problem she always says that it's my fibromyalgia. Nope I have heart problems

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    #2

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Loss of bodily autonomy by government action.

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    DC
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In this regard, I am happy to say ... Vivé la France! - the first nation to have the right to end a pregnancy in their constitution. We need to catch up to them. Globally. In this regard, and even if in none else, in this, the world shall follow!

    Tamra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Came here to mention France! Well done!

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    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The US is so out of touch... These irrelevant culture wars supported by fringe groups and special interests have become more of a priority than solving the multitude of REAL problems both the country and the world faces. The worst is seeing mostly old white men valuing the life's of CELLS over the lives of mothers and the children ultimately being born. Both the rulings on abortion and IVF are beyond alarming. They're not pro-lifey, they're pro-birth. After a child is born, politicians could care less about their well-being, denying any financial, educational or healthcare assistance to the families that may not be able to support them otherwise. Especially states with no exceptions for rape or incest, and almost worse are the cases where the law would prosecute a woman having a miscarriage or would force a mother to jeopardize her life and force her to carry a fetus to term despite fatal genetic abnormalities. Cells have more rights than people. Just cruel.

    TheAmericanAmerican
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fascism did indeed come to the US wrapped in the flag while holding the Bible... Christofascists are at the gates, folks. What shall we do about it?

    KimB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My opinion? Fire every single politician and start over. Elect normal everyday people and set term limits for every facet.

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    LokisLilButterknife
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All the Christo facists and hyper conservatives in the U.S.A are pounding their bibles saying that women should be submissive to their men. It is absolutely vile. Yet, these hypocrites scream and cry that their "God given right" to own a gun is going to be taken away and don't give a s**t about all the poor children that are murdered in schools due to gun violence.

    Bluonthefront
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe we need mandatory court-ordered vasectomies. For sexual assault, severe child abuse, males who murder women carrying their child they don't want to support...

    Rosemary .
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately a mandatory court-ordered vasectomy isn't much of a punishment for sexual assault or abuse because a vasectomy just prevents them from impregnating a woman. Maybe you're thinking of court-ordered chemical castration?

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's interesting that in France we have a strong bond with abortion right now but it's almost entirely due to the legendary Simone Veil. She was one of the early woman in politics and fight so much about abortion right and women rights to decide about their body. She was so brave and inspiring. A survivor from Auschwitz and one of our most amazing french citizen ever. She is burried in the Pantheon, the greatest honnor of French Republic.

    Irishgal
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If men were the ones that got pregnant you can bet your a*se it would be in every constitution that its THEIR choice on what happens!!!!! I'm not pro abortion but I am pro choice! Growing up in Ireland we were thought some horrid things which are just not true - every person should govern their own bodies!

    Emma S
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By a mostly white male Government at that. Male politicians really need to keep out of decisions that only affect women.

    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get it, you would have prefered that they don't vote this law ? Ok only 38% of french womens among National Assembly but that's a great move. It will protect french womens even if some extremist leader get power. It's in the constitution now.

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    #3

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Feeling a fart roll up your vulva in the front.

    whatadoorknob , Yaroslav Kambarov/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Cat Chat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... and the uncomfortable feeling when it stalls in the middle, not quite making it to the front. Please tell me I'm not the only one. 🤣

    Ge Po
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you, now I have to clean coffeestains out of my shirt!

    Jill Rhodry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok guys, 'fess up - do they have roll to the front and tickle your moneybag?

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have 'B*****k bubbles' when you fart in the bath and it tickles your balls.

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    Justanotherpanda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There you go, it's said. It happens.

    detective miller's hat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that's what we call an exit through the gift shop

    KimB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm trying to figure out how I'm 47 fricking years old and this is the first time I've heard this expression it's great I love it! : D

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    Littlemiss
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or when you fart so hard, the blood bubbles up and goes right up your pants. Or my husband asks if I need to scrape my leg afterwards

    TPWK 🩵
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a little kid I used to call these front bubble toots 🤣

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    #4

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Walking around acting normal while you’re bleeding, fatigued, cramping and more. If someone was experiencing those symptoms as a result of anything else they’d be on sick leave or at least communicating to people how they’re unwell. But nope, suck it up and go about your day like your uterus isn’t trying to murder you.

    GirlisNo1 , John Diez/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Catastrophisticate
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can we please find the person (MUST be a man) who came up with the "Have a happy period" campaign, string him up by his balls and wish him a "Happy evisceration"?

    Kate Jones
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously. Just once I'd love to see a commercial of a crime scene and in the end we find out it's just Suzie having her period and saying 'this sucks but our product can help'. And then maybe they can team up with Ben and Jerry's and put coupons in the pad/tampon boxes for like a buy one get one free deal. Or coupons for Advil or half-off a heating pad.

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    Tracy Wallick
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you show the slightest bit of discomfort, physically or emotionally, you're ruthlessly mocked for it.

    similarly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's really sad, because I know some women have REALLY horrible periods. Nobody should be mocked for it.

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    Weezy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before my hysterectomy, I had/have endometriosis, adenomyosis, and PCOS and still managed to go to work, cook, clean, etc.. Looking back, I don't know how I managed as long as I did. I had pain meds and cordless heating pads but still got the eye rolls and general dismissive attitudes for employers and coworkers. I am so glad to see that this is starting to change!!!!!

    Boots
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No kidding. Trying to keep a straight face while your vagina births a clump of strawberry jelly that slides straight *past* the tampon, is a hell I would not wish on another woman.

    Norwegian_Panda🇳🇴
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As one who have to deal with a very bad endometriosis I have to say…men would go to hospital if they had the pain I have almost every day.

    Tessa
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly, and above that, they would be taken seriously when they would go to the hospital. Unlike most women who are experiencing that. Sorry for you pain!

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    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry but the - "Your uterus isn't trying to murder you" bit really got me giggling!!! 😄 Painful periods suuuuck!!!

    Flora Porter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The moment in a meeting when a female colleague's face suddenly freezes mid-sentence and you know she's felt that slight internal shift that tells you a tampon needs changing NOW or bad things will happen

    KimB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh lord that is the worst feeling ever and please check the back of my pants and tell me if I've bled thru!

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    Sammie 19
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a radical hysterectomy 18 years ago when they removed my womb, cervix, fallopian tubes and both ovaries. No periods but I still have period pain occasionally. Still painful

    Kate Jones
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are a lot of things that don't get talked about that men don't really understand. Yeah everyone knows period suck. But I really wish women had talked about some things more so I wouldn't have felt so ugly and gross when I was younger. It affected my self-esteem and had long lasting affects. You smell different during your period. You poop differently. If you had heavy periods like me, you can't use pads because it will go EVERYWHERE and you'll get rashes from being wet for 5 days. Super tampons can be painful but you put up with it because they work the best. You will wipe blood out of your butt because it goes everywhere- it's liquid. Forget sleeping with someone in bed. All of your sheets will be stained. And sometimes if you bleed on them you just keep them like that until it's over because there's no point changing them yet. You have to check every seat you get up from to make sure you didn't bleed on it. (1)

    Kate Jones
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (2) Your toilet and bathroom floor will look like a crime scene when you wake up in the middle of the night and you hope you weren't dripping blood down the hallway to the bathroom. You can't just go pee quick and go back to bed. You have to clean up like you are a CSI because god forbid the guys in your house see a drop of menstrual blood the next day (p!ss on the seat that they leave is fine though). If you're at school/work and you change your pad/tampon, you have to wait until no one is in the bathroom before you come out of the stall because your hand is probably covered in blood and you don't want anyone to see that. And when you pull your tampon out or change your pad, sometimes chunks of blood fall on the floor. Oh yeah- blood can be clotted and chunky- that's part of why you get cramps. Your passing blood chunks the size of a silver dollar. And if you do bleed through at work or school, you hope no one gets too close to you so they don't smell it. You feel self-conscious about getting into a car with people closely or worry you'll stain their couch so you opt not to go out. Sometimes your tampon doesn't go in right and it hurts so bad. You will hurt yourself trying not to sneeze or cough because it will push your tampon out enough to hurt. And you can't just leave the work meeting to go take care of it. But it's still better than pads. You'll be exhausted. Sometimes your joints ache. There are so many things people don't talk about.

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    #5

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience The number of women that have suffered sexual abuse at one point or another in their lives. It is absolutely unbelievable to me, although I know it’s true.

    CavediverNY , Pixabay/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    KnightOwl
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think I know any women who haven't been sexually abused at some point, most when they were underage

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. Every single woman I know has been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives, most multiple times. I've lost track of how many times I've been touched, groped, kissed, or had unwanted, forcible sexual contact, and that's just the physical stuff. The verbal stuff is so heavy and constant.

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    Molly Whuppie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    just remember that any sexual abuse statistic you see is going to be wrong because in reality its higher, because so many women (and also men) are too afraid to report or even talk openly about it.

    Flopsy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we even dismiss some cases as ‘not serious enough to be considered sexual abuse’. For example once I got on a bus and while trying to find a seat more men touched my butt. I was 14. I got off the bus and waited for the next one. All of my friends have similar stories, but hey, we weren’t raped so it doesn’t count?!

    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a father of two girls it makes me so anxious

    Comedy Clumbers
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Teach them NO ONE has any say in who touches them, ever, without their explicit approval. Promise to be on call if they EVER need a safe ride, a safe place, a safe person to be with.

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    Ripley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    #metoo was a massive eye opener. I was *astonished* at how many women I know had been seriously sexually assaulted.

    Mocha the Lion
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1 in 4 women get sexually abused, 1 in 2 transgender individuals get sexually abused, 1 in 20 boys under the age 18, and 1 in 9 girls under the age of 18 get sexually abused. its a much bigger problem than most think

    UnknownFrost
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or have been and didn't know it because they weren't taught about it.

    Bread and Cheese
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember in middle school and I was so fed up with this kid. He was so annoying, he even joked about rape. So one time he said 'help, I'm being raped' while one of his friends was hitting him. I plain out said (deadpan voice) 'been there. can't you just fight back?' and holy moly, I still remember the glorious feeling I felt.

    AnnaRachelle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to love clubbing in my younger years. What I hated was men coming up behind me on the dance floor and grabbing my waist,hips or bum. A stranger grabbing at you trying to kiss you is frightening.

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    #6

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Professionally speaking - getting dismissed, ignored or overlooked (usually in favor of a man). I work in IT and was trying to set up a new phone system. My boss (a male) put me in charge of it because I had just done something similar at my previous job. Anyways, I kept telling him that my contact at the company we were switching to kept ignoring me and basically calling my questions stupid when he *would* answer me. My boss heard me, but didn't fully understand what the issue was...until he actually saw it happen. I sent an email asking a question, and it was ignored - he sent an email asking the same question and received an immediate answer. My boss' jaw just dropped. He immediately apologized to me and said that while he knew it happened, he'd never actually seen it done before. He was mortified and actually sent an email to that contact at the phone company saying, "when she asks a question, she better get the same attention and response that you would give me". Until that moment he thought it was something that only happened in theory. It actually blew his mind that it was real.

    Sassysinister , ThisIsEngineering/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Marie Clear
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got so sick of this in IT, I spent the price of a small house to go back to school at night and become a lawyer and work for myself. Of course, I still get dismissed and overlooked, but only for a minute. I can now push back without bosses bitching because I'm the boss, and I can, when necessary, be a b***h. I can finally put my foot down, and I'm not overlooked anymore.

