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“He Told Me To Chill”: Woman Finds Out About BF’s New Work Friend, Messages Her In Secret

“He Told Me To Chill”: Woman Finds Out About BF’s New Work Friend, Messages Her In Secret

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A relationship without trust is hardly a relationship at all. At best, it’s a misunderstanding. And at worst… Whatever the case might be, it’s a predicament that needs to be resolved.

So when a woman who goes on Reddit by ThrowRA_unheardcat got a feeling that her boyfriend was cheating on her with a coworker, she decided to confront him.

However, the man denied it and immediately shut down the discussion. But later, she found out the answer anyway just by looking at his phone.

With so much of our time spent at work, having someone there who understands us can provide a lot of comfort

Image credits: MART PRODUCTION / Pexels (not the actual photo)

But this woman began to suspect that her boyfriend was getting a little too comfortable with his female colleague

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Image credits: Ivan Samkov / Pexels (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: RDNE Stock project / Pexels (not the actual photo)

Eventually, the boyfriend’s coworker replied to the woman’s text

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And confirmed her suspicions

Image credits: ThrowRA_unheardcat

For most, what happened is a pretty clear case

With the share of Americans who are single on the rise, YouGov recently asked Americans about their attitudes toward monogamy and their experiences with cheating or being cheated on by a partner.

Three in four said they have been in a monogamous relationship at some point in their lives and 51% said they were at the time of the survey.

While monogamy is generally understood as both people agreeing not to have any other partners, opinions on what constitutes infidelity vary.

So YouGov also asked Americans which hypothetical actions they would consider cheating and saw the following:

  • Having sex with another person (93%);
  • Sending nude photos of themselves to another person (90%);
  • Sending suggestive messages to another person (83%);
  • Falling in love with another person (82%);
  • Kissing another person (81%);
  • Lying about spending time with another person (80%);
  • Forming an intense emotional attachment to another person (73%);
  • Holding hands with another person (64%);
  • Flirting with another person (55%);
  • Sharing your most private thoughts and feelings with another person (46%).

As we can see, at least 8 in 10 people would consider that the woman’s boyfriend was unfaithful to her on at least a few different occasions.

More than half (57%) of cheaters say that their partners found out about it. In most cases (71%), they did not want that to happen.

Most people who were broken up with because they cheated appear to have been given a second chance: 58% of them say they eventually got back together with the person. Do you think the author of the post will do that too? Let us know in the comments what you think.

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I am a Visual editor at Bored Panda, I'm determined to find the most interesting and the best quality images for each post that I do. On my free time I like to unwind by doing some yoga, watching all kinds of movies/tv shows, playing video and board games or just simply hanging out with my cat

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lenka
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3 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is cheating and from the reddit post, looks like he has been doing so for at least a year. He is gaslighting and using DARVO. She needs to leave. Now.

Happy_Pandalover
Community Member
4 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She went by her gut feeling and unfortunately he actually tried to cheat on her. This Addy person seems plausible and honest. Asking him to show her his messages is invading his privacy though, so he had a reason to decline. However his reation was so totally overboard and suspicious.

KatSaidWhat
Community Member
4 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thing is, if he didn't have anything to hide, he could have just shown her their message stream. But he did so he hid behind "invasion of privacy" and called her toxic.

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marcelo D.
Community Member
1 hour ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unpopular opinion: The boyfriend is cheating and is an Ah, however, he is not wrong about her being toxic. She just happened to be right but "If you have nothing to hide why can´t he just show me" is literally the same defense they use to go over peoples right with the PATRIOT act and other b******t laws that demolish peoples rights, but they shouldn't worry about the invasion of privacy since they are not doing anything wrong.

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lenka
Community Member
3 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is cheating and from the reddit post, looks like he has been doing so for at least a year. He is gaslighting and using DARVO. She needs to leave. Now.

Happy_Pandalover
Community Member
4 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She went by her gut feeling and unfortunately he actually tried to cheat on her. This Addy person seems plausible and honest. Asking him to show her his messages is invading his privacy though, so he had a reason to decline. However his reation was so totally overboard and suspicious.

KatSaidWhat
Community Member
4 hours ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thing is, if he didn't have anything to hide, he could have just shown her their message stream. But he did so he hid behind "invasion of privacy" and called her toxic.

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marcelo D.
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1 hour ago Dots Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unpopular opinion: The boyfriend is cheating and is an Ah, however, he is not wrong about her being toxic. She just happened to be right but "If you have nothing to hide why can´t he just show me" is literally the same defense they use to go over peoples right with the PATRIOT act and other b******t laws that demolish peoples rights, but they shouldn't worry about the invasion of privacy since they are not doing anything wrong.

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