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40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience

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It's been three decades since the publication of the bestseller 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,' but the debate over how and why men and women are different is far from over.

Most women who see gender differences in the way people express their feelings, excel at work, and approach parenting say they are primarily based on societal expectations, while men who see differences in these areas tend to believe biology is the cause.

Interested in everyday examples, Reddit user Unfair_Quantity1413 made a post on the platform, asking everyone "What are some things that are normal to women but mind-blowing to men?" Here are some of the most popular answers they have received.

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#1

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Going to the doctor for a legitimate problem only to be treated as dramatic/lying/attention-seeking/depressed/overweight and then outright dismissed because you are female. And not getting the help you need.

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Final score:

279points

tuzdayschild 9 months ago

I solved this by only having only female docs. This doesn't guarantee anything, but it definitely increased my odds. I did some research and got myself a great team.

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#2

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Loss of bodily autonomy by government action.

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Final score:

240points

DC 9 months ago

In this regard, I am happy to say ... Vivé la France! - the first nation to have the right to end a pregnancy in their constitution. We need to catch up to them. Globally. In this regard, and even if in none else, in this, the world shall follow!

128points

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#3

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Feeling a fart roll up your vulva in the front.

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Final score:

229points

Kylie 9 months ago

LOL

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#4

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Walking around acting normal while you’re bleeding, fatigued, cramping and more.

If someone was experiencing those symptoms as a result of anything else they’d be on sick leave or at least communicating to people how they’re unwell. But nope, suck it up and go about your day like your uterus isn’t trying to murder you.

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Final score:

221points

The Doom Song 9 months ago

Yes. Aunt Flo sucks

55points

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#5

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience The number of women that have suffered sexual abuse at one point or another in their lives. It is absolutely unbelievable to me, although I know it’s true.

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Final score:

214points

KnightOwl 9 months ago

I don't think I know any women who haven't been sexually abused at some point, most when they were underage

102points

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#6

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Professionally speaking - getting dismissed, ignored or overlooked (usually in favor of a man).

I work in IT and was trying to set up a new phone system. My boss (a male) put me in charge of it because I had just done something similar at my previous job. Anyways, I kept telling him that my contact at the company we were switching to kept ignoring me and basically calling my questions stupid when he *would* answer me. My boss heard me, but didn't fully understand what the issue was...until he actually saw it happen. I sent an email asking a question, and it was ignored - he sent an email asking the same question and received an immediate answer. My boss' jaw just dropped. He immediately apologized to me and said that while he knew it happened, he'd never actually seen it done before. He was mortified and actually sent an email to that contact at the phone company saying, "when she asks a question, she better get the same attention and response that you would give me".

Until that moment he thought it was something that only happened in theory. It actually blew his mind that it was real.

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Final score:

180points

Marie Clear 9 months ago

I got so sick of this in IT, I spent the price of a small house to go back to school at night and become a lawyer and work for myself. Of course, I still get dismissed and overlooked, but only for a minute. I can now push back without bosses bitching because I'm the boss, and I can, when necessary, be a b***h. I can finally put my foot down, and I'm not overlooked anymore.

74points

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#7

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That straight men begin making disgusting comments about young girls’ bodies or saying sexually inappropriate things to young girls starting at a very early age, like in grade school. These casual predators are everywhere, but somehow, no men know anyone who would ever do anything like that. .

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Final score:

178points

arthbach 9 months ago

Men, you will see this, you will hear this. Please, for the love of all women, call out your fellow men. These creeps don't listen to women when we say to stop. They are far more likely to listen to another man. When you hear it, call them out.

172points

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#8

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Friend of mine once said: men have to assess IF there is danger. Women have asses HOW MUCH danger there is. .

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Final score:

170points

Marie Clear 9 months ago

LOL she said asses and BP didn't censor! Asses! But you can't say D i c k Clark.

27points

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#9

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Discharge can bleach underwear. Not stain, actually remove color.

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Final score:

166points

Jill Rhodry 9 months ago

Ugh...especially black.

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#10

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That women know a lot more about men’s health than men do about women’s health.

