Going to the doctor for a legitimate problem only to be treated as dramatic/lying/attention-seeking/depressed/overweight and then outright dismissed because you are female. And not getting the help you need.

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Loss of bodily autonomy by government action.

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Feeling a fart roll up your vulva in the front.

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Walking around acting normal while you’re bleeding, fatigued, cramping and more.

If someone was experiencing those symptoms as a result of anything else they’d be on sick leave or at least communicating to people how they’re unwell. But nope, suck it up and go about your day like your uterus isn’t trying to murder you.

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The number of women that have suffered sexual abuse at one point or another in their lives. It is absolutely unbelievable to me, although I know it’s true.

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Professionally speaking - getting dismissed, ignored or overlooked (usually in favor of a man).

I work in IT and was trying to set up a new phone system. My boss (a male) put me in charge of it because I had just done something similar at my previous job. Anyways, I kept telling him that my contact at the company we were switching to kept ignoring me and basically calling my questions stupid when he *would* answer me. My boss heard me, but didn't fully understand what the issue was...until he actually saw it happen. I sent an email asking a question, and it was ignored - he sent an email asking the same question and received an immediate answer. My boss' jaw just dropped. He immediately apologized to me and said that while he knew it happened, he'd never actually seen it done before. He was mortified and actually sent an email to that contact at the phone company saying, "when she asks a question, she better get the same attention and response that you would give me".

Until that moment he thought it was something that only happened in theory. It actually blew his mind that it was real.

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That straight men begin making disgusting comments about young girls’ bodies or saying sexually inappropriate things to young girls starting at a very early age, like in grade school.  These casual predators are everywhere, but somehow, no men know anyone who would ever do anything like that. .

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Friend of mine once said: men have to assess IF there is danger. Women have asses HOW MUCH danger there is. .

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Discharge can bleach underwear. Not stain, actually remove color.

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That women know a lot more about men’s health than men do about women’s health.

Because men’s health is the *standard*. Most people know the signs of a heart attack *for men* but don’t know that it’s different symptoms for women. Women need a different amount of sleep per night, different amount of calories per day, different healthy BMI levels. But common knowledge is all about MEN’S requirements because that’s what researchers focused on most when a lot of studies first established what we know about health.

Men get to be ignorant about the needs of 50% of the world population because they find it “icky” but women don’t get the same option.

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I think a lot of men would be surprised at how their guy friends act when they’re alone with a woman. How they pressure, whine, beg, and wheedle for sex. How many of them try to stick it in without a condom. How many of them care so little about a woman’s pleasure that they’re bad in bed and women have to pretend to be okay with it to get it over with and avoid a fight or a tantrum or a sulk

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Recently a guy friend didn’t get why I got my ID out of my wallet and put it in my pocket to go out for a walk. I said I always have my ID on me if I leave my apartment. He didn’t understand why I needed to do that just to go for a walk. So I explained it would make it easier to identify my body. He thought I was being morbid.

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I can’t believe nobody said this, but birthing. I tried imagining a human growing in my belly. Feeling the baby move around and your body changing. Then the thought of knowing that you have to extract this human from your body. It was terrifying. I salute you!

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Not being able to be as friendly as you want. I love people, but I’ve had to learn to tone down my natural warmth because a lot of guys take it the wrong way. I wonder if men ever worry about a “good morning!” or a smile being misinterpreted.

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A lot of us can't orgasm without external friction. A penis or toy going in and out means nothing to us, but a vibrator just touched to the outside will do the trick.

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IUDs are inserted without any kind of anesthetic. If you're lucky, they warn you to take some Advil beforehand. Then they grab your cervix with metal tongs and force it open.

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I haven't seen any comments discussing specifically this, so maybe it's not that normal/universal an experience but; just how radically menstruation can f**k up your mental. Like, your brain can go down to some really dark places and you are 100% convinced that all of those things you're thinking are real, valid, true, your new normal- but then your period starts, and it's like 'o haha nvm it was just my period actually.'.

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Working a full time job and also doing 90% of the chores and childcare.

