I had 6 major gynae surgeries before I broke down and begged for a hysterectomy. I was 35 when it finally happened and we already know I was infertile due to chemotherapy and couldn't carry a child to term due to my illness and subsequent disability so IVF was not possible. Despite this on the day of my hysterectomy the doctor asked if I was really sure about having it done because it would make me "less of a woman" and asked if my partner was ok with that! I explained that it wasn't anything to do with my partner (we had talked through it at length, he just wanted me as well as possible). When he looked at my notes and saw that I had been bleeding vaginally constantly for six months he said he now understood why my partner was keen, as six months without sex was too much for any man! I reported him!!

And I wouldn't even be surprised if that OBGYN was a woman.. you'd expect women to be more compassionate, but in some cases the worst defenders of such opinions are indeed women.. I'll never get that

I was diagnosed with cancer when my daughter was 17 and I asked about just having a hysterectomy (I also have PCOS and Endometriosis) I was told the cancer cells had to come back 2 more times before that would be considered 'medically necessary'.

I had to have pre-cancer found before I could get a hysterectomy because "What if I want children one day" despite my saying "I do not want children ever". good times.

Mine asked me.. what if you meet Mr Right and all he wants in the whole world is to have kids. My answer... then he's not Mr Right

What the actual?!?!

DO PEOPLE FORGET ADOPTION EXISTS?!?!?!?!?! EVERY SINGLE TIME THIS HAPPENS I GET SO MAD

How is that even legal?!

I never understood the "But what if you want kids?" thing. Because even *if* she does want kids, she could adopt.

Jesus f*****g christ

I think people need to keep in mind that a hysterectomy is a major medical procedure that can have all sorts of complications. It's not as simple as oh doctor just take my uterus out. Doctors who are refusing only because they think you may become straight and want children are obviously ridiculous. But as doctors, before every procedure, we calculate, what is the risk of going through with this procedure vs. what is the benefit we will get from it. Then we decide whether or not to do the procedure. So, don't always chalk it up to the doctor wants you to be a baby factory. Most doctors want to first do no harm. And will look for the least invasive measure to handle a problem.

At 18, I started requesting to have my tubes tied because I never wanted kids, but had to wait until I was 25 & married to a man who had kids from a previous marriage before any doctor would do it

find a new gyno, and/or politely tell your current one that medical needs are greater than nebulous homophobic potentials. i just got an endometrial ablation and it's one of the best decisions i've ever made in my life.

I feel sorry for this lady, my guess is endometriosis. My sister has that and it would devestate her. The doctor should be reprimanded. On the flip side for this, I have had many guy friends who've tried to get vasectomies at a young age (in their 20s) only to be refused because they might change their mind. One of them went to 5 different doctors before he got one to agree.

I hope by all that is sacred to females that you reported him to the AMA immediately after you found another doctor

Took me years to get diagnosed with endometriosis and a bunch more years to finally find an OBGYN who would give me the hysterectomy I needed. Because I must be exaggerating the debilitating pain, or it was only because of my weight (rather than being a cause of my weight gain), no need to look further. And the off-chance possibility I might want to have kids later (even though I always knew I didn't want kids and even though it turns out due to the shape of my uterus and fibroids, I wouldn't have been able to have them anyway) is way more important than the fact that I couldn't even take a full-time job because I couldn't function for a week out of every month from the level of pain I would be in.

I had pre-cancer and a "doctor" ( not mine) told me to just keep having babies for my husband. I now can NOT see a Dr of middle eastern heritage. ( all I can think of is his total lack of respect for me as a woman/ human) ( I really HATE being a bigot - but i can not help it)

That's bullsh!t! Report that Dr and find a new one

But ur not like acctually happy childless right? I mean how can you live without a man?? Bro I think ur doctor was right. Like cmon. /j

In other words, "dont date a woman, date a man and have babies" that's either to get buckloads of money or the gynaecologist is a b***h

Find another gyn! One who respects their patients.

There are valid reasons to council away from permanent surgical sterilisation, especially at a young age, but this sure isn't one.

The chance of that is probably ridiculously low.

Get a new Dr ASAP!