    Kylie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Top marks for his response to that contact though.

    Charity Angel
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only could have been improved by insisting on having someone else as their contact instead. But otherwise, yes.

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    Bluonthefront
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a local electrician who will NOT return calls from women. Pleasingly, his business is not doing well as those of us who have experienced his misogyny have spread the word..

    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have a coworker who likes to talk down to women. He can never admit he's wrong, so he will keep rephrasing the same question to try to get you to answer the way he wants (that would show he's right). He gets short tempered when this technique doesn't work (because he's wrong). Boss had been informed of it, but dismissed it as "that's just John" . Until "John" did it to him.

    Trophy Husband
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in IT. For 3 years, I was hiring high level engineers. I have 4 daughters (and 1 son), so I understand, and I would have given preference to hiring female applicants to diversify. We had 1 female applicant out of hundreds. She was actually the best candidate I ever had, and she turned the job down. I probably did 200 interviews in that time... We need more women to want to be in IT.

    catt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And being expected to fix everything, because you're a woman.

    Knitting Panda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did you know that back in the 1970s a lot of programmers and IT people were women? We started to learn in high school and post HS business and office training classes. That began to change in the mid 80s and early 90s when men realized there was good steady work in these fields and they started pushing us out.

    Pandamanda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get this kind of treatment all the time, and nobody believes me either.

    Betsy Knox
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This needs so many more upvotes! ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️

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    #7

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That straight men begin making disgusting comments about young girls’ bodies or saying sexually inappropriate things to young girls starting at a very early age, like in grade school.  These casual predators are everywhere, but somehow, no men know anyone who would ever do anything like that. .

    SuperIngaMMXXII , Fernanda Latronico/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    arthbach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men, you will see this, you will hear this. Please, for the love of all women, call out your fellow men. These creeps don't listen to women when we say to stop. They are far more likely to listen to another man. When you hear it, call them out.

    Jessica Bertram
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This ability to call it out is predicated on the assumption that even non-predatory men recognize the behavior as such. As in: many good men don't see it because it is so normalized.

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    Tracy Wallick
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men, ask the women in their lives how old they were when they first started receiving sexualized attention from adult men. You will not like the answer. (For me, it was 12.)

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fifth grade. I was a cheerleader. It was disgusting, unwanted attention. That's the first time I was aware of it and it has never stopped.

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    StrangeOne
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sex ed had started in earlier grades, I think Grade 3, by the time I was in Grade 4. Some boys in Grade 3 harassed me at recess, started calling me "vagina girl" and making lewd comments. When I was in Grade 1, this group of boys I played with at recess one day tackled me down and tried looking down my pants. No teacher stopped them at all. It wasn't a big schoolyard. It was embarrassing and I didn't know what to do. I was too embarrassed and thought it would be my fault for playing with boys. More has to be taught than just the names of anatomies and keeping our hands to ourselves. I'm sure much of this is taught at home from parents and perhaps from older siblings. The "boys will be boys" mantra needs to end. Boys can learn to respect girls just as much as girls are taught to respect boys.

    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you complain about it the usual refrain is "boys will be boys"

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I heard a man comment on a middle school aged girl's body saying he could already tell "how hot she was going to be when she grew up." 🤮 It's like they really have no idea how creepy they are.

    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gerard Depardieu made a disgusting comment about a 10 y old during a north korean trip. I can even understand why would you sexualize childs or pre-teens.

    Laura ballam
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was objectified by a gay teacher in high school as well as straight men & teachers. My former gay housemate also felt like he could grab my boobs and it was ok, not it was not ok...

    DamnBecky
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got cat called more in the 10-13 range than any other point in my life. No joke I got more attention in a disney tshirt and shorts than I did in my CHEERLEADING UNIFORM in HS.

    DamnBecky
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also remember my mom teaching me the lesson when I yelled back at a guy. She grabbed me and pulled me into the car. She then explained that any guy who would sexually harass a pre-teen would HURT a pre-teen if felt insulted. She also said some men WANT the anger response. I could see how conflicted she was bc she wanted to fight back, but she had seen it go bad enough she didnt know what to do

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    similarly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Education about respect and boundaries really needs to start at a young age, and it needs to include parents, teachers and peers. Parents can have a HUGE influence on how their children see other people.

    Bored Retsuko
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's so normalized they don't even question it. Sh*t needs to stop.

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    #8

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Friend of mine once said: men have to assess IF there is danger. Women have asses HOW MUCH danger there is. .

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    Marie Clear
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    LOL she said asses and BP didn't censor! Asses! But you can't say D i c k Clark.

    Red PANda (she/they)
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why does Marie have so many downvotes? I don’t understand

    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, for one, 'assess' is spelled correctly once, the other is an obvious typo. Though the whole sentence could use a proofread... Asses are also technically animals so who knows. BP censorship has zero rhyme or reason lol

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    Bored Retsuko
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Completely off topic but the model in the pic has a nice style, suits her well.

    Phil Hoyt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught both my kids, one male, one female - "Be aware of your surroundings". It's a dangerous world out there.

    Alexandria Tyme
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it meant to be assist? To assist if there is danger? Not sure

    Catherine Watts
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Assess: to determine the importance, size, or value of (i.e. - is this a lot of danger, or just a little)

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    #9

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Discharge can bleach underwear. Not stain, actually remove color.

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    Marley Nachi
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    there's no win. It looks dark on white undies too, at least the black hides period stains

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    Janie Mack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one tells you about this. I thought there was something wrong with me, or I wasn't clean enough, for sooooo long. I am 42 years old and only found out this was normal in the last 5 years, after decades of throwing out underwear, shorts, etc. But damn, everything I wear winds up like this and always has.

    JayWantsACat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do most men really not know this? Most of my exes had comfy underwear that often had "bleach" stains so I assumed it was common knowledge for most men.

    Janie Mack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a woman and didn't know it was normal til my late 30s...

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    LapCat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If discharge has a low pH then that might be why. Acidity.

    LilliVB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes it's for that reason. An healthy vagina PH is acid. So the discharge is acid too. And it bleaches.

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    Bettye McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, my mother acted as if it was MY fault,

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    #10

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That women know a lot more about men’s health than men do about women’s health. Because men’s health is the *standard*. Most people know the signs of a heart attack *for men* but don’t know that it’s different symptoms for women. Women need a different amount of sleep per night, different amount of calories per day, different healthy BMI levels. But common knowledge is all about MEN’S requirements because that’s what researchers focused on most when a lot of studies first established what we know about health. Men get to be ignorant about the needs of 50% of the world population because they find it “icky” but women don’t get the same option.

    inkiwitch , Andrea Piacquadio/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Bluonthefront
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I believe every guy should have to experience two things: 1) being "relaxed" in the stirrups of an ob/gyn exam table and 2) the period cramp simulator.

    Trophy Husband
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is a case of "god gives you what you can handle." I wouldn't make it as a woman. Oh, and to the guy who mentioned prostate exams, he's not wrong about how bad those are. I'm at the point in my life where it you want to stick anything inside me, and I'm not knocked out, I'm going to decline and tell you that I'll take the cancer risk.

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    Nolgoth
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just men but white men. In medical textbooks relating to skin conditions, all the pictures were from white people (mostly men too). Wasnt until recently that someone decided to start including pictures with POC as the same conditions dont even look the same on darker skin

    Ronstantin
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interestingly, I know a tiny counter-example: the common cold. In Germany, people like to make fun of the "man flu" because men are supposedly particularly snivelling when they have a cold. However, I once read that men actually experience a cold more intensely than women.

    nancy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suspect that women would report they are in less pain/discomfort from cold/flu because it's nothing compared to our monthly menstrual cramps. I question the validity of any study that relies on the self-reporting of pain.

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    Lesley Relph
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's difficult to test d***s and medicines on women because of fluctuating hormone levels. Not an excuse, just an observation.

    Janie Mack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same thing with crash test dummies. We only use male shaped dolls and test on how the effects would happen to men. One dem senator suggested making the crash test dummies female or children, but of course that was branded "woke." Is it liberal to not want to die in a car crash, ladies?

    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same goes for several mental and physical conditions that present completely different in women, and are therefore dismissed or undiagnosed as a result. I fail to see any benefit to society for marginalizing ANY group of people for not being a cis-gendered male with no logic or reason (religious beliefs are fine, but keep them to yourself). Women, trans people, individuals with disabilities etc. etc. are ALL living, breathing members of society who still have lives outside other's beliefs. They don't go away when you take away rights, and their lives have ZERO impact on the individual politicians and citizens attempting to sweep the "undesirables" under the rug, whoever they may be.

    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Medications are generally developed for and tested on male bodies. Same for car crashes.

    Lola July
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Blood pressure, temperatures, heart attack symptoms and medical instruments are different for women. I know this, most of the women I know are aware of these facts. Unfortunately 90% of those in the medical field aren't aware or refuse to acknowledge these differences, often with deadly consequences.

    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most of us not old enough to remember when cardiologists thought women didn't get heart attacks. So all the research was done on men. Then as life expectancies increased they found that women get them too. They just don't get them as young as men do because estrogen provides some protection.

    Bruce Robb
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BMI is really out of date, itself. It was done on European men in the early 1900s (if I recall correctly), when people were shorter, and less well nourished. And I don't think the samples included women.

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    #11

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I think a lot of men would be surprised at how their guy friends act when they’re alone with a woman. How they pressure, whine, beg, and wheedle for sex. How many of them try to stick it in without a condom. How many of them care so little about a woman’s pleasure that they’re bad in bed and women have to pretend to be okay with it to get it over with and avoid a fight or a tantrum or a sulk

    Groundbreaking_Bat22 , Creation Hill/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Diz
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously I have no problem being friends with men but it seems they have problems being friends with me since nearly every single male friend I've ever had was only interested in me sexually. They don't always tell you at first but it's always great to find out that someone was only your friend cuz they hoped to get into your pants...

    Sophie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yesss!! This one!!!

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    kath morgan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men seem to think it is one really busy predator bothering all women, but no: some of your friends, family and colleagues are predators when you are not looking.

    Angi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I seem to have the opposite problem. Almost all my friends are guys who treat me well and respect me for who I am. It's the girls in my life who have hurt and betrayed me...

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My male friends are lovely but I do understand this one. Taking off the condom just before entering you tho? I might be wrong on this, I'll look it up quickly in a minute, but isn't that considered as Sexual Assault?

    Janie Mack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty sure stealthing is illegal in parts of the US now. I hope.

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    Lola July
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How most of your husband's friends make unwanted sexual moves on you. 90% of men think if you're pleasant it means you're attracted to them. No, it is literally my job to be friendly because I'm in sales and you approached me for assistance.

    Kate Jones
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand the need for sex. Men's brains are wired that way and it's not fair that we ask men to understand our biology better if we aren't willing to understand theirs. Some women also ask a lot of men. It's still the norm that men make the first move and some women (and fathers) still perpetuate the whole 'alpha' thing. But it doesn't excuse certain behavior. We've all evolved to the point where we know certain things are not okay and the same way women have been taught to mask things, men need to do the same in order to live in society. Which means stop the overt staring, the unwanted touching and pressuring women to have sex in any way. Not having sex with you isn't some 'power' we have over you that you feel is a woman trying to dominate you -and women who do this are jerks. If sex with me including me pegging you every time, I guarantee there are going to be times you don't want to. And you can't understand that because you don't normally see yourself from that side of things.

