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50 Times Women Were Put Into Awkward Situations By Men And Called Them Out Online
Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.
The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.
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#1
Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.
To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."
"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."
#2
Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!
#3
Poetic Justice
In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."
#4
Some Men Need To Learn This
BingeFest1 3 years ago (edited)
This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated
#5
“Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully
In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.
Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.
#6
Oops
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
When you made an effort and treated her well and when you just stopped.
#7
Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity
"Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."
The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."
We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.
#8
That Really Puts It In Perspective
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.
#9
Lol
I am avoiding my homework 3 years ago
Agree entirely and this is one of the reasons I hate Disney movies
#10
Shrug
#11
100% True For Me
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 3 years ago
I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.
#12
A Queen Grandmama
#13
Cracks Me Up Every Time
#14
They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect
#15
Speaks For Itself
#16
Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”
#17
Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life
Rachel Peterson 3 years ago
I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.
#18
How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up
#20
Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes
#22
Nothing But Truth
Michael Beswick 3 years ago
I don't think that's true. Most men have women in their lives they love / care about, and absolutely hate any form of violence against women.
#23
Where Is The Lie?
#24
Being Decent Isn’t Difficult
#25
Geee I Wonder Why
#26
This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!
#27
Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!
Just saying 3 years ago
Teen boys definitely are as emotional as girls.....so let's help them and stop telling them to man up rather than using it as an excuse to beat them down.
Glirpy 3 years ago
Not at all. It’s more about the parent not doing their f’ing job raising the kids right from the beginning.
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Nannychachi 3 years ago
I raised 3 girls and 1 boy. There was zero difference during the teen years.
Amelia G 3 years ago
Bro men are not less emotional than women if they get mad the punch u, a valuable, or a wall
Katherine Heasley 3 years ago
It's because boys are socialized to believe that anger is the only "negative" emotion they're allowed to express.
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Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago
No, it means you've raised him differently than if he were a girl. Get your children cooking, cleaning and doing laundry as soon as they are able.
Robert Robi Z 3 years ago
Boys are less emotional than girls because the society coerces them into being less emotional, because it is 'not masculine', 'boys don't cry' and similar nonsense
Awsomemom52 2 years ago
As a 53 year old sister of 5 older brothers and a mother of two son, I can tell everyone (including men) from experience ... men are at least as emotional, as women ... and they sure are NOT the stronger gender.
Katherine Heasley 3 years ago
Please. Adolescent boys are emotional land mines. Girls may cry more, but boys will go from zero to "incandescent rage" and back in mere seconds.
Tommy Edison 3 years ago
THIS IS NONSENSE! literally trying to categorize all boys/ men into a category based on 1 event by one boy... when he was 14 years old... talk about taken out of context... maybe blame this dumb bitch mom... ever thought about that? maybe he had the meltdown because of how she acted or raised him... you people need to grow the f**k up
Rukkia 3 years ago
I have two teenage boys. They are definitely not less emotional. (Raised a girl first) We have random sadness, feeling pressured to have sex, angry outbursts, and sometimes when they just need a hug. If you don't force your kids to adhere to "typical" gender standards, they find their own way. Emotions, risky behavior, sexual readiness are not gender specific.
Jessica Aubé 3 years ago
Mom of five boys Oldest is awesome now but 12-17 were hell Second is 13 it’s been hell since 12 Third will be 12 in November, I don’t drink.. but if this continues I may need to start Hormones in boys are just as crazy as hormones in girls boys were just taught they couldn’t express themselves :/
LJ Robinson 3 years ago
Teen years are difficult regardless of the sex of the teen. Ask any parent of a teen, but make sure you are comfy and hydrated when you do, because it can be a really long conversation!
L.A. Trefry 3 years ago
I read somewhere that men long ago re-branded anger as not being an emotion. (When in fact, it's the emotion they are most likely to show.)
Dillon Hughes 3 years ago
No that's someone expressing their immunity. Their kids for crap sake
Sarah Mccullough 3 years ago
Except parents get arrested for disciplining with spanking now. Welcome to new communist America
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Nynke Vreeswijk-van Foeken 3 years ago
The parents haven't failed. It's not like the teenage boy doesn't know how to put a plate in the dishwasher, he just doesn't want to. When I was a teenager I also hated chores. Not sure why, there was just so much going on in my body and mind that I just wanted to be left alone and participate less in family stuff. It's a phase that passes.
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K Witmer 3 years ago
You should be allowed to though. It's not about the dishes.
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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Because girls get put through WAY more s**t while growing up. Ugh, you don't deserve to wear the name of Kat. We get a whole ton of pressure on us, and that generally means that we'll freak out. Be kind, gentle, understanding. Sometimes she'll freak out, but that's part of growing up, or don't you remember?
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K Witmer 3 years ago
Teens have over the top emotions no matter how good of a parent you are. If they don't it's bc you're not letting them have the difficult emotions they need to have to grow during puberty and that's not good bc they carry that w them into adulthood. That's why so many men can't deal w their emotions and so many women are afraid to say what they mean. Let children have emotions and difficult feelings talk to them about how to handle them while letting them feel and express themselves
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#28
Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To
#29
The Message
#30
Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum
ZooMom 3 years ago
My husband stayed with our kids as infants while I worked. Everyone went on and on about how amazing he was (and he was) but then we switched roles this past year and I hear how “lucky I am to GET to stay home” and how bad they feel he works long hours. B****! I pumped breast milk on the floor of a unisex bathroom while still taking phone calls.