Because men’s health is the *standard*. Most people know the signs of a heart attack *for men* but don’t know that it’s different symptoms for women. Women need a different amount of sleep per night, different amount of calories per day, different healthy BMI levels. But common knowledge is all about MEN’S requirements because that’s what researchers focused on most when a lot of studies first established what we know about health.

Men get to be ignorant about the needs of 50% of the world population because they find it “icky” but women don’t get the same option.

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Final score:

156points

Bluonthefront 9 months ago

I believe every guy should have to experience two things: 1) being "relaxed" in the stirrups of an ob/gyn exam table and 2) the period cramp simulator.

51points

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#11

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I think a lot of men would be surprised at how their guy friends act when they’re alone with a woman. How they pressure, whine, beg, and wheedle for sex. How many of them try to stick it in without a condom. How many of them care so little about a woman’s pleasure that they’re bad in bed and women have to pretend to be okay with it to get it over with and avoid a fight or a tantrum or a sulk

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Final score:

152points

Diz 9 months ago

Seriously I have no problem being friends with men but it seems they have problems being friends with me since nearly every single male friend I've ever had was only interested in me sexually. They don't always tell you at first but it's always great to find out that someone was only your friend cuz they hoped to get into your pants...

63points

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#12

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Recently a guy friend didn’t get why I got my ID out of my wallet and put it in my pocket to go out for a walk. I said I always have my ID on me if I leave my apartment. He didn’t understand why I needed to do that just to go for a walk. So I explained it would make it easier to identify my body. He thought I was being morbid.

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Final score:

149points

pep Ito 9 months ago

I carry my ID everywhere I go and I'm a man. In fact, I think most people, male or female, do.

38points

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#13

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I can’t believe nobody said this, but birthing. I tried imagining a human growing in my belly. Feeling the baby move around and your body changing. Then the thought of knowing that you have to extract this human from your body. It was terrifying. I salute you!

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Final score:

143points

Jaaawn 9 months ago

And yet some people believe and are pushing the narrative that men can lactate enough to nurture babies .

24points

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#14

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Not being able to be as friendly as you want. I love people, but I’ve had to learn to tone down my natural warmth because a lot of guys take it the wrong way. I wonder if men ever worry about a “good morning!” or a smile being misinterpreted.

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Final score:

143points

Ge Po 9 months ago

Yes, they do worry about smiles and casual remarks, because they fear they might seem creepy.

62points

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#15

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A lot of us can't orgasm without external friction. A penis or toy going in and out means nothing to us, but a vibrator just touched to the outside will do the trick.

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Final score:

138points

Catastrophisticate 9 months ago

And all the faking to save their poor, fragile egos *eyeroll* LMAO

71points

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#16

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience IUDs are inserted without any kind of anesthetic. If you're lucky, they warn you to take some Advil beforehand. Then they grab your cervix with metal tongs and force it open.

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Final score:

135points

Iampenny 9 months ago

I had an IUD twice and it didn't hurt much at all, did I just get lucky both times?

28points

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#17

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience I haven't seen any comments discussing specifically this, so maybe it's not that normal/universal an experience but; just how radically menstruation can f**k up your mental. Like, your brain can go down to some really dark places and you are 100% convinced that all of those things you're thinking are real, valid, true, your new normal- but then your period starts, and it's like 'o haha nvm it was just my period actually.'.

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Final score:

133points

BTDubs 9 months ago

I hate that women seem fake for these depressive episodes before the period starts. You *were* feeling those emotions, they are real and can seriously f*ck up your life. Pre menstrual dysphoria has some very damaging effects on mental health. For up to 2 weeks before the period starts, one can feel intense anxiety, depression, thoughts of suicide and self harm. For up to 2 weeks every month, which roughly equates to 6 months of these feelings.

86points

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#18

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Working a full time job and also doing 90% of the chores and childcare.

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Final score:

132points

Phoenix 9 months ago

That's just the manual labor. Don't forget about the cognitive labor too.

