I bet every negative reply she got was from.... i'll give you 3 guesses and the first two don't count). But yeah, I don't blame her at all. If I had the means, I'd move to New Zealand or Iceland or Scotland or Switzerland or Sweden or ... since I'm getting tired of people and need a severe people break, maybe move temporarily to Svalbard Island. Polar bears would be less threatening and deadly than those terrifying evangelical extremists that Trump's moved and is moving in all formats of the government. (Did I say Trump? I meant 'the malignant Cancer'. He was a growing tumor during the past 8 years and he's finally metastasized.) They want to not just do a complete abortion ban Countrywide, but also have been and are clucking about banning all contraception. Watch them ban IVF also. "You don't want to birth a baby? we'll force you to" "You desperately want a baby but can't conceive naturally and want IVF? We're banning that, sorry not sorry." Repulsive.

Quoting a former coworker, get out while you can. I'm too old to make that move otherwise I would in a heartbeat. The next few years are going to be very difficult for a whole lot of people, but more so for a woman. So many people so filled with hate that feel like this is the best alternative.

"Who the hell throws their life plans away over politics?" How can people be so stupidly delusional? Or are they just a bunch of imbeciles? Politics is EVERYTHING. Jesus Christ! I can't believe any adult with half a functional neurone fails to understand politics determines your whole life!!! Health care, basic rights, education for your children, peace and war... EVERYTHING IS POLITICS. I think OP is dead right. There are a lot of countries I wouldn't go to, let alone live in, if I had half the chance to choose, obviously, and the USA is in that list. I don't even feel like visiting it, despite all the beautiful landscapes and cosmopolitan cities. No way. Too risky, and turning into a heartless Gilead at top speed. Those who can, run as fast as you can. (By the way, I'm a middle-aged European citizen... Single. We do have our fair share of problems, but I would be willing to help...

It's not about politics but about safety.. and if you can improve your safety without hurting others go for it.

I emigrated to the UK almost 30 years ago. Best thing I've ever done in my life and I am not ever moving back. My girls have dual citizenship and they don't want to visit or move there and I don't blame them one bit. I know we have our probs here....the economy (thanks Tories for the austerity policies for 14 years for tanking social services and lettuce Liz with her mini budget), but I would hands-down take this over that. My heart goes out to fellow Americans who are stuck in this nightmare and can't escape.

Ignoring the election and politics and all that. OP is scared to the point where she doesn't see it as safe to raise a family in the US, and all her husband does is asking why she's being like that. Shouldn't he be a bit more concerned that his wife is for some reason terrified of living in his home country? Even if he thinks her concerns are silly or unfounded he should care more that his wife is ready to give up on a decade of a relationship over this. Why does he seem like he doesn't care or is annoyed at most?

I'm an American who moved to Canada seven years ago. One of the best decisions I've ever made. They've recently made immigrating here harder. Don't wait till it's impossible.

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I'm glad my children are grown and flown, but I really do fear for my four granddaughters. In today's world, I wouldn't have children in the US, either. I'm not sure I'd even have children at all because of the climate mess.

I live in South Africa and things can be difficult here. Electricity issues, water issues, public works issues... But birth control is legal. Ab0rtion is legal. Children don't get shot at school. We have great weather, great national parks, great beaches and mountains, great wildlife. Wouldn't move to the US if you paid me.

She should get out while she still can, the rare woman with those options. Many of my US friends in Taiwan are refusing to go back for ANYTHING for the next four years, permanently if necessary. To all women in yankland, look up the 4B movement from South Korea: NO dating. NO sex. NO relationships. NO marriage. And divorce NOW while you still can, some women already are. Give the trumpkins four years of blueballs. [ https://www.cbsnews.com/news/4b-movement-south-korea-united-states-election-trump/ ] Predictably, idiots are saying, "they'll just rape women then" AS IF THAT IS THE APPROPRIATE RESPONSE TO BEING DENIED SEX? Seriously, they're saying "women deserve it if they won't put out"?

i'm looking to move out of the country. i've never even been to another country, but it's clear most of the US doesn't care about me and actively wants me to leave. i just want to live in a place that cares about people.

Well wishes to all those of you wanting to leave the USA (and for what it matters coming from an atheist, prayers to those of you who have dieties/spiritual beliefs of any kind).

My daughter and I will have EU citizenship in the next few months. My health isn't good, so I probably won't get back to Europe, but she can. I told my wife that if she wants to go, it will be difficult for me but I would do it. As the spouse of an EU citizen, if I die while we reside in the EU, she can remain permanently. I hate it here now and don't care for/about this place anymore. Hate and punishing others is the majority, nothing to do with unity or protection. I feel like everything I ever thought of America was a lie.