#31
Why Are Males?
#32
Leave Him In The Dust
#33
This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys
#34
Keep Your Friends Safe!
#35
Used Or New, We Will Run You Over
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 3 years ago
Please tell me he is a virgin too. Ask for what you can also offer.
#36
Thoughts?
BingeFest1 3 years ago
If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment
#37
Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos
#38
Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him
#39
Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)
Lauren Caswell 3 years ago
Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"
#40
Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence
#41
Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support
fire bug 3 years ago
Ummmm... my wife and I support our family. I work long hours. My wife takes care of 90% of the household stuff. I clean the kitchen every night and get home by dinner time every night to have family time with her and our kids. I don't support her and she doesn't support me. We support each other.
#42
Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!
#44
Seriously
Guido Pisano 3 years ago
helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...
#45
Reminder
#46
We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault
Zephyr Anthem 3 years ago
True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...
#47
Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women
Valisbourne Spiritforge 3 years ago
I don't know about any 'bro code'. But any friend of mine cheating on his SO (also probably a friend of mine by association) and expecting me to keep it a secret isn't really my friend.
#48
Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve
#49
It Never Ends
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What do you think ?
SumoNinja 3 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
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Kaori Panda 3 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 3 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
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Julie 3 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
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Gabrielle Daylano 3 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
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Rae Reyn 3 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 3 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Eppe 3 years ago
I don't know about you guys, but I'm getting pretty sick of all generalizations and 1-dimensional views about 'men' and 'women'.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
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Donny Cromwell 3 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 3 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
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that one Harry Potter girl 3 years ago
97% of women have been sexually assaulted. It's not "a few affected". It's the majority of women. I'm lucky it isn't me, and I genuinely fear that it will be one day. Ignoring people and being aggressive is how people save their life, perhaps they are happily married and kind, but perhaps this is the day I become the new Sarah Everard. I'm not willing to play russian roulette with 5 bullets in the gun. Men do not get assaulted nearly as much, and it's usually other men that do it. This is not an equal issue. Men's issues exist and should be talked about, but not in order to silence women's. Just as we have BLM, stop asian hate, climate change strikes, me too, and many others, we can talk about men's issues in a way that doesn't damage women's.
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Anna Banana 3 years ago
Bored Panda is not a writer, it's a website where everyone can contribute. Nobody is stopping you from writing that post about women assaulting men in kilts. But you don't get to tell other contributors what they should find important to write about.
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Alex Luiz 3 years ago
But it's not even attacking men, that's what baffles me about this comment section. How is asking a short, ugly man if he has ever asked out a short, ugly woman attacking all men?! You only feel attacked if you have done something from this list, and you only need feel attacked if you haven't learned better and still do this stuff.
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lazy panda 3 years ago
Literally no one is saying we are. All we want is respect, to feel safe, to not be used repeatedly, and not have our lives threatened for telling a man "no".
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Aradia Sayner 3 years ago
As another Gen Xer, I have to disagree. I was harassed both in public and at work. I was groomed by a 29 year old man when I was 16. This has very little to do with what generation you were born into. My guess is you were just lucky.
Load More Replies... Iapetos 3 years ago
Because it's an issue that makes many, many women miserable. It needs to be talked about.
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SumoNinja 3 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
Load More Replies... Kaori Panda 3 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 3 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
Load More Replies... Julie 3 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
Load More Replies... Gabrielle Daylano 3 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
Load More Replies... Rae Reyn 3 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 3 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Eppe 3 years ago
I don't know about you guys, but I'm getting pretty sick of all generalizations and 1-dimensional views about 'men' and 'women'.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
Load More Replies... Donny Cromwell 3 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 3 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
Load More Replies... that one Harry Potter girl 3 years ago
97% of women have been sexually assaulted. It's not "a few affected". It's the majority of women. I'm lucky it isn't me, and I genuinely fear that it will be one day. Ignoring people and being aggressive is how people save their life, perhaps they are happily married and kind, but perhaps this is the day I become the new Sarah Everard. I'm not willing to play russian roulette with 5 bullets in the gun. Men do not get assaulted nearly as much, and it's usually other men that do it. This is not an equal issue. Men's issues exist and should be talked about, but not in order to silence women's. Just as we have BLM, stop asian hate, climate change strikes, me too, and many others, we can talk about men's issues in a way that doesn't damage women's.
Load More Replies... Anna Banana 3 years ago
Bored Panda is not a writer, it's a website where everyone can contribute. Nobody is stopping you from writing that post about women assaulting men in kilts. But you don't get to tell other contributors what they should find important to write about.
Load More Replies... Alex Luiz 3 years ago
But it's not even attacking men, that's what baffles me about this comment section. How is asking a short, ugly man if he has ever asked out a short, ugly woman attacking all men?! You only feel attacked if you have done something from this list, and you only need feel attacked if you haven't learned better and still do this stuff.
Load More Replies... lazy panda 3 years ago
Literally no one is saying we are. All we want is respect, to feel safe, to not be used repeatedly, and not have our lives threatened for telling a man "no".
Load More Replies... Aradia Sayner 3 years ago
As another Gen Xer, I have to disagree. I was harassed both in public and at work. I was groomed by a 29 year old man when I was 16. This has very little to do with what generation you were born into. My guess is you were just lucky.
Load More Replies... Iapetos 3 years ago
Because it's an issue that makes many, many women miserable. It needs to be talked about.
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