63points

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#19

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How busy our mind stays. I feel like most of my friends agree. You’re always in fight or flight when you’re out and about, especially at night. I’ve tried to explain to my boyfriend how nice it is to just turn off my brain with him. I still don’t think he fully understands what I mean.

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Final score:

130points

jade s 9 months ago

Is this a majority or a response tonyour experiences. I rarely feel like I'm on guard walking home and my walk is where I zone out and wind down for the day. I know there are some awful people out there but I've also had men keep an eye out for me when I was feeling ill on the train and pretend to know me when I was worried about a different guy that creeped me out. Lots of people are decent and I don't want to fear 50% of the population because of a minority of gits that don't understand no.

19points

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#20

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Realizing men want you sexually when you’re a child. I was about 8 or 9 when my and my friends began to get catcalled, followed, stalked, etc. often by old men. I think most women realize at a very young age that men see you in a sexual light.

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Final score:

127points

Kylie 9 months ago

Or to be sexualized early by a family member?

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#21

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Nonexistent or useless pockets in clothes.

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125points

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Tiny Dynamine 9 months ago

Erm, excuse me??? We have handbags that you need to buy??!?!??!

31points

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#22

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Cuddling / physical affection from our platonic friends. Some of the men in my therepy group are so touch starved and it makes me sad that they can only get that from a romantic partner. I have easily 10 friends who if I really needed a hug would drop everything to come hold me

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Final score:

124points

Tobias Reaper 9 months ago

my best friend is a woman and she is only person who gives me any physical affection i have almost forgotten what it feels like

44points

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#23

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience You are standing in a busy bar and someone wants to pass you.

If you are a guy: „hey excuse me”, little tap on the shoulder, friendly smile and request to move

If you are a girl: someone puts their hands on your waist and tries to move your body away.

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Final score:

121points

Lexekon 9 months ago

You assume too much about male experiences, usually it's more like someone just shoving past rudely, who seems annoyed that you existed just to be an obstacle to them. Seriously, why would you think men were treated with politeness, in this context?

12points

Bluonthefront 9 months ago

I'd choose rudely passed by than some rando male thinking he just has to touch me.

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Nicky Shrimps 9 months ago

I don't think politeness was assumed, it was pointing out the lack of sexual assault. I would prefer physical assault over sexual assault, but truly why do men need feel the need to assault at all? Bigger picture.

6points

BoredPossum 9 months ago

Or we get physically attacked by hyper macho idiots on steroids just for standing around.

6points

Ms.GB 9 months ago (edited)

When I walk through a crowd with my husband I hold his hand because if I don't I get squished, side chucked etc. My husband is 6'5 so when he walks through a crowd it's like the red sea parted. It took him a while to understand this. I would call his name and he'd turn around and I would be like 20 feet behind him stuck in a mob of people lol. He would be like "Why are you walking behind me?"..."Because you make a good plow babe."

2points

Heather Talma 9 months ago

A shove and a waist grab are two very different kinds of rudeness

1point

StrangeOne 9 months ago

Women do this to women, too. It happened recently in the lunchroom at work. I don't care if they are a man or woman, don't touch me and especially don't touch me there.

9points

James Howell 9 months ago

EWE!!!!

2points

Alicia M 9 months ago

The last time I was at a bar, a man openly grabbed my boob. The amount of pelvic thrusts into my back side on the dance floor was also disgusting. Funny how I can dance in a crowd without touching anyone, but some men can't seem to do the same.

2points

Phil Hoyt 9 months ago

If I were you, I'd change the bars I frequent. The ones I go to, I've never seen unwanted touching going on, much less what you described.

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Stormy accepts you (She/They) 9 months ago

I’ve actually had men do this! I HATE IT EVERY TIME LIKE DO NOT TOUCH ME

1point

Miki 9 months ago

I know it's like this for woman, but it is NOT like this for guys.

1point

TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago

I've never had that happen.usually they just reach overtop of me, because I'm short. The only time I've ever gotten the "hand on the waist/small of the back" move was from either someone in my friend group that im there with, or my partner at the time.

1point

Ian whaples 9 months ago

if there is a woman in-between where I am and where I want to be I get comfy because I will be waiting a long time.