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How busy our mind stays. I feel like most of my friends agree. You’re always in fight or flight when you’re out and about, especially at night. I’ve tried to explain to my boyfriend how nice it is to just turn off my brain with him. I still don’t think he fully understands what I mean.

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Realizing men want you sexually when you’re a child. I was about 8 or 9 when my and my friends began to get catcalled, followed, stalked, etc. often by old men. I think most women realize at a very young age that men see you in a sexual light.

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Nonexistent or useless pockets in clothes.

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Cuddling / physical affection from our platonic friends. Some of the men in my therepy group are so touch starved and it makes me sad that they can only get that from a romantic partner. I have easily 10 friends who if I really needed a hug would drop everything to come hold me

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You are standing in a busy bar and someone wants to pass you.

If you are a guy: „hey excuse me”, little tap on the shoulder, friendly smile and request to move

If you are a girl: someone puts their hands on your waist and tries to move your body away.

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You assume too much about male experiences, usually it's more like someone just shoving past rudely, who seems annoyed that you existed just to be an obstacle to them. Seriously, why would you think men were treated with politeness, in this context?

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I'd choose rudely passed by than some rando male thinking he just has to touch me.

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Me too

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Who wouldn't? The shoving part just happens thoughtlessly, as if they need to express how noone else matters but them getting through.

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I don't think politeness was assumed, it was pointing out the lack of sexual assault. I would prefer physical assault over sexual assault, but truly why do men need feel the need to assault at all? Bigger picture.

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Why? Because many men are really just a hairless gorilla walking on 2 feet. They are not that far removed from pounding their chests and baring their teeth when approached by a rival. Watch other primates. Humans have not progressed far from the behavior of our cousins.

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Or we get physically attacked by hyper macho idiots on steroids just for standing around.

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When I walk through a crowd with my husband I hold his hand because if I don't I get squished, side chucked etc. My husband is 6'5 so when he walks through a crowd it's like the red sea parted. It took him a while to understand this. I would call his name and he'd turn around and I would be like 20 feet behind him stuck in a mob of people lol. He would be like "Why are you walking behind me?"..."Because you make a good plow babe."

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A shove and a waist grab are two very different kinds of rudeness

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Women do this to women, too. It happened recently in the lunchroom at work. I don't care if they are a man or woman, don't touch me and especially don't touch me there.

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EWE!!!!

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The last time I was at a bar, a man openly grabbed my boob. The amount of pelvic thrusts into my back side on the dance floor was also disgusting. Funny how I can dance in a crowd without touching anyone, but some men can't seem to do the same.

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If I were you, I'd change the bars I frequent. The ones I go to, I've never seen unwanted touching going on, much less what you described.

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No, the guys in these bars should change their behavior. She’s free to frequent whatever bars she wants.

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Agreed, but if the bar staff aren't doing anything to stop it, then why should they get her money?

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I’ve actually had men do this! I HATE IT EVERY TIME LIKE DO NOT TOUCH ME

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I know it's like this for woman, but it is NOT like this for guys.

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I've never had that happen.usually they just reach overtop of me, because I'm short. The only time I've ever gotten the "hand on the waist/small of the back" move was from either someone in my friend group that im there with, or my partner at the time.

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if there is a woman in-between where I am and where I want to be I get comfy because I will be waiting a long time.

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I never have my back in a position where someone can sneak up behind me in a public place. You do not sneak up and grab me because I likely will react to defend myself and you will get hurt. I can do it with little thought and so fast you won't see it coming. 10+ years of mixed martial arts. Please just say excuse me and don't touch or grab strangers!

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That's just not possible in a very crowded place.

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Avoid the situation. I haven't been to a bar or very crowded place for a least 15 years. For places there's a line (like the bmv for example) I go when there isn't like first thing in the morning when they open.

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How do you achieve this in a crowded bar standing in line?

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Men can say “I want a baby” “Let’s try for a baby!” and only have to orgasm for that to happen. His partner will then carry the weight of a growing fetus in her uterus, which is painful, scary, uncomfortable, and can have permanent affects on your health and body. Some moms don’t lose the pregnancy weight. Some moms have severe PPD. Some moms’ bodies never fully bounce back. … and way more after baby is born.

