I’m not even South Asian, and my father tried to pull this b******t on me—-his only daughter—-and not on any of my four brothers, after my mother died. I didn’t want that misogynistic a*****e living with me, and neither did my husband, so told him we didn’t have room. He then started trying to dangle a huge inheritance in front of me, so I subtly and low key started extracting financial information from him. He let it slip one day, when I dialed his number by accident and he didn’t recognize my voice, so I pretended to be from his bank, that there was NO inheritance, as he had gambled and wasted every penny he had after my mother, who used to rein in his spending, passed away only a few years before. He also took in non-licensed “nurses”, who turned out to be lowlifes who laced his food with sedatives so they could steal whatever wasn’t red hot or nailed down from him, even though he paid them rather well. By the time of his campaign to come live with me, all he had left was his Social Security check, and he retired in 1982, so it wasn’t worth diddly in 2014. I had a clear mental image of him s******g his Depends in a hospital bed in the middle of our living room, and myself and my husband just waiting for him to finally kick the bucket so we could burn the mattress and linens. Anyway, as I was out of state (I am in Maryland, my father was in Nevada), I got an elder advocate to get him in a nursing home—-which took every penny of whatever money he had to keep him in until he died. I didn’t go to his funeral. Glad I kept to my boundaries too. Good riddance to a shitty father.

Children are not responsible for parents, ever. Children owe you nothing but a thank you for the things you do for them, as you are their parents and they are your choice and your responsibility. In no way is this person an AH.