0points

KimB 9 months ago

I never have my back in a position where someone can sneak up behind me in a public place. You do not sneak up and grab me because I likely will react to defend myself and you will get hurt. I can do it with little thought and so fast you won't see it coming. 10+ years of mixed martial arts. Please just say excuse me and don't touch or grab strangers!

0points

ColorEd 9 months ago

That's just not possible in a very crowded place.

3points

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#24

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Men can say “I want a baby” “Let’s try for a baby!” and only have to orgasm for that to happen. His partner will then carry the weight of a growing fetus in her uterus, which is painful, scary, uncomfortable, and can have permanent affects on your health and body. Some moms don’t lose the pregnancy weight. Some moms have severe PPD. Some moms’ bodies never fully bounce back. … and way more after baby is born.

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Final score:

120points

Marie Clear 9 months ago

Then you have to pass a basketball through something designed for a ping pong ball.

56points

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#25

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Locking your car immediately when you get in it, before seatbelt or putting the key in.

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Final score:

119points

Kylie 9 months ago

I have to say only in certain places, not always.

35points

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#26

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Constantly being asked if you're pregnant before every little bit of medical care (often multiple times in one visit, if you're in the hospital, just to be safe). And before getting a treatment that's definitely unsafe during pregnancy (like an x-ray or a medication) even your 'no' answer isn't good enough. I haven't had a uterus for 21 years. Doesn't matter, I'm still getting a pregnancy test because patients lie.

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Final score:

105points

arthbach 9 months ago

People from outside the USA, please answer. Have you been required to have a pregnancy test before being treated, or being prescribed medication that could harm a foetus? I haven't. It seems that in my part of the world, women are believed when they say they aren't pregnant. If they can't say for definite, then a test is offered.

36points

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#27

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How you're constantly underestimated.
Had a partner where he thought being a woman is so much easier because he said "women get a lot of help" and I had to explain that most of the time it's because women are being underestimated even if you're good at what you do. Most of the time, men help because they either want something from you or just want to feel smart. It gets tiring sometimes...

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Final score:

103points

Marie Clear 9 months ago

Yes, this. Mansplaining. Not helpful.

42points

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#28

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Women and their girlfriends having to track each other on apps after nights out/gym/almost any f*****g activity in public just to make sure they all get home okay.

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Final score:

101points

The Doom Song 9 months ago

Always text my best mate as soon I get home after leaving her place, especially at night. I just like her to know I'm okay

23points

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#29

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience How absolutely horrifically painful period cramps can be. Like can’t think straight, vomiting, want to die levels of pain.

Three Advil and 45 minutes can get many of us back to good as new though. Until 6-8 hours later when it wears off.

ETA: I know this shouldn’t be “normal” but it unfortunately kind of is. I’ve also talked to gynecologists about it and there isn’t much to do besides take birth control, which I don’t like the other side effects of. I also only bleed for four days and it’s a normal to light flow so endometriosis is unlikely.

I’m also pregnant right now and enjoying no periods!

ETA2: I promise I know that endometriosis exists. I’m not looking for advice on my painful periods. I have a gynecologist for this. I appreciate the concern and hope for the best for all the other ladies dealing with this!

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Final score:

88points

arthbach 9 months ago

I found excessively bad cramps corresponded to times when my iron levels were low. Taking iron supplements help a great deal. If you are suffering a great deal of pain, have your iron levels tested, and see if an iron tablet might help.

23points

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#30

Needing completely different-sized clothes depending on the shop you buy them in. My boyfriend just orders stuff knowing it will fit perfectly every time!

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Final score:

86points

MellonCollie 9 months ago

I don't think this is necessarily true. My husband wears XL but sizes vary wildly from brand to brand for him too. I'm sure this is not just a female problem - men experience the same thing (maybe on a less important level though, not sure about that).

27points

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#31

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That sometimes there are lines inside women's bathrooms.

I once went to the bathroom just to pee and came out around 10 minutes after. My male friends asked why I took so long. I said because the line was long. They laughed at me and accused me of lying.