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Locking your car immediately when you get in it, before seatbelt or putting the key in.

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Constantly being asked if you're pregnant before every little bit of medical care (often multiple times in one visit, if you're in the hospital, just to be safe). And before getting a treatment that's definitely unsafe during pregnancy (like an x-ray or a medication) even your 'no' answer isn't good enough. I haven't had a uterus for 21 years. Doesn't matter, I'm still getting a pregnancy test because patients lie.

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How you're constantly underestimated.
Had a partner where he thought being a woman is so much easier because he said "women get a lot of help" and I had to explain that most of the time it's because women are being underestimated even if you're good at what you do. Most of the time, men help because they either want something from you or just want to feel smart. It gets tiring sometimes...

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Women and their girlfriends having to track each other on apps after nights out/gym/almost any f*****g activity in public just to make sure they all get home okay.

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How absolutely horrifically painful period cramps can be. Like can’t think straight, vomiting, want to die levels of pain.

Three Advil and 45 minutes can get many of us back to good as new though. Until 6-8 hours later when it wears off.

ETA: I know this shouldn’t be “normal” but it unfortunately kind of is. I’ve also talked to gynecologists about it and there isn’t much to do besides take birth control, which I don’t like the other side effects of. I also only bleed for four days and it’s a normal to light flow so endometriosis is unlikely.

I’m also pregnant right now and enjoying no periods!

ETA2: I promise I know that endometriosis exists. I’m not looking for advice on my painful periods. I have a gynecologist for this. I appreciate the concern and hope for the best for all the other ladies dealing with this!

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Needing completely different-sized clothes depending on the shop you buy them in. My boyfriend just orders stuff knowing it will fit perfectly every time!

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That sometimes there are lines inside women's bathrooms.

I once went to the bathroom just to pee and came out around 10 minutes after. My male friends asked why I took so long. I said because the line was long. They laughed at me and accused me of lying.

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Needing to relax *before* sex

Men need sex to relax
Women need to relax to have sex.

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Emotional labor. We aren't super-human in our ability to locate things or replace something before it runs out. It is years and years of training and conditioning and everyone is certainly capable of it, but the responsibility is largely set on Women.

Edit to add [meta](https://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor) filter link.

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Having to be cautios and having coping skills for so many daily situations.

Like walking home at night and changing the street because someone is walking behind you. Having your keys between your fingers in case you have to defend yourself. Faking or actually doing phonecalls. Avoiding certain areas that are too dark, going different ways to avoid people, packing an extra oversized shirt for the way home from a party or club. Telling a friend and sharing your location when going on a date with someone you don't know yet. The list goes on and on...

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The Pink Tax. Explained what it os to my younger brother and the poor dude just sat there shocked before exclaiming how unfair it sounded, can probably guess how he reacted when he found out how much people have to spend on sanitary products yearly.

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That most of us are trained from childhood to view all circumstances and interactions as potentially dangerous and many of us arrange every day around minimizing danger from men.

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Getting approached and commented on near constantly.

My husband always thought I was exaggerating until we were on our honeymoon. I was approached and people said gross things to me several times over the week, even with my husband *standing right there*. He was both shocked and disgusted.

It was like any other vacation to me. Honestly, it was one of the better ones in terms of encounters, but I didn’t tell him that.

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À friend of mine called me because she was stranded in a dodgy part of town and needed to just have someone on the phone with her for comfort while she waited for her friend.

Men kept talking to her and she kept telling me how uncomfortable she is. Random dudes just constantly blowing kisses and coming to talk to her. One dude even tried to take her phone from her to talk to me.

I've been in that part of town, but I'm 6'3 and reasonably athletic. My experience of it was completely different. It was crazy. I could feel through the phone how vulnerable she felt, which I always knew was how it felt but I had never actually *felt* it before. Hearing her fend off aggressive men was so nerve-wracking.

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Being constantly harassed by men for sex. When men FINALLY see it it’s usually from a gay man and they’re like “it’s so uncomfy gay men are so forward” or some s**t nd im like no MOST MEN period. Wtf.

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