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    #12

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Recently a guy friend didn’t get why I got my ID out of my wallet and put it in my pocket to go out for a walk. I said I always have my ID on me if I leave my apartment. He didn’t understand why I needed to do that just to go for a walk. So I explained it would make it easier to identify my body. He thought I was being morbid.

    Careful-Nebula9995 , Sam Greenhalgh/Flickr (not the actual photo) Report

    pep Ito
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I carry my ID everywhere I go and I'm a man. In fact, I think most people, male or female, do.

    Ace
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In some countries it's been a legal requirement for many many years, everybody does so and nobody thinks it's odd in any way; in others (like the UK) the idea is so abhorrent to some that elections have been fought over the idea.

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    Mike D
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is off the subject but I think one of the best parts of BP is the international views it provides

    pfeils wife
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree! I love reading different opinions and insights from people all over the globe!

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always have an ID on me also. You never know what can happens, you could be hit by a car and nobody know who you are.

    Steve Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It may be morbid but it's true. Most unidentified bodies are female.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't carry any form of official ID with me but I've been through a lot and my fingerprints, blood type etc are known and on record with the police. The reason why was to be able to separate mine from the person who attacked me. But carrying your ID etc is definitely a good idea... It's... Say something happens such as a trip/fall and you hit your head really badly? You might have a concussion, be in shock so carrying your ID is a good idea then too, as is storing whoever is your emergency contact on your phone as Emergency Contact after their name if you can.

    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They can also be used to slash an attacker.

    Manny
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In most places you need to carry ID with you at all times

    Sammie 19
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also have medical instructions such as do not resuscitate and a card with information on about who to call to pick up my dead body (the local university for medical research)

    MichelleDonut
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always carry my ID, health insurance card, and credit card. That way if I get injured, the hospital knows I can pay for more than just basic lifesaving care. (USA)

    Phil Hoyt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was a doorman at a nightclub. Sometimes I'd get flak for demanding I.D. The older guys would say - "How ridiculous, I'm obviously over 21". Well, the law isn't as to how old you are, but I'd tell them - "It's so we can identify the body if you get killed in there".

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    #13

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I can’t believe nobody said this, but birthing. I tried imagining a human growing in my belly. Feeling the baby move around and your body changing. Then the thought of knowing that you have to extract this human from your body. It was terrifying. I salute you!

    halfbreed_prince , Büşranur Aydın/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And yet some people believe and are pushing the narrative that men can lactate enough to nurture babies .

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, men can actually lactate if they’re on the right hormones. In fact if you start lactating for no apparent reason, get checked out, because it’s a sign of brain cancer

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    B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What about expecting our bodies to go back to " normal " afterward ? I grew a human & had an emergency c section , yeah I still have stretch marks & my little pouch 33 years later get over it

    Bambi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. Pregnant with number 4 at the moment. It aint easy, I tell ya! But we do it for our species ! Lol...

    Neffla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations to you and this is NOT personal, I bet your children are amazing, but I am not sure our species deserves it. From a bitter old cynic whose DNA line stops with me.

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    ColorEd
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry, but as a man, there's nothing I can't do to change that.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    having a child is no simple thing for sure! I was sick my entire pregnancy.. all 8 1/2 months of it. Then I had to have an emergency c-section because they couldn't get her out. Then once they had her out they found some tumors that had to be removed... it was super stressful both on my body and my mind!!!

    Janie Mack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg, its never easy, is it? I was sick from week 3 through week 30. Then I had pre eclampsia, needed emergency csection at 32 weeks and spent 6 weeks making sure he was breathing in the NICU. Scared me enough to never do it again lol

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    Blyss Blyssylb
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But for some reason, women have NO SAY, NO CHOICE what so ever when it comes to our bodies.

    Binny Tutera
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It freaked my husband out when he learned in our birthing class how my organs were being pushed around inside my body as the baby grew. The graphics were a wake up call. He was even more sympathetic after that.

    Lola July
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was never terrified nor were any of my girlfriends.

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    #14

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Not being able to be as friendly as you want. I love people, but I’ve had to learn to tone down my natural warmth because a lot of guys take it the wrong way. I wonder if men ever worry about a “good morning!” or a smile being misinterpreted.

    Anxious_Sorbet13 , Alasdair Braxton/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Ge Po
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, they do worry about smiles and casual remarks, because they fear they might seem creepy.

    whiterabbit
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's pretty sad that everyone has to walk on eggshells nowadays because people have become so ridiculously sensitive. We should be able to smile and say good morning to eachother without somebody thinking we're hitting on them.

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    Raumpfleger
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We do because being overly friendly is considered "weak" and people tend to think they can push you around. Ironically they start to treat you like like they treat women. That's so f****d up in so many ways.

    Jill Rhodry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I started at a new company and was being friendly (eg, say good morning, ask after his dog, share a joke) with a guy in another department, we always seemed to be in the lift together - after a couple of days he want out of his way to mention a girlfriend🤣 it wasn't organic to the conversation, it was awkward - and I was at least 15 years older than him!

    Tyranamar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! Why do they always think you're hitting on them?! Dude- no.

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    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my experience, it's impossible to be kind and friendly to men w/o them thinking I'm open to more. I'm friendly to women too but don't want to sleep with them.

    Amanda Fondaumiere
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are kind they either think you are a doormat or outright flirting.

    Penelope
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so true. I was very conventionally attractive and traveled solo a great deal and was actually told by people not to smile so much or be as happy becuase it will attract unwanted attention. Like gross so I'll work on my resting b***h face I guess so I don't get råped. Cool.

    Sophie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yess!! You even just act normal as with everyone else and they think you are into them...

    madeleine f
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are friendly you are a flirt. If you are less friendly some people think you are a cold b***h. You can never win.

    Tyranamar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally kind of like the cold b***h persona. Keeps people away.

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    LokisLilButterknife
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh gosh, I used to get this when I practiced a male dominated martial art because I was the "token woman" at some trainings. I actually had a recently divorced man who I thought was just being kind and friendly to me ask if I wanted a one night stand and to share a room at a training. I was disturbed and really hurt as I genuinely thought that this person was helping me get more women interested in this martial art. I also had some of the men who I was training with say I wore too much makeup and think they could touch me or hug me without consent. Sigh.

    Frances Cunningham
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one makes me so sad. If you're cheerful and smiley, not only do people tend to assume you're stupid (makes me crazy) but also the whole thing about men misunderstanding. And when they find out they were wrong they often turn mean. I was just going about my day?!?!

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    #15

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A lot of us can't orgasm without external friction. A penis or toy going in and out means nothing to us, but a vibrator just touched to the outside will do the trick.

    Mommy-dearest724 , Roberto Nickson/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Catastrophisticate
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And all the faking to save their poor, fragile egos *eyeroll* LMAO

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't fake it. He ain't gonna learn if you don't teach him.

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    Sweet Taurus
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me way too many years to realize how normal this is and that it wasn't a "me" problem. I always felt so ashamed like I was the one broken.

    Amy Davis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If u want something done right, sometimes you have to do it yourself. Lol

    Phil Hoyt
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In 1968 I read the book "Everything you wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask". It should be required reading for both sexes.

    Kate Jones
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here, here! And on the other side of the coin, some of us don't have clitoral orgasms or they aren't as strong as internal orgasms. You can sit there and play with my cl!t for an hour and I might as well get out a good book. But a nice good toy right at my vaginal opening will set me way off. It's kind of like the nipple thing, too. Some people are way more affected when playing with nipples, including men. Then there are those of us that it literally does nothing. I'd much rather hand squeezing around my breasts themselves and leave my poor nipples alone. Everyone is different. Stop using porn as your google map to how to have sex. Have a conversation and make the effort to please each other...men and women.

    Lene
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haha yeah and every guy I've told this who's been interested in me sexually have told me (without exception): "just let me try. You'll have your best orgasms with me!" And..... nopes. Still haven't. Haha!!!

    Clover
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't fake it. Why give him credit for something that he didn't do? It seems like there's too many men that are not concerned with any pleasure but their own. Mine really isn't too interested in making it better for me.

    brittany
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    its almost exclusively external for me. the few (and i do mean few like 2-4) times it has happened with insertion, it was because there was external stimulation from friction helping it along. i literally go into s*x with my husband knowing i wont reach that point. i just wait till he leaves and finish in private. weve had the conversation numerous times but he seems to think every single time that the "problem" is im not focusing enough and he just needs to go harder. no. just no.

    Knitting Panda
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never faked it with hubs. Mostly it happened and was wonderful. Sometimes it didn't and that was ok. Sometimes I would help things along. An honest marriage.

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    #16

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience IUDs are inserted without any kind of anesthetic. If you're lucky, they warn you to take some Advil beforehand. Then they grab your cervix with metal tongs and force it open.

    ca77ywumpus , Robin Marty/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

    Iampenny
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had an IUD twice and it didn't hurt much at all, did I just get lucky both times?

    MellonCollie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, you got very lucky. Apparently it is less painful for women who already gave birth, but I still cannot recommend it at allllllll. What's more, if you're unlucky, you can feel the little bugger inside ALL THE TIME, which means you'd have to go back to the doc to take it out (usually less of a hassle, but it can get lost inside as well) AND it's no use putting in a different one because the odds are you'd feel that all the same. Having a uterus is great, but it's not much fun.

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    Weezy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or a cervical biopsy. Like have your organs scrapped with a rusty spoon. That was always fun.

    StumblingThroughLife
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently, (according to Doctors) women don't have any nerve endings inside, so we don't feel anything when they cut a piece out of you (again, according to the Doctors).

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    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really can't understand why they don't use local anaesthetic for that. I had an IUD inserted 6 years ago and I'm absolutely TERRIFIED for when its taken out. I'll never forget that strange, intense, scraping, achy stinging, cramping pain when it was inserted... Not to mention the non-hormonal copper IUD causes "somewhat crampier, heavier, longer periods"... Understatement of the century. 10 days long, downright painful and hemorrhaging is more accurate than just "heavy". I never knew Ultra tampons existed until after that...

    MrsFettesVette
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just thinking about it makes me feel like I might pass out or vomit

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    Nina
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I almost passed out because of the pain, the gp wouldn't let me leave until I looked more 'healthy', for lack of better term. (I've never fainted or passed out before or after this, and I've experienced pain)

    Mia Black
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got it three or four times. First time I tried to be strong (young and naive in a man's dominated field, working that day) but it hurt so much as if a knife was working in me. Had to curl up multiple times but was to proud (stupid) to crawl home. The other times were also bad and last time it was so bad my legs shaked, nearly clapping the obgyms ears. Only after that I read about the possibility to get anesthetica and somehow I never thought about it because I thought you would be told you can have it without pain. I seriously thought I have to suffer for the peace of mind (not getting pregnant). I seriously thought there are no ways to lower the pain expect with some ibuprofen (which I was told). It's horrible. I'm glad the last time I got knocked out for the procedure but I needed the doctors note to not pay for it myself (edit: autocorrect)

    Holly's House
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I couldn't walk for 45 minutes after mine was put in, I had to lay in the back room of the clinic

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never had an IUD but if it's anything like having to have a speculum open your vagina during a smear test? Omg... Anesthesia please!!!

    Mia Black
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They have to use the speculum for this of course. Be prepared for it. Your comment let me think about address still young so lots and lots of yearly doctor visits before you, with speculum, smeartest and so on. I can't say you get used to it but it's a little easier if you are no longer a virgin and if your focus on your breath during the procedure....