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Final score:

81points

ynyrhydref56 9 months ago

Always. There is always a line.

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#32

Needing to relax *before* sex

Men need sex to relax
Women need to relax to have sex.

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81points

GettingCereal 9 months ago

I don't think either of these are a general rule for men or women, more an individual preference.

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#33

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Emotional labor. We aren't super-human in our ability to locate things or replace something before it runs out. It is years and years of training and conditioning and everyone is certainly capable of it, but the responsibility is largely set on Women.

Edit to add [meta](https://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor) filter link.

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Final score:

78points

Poison Ivy/Boo 9 months ago

Ok, this is weird. I tend to forget where I put my own things (this week it was a letter for a Dr appt), but if hubs or the kids need things and can't find them I know exactly where they are and can tell them where to find them. I'm not sure why I can't remember my own things and it freaks me out.

18points

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#34

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Having to be cautios and having coping skills for so many daily situations.

Like walking home at night and changing the street because someone is walking behind you. Having your keys between your fingers in case you have to defend yourself. Faking or actually doing phonecalls. Avoiding certain areas that are too dark, going different ways to avoid people, packing an extra oversized shirt for the way home from a party or club. Telling a friend and sharing your location when going on a date with someone you don't know yet. The list goes on and on...

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Final score:

78points

The Doom Song 9 months ago

If I'm on the bus home after a night shift I get my partner to stay on the phone with me until I'm home.

17points

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#35

The Pink Tax. Explained what it os to my younger brother and the poor dude just sat there shocked before exclaiming how unfair it sounded, can probably guess how he reacted when he found out how much people have to spend on sanitary products yearly.

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Final score:

73points

The Doom Song 9 months ago

We don't get taxed for sanitary products here in Australia

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#36

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience That most of us are trained from childhood to view all circumstances and interactions as potentially dangerous and many of us arrange every day around minimizing danger from men.

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Final score:

70points

Ariom Dahl 9 months ago

This is a terribly sad reflection on your society as a whole. I am fortunate that I have always lived in a country where I do not have to anticipate the possibility of violence and fear ALL men because of what SOME men might do.

15points

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#37

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Getting approached and commented on near constantly.

My husband always thought I was exaggerating until we were on our honeymoon. I was approached and people said gross things to me several times over the week, even with my husband *standing right there*. He was both shocked and disgusted.

It was like any other vacation to me. Honestly, it was one of the better ones in terms of encounters, but I didn’t tell him that.

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Final score:

68points

Lydsylou (she/her) 9 months ago

If you don't get groped it's counted as a successful holiday in terms of harassment

22points

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#38

À friend of mine called me because she was stranded in a dodgy part of town and needed to just have someone on the phone with her for comfort while she waited for her friend.

Men kept talking to her and she kept telling me how uncomfortable she is. Random dudes just constantly blowing kisses and coming to talk to her. One dude even tried to take her phone from her to talk to me.

I've been in that part of town, but I'm 6'3 and reasonably athletic. My experience of it was completely different. It was crazy. I could feel through the phone how vulnerable she felt, which I always knew was how it felt but I had never actually *felt* it before. Hearing her fend off aggressive men was so nerve-wracking.

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Final score:

66points

Chelsea McKee 9 months ago

✨Mace✨

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#39

Being constantly harassed by men for sex. When men FINALLY see it it’s usually from a gay man and they’re like “it’s so uncomfy gay men are so forward” or some s**t nd im like no MOST MEN period. Wtf.

Mobile_Peach_7088 Report

Final score:

53points

Maartje 8 months ago

I recall one situation where a guy approached me from completely the other side of the bar, loudly asking me why I did not react when he was smiling and winking at me. He kept on harassing me until I started yelling back at him. Meanwhile the guy seated next to me kept on putting his hand in my crotch .

3points

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#40

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience The effort that it takes to look 'effortlessly' good. There are far more women than men who have a skincare routine, have a hair routine, shave their legs/armpits/arms, wear makeup (light makeup can be skillfully used to appear natural), use daily UV protection, know the exact silhouettes/colors/shades that flatter them, shape their eyebrows, etc.

