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“[Am I Overreacting?] Wife Refuses To Take Her Allergies Seriously, So I Kicked Her Out”

“[Am I Overreacting?] Wife Refuses To Take Her Allergies Seriously, So I Kicked Her Out”

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While some people have the luxury of going through life allergy-free, others suffer a little more in this area, from the famous milk and peanut allergies to rarer ones like dried fruit or avocado allergies – and these are only the food-related ones. 

The OP’s wife is one of those who has a pretty rare allergy – she can’t eat onions. Yet, the main problem with this allergy isn’t that she can’t eat them, it’s that she still eats them, despite them causing her to go into anaphylactic shock. So, after several ER trips, the husband started getting tired of his wife’s self-neglect. 

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Some people can eat basically everything, while others are restricted by certain allergies

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The author’s wife has a severe allergy to green and red onions, which restricts her from eating foods containing them

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So, her husband always reads the labels to make sure the food they buy doesn’t contain them, but the woman herself doesn’t do that

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One day she started eating crab salad with onion, hoping it would be “the good kind” of onion for her

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It wasn’t and pretty soon her husband had to use an EpiPen on her and rush her to the emergency room

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After the emergency room, the man drove the woman to her mom’s place, as he needed space from his self-neglecting wife

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The OP’s wife is intensely allergic to green and red onions, but not to yellow and white ones. Apparently, this onion allergy is quite a rare one. More commonly, people experience food intolerance symptoms when eating this vegetable. Besides the technical differences that differentiate an allergy and food intolerance, the latter can’t cause anaphylaxis

Since the original poster’s wife does get these severe allergic reactions, it means that she actually is allergic. Due to this, she can’t eat certain foods that might contain her allergens. So, her husband always reads the labels to make sure there aren’t any red or green onions in the food they purchase. Interestingly, the woman herself doesn’t do this. 

One night, the man came back from work and noticed his wife eating something from an unfamiliar container. Then, from the smell, he understood it was a crab salad. 

Even though in many crab salad recipes, like this one, onion is listed as optional, seeing that it gets mentioned quite often, we can assume it’s a common ingredient. 

The husband checked the label and noticed that onion was on the top of the ingredient list. He asked the wife about it and she revealed that she had read the label, but hoped it would be “the good kind” of onion and ate the salad. 

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Pretty soon she started having a reaction, but still refused to get an EpiPen shot. Some people feel uneasy around these pens since they are typically used in scary moments and are needles, which many are afraid of. This fear can lead them to avoid getting certain medical procedures, like vaccines, blood draws, and EpiPens. 

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But the usage of it was inescapable for the author’s wife. Despite refusing it at first, it had to be used later on, before her spouse drove her to the emergency room. There she stayed overnight. Then, the OP came to get her and took the woman to her mom’s place. 

Apparently, he needed space. The wife’s refusal to accept her allergy’s seriousness was getting to him. He felt like he was the only one worrying about it, while she didn’t really care if some onion would unalive her. Since situations like this had happened more than once, it’s understandable why it was so tiresome to him. 

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He hoped that their staying apart would bring her some perspective about it, especially since her mom agreed with him. In his eyes, it was some form of an intervention

When some time had passed after he completed his plan, the man started wondering whether he was too harsh to basically kick her out for a few days. 

Redditors were understanding of his reaction – it’s hard to take care of someone who neglects themselves. In fact, someone even brought up the fact that the OP should consider discussing mental health with his wife since poor self-care can be a sign of certain mental issues like depression

The man answered that this conversation was in the plans for him, so we can only hope that this plan was realized. Maybe her struggles are deeper than it seems at first glance. After all, mental illnesses tend to be sneaky and unpredictable. 

What would you have done in the original poster’s position? Share with us in the comments!

He asked online whether that was too harsh of a reaction and was told that it wasn’t

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Ugnė Bulotaitė

Ugnė Bulotaitė

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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Ugnė Bulotaitė

Ugnė Bulotaitė

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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Rūta Zumbrickaitė

Rūta Zumbrickaitė

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Hi! Nice to meet you~ I'm very passionate about animals, especially cats, photography, small DIY projects, music and so much more! Could say I am the TV show The Office connoisseur since I have seen it at least a dozen times~

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FreeTheUnicorn
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17 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The situation isn't there yet, but it is ok and often necessary to leave a relationship because the other person won't take care of themselves. Reckless behaviour is incredibly stressful on the other party and speaks to deeper issues. If she was involved in extreme sports and not taking safety seriously, or used party d***s and had a few ODs but wouldn't be smarter about it, the decision would feel more clear, but it's the same. Just because onions aren't usually dangerous, doesn't mean the reckless behaviour isn't an issue.

FreeTheUnicorn
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17 hours ago

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I will call BS on the blocking calls while at work because he's busy though. It's fine to need space, but I'd you have time to Reddit, you could take a call. Just admit it's so you can cool off.

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Stacy Bender
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15 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I knew someone like this. They loved the drama they caused because they got attention. Dealing with someone who loves attention by negative means is exhausting. Therapy might help, but only if SHE is willing to change. Call me me cold hearted, but I predict a day he walks away while she suffocates.

Sami-Jo Ross
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18 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering even her mother agreed that she's not taking it seriously I'm pretty sure OP is fine.

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FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
17 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The situation isn't there yet, but it is ok and often necessary to leave a relationship because the other person won't take care of themselves. Reckless behaviour is incredibly stressful on the other party and speaks to deeper issues. If she was involved in extreme sports and not taking safety seriously, or used party d***s and had a few ODs but wouldn't be smarter about it, the decision would feel more clear, but it's the same. Just because onions aren't usually dangerous, doesn't mean the reckless behaviour isn't an issue.

FreeTheUnicorn
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17 hours ago

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I will call BS on the blocking calls while at work because he's busy though. It's fine to need space, but I'd you have time to Reddit, you could take a call. Just admit it's so you can cool off.

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Stacy Bender
Community Member
15 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I knew someone like this. They loved the drama they caused because they got attention. Dealing with someone who loves attention by negative means is exhausting. Therapy might help, but only if SHE is willing to change. Call me me cold hearted, but I predict a day he walks away while she suffocates.

Sami-Jo Ross
Community Member
18 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering even her mother agreed that she's not taking it seriously I'm pretty sure OP is fine.

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