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    JLMay
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve had a cervix dilation in an appointment and hysterectomy. The dilation was excruciating beyond words. She got miffed I was barely able to sit through it. That led to a D & C, then a month later my hysterectomy. Apparently if you’ve never bore a child it’s worse. Advil my a*s…

    Sherman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    N youre basically made out to be a dramatic baby if you squirm, cry or ask them to stop.... n it's even more infuriating when a man is the OBGYN doing it.... like... sir.. you cry getting prostate exams. Not bc they hurt but bc you don't want a man's finger up your a*s... n yet we deal w/ s**t like this from an early age.

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    #17

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I haven't seen any comments discussing specifically this, so maybe it's not that normal/universal an experience but; just how radically menstruation can f**k up your mental. Like, your brain can go down to some really dark places and you are 100% convinced that all of those things you're thinking are real, valid, true, your new normal- but then your period starts, and it's like 'o haha nvm it was just my period actually.'.

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    BTDubs
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate that women seem fake for these depressive episodes before the period starts. You *were* feeling those emotions, they are real and can seriously f*ck up your life. Pre menstrual dysphoria has some very damaging effects on mental health. For up to 2 weeks before the period starts, one can feel intense anxiety, depression, thoughts of suicide and self harm. For up to 2 weeks every month, which roughly equates to 6 months of these feelings.

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I usually feel HORRIBLE the week before my period, and when it starts, the mental side of things subsides but then the physical pain and feeling completely wiped out starts. I'm out of commission for about a week and a half every single month, and it sucks.

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    Red PANda (she/they)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before mine, I just get really sad for no reason. Like you can show me a mildly sad video of a dog who can’t go up the stairs or something or like that raccoon trying to wash cotton candy and I’ll just start bawling lmao. Either that or I get really anxious.

    Moosy Girl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When they started me on progesterone pills as treatment for endo, I got so non-stop suicidal they had to take me off them. It was a real eye opener to the effect of hormones on mood and mental health for me.

    Costco card
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have had multiple crying attacks (lack of a better word) over my period, and I've only had it for less than a year. Periods suck

    Lori
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have nearly debilitating anxiety a day or two before my period starts. And the day it starts, I'm totally carefree. It took me quite a while to see the trend and then it hit me. Now I can talk myself through my anxiety so that it is actually manageable.

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes I feel like a completely different person, but I try to keep perspective that it's only temporary.

    J
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I track my period. I’m gay as the day is long but I need that reminder to plan for my misery lol

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    Belladonna.dreams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I hit puberty, it kicked in depression and anxiety on a high level. It isn't just pms.

    LokisLilButterknife
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds like you were struggling with premenstrual dysmorphia (an extreme version of premenstrual system where women experience anxiety, mood swings, depressive episodes, anger, and even thoughts of self-harm.)

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    Internet wanderer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can understand women going through this, but I will never understand women who use the "I was on my period" excuse to purposely gaslight their partners and emotionally and/or physically abuse them. Going through it is one thing, using it as an excuse to abuse is another.

    Ellie Ragsdale
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! I know I'm lucky to not have too much physical pain, but my body makes up for it in: spiraling anxious thoughts, emotional dysregulation, crazy sleep schedule, appetite loss, overeating, low self confidence. For at least two weeks. And then I have my period and it all goes away.

    LokisLilButterknife
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to feel like a completely different person when I'm on my period. I experience some really bad depressive episodes during it. I never knew why I would get so down on myself and sad around the same time every month when I was younger and thought that I was going mad until I had a female therapist say that some women experience extreme ups and downs with their mental health during and before mensuration. I was actually prescribed a mood stabilizer to help during menstruation and told I may have pre-menstrual syndrome (premenstrual dysphoric disorders). It isn't something to be laughed at or brushed off.

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    #18

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Working a full time job and also doing 90% of the chores and childcare.

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    Phoenix
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just the manual labor. Don't forget about the cognitive labor too.

    KillerKiwi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Planning out where everyone needs to be and what they need and what time all the time

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    Pandabum01
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not a thing men don't understand. We understand you're with a weak and unreliable man.

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never makes sense to me when I see/hear this. My wife and I, we work together. There are some chores that have ownership (she does the laundry, I do polishing & cooking), and sure life gets in the way sometimes, but that's when the other picks up the slack. I'm not gonna leave her to do all the work when, if we work together, things get done faster and we can spend more time together.

    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree with this one, depends on your partner. We share everything, chores included.

    Miki
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is stereotype. Sure there are couples like this but it's not a standard. Not anymore.

    nancy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If women are still doing this, they need to communicate their expectations to their partner... or better yet, don't choose to be with a partner that isn't willing to pull their weight.

    Jayeff Vee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex wife wouldn't do either. Even after the divorce she asked me to take out her garbage. I declined.

    John Dilligaf
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Additionally, the chores "traditionally" assigned to women - ie cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc are almost always the long-term repetitive work. The stuff that has to be done every day. As opposed the chores "traditionally" assigned to men - fix something, paint something, mow the lawn, etc - which are much more likely to be "one & done"

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    #19

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How busy our mind stays. I feel like most of my friends agree. You’re always in fight or flight when you’re out and about, especially at night. I’ve tried to explain to my boyfriend how nice it is to just turn off my brain with him. I still don’t think he fully understands what I mean.

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    jade s
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this a majority or a response tonyour experiences. I rarely feel like I'm on guard walking home and my walk is where I zone out and wind down for the day. I know there are some awful people out there but I've also had men keep an eye out for me when I was feeling ill on the train and pretend to know me when I was worried about a different guy that creeped me out. Lots of people are decent and I don't want to fear 50% of the population because of a minority of gits that don't understand no.

    Susie Elle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with you, like I'll make smart decisions but I'm not on guard all the time.

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    Display_Name
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to explain why I only wear one ear bud and why I prefer to walk through an open air mall on my way home at night. One ear bud allows me to still be alert and be able to call someone if things get fishy. Walking through the mall means there are cameras everywhere.

    EarthGrowl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is just an idle observation. Humans have been weary of walking alone at night since the dawn of civilization. Any other animal knows to stay close to the herd because strays will be picked off by predators. Maybe people should stop thinking they have conquered nature. Humans are not above the predator-prey dichotomy. Nature gives predators many advantages. Why wouldn't it make a human predator look human? Psychopaths are born to look the same, but they don't think the same. Humans need to keep an eye out for predators, even the human variety.

    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It worries me when I see a female walking along listening to her music and paying no attention.

    Distinguished Gentleman
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i remember when i was younger and I was talking with one of my coaches (I think he was like 26) and other male friends and they were just talking about how they turn off their brain and just blank out and I was just thinking about how the closest I can get to that is disassociating so I'm over thinking but only about chosen things

    Surgichick
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, and he won't...he's male..

    Vivienne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Females lose about 10-20 minutes of sleep each night due to overthinking

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    Sounds like you could benefit from a course of cognitive behavioural therapy tbh.

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    #20

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Realizing men want you sexually when you’re a child. I was about 8 or 9 when my and my friends began to get catcalled, followed, stalked, etc. often by old men. I think most women realize at a very young age that men see you in a sexual light.

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    Kylie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or to be sexualized early by a family member?

    B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You forgot to mention when I was a kid in the 80's & we were taught we should be flattered not disgusted by this behavior

    Nadine Debard
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh hell yes! I flipped the bird to every car which honked at me. No shame.

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    Bols
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was so confusing and scary growing up and so normalized, no one ever stood up for me when it happened :( I will protect my baby girl like a lioness if someone dares to catcall her before she is fully grown up

    Tessa
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like I would get so angry if anyone ever did this to her. I don’t even know how to respond in a normal way, I only know staying quiet and trying to ignore it or being outraged.

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    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There was a family memeber that started calling me sexy when I was 8 years old. It would bring tears to my eyes because I would tell him to stop and he would just laugh. The worst part was I begged my parents to get him to stop and they both told me to calm down it was just a joke..... My own mother didn't step up!!! I am 47 and to this day it still enrages me!!!!

    Tamra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you have every right to be angry. Every adult in that situation failed you.

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    Diz
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah we seriously need to tighten the balls on this. I swear we need to make a police force that walks around just looking for creeps oogling little girls

    Black Cat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or women realise at a young age men are perverted and dangerous. For many girls their view of men is extremely tainted well before they get to adulthood.

    MellonCollie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We do, and it's not much fun. Well, sometimes it is, when it's handsome and polite boys the same age, but girls come to a point where it seems EVERY GDAM male on the planet's eyes pop out of their sockets when they pass by. And that is gross.

    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So painful to even think about that

    hearditontheX
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so sick I can't stand it. I do not have any men in my life that would do that or think it's okay. Of course we all have daughters. My husband always reinforced that our daughter never tolerated such behavior & be very vocal if something happened. No matter who was involved. Family, friend, anyone!!!

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    #21

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Nonexistent or useless pockets in clothes.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Erm, excuse me??? We have handbags that you need to buy??!?!??!

    Diz
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah my 4 year old has already figured that out even, keeps asking for boy pants instead because she wants pockets to put stuff in

    Elio
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who almost always buys her pants and shorts from the men section because of this.

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    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do resent that incredibly obnoxious characteristic of women's clothing. It's obvious a woman didn't design the final product. Handbags are all well and good, but personally all I need day to day is my keys, a money clip for my cards and ID, and my phone. Occasionally chapstick. I don't want to constantly carry a bag that ends up accumulating superfluous c**p to have to dig around searching for the few essentials that easily fit in reasonably sized pockets.

    Laura Gillette
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Useless or nonexistent pockets in women's clothing are done on purpose to force women to have to buy handbags

    Iffydust
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got a paur new office trousers and had the biggest pockets I ever had one WOMAN PANTS! I was amazed and I love them. I can fit almost a switch light in them

    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You girls are really, R E A L L Y upset about pockets, aren’t you ? I bet I’ve seen 10 different posts complaining about the lack of pockets on women’s clothing.

    Blyss Blyssylb
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Duh! How would you feel if you went and bought a pair of pants that you really liked only to find that Every Pocket is Completely Useless! You find out that your wallet won't fit in any pocket! How about that little pocket up front? NOPE! Decorative.

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    #22

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Cuddling / physical affection from our platonic friends. Some of the men in my therepy group are so touch starved and it makes me sad that they can only get that from a romantic partner. I have easily 10 friends who if I really needed a hug would drop everything to come hold me

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    Tobias Reaper
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my best friend is a woman and she is only person who gives me any physical affection i have almost forgotten what it feels like

    Lexekon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is no nice way to say this, so just stating it bluntly: This is a normal experience pattern for men. Many, if not most, go through life like this. And I agree, it is not right, but it is true.

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    similarly
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My problem is that although I like hugs very much, I'm very uncomfortable with them, and if a person wants me to do something besides freeze up and squeak like a cat's chewy toy, they have to approach very slowly. I don't know why I do this.

    Janet Martinez
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As an autistic person, I can highly relate to this!

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    Settled for Infamy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Op is lucky to have 10 friends available for hugs. I'd be pushing 2 😦

    Chilli
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a guy friend who's gay, and I love SO MUCH that we can hug, or sleep in the same bed without him having any ulterior motives.