NiamhHA , Vinicius Wiesehofer/Pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

51points

Ge Po 9 months ago

This is choice. But then, nowadays with all the social media, it has become expectation. Then again, before social media, it may have been the norm/etiquette.

11points

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#41

Not being taken seriously in the healthcare system.

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Final score:

33points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

As a nurse it makes me so sad to read this again and again.

5points

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#42

Being told to smile or cheer up.

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Final score:

30points

kath morgan 9 months ago

My face is not here to make you comfortable

5points

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#43

Regularly getting cat called.

Yeah sure you might think it’s completely innocent but more often it’s degrading and makes women feel uncomfortable.

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Final score:

28points

Shark Lady 9 months ago

Not just uncomfortable, it makes you feel unsafe; especially if you are on your own and if there is more than one man. Walking past a building site always makes me nervous. We know it's not all men but unfortunately there is no neon sign that shows us which men we need to worry about.

12points

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#44

I'm a man. I found this line from Ann Patchett's novel *Tom Lake* striking:

"My mind did that quick mental calculation women must make when they find their exit blocked by a man they don’t know."

It seems like such a great summary of an issue women face often and we men do rarely.

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Final score:

27points

Jay Scales 9 months ago

Most men will never understand how physically vulnerable women feel every day.

8points

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#45

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience Women have to approach every first date as a potentially life-threatening event, and go in with a variety of exit and self-defense strategies in case things go sideways.

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Final score:

27points

ColorEd 9 months ago

All women, everywhere?

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#46

That the vag is a self-cleaning organ and that’s why we have discharge. We don’t clean the inside, and it can actually be harmful for the ph-balance.

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Final score:

26points

Diz 9 months ago

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#47

I’ve worked in the domestic violence field for many years and the number one thing that men have a hard time understanding is how much personal safety is an ever-present concern for women, whether it’s work, at home, dating, or walking down the street.

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Final score:

23points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

At home ? i'm well aware of domestic violence but fortunately it's not in every couple situation. I'm pretty sure a vast majority of women feel safe at home no ?

3points

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#48

40 Times Men Were Completely Unaware Of The Female Experience A dress that is XXL is an entirely different size than 2X.

RilohKeen , sparklebliss/Flickr (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

21points

Donkey boi 9 months ago

Fecking cracks me up that the youse can be size 8 in one shop and size 12 in another! I would loose my s**t if I had to put up with that! I'm convinced it's to make you try on the clothes so you spend longer in the store.

5points

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#49

For better or worse, unsolicited attention from the opposite sex.

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Final score:

20points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

This one looks like the main one. Every damn woman/girl i have met in my life has experienced unsolicited sex proposal. Makes me really freaky as a dad of 2

6points

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#50

How they can take their bra off from under their shirt. I don’t know why we find it so impressive, but it is.

Leokina114 Report

Final score:

19points

Neffla 9 months ago

Such a good feeling when the bra comes off like a sigh of relief.

10points

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#51

Questioning whether or not we could run away to safety in the footwear we're buying, and using that answer to factor into our decision.

Shadow_Integration Report

Final score:

19points

CORGI QUEEN 9 months ago

exhibit A on why I never wear high heels and always sneakers

3points

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#52

It is amazing to me that women can talk to someone for 10 minutes and know so many details about them. As guys sometimes I’ll have friends that we don’t know each other’s names till like the 3rd time we have hung out. I started noticing this when I started telling my girlfriend how I made some friends in my first day of classes my senior year of college and she was asking me all these questions and I was like… wow. I have no idea any of these answers. Sitting next to her right now and she goes “is being a man an excuse to be stupid” 😭😭.

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Final score:

18points

Ace 9 months ago

I never understand why they feel it's so important to know such things.

2points

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#53

Pain at the doctors office! My boyfriend was worried a mammogram would hurt me cuz they squish your boobs a little and I was like eh, after getting an IUD put in and samples taken for cervical cancer testing, this will be on the very low end of pain… his mind was blown, he was like I’ve been to the dr so many times and never had a painful experience.

