Woman Turns Violent After Forced Babysitting Scheme Backfires, Police Intervention Looms
While in-law relationships are familial, there are certain boundaries you can’t cross. Acting entitled is never acceptable, and could cause tension and potentially irreparable damage.
Take this story between a woman, her sister-in-law, and a miscommunication about babysitting duties. Their situation got so heated that the police were almost called. The mother-in-law also involved herself, stoking the flames and creating more division within the family.
After some name-calling, threats, and slight property damage, the author took to the Two Hot Takes subreddit for answers.
Acting entitled toward an in-law can immediately trigger family drama
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For this woman and her sister-in-law, the feud began because of a misunderstanding about babysitting duties
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The SIL continued to overstep boundaries, worsening the situation
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Backed into a corner, the woman threatened to call the police
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Abandoning a child constitutes neglect, which may warrant a report to the authorities
The author’s threats to call the police were likely because the abandonment of a child is considered an act of neglect. According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway, this is “the failure of a parent or other person with responsibility” to provide a child’s basic needs, including supervision.
Neglect also covers allowing the child to remain at home unattended “for a reasonable amount of time.”
Bay Area law firm Johnson & Johnson Law Offices adds that parents or legal guardians may be accused of neglect if they “fail to provide the minimum standard of care.” Any suspicions may warrant a report to child services.
These definitions may apply since the author admitted to being “in no position” to watch over her nephew.
However, the bigger issue seems to be the sister-in-law’s entitled behavior. She seemed to have thought it was acceptable to drop by unannounced and make demands.
Experts like licensed psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten (a.k.a. Dr. PsychMom) always advise setting boundaries. These can be physical, emotional, or both.
In an article for her website, Dr. Whiten stressed the importance of consistency and consequences.
“If you want to remain in the relationship, you are conceding your [in-law’s] inability to deal with an authentic interpersonal exchange while also protecting yourself from attack and subtly conveying your boundaries,” she noted.
The author did set boundaries by stating she would never babysit her nephew again. While it may be harsh, it sends a strong message that she isn’t tolerating such behavior from her sister-in-law.
Most readers sided with the author, who provided more information in the comments
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So the OP could have easily not been there (she was meant to be at work; didn’t tell SIL she wasn’t at work) so then what would SIL have done? Just dumped the kid on OP’s doorstep? SIL’s entitlement is real with this one. Just because someone says yes to looking after your kid, doesn’t mean it’s free game to dump the kid off without asking first.
Any mother who drops off her kid and then iignores calls and texts for two hours is a real concern. What if the kid was injured or OP had to go to the hospital. I know you can't watch your phone every minute just going incommunicada and calling the other party irresponsible is a huge red flag. No contact would be a blessing.
I'd like to hear the explanation of the people who voted "both parties are equally at fault".
I wonder if they meant the sister and the MIL?
Load More Replies..."day to herself" Pffffff... If you can't care for it, do not carry to term. Children are for life, not just for christmas.
Pity is wasn't the sort of migraine to make you vomit a lot. She could have thrown up over the SIL, then said it would be great to have a little servant to bring me drinks and cold towels in my bedroom, and he could surely amuse himself while I slept.
I know, right? A migraine is nothing to ignore. Your brain doesn't function properly. You can't be responsible for a small child on your own. I've done it but only with my own kids and only because they were used to mine and knew what to do and how to behave when I had one.
Load More Replies...She absolutely should have called the police and she certainly shouldn't have said she would never actually do that. SIL will be dumping her kid on the doorstep next time.
That kid likes her. The mother and MIL need firm boundaries. She and her husband need to set firm boundaries on when she can make it known that she would enjoy interactions with the kid if it is MUTUALLY affirmed - together with what is reasonable in breaking the arrangement due to levels of unseen problems (broke a leg, infectios disease, etc).
What a vile mother sil is 🤬seriously it’s her child if she can’t even cope with one then she shouldn’t have had the poor child should she ! Op not the ah but your sil very much is big time !time to go nc with her entitled a**e ! N defo have a long chat cos that is not a family id want my kids growing up in
emergency, nephew has to go straight to doctor and i am too unwell to drive... omg omg omg get here quick....
It seems kind of suspicious. How did the sister in law know she was home? It's not like she called first to check, and the woman is generally at work. It seems unlikely someone would drive all the way to someone else's house to drop their child off without at least calling to make sure you're there. Also, why wouldn't the woman just put him in the car and drive him back home? I know that's ridiculous but if someone literally left their kid, and I knew where they lived, I'd bring him back. Or I'd bring him to the mil's house and drop him since that seemed to be okay with her.
If you’ve never had a migraine, let me inform you right now: you should NEVER operate a motor vehicle while you have a migraine or while you’re under the influence of most migraines medications.
Load More Replies...She could have hired a baby sitter or done a drop off for a few hours. My sister checks with me days in advance to see if I can watch her son, every now and then. If I'm not free she moves on.
So the OP could have easily not been there (she was meant to be at work; didn’t tell SIL she wasn’t at work) so then what would SIL have done? Just dumped the kid on OP’s doorstep? SIL’s entitlement is real with this one. Just because someone says yes to looking after your kid, doesn’t mean it’s free game to dump the kid off without asking first.
Any mother who drops off her kid and then iignores calls and texts for two hours is a real concern. What if the kid was injured or OP had to go to the hospital. I know you can't watch your phone every minute just going incommunicada and calling the other party irresponsible is a huge red flag. No contact would be a blessing.
I'd like to hear the explanation of the people who voted "both parties are equally at fault".
I wonder if they meant the sister and the MIL?
Load More Replies..."day to herself" Pffffff... If you can't care for it, do not carry to term. Children are for life, not just for christmas.
Pity is wasn't the sort of migraine to make you vomit a lot. She could have thrown up over the SIL, then said it would be great to have a little servant to bring me drinks and cold towels in my bedroom, and he could surely amuse himself while I slept.
I know, right? A migraine is nothing to ignore. Your brain doesn't function properly. You can't be responsible for a small child on your own. I've done it but only with my own kids and only because they were used to mine and knew what to do and how to behave when I had one.
Load More Replies...She absolutely should have called the police and she certainly shouldn't have said she would never actually do that. SIL will be dumping her kid on the doorstep next time.
That kid likes her. The mother and MIL need firm boundaries. She and her husband need to set firm boundaries on when she can make it known that she would enjoy interactions with the kid if it is MUTUALLY affirmed - together with what is reasonable in breaking the arrangement due to levels of unseen problems (broke a leg, infectios disease, etc).
What a vile mother sil is 🤬seriously it’s her child if she can’t even cope with one then she shouldn’t have had the poor child should she ! Op not the ah but your sil very much is big time !time to go nc with her entitled a**e ! N defo have a long chat cos that is not a family id want my kids growing up in
emergency, nephew has to go straight to doctor and i am too unwell to drive... omg omg omg get here quick....
It seems kind of suspicious. How did the sister in law know she was home? It's not like she called first to check, and the woman is generally at work. It seems unlikely someone would drive all the way to someone else's house to drop their child off without at least calling to make sure you're there. Also, why wouldn't the woman just put him in the car and drive him back home? I know that's ridiculous but if someone literally left their kid, and I knew where they lived, I'd bring him back. Or I'd bring him to the mil's house and drop him since that seemed to be okay with her.
If you’ve never had a migraine, let me inform you right now: you should NEVER operate a motor vehicle while you have a migraine or while you’re under the influence of most migraines medications.
Load More Replies...She could have hired a baby sitter or done a drop off for a few hours. My sister checks with me days in advance to see if I can watch her son, every now and then. If I'm not free she moves on.



























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