    Blondie23
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had this in college. I had several male friends that knew I was not into them so they would come to me for hugs because they felt safe. I didn't realize until I was much older how truly sad that is that they couldn't just get that from any of their female friends. I was so grateful to have been there for them!

    Knitting Panda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I miss cuddling. I am a widow. My kids are grown. Before I was married my roommates and I would put on flannel nightgowns and snuggle on the couch watching tv. I'd do it again if I could.

    Susan Robinson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait wait wait…you have 10 friends?! How?!

    CariBear
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best friend is a guy, we were really good friends before dating, dating didn’t work at the time, but we’re super close still and will cuddle while watching TV or just hanging out.

    Linden
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so cultural too. I'm bicultural and one side has a lot of physical affection - lots of hugging. It's also a very safe culture with zero tolerance of anything creepy so it means affection is safe and always respectful and warm.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do hug all my friends if I see them! Male or female... Well unless I'm meeting their other half for first time, just because I don't want to have their other half feel uncomfortable about it.

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    #23

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience You are standing in a busy bar and someone wants to pass you. If you are a guy: „hey excuse me”, little tap on the shoulder, friendly smile and request to move If you are a girl: someone puts their hands on your waist and tries to move your body away.

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    Lexekon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You assume too much about male experiences, usually it's more like someone just shoving past rudely, who seems annoyed that you existed just to be an obstacle to them. Seriously, why would you think men were treated with politeness, in this context?

    Bluonthefront
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd choose rudely passed by than some rando male thinking he just has to touch me.

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    StrangeOne
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women do this to women, too. It happened recently in the lunchroom at work. I don't care if they are a man or woman, don't touch me and especially don't touch me there.

    Alicia M
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The last time I was at a bar, a man openly grabbed my boob. The amount of pelvic thrusts into my back side on the dance floor was also disgusting. Funny how I can dance in a crowd without touching anyone, but some men can't seem to do the same.

    Phil Hoyt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I were you, I'd change the bars I frequent. The ones I go to, I've never seen unwanted touching going on, much less what you described.

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    Miki
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know it's like this for woman, but it is NOT like this for guys.

    Ian whaples
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if there is a woman in-between where I am and where I want to be I get comfy because I will be waiting a long time.

    KimB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never have my back in a position where someone can sneak up behind me in a public place. You do not sneak up and grab me because I likely will react to defend myself and you will get hurt. I can do it with little thought and so fast you won't see it coming. 10+ years of mixed martial arts. Please just say excuse me and don't touch or grab strangers!

    ColorEd
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's just not possible in a very crowded place.

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    #24

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Men can say “I want a baby” “Let’s try for a baby!” and only have to orgasm for that to happen. His partner will then carry the weight of a growing fetus in her uterus, which is painful, scary, uncomfortable, and can have permanent affects on your health and body. Some moms don’t lose the pregnancy weight. Some moms have severe PPD. Some moms’ bodies never fully bounce back. … and way more after baby is born.

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    Marie Clear
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then you have to pass a basketball through something designed for a ping pong ball.

    Marie Clear
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that's not literally what it's designed for, but you get my meaning! (Nothing against ping pong ball performers.)

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    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even worse is the men that realize that AFTER the baby is born and decide they'd rather find a new model of female to fornicate, leaving the poor mother to raise and support the result of their impulsive desire for a baby and subsequent forgettable orgasm with little to no support. (THANKS DAD.)

    Bluonthefront
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now we are forced to do this even if we don't want to. Yay. Thanks fascists.

    Elio
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    F*ck the fascist government seriously.

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    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a dangerous journey people dismiss because women are "designed" to carry children. Sorry, we aren't cattle. We're supposed to be a modern and civil society and even then the process is exceptionally dangerous and very unbeautiful.

    Say No to Downvoting
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I work in fertility. The amount of c**p that women need to go through for all the investigations AND treatment, not to mention being laden with the mental load of organising it all, time off work etc. And still some men have the f*****g audacity to whinge about having to wank in a cup a couple times and having to be the one to drop their wives off for appointments and procedures.

    Pretty Pink Sky Photography
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still have my baby weight. My son is 27. Any day now it’s just going to fall away.

    Queeqec
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In most countries we can choose, if we want do get pregnant/keep the foetus.

    Dolly_of TheCowboy
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I love those gents that turn up to antenatal appointments or the birth unit loudly banging on constantly about how "we are pregnant" or "our culture says men...". Nah mate you are along for the ride - she's pregnant and we all need you to realise we will be consulting her and pretty much her alone on the medical decisions around said tenant and her body until the tenant has vacated the premises and she is safely in postnatal. Then you can start saying "we are parents" and get cracking with nappies etc

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    #25

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Locking your car immediately when you get in it, before seatbelt or putting the key in.

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    Kylie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to say only in certain places, not always.

    The Other Guest
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, it's always. Even a place that "looks safe" might not be.

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    Nicky Shrimps
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm on the side that it's common sense and no reason not to. For the few talking about "water rescue", a locked door is the least of your worries.

    L H
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    30 years ago when I did martial arts our instructor used to tell everyone to do this. I'm a bloke and still do it now. This is surely just common sense?

    ColdSteelRonin
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a man I do this as well. It's a good safety practice in general along with staying situationally aware

    Adrian
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This also applies to men.

    Chelsea McKee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Checking under the car, checking the back seat.

    María Hermida
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in Buenos Aires (Argentina) and everybody (men and women) did this, and nobody stopped at traffic lights in certain areas after dark. Neither men nor women are safe in certain places.

    Steve Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this in my front yard, it's common sense.

    InfiniteZeek
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a man, I also do this. Not belittling women's experiences, I'm just saying that this is usually a good idea for everyone.

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    #26

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Constantly being asked if you're pregnant before every little bit of medical care (often multiple times in one visit, if you're in the hospital, just to be safe). And before getting a treatment that's definitely unsafe during pregnancy (like an x-ray or a medication) even your 'no' answer isn't good enough. I haven't had a uterus for 21 years. Doesn't matter, I'm still getting a pregnancy test because patients lie.

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    arthbach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People from outside the USA, please answer. Have you been required to have a pregnancy test before being treated, or being prescribed medication that could harm a foetus? I haven't. It seems that in my part of the world, women are believed when they say they aren't pregnant. If they can't say for definite, then a test is offered.

    friendly_tapir
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes (Germany). I had appendicitis (If you know the pain...) and had to beg for hours for treatment at the hospital, only to have to undergo a gynecological examination. It took 12 hours until they decided to operate on me - because, after all, I couldn't assess the pain myself.

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    Emerald Joanna
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a doctor, I must say that soooo many patients claim there is no way they could be pregnant & then those 2 little lines appear. The patient is genuinely shocked...as if they haven't worked out that unprotected sex can result in pregnancy. I don't do pregnancy tests on women with no uteruses, but if I need to do a procedure or give medication that is harmful in pregnancy & the woman is currently sexually active & not on reliable contraception - then I am definitely ruling pregnancy out first. And PS - yes, patients do lie. They might be scared they won't get what they want/need if they tell the truth.

    Tyranamar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup. Lying is common. That's why when women say they can't be pregnant I say, "Why not?" No uterus- we're fine. Uterus, even if you're a celibate lesbian on the pill I'm checking a u-preg if it's some teratogenic med. If it's not a huge risk I just explain the risks if you are pregnant. Most women understand this and don't put up a stink. I've had the "no way" positive pregnancy test before.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That one is very difficult to handle. As an E.R nurse of admission i have to ask this questions maybe 20 times a day cause a few times a year we have the surprise of a pregnant woman being sent in x-ray or ct-scan. Usually now every woman needing a belly scanner have a blood pregnancy test. It's just one tube adding to others, not much damages but i don't have any idea to make it differently. It depends of the situation obviously. If you have a sprained finger or something minor it's not important if you are pregnant or not. But the motto is "every woman in age could be pregnant"... I don"t say it's great or the right way, just the way it is.

    Nonnie Bear
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had the same issue with a hospital wanting to do a pregnancy test on me prior to a CT. I'd had a total hysterectomy 15yrs earlier. I flat out refused. The techs had to get approval from a boss to forego the test. Ridiculous.

    Katie Swavy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Surgical nurse here. We do a pregnancy test because patients confuse hysterECTOMY with hysterOSCOPY which are very different. Yes, somehow people forget that they didn't have their uterus removed, but crazier things happen in healthcare.

    SleepSycho
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Birth control fails and you could be pregnant and be sure you’re not—happened to me before an x-ray I was shocked!!!!

    The Shark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pregnancy tests aren't invasive... Even if I'm certain it's not possible, some rare things can happen even after tubal ligation or hysterectomy that are often very serious problems... Sometimes it's totally unnecessary, but if a negative test means they'll at least attempt to move on to something relevant to address my medical concerns then go for it... Just don't dismiss serious health concerns because I'm a young, outwardly healthy female. (So sick of jaded doctors who assume everyone is a hypochondriac with the sniffles who thinks they're dying.🙄)

    Knitting Panda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm 68 and they ask me. Hey, babe, no partners and the equipment hasn't worked in 18 years.

    Costco card
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to take a pregnancy test before I get any birth control implant/shot. I'm 15.

    John Dilligaf
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Patients not only lie, but due to the exceedingly poor state of sex/health education in the USA it's very possible for a woman to be pregnant and not even know it.

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    #27

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How you're constantly underestimated. Had a partner where he thought being a woman is so much easier because he said "women get a lot of help" and I had to explain that most of the time it's because women are being underestimated even if you're good at what you do. Most of the time, men help because they either want something from you or just want to feel smart. It gets tiring sometimes...

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    Marie Clear
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, this. Mansplaining. Not helpful.

    Milady Blue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the definition as "Correctile dysfunction," which I remembered from a meme posted on BP some months ago.

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    Mia Black
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also women Trend to ask more for help. Some guys should try it

    Chelsea McKee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL, HELP! Most men are Republican, at least in my area. Any HELP they want to provide is expected to be exchanged for sexual services.

    kath morgan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men trying to pick things up for me or telling me I shouldn’t be doing it. Don’t call me weak, and don’t patronise me. I am capable of asking for help if something is too heavy.

    Zaach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I want to feel embarrassed for my sex/gender I go here and cringe: https://mansplained.tumblr.com/

    madeleine f
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't count how many times men told me I'm using gym equipment the wrong way, only for me to explain the machine I am using can't be adjusted to my smaller size so I have no option than to use it like I do.

    Robin Childers
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have actually ran guys off to do the job by myself because they were under foot.

    Lexekon
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You assume this is just happening to women? See how easy it is for some guy to work in childcare, or as a nurse.

    Timbob
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    1 year ago

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    Wow ! If the condition of those Jeans is any indication, you must have been in one helluva fight !

    J
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve never heard this “joke” from non-Boomers.

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    #28

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Women and their girlfriends having to track each other on apps after nights out/gym/almost any f*****g activity in public just to make sure they all get home okay.

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Always text my best mate as soon I get home after leaving her place, especially at night. I just like her to know I'm okay

    Crescent 3
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I witnessed this the other night with my 17 year-old daughter. I picked her up from a late after-school rehearsal. When she got in the car she said, "Dad, I'm going to be on the phone with my friend Lilly because she's walking to her car in the dark and we need to make sure she's safe. As a man and a father, it breaks my heart that my daughter and her friends have to think this way, but it also makes me proud of her and their generation for taking care of each other.

    Magpie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are going to carry maze around with you, you need to learn to use it properly. Otherwise you can just end up getting the stuff into your own eyes.