Having visited LA for the first and last time a year back, I don't know how anyone with a functioning synapse in their head could live there.

Moved to USA 14yrs ago for the American Dream, quickly realized this was not a positive place to raise children. When Roe v. Wade was reversed, it was the straw that broke the camels back. Have been saving and organizing to move me and my 2 cats back to Scotland, the idea of living in USA for the rest of my life is just too depressing. Can't disagree with OP's feelings. Have plenty of Americans disagreeing with me, but those are ones who've never owned a passport, never left the country, and have no idea how the rest of the world runs to make a valid comparison.

It is no longer safe in the US for a woman to get pregnant. Sad as that is, it's that simple. One never knows how a pregnancy will go. If it goes wrong, you die because now doctors risk their own freedom to fix it. If the husband can't see how dangerous it is in the US just to get pregnant, then he is a problem. Literally now when a woman gets pregnant she knows she is risking her life. She and the baby could die and it's happening already. If she can leave the US she should. I was born in Canada, raised in the US and came back to Canada on 08. I will not step foot in the US again and it hurts to say that as I love the US. Or should I say I love the US I was brought up in which is not what it is now. I know how hard it is to leave someone you love, but if the husband can't see the issue then he is not paying attention or just doesn't believe it.

I'd sell my soul to the devil to move all of us to another country. I'm so terrified for my 5 grandbabies, especially my 3 little girly ones. I would throw myself on a grenade for them, but I just don't have the money to get 9 people out of here. 😭

Darlin I was born here and my kids are young adults. One of the most difficult things for me to deal with for the past week has been the fact that I brought them into a world where this was going to happen. My son is learning disabled, and this is clearly not a climate where I expect him to get a whole lot of empathy, when we have a president whom so many people voted for, twice now, even after seeing him, mocking it, disabled person. And my daughter, while I’m concerned about her for obvious reasons. We are all in the process of getting our passports. if you are able to have and raise children somewhere else in my opinion, you should absolutely do it. A lot of people who voted for him. Dont think he will do half of the things we all seem to be concerned about. Personally, I am concerned about the fact that so many of my country men are fine with taking that gamble on other peoples rights.

It's not just four years, as the negative people here says. Trump isn't president now, and people are already dying with dead or dying fetuses in their bodies. Politics are guidelines for how to live in our society. Saying "why ruin your marriage over politics?" is like saying "why ruin your abusive marriage just to stay alive?". I'm not American, but I am concerned for Americans and for the rest of the world. DT is dangerous, instable and narcissistic. I’m so sorry that too many in your country are too old-fashioned to be able to accept a woman president. The Democrats did the same error twice, of putting a woman candidate against the horrible misogynist. Too many guys are afraid that others getting the same rights that they take for granted, means that they will lose some of those rights.

Let me be the first to welcome you to Canada if you decide to come here... We can always use more engineers. I wonder where you would decide to settle? So many people look for the big city areas of BC and Ontario (or Quebec if you speak French well)... Having traveled across Canada a number of times, I think there's a lot to be said for the prairie provinces and the Atlantic provinces not to mention the North but, it may be too much of a lifestyle adjustment for you and of course it would depend on what other services you need and your job prospects. Southern Ontario is way overpopulated. It's not "awful", but it's changed so much in the past 10 or so years... (You probably won't love the taxes either) I hope that you find a place that will bring you peace and love and where you will feel safe to raise a family 💜

I always wanted to visit America when I was younger, but I’m glad I’m halfway around the world at the moment. I can’t fathom the idea of needing to be worried about my kids going to school and getting shot, or not being able to access an abortion even if I was raped, or if having the baby would kill me. I’m so sorry for everyone that is scared or upset as a result of your recent election and am thinking of you. (Attempted mood-lightener: come to Australia! We have dropbears 😆)

I'd love to move to Iceland or Ireland since I've been there before. If it was as easy for foreigners to get a job in other countries as it is in the US, I would have been out of this crapstack country years ago.

If you have the money and you can afford to leave the USA (and yes I do mean USA citizens) then leave. Move to a country that is a little more safe and has a little more respect for people whether they are male, female, straight, gay, transgender, Christian atheist, Muslim, 19 or 91, black, white, hispanic, disabled or fully abled. 🤷‍♀️😞

Also, I don't think there's a "bad guy" in this relationship problem. Sometimes even great relationships come to an impasse; where what's best for each individual is down diverging paths. Sounds like they need to have some solid conversations around current and future needs and those hard truths about if they can meet then together or not.

The TDS is real.

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Leave the b**** and find someone else who's willing to have your children. Let her get the hell out of the country.

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Let me be the first to wish you a great life in whatever country you choose to live in. I hope you enjoy your new country and thank you for leaving.

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Adios!

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This is absolutely hilarious