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Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.

The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.

#1

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

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To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."

"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."

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    Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

    Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

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    #3

    Poetic Justice

    Poetic Justice

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    In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."

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    #4

    Some Men Need To Learn This

    Some Men Need To Learn This

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    #5

    “Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully

    “Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully

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    In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.

    Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.

    #6

    Oops

    Oops

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    #7

    Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity

    Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity

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    "Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."

    The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."

    We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.

    #8

    That Really Puts It In Perspective

    That Really Puts It In Perspective

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    Shrug

    Shrug

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    Pat Bond
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn't give two shits what anyone thinks if I'm paying 11k per semester.

    Miss Frankfurter
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And using that wardrobe money to help me with having the money to use in a constructive way along that path to a degree. Food. Roof over my head. Having to buy the darn latest edition of some text book because they added a word to the old one that will change the course of physics. So many more important priorities.

    An Co
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone should make a sweat suit that says "I wear this for me, not you!" on the back.

    bonnyatlast
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't wear make up or fix my hair up, jeans and a tshirt mostly when I went to college. I had one grad class with all guys. I came in dressed to the nines, hair fixed nice, make up--all that. They all wanted to know how come I looked so good. I told them I was going to pick up my fiancé at the airport after class. That shut them up.

    Bee
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in grad school and I normally throw on leggings and a huge hoody before I leave work. My brother asked me "is that what you wear to class?!" My response was simple "my payment went through." Man please. I'm not dressing up to impress anyone unless they're going to pay my tuition for me

    Brenda Owens
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They should put that on a tea shirt. I would definitely buy it.

    Robert Robi Z
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do the guys come to school, to study or to look at girls? Well... hmmm...

    Leigh C.
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is weird. At a school for young moms, there would be 3 types of girls: The dress well, but decent girls. The conservative, but dgaf about fashion mamas. And then there the dress like a hooker chicks. And the latter would ask the dgaf mamas why they don't wear revealing clothes because there were no boys going to the school.

    Tommy Edison
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lmaooo this is so stupid.. this is exactly why men dont want to marry anymore.. you females are so mentally ill its crazy you can even function... you literally put every guy into a category... sorry Kendall no one really cares about you... nobody is in your way.. youre just a self indulged psychotic narcissist

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    So you're worried all semester by what Mike thinks.

    Lev Pertsov
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    3 years ago

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    I'm a man and I don't care what you wear in class. I think it's just in your mind lady.

    Sakeena
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “I think it’s” dudes always want to invalidate reality with what they “think”

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    Sean Harrison
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    3 years ago

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    I like how women talk about things "guys" do in general, when only 1 guy actually did this to them.

    K Witmer
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not something guys did. This is something guys say to women as well as "well meaning" people. You won't get a man looking like that blah blah blah. Don't act like people don't say this stuff bc they most definitely do and she did say mike not a bunch of men

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    They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

    They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

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    Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

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    Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

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    How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

    How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

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    Keep It Real Out There

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    Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

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    I Got You, Babe

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    #22

    Nothing But Truth

    Nothing But Truth

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    Where Is The Lie?

    Where Is The Lie?

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    Being Decent Isn’t Difficult

    Being Decent Isn’t Difficult

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    #25

    Geee I Wonder Why

    Geee I Wonder Why

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    #26

    This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

    This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

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    #27

    Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

    Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

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    #28

    Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

    Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

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    #29

    The Message

    The Message

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    #30

    Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

    Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

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    #31

    Why Are Males?

    Why Are Males?

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    #32

    Leave Him In The Dust

    Leave Him In The Dust

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    #33

    This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

    This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

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    #34

    Keep Your Friends Safe!

    Keep Your Friends Safe!

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    #35

    Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

    Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

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    #36

    Thoughts?

    Thoughts?

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    #37

    Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

    Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

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    Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

    Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

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    #39

    Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

    Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

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    #40

    Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

    Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

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    #41

    Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

    Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

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    #42

    Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!

    Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!

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    #44

    Seriously

    Seriously

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    #45

    Reminder

    Reminder

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    #46

    We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

    We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

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    #47

    Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

    Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

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    #48

    Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve

    Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve

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    #49

    It Never Ends

    It Never Ends

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    *internal Screaming, Forever*

    *internal Screaming, Forever*

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    #51

    Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!

    Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!

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    #53

    Call Their Bluff 2020

    Call Their Bluff 2020

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    #54

    Imagine: It’s Your Life

    Imagine: It’s Your Life

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    #55

    100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide

    100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide

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    #56

    Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness

    Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness

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    #57

    Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy

    Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy

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    #58

    Never Let Them Get Comfortable!

    Never Let Them Get Comfortable!

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    We All Know Why

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    Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds

    Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds

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    If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!

    If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!

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    Psa: As Soon As Man Says That, Run The Opposite Direction Sis. This Is Red Flag. Manipulation

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    Reason #6567 Why Being Single Is Better Than Settling

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    My Wish For 2021 And Beyond Is That More Women Realise That They Don’t Have To Put Up With Callous, Selfish Behaviour In Their Relationships

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