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    Smiley!
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My friends and I don't TRACK each other, we just text each other, and by the way, all my friends are dudes.

    CORGI QUEEN
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yes I got life360 for this reason and my mom made me delete it because "its creepy and stalker-y and its for helicopter parents" LIKE WHAT IF I AM A HELICOPTER PARENT OF MY FRIENDS?!?

    #29

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How absolutely horrifically painful period cramps can be. Like can’t think straight, vomiting, want to die levels of pain. Three Advil and 45 minutes can get many of us back to good as new though. Until 6-8 hours later when it wears off. ETA: I know this shouldn’t be “normal” but it unfortunately kind of is. I’ve also talked to gynecologists about it and there isn’t much to do besides take birth control, which I don’t like the other side effects of. I also only bleed for four days and it’s a normal to light flow so endometriosis is unlikely. I’m also pregnant right now and enjoying no periods! ETA2: I promise I know that endometriosis exists. I’m not looking for advice on my painful periods. I have a gynecologist for this. I appreciate the concern and hope for the best for all the other ladies dealing with this!

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    arthbach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I found excessively bad cramps corresponded to times when my iron levels were low. Taking iron supplements help a great deal. If you are suffering a great deal of pain, have your iron levels tested, and see if an iron tablet might help.

    Daniela Lavanza
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS!!! I once heard or read somewhere about iron levels and periods, so when mine turned very painful, I tried without any hope. Wonderful results: it still hurts but far less and now an advil is enough to get back to no pain at all. Ladies, please, take some iron even if your blood samples do no show your iron levels are low. Do it anyway, it's harmless and a life changer.

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    Clare E
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some gynaecologists know very little about endometriosis. Having a gynae does not mean you will be correctly diagnosed or treated.

    Awesome At Being Autistic
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh, menstrual cramps and mood swings. I am enjoying menopause, it's been brilliant.

    Xenia Harley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always said if men got periods, it would be illegal to make them work. Mandatory 3 days off!

    KimB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    PMDD just sucks too! Nausea and diarrhea, panic attacks, nightmares, hot flashes and night sweats, severe mood swings feeling anger or sadness for no apparent reason...ugh being a woman is not for the faint of heart I tell you! Lol

    Amanda Pack
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It all played out in this one post - as a woman she couldn’t possibly know her own body or know about her own health, everyone assumed she needed to be educated about it by strangers unaware of the details of her life.

    Milady Blue
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Watch out for the side effects of either ibuprofen (Advil) or naproxen (Aleve). Either one can do serious damage to your stomach.

    Hester
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Magnesium! Ideally, every day, not just when you are on your period... helps with sleep, cramping, and more!

    Chicken Nugget
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the cramps aren't always just in your stomach area, they can go up your back and down your legs

    catt
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🧡🧡🧡 hoping your pains get better!!

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    #30

    Needing completely different-sized clothes depending on the shop you buy them in. My boyfriend just orders stuff knowing it will fit perfectly every time!

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    MellonCollie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think this is necessarily true. My husband wears XL but sizes vary wildly from brand to brand for him too. I'm sure this is not just a female problem - men experience the same thing (maybe on a less important level though, not sure about that).

    Ace
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe less important, just as clothing and 'fashion' in general is less important for many men than for women. So we're less frequently in the situation of buying clothes in the first place, and perhaps less bothered by the ones that are clearly designed for people of a different shape.

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    Hester
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Needing completely different clothes depending on what week of the month it is!

    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a man, I could NEVER figure that out. Seems like a conspiracy.

    Miki
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Totally not true.

    lawrence Andrew
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When ordering clothes from China I order up two sizes.

    Steve Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some of this is because basically men dress for comfort and women dress for appearance.

    Smiley!
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This just.. isn't true. Mediums fit for me perfectly fine, and my male friends always complain about pants sizes.

    Crescent 3
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We men have this problem too. Consider this: I am 6'1" and weigh about 270 pounds. I have long arms. If I want to buy a blazer, a sport jacket, or a suit; depending on the manufacturer, material, cut, and style I may need to wear one of 6 different sizes: 50 regular, 50 long, 52 regular, 52 long, 54 regular, or 54 long.

    ColorEd
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a universal problem.

    Molly Whuppie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it can be hard for anyone buying clothes to get same sized clothing, however, I think sometimes menswear is a little easier as a lot of the time their clothing sizes are in measurements. like I can go to my local department store's website (in australia) and look at mens clothes and they are sizes like 112, 117, 128, 132, etc which are the chest/hip measurement depending on the item, but women's sizes are arbitrary - 8, 10, 12, 14 etc. Which did have meaning once upon a time but these days generally means nothing afaik, as companies seem to make these sizes whatever they want due to vanity sizing.

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    #31

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That sometimes there are lines inside women's bathrooms. I once went to the bathroom just to pee and came out around 10 minutes after. My male friends asked why I took so long. I said because the line was long. They laughed at me and accused me of lying.

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    ynyrhydref56
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Always. There is always a line.

    Bettye McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's because women tend to spend a lot of time in the bathroom. Men pee and go,

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    Ge Po
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men zip down, do their thing, wiggle a little and zip back up. Wash hands, avoid eye-contact and leave. Women have to pull down several layers, check and maybe clean the seat before sitting down while possibly trying to keep clothes off the dirty floor, do their thing, juggle with clothes while trying to get hold of and then arrange some sanitary product in an often dimly litt stall, dry everything down there, stand up without dropping anything, struggle to rearrange clothing in a small, confined area, get out, wash hands, (check the girl beside you who seems distressed) and make sure she is safe, and leave.

    Pebs
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many men don't even wash their hands...

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    Laura Gillette
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They laughed and accused her of lying?? Not really "friends", were they?

    GettingCereal
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was at a little concert last weekend and literally (actually literally) for the first time ever, I breezed past the line of men into an empty women's bathroom. I... I was oddly joyous.

    Michael Largey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone asked an architect why the women's restrooms in public buildings were always further down the hallway than the men's. He replied, "To leave room for the line."

    Ike Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My (M) best story about this was at an Ani DiFranco concert. Audience was 90-95% women and the line to the ladies' room was neverending. So they started queuing up at the men's room to use the toilet and we used the urinals. No worries.

    Maartje
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women have smaller bladders than men so they go more often. They need stalls. The average men's restroom in a restaurant has 2-3 urinals and two stalls. The average women's restroom has two stalls. Go figure.

    Archanae
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And this is why I always go to the men's restroom, when there's a line for the ladies' one. 1. They never mind and often smile it off 2. They have the same as us, in case they need to land a n°2. So, no problem

    Charity Angel
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are sometimes advantages to using the disabled toilet. Unfortunately, there are also folks who use them in order to avoid the queue in the ladies. And we do tend to take a while, because it's a lot more awkward to do all the appropriate rearranging of clothing when seated. And they're usually also the baby changing facilities - I almost had an accident today because a grandparent took *forever* to change his toddler grandchild's nappy. So, sometimes an advantage because there's often not a queue, but if it's occupied, then it's a long weight

    Tyranamar
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What kind of a rock was this guy living under that he doesn't know about women's restroom lines? And what's so funny? Like maybe she had to s**t or something and lied about the line? He sounds like a douche.

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    #32

    Needing to relax *before* sex Men need sex to relax Women need to relax to have sex.

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    GettingCereal
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think either of these are a general rule for men or women, more an individual preference.

    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My advice is make sure you want to f**k this person before you enter into a relationship. There are different types of love and friendship.

    brittany
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    peoples sexual needs can also change over time. what was once workable can become unworkable. people also change over time. my husband is not the same man he was when we got married.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know about this one... I really don't need sex "to relax", i need sex to be intimate and share pleasure with my partner.

    Jesha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate to do a 'WeLl AcTuAlLy' but I assure you that AMAB people need to relax to be able to have sex, too. Mental illness and nerves and all sorts of things'll make all kinds of genitals stop working.

    Aelin Wildfire
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, but that's not the kind of "relax" that they mean. They mean relax from stress. A man (usually) wants to have sex at the end of a long day because it's (usually) stress-relieving for him, but for a woman, it's (usually) a more stressful experience, so it's not relaxing for her.

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    Blyss Blyssylb
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    MEN, Picture yourself working a Full time job, go home after work to do more work like house/yard chores. Also take care of the children. Don't forget, you still have to make dinner! Now do this all day, everyday While your wife just goes to work and (maybe) comes home to watch TV, play video games or whatever...pretty sure men would then feel the need to relax before having sex.

    Synsepalum
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't relate to this one. Sex helps me relax.

    Isaac Nemo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't *need* sex to relax, I think should be noted. It's definitely helpful for most, but we can meditate or whatever too lol

    Hotomato
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Energizes me (f) makes them fall asleep

    Sweet Taurus
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a physical thing for men and a mental thing for women.

    Black Cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that because we get very little out of it physically?

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    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Amazing that we still reproduce !

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    #33

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Emotional labor. We aren't super-human in our ability to locate things or replace something before it runs out. It is years and years of training and conditioning and everyone is certainly capable of it, but the responsibility is largely set on Women. Edit to add [meta](https://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor) filter link.

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    Poison Ivy/Boo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, this is weird. I tend to forget where I put my own things (this week it was a letter for a Dr appt), but if hubs or the kids need things and can't find them I know exactly where they are and can tell them where to find them. I'm not sure why I can't remember my own things and it freaks me out.

    Bols
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's because we were brainwashed into thinking their needs are more important than ours...

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    Manana Man
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are gender-based memory differences. Latest research holds that women are better at verbal memory and men are better at spatial memory. My wife remembers very well who said what and when and what order things happened in a movie. But she doesn't know where she put her keys when she came in the house, something I always know. Women also are able to access memory faster than men. By the time I remember where we keep the dustpan she's already got it.

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    #34

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Having to be cautios and having coping skills for so many daily situations. Like walking home at night and changing the street because someone is walking behind you. Having your keys between your fingers in case you have to defend yourself. Faking or actually doing phonecalls. Avoiding certain areas that are too dark, going different ways to avoid people, packing an extra oversized shirt for the way home from a party or club. Telling a friend and sharing your location when going on a date with someone you don't know yet. The list goes on and on...

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I'm on the bus home after a night shift I get my partner to stay on the phone with me until I'm home.

    Ace
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I first moved to Switzerland I was surprised to find that female colleagues would think nothing odd about taking the last tram home at one o'clock in the morning after a late night out. They were genuinely confused if you asked them if they were OK with it or should they just get a taxi instead.

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    Michelle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even when I'm just walking somewhere I'm paying attention to the cars that drive past, checking that they haven't gone past before, are they slowing down, and then if they do happen to pull over near you you're thinking is someone is going to jump out and grab you? It sounds like paranoia but it's just something ingrained in me that I don't even realise I'm doing.

    Nolgoth
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have an aunt that is 5ft10in, broad shouldered. Even with a kubaton, collapsing asp, mace, and an american staffordshire terrier (aka pitbull) she still needed my 5ft7in male presence when walking her dog at night. Like... shes bigger than me wtf am i gonna do? Lol

    Display_Name
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was a driver for a rideshare. I was heading to pick up a female. I noticed a rental van following me to her place and followed me back out. I kept watching. I explained my thoughts to my rider and told her if they make this next turn then I am pulling over and we will go another way. She said she agreed. Thankfully, I took a right and they went straight.