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Final score:

18points

Amalie Jaye 9 months ago

It’s nice that he was worried about you being hurt though:)

8points

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#54

Dieting and losing no weight or gaining weight while you male partner drops 30 pounds no problem.

pugfan22 Report

Final score:

17points

#55

I had a woman co-worker planning some business travel for herself and she was deliberately avoiding layover stops that were past a certain length.

I asked her why and she said that if she had to eat at the airport alone in a business outfit, she would be guaranteed to be propositioned even if she kept her head down in her book or laptop. A lot of married men too looking for a quick airport fling. Blew me away as I had never even thought that would be a thing.

Mysterious_Lesions Report

Final score:

17points

Chelsea McKee 9 months ago

Honestly you can't go anywhere, men will linger and look for an excuse to make conversation. Sometimes it is indeed a conversation and there's nothing wrong with that. But for example I'll be buying something from the corner store and this man had seen me and another woman, unrelated, making her own purchase and he said something loudly and in general to the two of us after finishing his transaction. We both didn't respond. I'm in my 30s and this woman was older than me, we've seen this hundreds of times. He was just lingering, glancing, waiting. Sometimes you do have to count your money or you did forget a purchase, but he didn't. He waited at the counter and I caught him trying to smile at us out of the corner of my eye. He was disheveled, but not totally unkept. Easily in his late 50s or 60s. When he saw that he wasn't going to get any attention for whatever it was he wanted he went outside, but I felt him lingering. Upon exiting the store there he was indeed on the premises.

5points

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#56

As a guy I find it mind blowing that a lot of women can have hour long conversations with other women and never seem to run out of things to say, even with women they just met.

TheBassMeister Report

Final score:

16points

arthbach 9 months ago

Men simply don't realise how much talking they actually do. "A review of 56 studies conducted by linguistics researcher Deborah James and social psychologist Janice Drakich found only two studies showing that women talked more than men, while 34 studies found men talked more than women. Sixteen of the studies found they talked the same and four showed no clear pattern." https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/marriage-equals/201910/do-women-really-talk-more-men

12points

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#57

How unsafe you inherently feel and how much work it is to maintain a house and that them doing something after telling them to 100 times actually costs us mental fatigue in terms of micromanaging everyone. Being a woman is like being a manager that works in an environment where you can always be raped assaulted and are continually disrespected. It took me as a woman 32 years to realize this. The unpaid labor women do.

Ok-Law3581 Report

Final score:

15points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

Doesn't look like real like. Make me sad for you. The constand fear of being raped in every day life ? And if you feel like a manager at home maybe it's time to change partner no ? Why would you be responsible for everything at home ? It's 2024...

3points

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#58

The wizardry that they do with their hair in split seconds. Like woman how tf you got your hair tied up in a bun in the time it takes me to blink?

Final score:

12points

MellonCollie 9 months ago

Practice, my dude, practice.

22points

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#59

Safety.
Last week I was talking to an older friendly neighbor. He is 82, we chatted for about 10mins, he invited me in his backyard to show me his olive and fig tree.
Told this to my partner, she answered that she would never do this. Even if he is 82, she’ll never trust a men who ask her to come in his backyard, alone.

International-Bet384 Report

Final score:

12points

MellonCollie 9 months ago

I don't think it is necessary nor healthy to distrust every man on the planet. What you do have to do, is switch on your intuition. Dude gives off creepy vibes? No go. Otherwise, fine.

21points

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#60

Many women regularly buy new underwear because some of them got ruined.

It would be very concerning if most men periodically thought, "oh, I need new underwear, because these old ones are gross. They're stained a different color than when I bought them.".

yakusokuN8 Report

Final score:

12points

Delta Dawn 9 months ago

I don’t think that would be concerning, I think it would be progress 😆

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#61

I don't think i ever seen or knew a guy that had cried in front of another person

So it blew my mind when one of my classmates cried after failing the midterm but what made it even crazier is another classmate hugged and comforted her ......... what ? Why aren't she in some dark corner crying avoiding human contact.