    Jaaawn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a man and even I do the key in my hands thing as I live in one of the roughest part of my city.

    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not having a pony tail when running.

    Laura Gillette
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't put your keys between your fingers! Punching someone with key-laced-fingers will just badly injure your hand, and won't really hurt the person you're hitting more than just punching with a regular fist.

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    #35

    The Pink Tax. Explained what it os to my younger brother and the poor dude just sat there shocked before exclaiming how unfair it sounded, can probably guess how he reacted when he found out how much people have to spend on sanitary products yearly.

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't get taxed for sanitary products here in Australia

    jade s
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not an actual tax. Pink tax refers to something being prices higher because its for women. I.e. disposable razors for £4 but women's disposable razors for £5 when the product is the same, just different packaging.

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    Blyss Blyssylb
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Female sanitary products should be FREE!

    Chelsea McKee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The medical supplies need to be made more readily available.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tesco (a UK supermarket) quite a few years ago put up signs after they'd reduced the prices of sanitary products, IE Tampons, pads etc, that said "We're paying the tax so you don't have to". I'm not sure if they're still doing so but hope they are 🙂

    Holly's House
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thankfully they removed that here where I live, no more tax on feminine hygiene products

    Steve Hall
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In most parts of the US, sales tax is charged for everything. It's no different than tax on toilet paper.

    Cat Chat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's not what the pink tax is, though. Razors, for instance. Compare the men and womens...they are the exact same thing. But the pink one will be priced higher. Obviously the actual color doesn't matter. It's just that the women's are more expensive, and the color being associated with women's products that it's called that.

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    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah Doom, but YOU, have to be worried about being poisoned by anything that bites in Australia.

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    #36

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That most of us are trained from childhood to view all circumstances and interactions as potentially dangerous and many of us arrange every day around minimizing danger from men.

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    Ariom Dahl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a terribly sad reflection on your society as a whole. I am fortunate that I have always lived in a country where I do not have to anticipate the possibility of violence and fear ALL men because of what SOME men might do.

    Black Cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trouble is you don't know who the bad men are until it's too late. Safest to see all men as potential threats.

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    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yet we aren't taught self defense. I was always told to do xyz in certain situations which completely unprepared me for more likely scenarios.

    Magpie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Luckily not all of us.

    Jaaawn
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    Most of us are taught that about any strangers in general from a very young age. I remember as a child my teacher telling me not to trust men or women.

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    #37

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Getting approached and commented on near constantly. My husband always thought I was exaggerating until we were on our honeymoon. I was approached and people said gross things to me several times over the week, even with my husband *standing right there*. He was both shocked and disgusted. It was like any other vacation to me. Honestly, it was one of the better ones in terms of encounters, but I didn’t tell him that.

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    Lydsylou (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you don't get groped it's counted as a successful holiday in terms of harassment

    Archanae
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What country do you live in? That absolutely never ever happened to me :/

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    #38

    À friend of mine called me because she was stranded in a dodgy part of town and needed to just have someone on the phone with her for comfort while she waited for her friend. Men kept talking to her and she kept telling me how uncomfortable she is. Random dudes just constantly blowing kisses and coming to talk to her. One dude even tried to take her phone from her to talk to me. I've been in that part of town, but I'm 6'3 and reasonably athletic. My experience of it was completely different. It was crazy. I could feel through the phone how vulnerable she felt, which I always knew was how it felt but I had never actually *felt* it before. Hearing her fend off aggressive men was so nerve-wracking.

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    Christopher Preston
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I had a quid every time a bloke told us his height, conveniently always above 6 foot, I would be a millionaire.

    Charity Angel
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In this instance, it is at least somewhat relevant. He's a big guy, so it makes sense that his experience of this area is very different to his female friends. Or even smaller male friends.

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    Ravens Mom
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I see something happening like that, I try and help even if it's just standing next to her until a friend arrives. I think most of us will do this for each other. Safety in numbers.

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    #39

    Being constantly harassed by men for sex. When men FINALLY see it it’s usually from a gay man and they’re like “it’s so uncomfy gay men are so forward” or some s**t nd im like no MOST MEN period. Wtf.

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    Maartje
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recall one situation where a guy approached me from completely the other side of the bar, loudly asking me why I did not react when he was smiling and winking at me. He kept on harassing me until I started yelling back at him. Meanwhile the guy seated next to me kept on putting his hand in my crotch .

    Smiley!
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Uhm.. I'm a lady and none of my male friends do this to me. None of them have girlfriends either.

    Fairytails From Other Worlds
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you. They don’t seem to fit in the “ most men” then.

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    #40

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience The effort that it takes to look 'effortlessly' good. There are far more women than men who have a skincare routine, have a hair routine, shave their legs/armpits/arms, wear makeup (light makeup can be skillfully used to appear natural), use daily UV protection, know the exact silhouettes/colors/shades that flatter them, shape their eyebrows, etc.

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    Ge Po
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is choice. But then, nowadays with all the social media, it has become expectation. Then again, before social media, it may have been the norm/etiquette.

    CK
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a choice, but women who choose differently are treated differently.

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    Kate Jones
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women perpetuate this, too. Influencers sit there with their gorgeous-already faces and take an hour to look 'natural' and then they go out and take pictures where other women now think there's something wrong with them for not looking that way 'naturally'. Especially with hair. I used to be so angry that my ponytail or my hair just never looked like that. Some women make it look so effortless but it's not and that's the lie. And a lot of women really do look fine without makeup and some guys truly could not care less about it, and that's great. But you don't deserve an award for it. And it's hard when when you ask a guy to point out a woman who is beautiful naturally and you look and it's some photoshopped picture and she has a ton of makeup on, guys just can't tell because it's 'natural' style. When you show them someone truly without makeup it can be eye-opening.

    Hester
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then stop doing it. You don't have to, you know?

    Foxglove🇮🇪
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't wear makeup and often forget to brush my hair all week!

    Tyranamar
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like doing all this stuff. I also like men who are into this stuff. We can talk about our retinol and Ulthera.

    Timbob
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    1 year ago

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    But then we marry you, and get the stark truth !

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    #41

    Not being taken seriously in the healthcare system.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a nurse it makes me so sad to read this again and again.

    Ravens Mom
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is sad. I had to visit 6 different doctors for a rash on my arm before I was taken seriously. Most just brushed me off that it was nothing and I was being emotional about it. Um yeah, I'm scared and that's an emotion. I even had a dermatologist go "ewww" when I showed it to him. I cried over that because he was so uncaring and I was of course dismissed.

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    #42

    Being told to smile or cheer up.

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    kath morgan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My face is not here to make you comfortable

    Belladonna.dreams
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I give the death glare when I hear this

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually find this hilarious, because I *cannot* fake smile, I look like a psychopath. So I just give this unhinged stretched lips expression and it usually creeps people out.

    CORGI QUEEN
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    literally like I don't smile often and when I do people find It creepy cus I constantly have a RBF.

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    Neffla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Cheer up, it might never happen". It already HAS happened you f*ckwit!

    Michael Largey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Move away thirty feet or so, and we'll see what happens."

    CORGI QUEEN
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my 40 year old married with two kids band teacher tells me to smile more and I cannot wait to go to highschool and not have him as a teacher again he is creepy sometimes but I think he is just trying to be nice, however that doesn't mean he can be creepy like that.

    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that exclusive to women ???

    #43

    Regularly getting cat called. Yeah sure you might think it’s completely innocent but more often it’s degrading and makes women feel uncomfortable.

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    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just uncomfortable, it makes you feel unsafe; especially if you are on your own and if there is more than one man. Walking past a building site always makes me nervous. We know it's not all men but unfortunately there is no neon sign that shows us which men we need to worry about.

    Tracy Wallick
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first time I got catcalled, I was 12 years old and it was a truck full of adult men. It was absolutely terrifying.

    Michael Largey
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys, never say anything to a woman in public that you wouldn't want a man saying to you in prison.

    Jay Scales
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The cure for a lot of harassment is to age - then you have a different problem, you become invisible!

    Elio
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of these "flattering" cat-callers tried to drag my friend to his car in broad daylight. Some people around saw but thought they were just having "a couple's spat". Right, so the domestic violence angle makes it ok.

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    #44

    I'm a man. I found this line from Ann Patchett's novel *Tom Lake* striking: "My mind did that quick mental calculation women must make when they find their exit blocked by a man they don’t know." It seems like such a great summary of an issue women face often and we men do rarely.

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    Jay Scales
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most men will never understand how physically vulnerable women feel every day.

    #45

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Women have to approach every first date as a potentially life-threatening event, and go in with a variety of exit and self-defense strategies in case things go sideways.

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    #46

    That the vag is a self-cleaning organ and that’s why we have discharge. We don’t clean the inside, and it can actually be harmful for the ph-balance.

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    Diz
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    1 year ago

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    Ladies please clean yourself, while our vag does well we use a lot of new chemicals and our foods change our ph, don't allow yourself to get yeast infections!!

    Debbie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes clean the outside but not the inside. Do you wash your stomach, your throat, your intestines? (Yes you wash your teeth because external bits and pieces of food gets stuck in there). But the others... not usually no.

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    #47

    I’ve worked in the domestic violence field for many years and the number one thing that men have a hard time understanding is how much personal safety is an ever-present concern for women, whether it’s work, at home, dating, or walking down the street.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At home ? i'm well aware of domestic violence but fortunately it's not in every couple situation. I'm pretty sure a vast majority of women feel safe at home no ?

    Adrian
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men can also be victims of DV. Women can be violent and even kill men. It's only the methods they use that differ.

    Black Cat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It can happen but it's rare. In my country (NZ), there are approximately 50 murders a year due to men killing their partners or ex partners. That's nearly one a week. Women have a looong way to go to be comparable to that.

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    ADJ
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    1 year ago

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    At home? I would say when woman do not feel safe at home, she should change the home ASAP.

    Batwench
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh were it that easy, my sweet summer child.

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    #48

    40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A dress that is XXL is an entirely different size than 2X.

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    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fecking cracks me up that the youse can be size 8 in one shop and size 12 in another! I would loose my s**t if I had to put up with that! I'm convinced it's to make you try on the clothes so you spend longer in the store.

    Timbob
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well it would be, woodn’it? I mean, if it was the same size, it would be labeled 2X, right ?

    Evelyn Fox
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not necessarily, unfortunately. Women's sizing sucks.

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    #49

    For better or worse, unsolicited attention from the opposite sex.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one looks like the main one. Every damn woman/girl i have met in my life has experienced unsolicited sex proposal. Makes me really freaky as a dad of 2

    Black Cat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Serious question, why did it take you being a dad to feel some empathy towards women? Surely there were women in your life before you had children?

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    Timbob
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    1 year ago

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    I understand this, and it’s terrible. However, often, it’s only sexual harassment if the wrong guy is staring at your over exposed chest.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then don't stare at our "over exposed chest" and there won't be a problem. We're allowed to wear what we want to. How about you keep yourself in check and don't make presumptions.

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    #50

    How they can take their bra off from under their shirt. I don’t know why we find it so impressive, but it is.

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    Neffla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Such a good feeling when the bra comes off like a sigh of relief.

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any man that understands bra's don't find it that impressive. You want impressive feats involving clothing? I can take my boxers off without removing my trousers!

    SheamusFanFrom1987
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would be nice but I'd rather take off my trousers and stay in my boxers. The bois downstairs need ventilation too XP

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    Synsepalum
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or just stop wearing them all together. I have biggums, and the best decision I ever made was to just get rid of them. Not wearing one helps them remain pert and alert.

    Me Oh My
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've yet to master this trick, but I can change shirts by pulling one shirt over the one I'm already wearing and using it as a cover to take the other shirt off.

    #51

    Questioning whether or not we could run away to safety in the footwear we're buying, and using that answer to factor into our decision.

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    CORGI QUEEN
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    exhibit A on why I never wear high heels and always sneakers

    #52

    It is amazing to me that women can talk to someone for 10 minutes and know so many details about them. As guys sometimes I’ll have friends that we don’t know each other’s names till like the 3rd time we have hung out. I started noticing this when I started telling my girlfriend how I made some friends in my first day of classes my senior year of college and she was asking me all these questions and I was like… wow. I have no idea any of these answers. Sitting next to her right now and she goes “is being a man an excuse to be stupid” 😭😭.

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    Ace
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never understand why they feel it's so important to know such things.

    Trillian
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because that is what defines someone as a person: What they like, what they do, what experiences they've had. If I don't know anything about someone why would I call them a friend?

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    Stephanie Barr
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember my ex (then husband) being called about his niece being born. I asked him how much she weighed and her length, specifics about the labor, health of mom and baby etc. Didn't know any or that.

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    #53

    Pain at the doctors office! My boyfriend was worried a mammogram would hurt me cuz they squish your boobs a little and I was like eh, after getting an IUD put in and samples taken for cervical cancer testing, this will be on the very low end of pain… his mind was blown, he was like I’ve been to the dr so many times and never had a painful experience.

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    Amalie Jaye
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s nice that he was worried about you being hurt though:)

    Timbob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, Jaaaaa, he sounds caring.

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago

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    Your boyfriend just sounds dumb tbh. Don't take his painless experience and apply it to all of us as I get horrendous medical procedures all the time.

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    #54

    Dieting and losing no weight or gaining weight while you male partner drops 30 pounds no problem.

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    #55

    I had a woman co-worker planning some business travel for herself and she was deliberately avoiding layover stops that were past a certain length. I asked her why and she said that if she had to eat at the airport alone in a business outfit, she would be guaranteed to be propositioned even if she kept her head down in her book or laptop. A lot of married men too looking for a quick airport fling. Blew me away as I had never even thought that would be a thing.

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    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly you can't go anywhere, men will linger and look for an excuse to make conversation. Sometimes it is indeed a conversation and there's nothing wrong with that. But for example I'll be buying something from the corner store and this man had seen me and another woman, unrelated, making her own purchase and he said something loudly and in general to the two of us after finishing his transaction. We both didn't respond. I'm in my 30s and this woman was older than me, we've seen this hundreds of times. He was just lingering, glancing, waiting. Sometimes you do have to count your money or you did forget a purchase, but he didn't. He waited at the counter and I caught him trying to smile at us out of the corner of my eye. He was disheveled, but not totally unkept. Easily in his late 50s or 60s. When he saw that he wasn't going to get any attention for whatever it was he wanted he went outside, but I felt him lingering. Upon exiting the store there he was indeed on the premises.

    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Continuing on, at this same corner store, men will just assume you're unemployed even though women have surpassed men in homeownership. That doesn't happen by magic. So I'm withdrawing money from the ATM and this older male approaches me to discuss the ATM fees. He was getting mad that I was paying ATM fees on an optional transaction with my bank. I decided to explain myself a bit because I was curious as to where in the actual hell this was going. He then says that "..we could work something out.." while leaning "sexily" across the atm I told him he needed to leave me alone. He then started calling me a crazy b***h, right in front of the attendant I'm raising my voice for him to leave me alone. I go to the other side of the store and immediately start filing a report online. He approaches me while doing so calling me all sorts of names, saying something along the lines of I had misunderstood, etc. He then threatens to leave the store! Like I was going to miss this opportunity!

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    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I used to travel? I wore a set of, it was three rings that fitted together in a sort of squiggly shape, on my ring finger. I was stopped at the Customs area in America, taken to a room and interviewed because it was just over 3months since I'd last flown over there. I was like, "Omg!!!" and worried. They were asking me if I was getting married for a Green Card!!! I've Dual Nationality with the UK and Canada so if I was going to move anywhere else from the UK? It'd be Canada! Anyway, I explained that the reason why I was wearing those rings on my ring finger was because men are more likely to leave you alone if they see them on that particular finger. That and I'd been wearing quite a few rings anyway but because my fingers had swollen up during the Transatlantic flight? I couldn't get them off! I mean... I also had two others stuck on my other hand but omg!!! I joked about it afterwards saying, they had guns and you don't argue with someone who has a gun on their hip!!!

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    #56

    As a guy I find it mind blowing that a lot of women can have hour long conversations with other women and never seem to run out of things to say, even with women they just met.

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    arthbach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men simply don't realise how much talking they actually do. "A review of 56 studies conducted by linguistics researcher Deborah James and social psychologist Janice Drakich found only two studies showing that women talked more than men, while 34 studies found men talked more than women. Sixteen of the studies found they talked the same and four showed no clear pattern." https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/marriage-equals/201910/do-women-really-talk-more-men

    Jinx (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    personal anecdote here... I open my mouth to speak more than my husband does, and i try to get to the point, but when he does speak, omg, he meanders through the conversation and an hour later I still don't have the answer to my yes or no question 😅

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    Belladonna.dreams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It makes a difference when we have someone contributing to the conversation and we tend to have a lot built up because we don't like to talk when it feels like no one is listening or when we're constantly being cut off.

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Believe me, I can do that too

    Bols
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a woman I also find this mind blowing :D

    Lydsylou (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went on a 7hour walk and kept up a conversation the whole time

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You must be a boring guy. I've stopped for a quick 'hello' and ended wondering how I spent 3 hours talking about just about everything and yet somehow, nothing!

    ADJ
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As I listen to my wife talking on the phone with her friends or cousins I have one conclusion: they talk so long because their talk has a little density. It is like watered down man-talk. Her 15 minutes of talking convey less information then my 3 minutes with my friend.

    #57

    How unsafe you inherently feel and how much work it is to maintain a house and that them doing something after telling them to 100 times actually costs us mental fatigue in terms of micromanaging everyone. Being a woman is like being a manager that works in an environment where you can always be raped assaulted and are continually disrespected. It took me as a woman 32 years to realize this. The unpaid labor women do.

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    Jack Burton
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't look like real like. Make me sad for you. The constand fear of being raped in every day life ? And if you feel like a manager at home maybe it's time to change partner no ? Why would you be responsible for everything at home ? It's 2024...

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need therapy. Anyone going through life with the dear od being raped by everyone is not normal. Yes be weary but this person sounds exhausting . I was sexually assaulted by 8 men at the same time as a teenager but I don't live with that mindset and it has literally happened to me.

    Delta Dawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m so sorry that happened to you. I tend to be the same way, but we’re all wired differently and for many women this is a normal response to the abnormal environment we live in.

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    #58

    The wizardry that they do with their hair in split seconds. Like woman how tf you got your hair tied up in a bun in the time it takes me to blink?

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    CORGI QUEEN
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    its a habit for me to put my hair in a bun or up outta my face so I don't even think about it, at first I was really slow with it but It got faster.

    #59

    Safety. Last week I was talking to an older friendly neighbor. He is 82, we chatted for about 10mins, he invited me in his backyard to show me his olive and fig tree. Told this to my partner, she answered that she would never do this. Even if he is 82, she’ll never trust a men who ask her to come in his backyard, alone.

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    MellonCollie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think it is necessary nor healthy to distrust every man on the planet. What you do have to do, is switch on your intuition. Dude gives off creepy vibes? No go. Otherwise, fine.

    Delta Dawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many women have lived through a lot, and are not eager to put themselves at risk of anything happening again. I truly don’t know how much caution is the right amount. The world is almost always safer than we fear… until it isn’t.

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    kath morgan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If something happens we’ll be blamed; what did you expect, going there alone with him? You led him on by being so friendly!

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poor elderly man, so lonely he's inviting just anyone to look at his tree he's proud of.

    #60

    Many women regularly buy new underwear because some of them got ruined. It would be very concerning if most men periodically thought, "oh, I need new underwear, because these old ones are gross. They're stained a different color than when I bought them.".

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    Delta Dawn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t think that would be concerning, I think it would be progress 😆

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guys, don't wait until your underwear has 3 leg holes...

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    #61

    I don't think i ever seen or knew a guy that had cried in front of another person So it blew my mind when one of my classmates cried after failing the midterm but what made it even crazier is another classmate hugged and comforted her ......... what ? Why aren't she in some dark corner crying avoiding human contact.

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    Lydsylou (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbf as a female I would definitely be in a dark corner avoiding human contact

    Ace
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cried in front of the vet recently, saying goodbye to Jack the orange one.

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mate cried himself to sleep when his Ma died, while Dave stroked his head and told him over and over that we'll all be here to help him every step of the way. If you don't feel like you could cry in front of your friends and feel supported, you need to question if you really trust them, or if they really are your friends.

    Jaaawn
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    1 year ago

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    What's the problem here? OP sounds annoyed that the crying girl had a friend to comfort her, whereas she thought she should have ran off to be alone.

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    #62

    The amount of time it takes to do hair. Don’t get me wrong, it looks amazing when done, but the process of a woman getting her hair ready to go out is mind blowing to me . Washing, drying, styling etc I’m sure I’ve completely butchered process but I love the finished product and don’t mind waiting.

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    Magpie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I love short hair.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I've invested in various hats! It's easier! Wash it, tie it back, put my hat on and then just GO! 😄 I sometimes don't have the time to do a full shampoo, conditioner and blow dry... Actually? I'm sure I've a hairdryer somewhere but gosh knows where it is!

    Witch with a B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a woman who doesn't own a blow drier. My hair has been long, short, and everywhere in between. It doesn't do what I want, so why bother?

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    #63

    Skin care in general my gf uses lotion even for her feet! i barely use one for my face and she does it every night.

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    Auntriarch
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Age has taught Mr Auntriarch that moisturiser is a necessity.

    #64

    The amount of toilet paper used.

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    Melody Shanahan-Kluth
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    women need to use toilet paper EVERY time they go to the loo, not just after ahem, downloads. We get wet, if we pull our pants up without wiping we would have damp/wet knickers, jeans ...this would smell of urine very quickly. We HAVE to wipe - which is why is is such a bloody big deal when you go to a public loo or a loo in a cafe etc and there is no paper , yuk

    Scrappychick
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I carry one of those little packets of tissues in my bag for this very reason

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    Poison Ivy/Boo
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In our household, we have 3 women to one man. He complains about how much toilet paper we use and I'm like we have to wipe after every use, we have periods and we have discharge. What? Do you expect us to just do our business w/o it? Man, that still ticks me off!!

    Auntriarch
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I explained to Mr Auntriarch that while he only needs to wipe the dew off his lily, I'm stuck with drying a lettuce, therefore I need two or three times the paper. And I don't even have to worry about shark week any more

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    Diz
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We pee sitting so we wipe every time and if we're on our periods then that's even worse, sometimes we just need to wipe because we feel sweaty!! So yes men keep extra tp around for your lady!

    Chelsea McKee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay for this one I'm going to say maybe women should spend time regularly buying toilet paper. It hasn't done anything for my consumption, but it's certainly become a point of agitation.