Virtual_Syrup262 Report

Final score:

11points

Lydsylou (she/her) 9 months ago

Tbf as a female I would definitely be in a dark corner avoiding human contact

8points

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#62

The amount of time it takes to do hair. Don’t get me wrong, it looks amazing when done, but the process of a woman getting her hair ready to go out is mind blowing to me .

Washing, drying, styling etc

I’m sure I’ve completely butchered process but I love the finished product and don’t mind waiting.

Final score:

10points

Magpie 9 months ago

This is why I love short hair.

2points

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#63

Skin care in general
my gf uses lotion even for her feet! i barely use one for my face and she does it every night.

Final score:

9points

Auntriarch 9 months ago

Age has taught Mr Auntriarch that moisturiser is a necessity.

4points

#64

The amount of toilet paper used.

Infn8Jst Report

Final score:

6points

Melody Shanahan-Kluth 9 months ago

women need to use toilet paper EVERY time they go to the loo, not just after ahem, downloads. We get wet, if we pull our pants up without wiping we would have damp/wet knickers, jeans ...this would smell of urine very quickly. We HAVE to wipe - which is why is is such a bloody big deal when you go to a public loo or a loo in a cafe etc and there is no paper , yuk

25points

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Shark Lady 9 months ago

The stigma of being a single mum, you are looked down on and bitched about constantly, your children's behaviour is also scrutinised more than two parent families. Yet you are the one that stayed and are doing your best to juggle everything on your own. Single dads are looked upon much more favourably and "aren't they doing an amazing job doing it all on their own".

20points

Trillian 9 months ago

Ugh, the number of times these items contained stuff like "my partner, boss or other male person in my life had heard about xyz happening to women but did not believe it until they witnessed it themselves" just makes me hopping mad.

11points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

Some are way too much generality but the main point seems the sexual harrasment, never met any woman having not experienced it. How sad it is.

9points

Angi 9 months ago

Honestly I'm a 40 female and I've never had it happen. I know I'm lucky but at the same time it makes me wonder what's wrong with me...

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Anony Mouse 9 months ago

The poll should have one more option: "No, I'm a woman."

4points

Kitty 8 months ago

Exactly

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Johanna Muukkonen 9 months ago

ALL of these. Exhausting!

3points

ColorEd 9 months ago

So much fear and paranoia. It's so sad.

2points

Tamra 9 months ago

It's even sadder that much of it is justified.

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Silre 9 months ago

Only 64?

1point

Antonia Saxon 9 months ago

'The female experience' This isn't a tribute show.

0points

Steve Hall 9 months ago

Some of these stories make me wonder where these people live.

0points

Shark Lady 9 months ago

The stigma of being a single mum, you are looked down on and bitched about constantly, your children's behaviour is also scrutinised more than two parent families. Yet you are the one that stayed and are doing your best to juggle everything on your own. Single dads are looked upon much more favourably and "aren't they doing an amazing job doing it all on their own".

20points

Trillian 9 months ago

Ugh, the number of times these items contained stuff like "my partner, boss or other male person in my life had heard about xyz happening to women but did not believe it until they witnessed it themselves" just makes me hopping mad.

11points

Jack Burton 9 months ago

Some are way too much generality but the main point seems the sexual harrasment, never met any woman having not experienced it. How sad it is.

9points

Angi 9 months ago

Honestly I'm a 40 female and I've never had it happen. I know I'm lucky but at the same time it makes me wonder what's wrong with me...

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Anony Mouse 9 months ago

The poll should have one more option: "No, I'm a woman."

4points

Kitty 8 months ago

Exactly

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Johanna Muukkonen 9 months ago

ALL of these. Exhausting!

3points

ColorEd 9 months ago

So much fear and paranoia. It's so sad.

2points

Tamra 9 months ago

It's even sadder that much of it is justified.

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Silre 9 months ago

Only 64?

1point

Antonia Saxon 9 months ago

'The female experience' This isn't a tribute show.

0points

Steve Hall 9 months ago

Some of these stories make me wonder where these people live.

0points

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