Wow - look at those posts telling her she's slapping God in the face or she must have suffered a trauma! Bloody hell! These are OUR bodies. Is it fair that men can decide not to have children but women cannot? If a man says he doesn't want kids, it's rarely questioned, but a woman saying that? Society is all about double standards. There are tons of reasons why a woman would not want children, none of them are anyone else's business.

I am 48 years old. I have never, ever, ever not even for one minute wanted children. Don't get me wrong, I love my nieces and nephews, but children aren't for me. I wanted a tubal ligation at the age of 23 and was told no. I have been told no as recently as age 45, because "anything is possible and women can have children after 50 now." My answer was, "THAT IS WHAT I AM TRYING TO PREVENT." No one and I mean no one takes a single woman seriously when she says she doesn't want children. It has been rough. I am hoping for menopause soon so I can celebrate living a childless life.

I'm gob smacked. Not that she wanted this in a country that is taking Handmaids take as a guidebook this is great. I had to get husbands permission after 2. He got a vasectomy oddly I was not asked about permission. I have had friends with Endo who were desperate and no dr would do it

I had my tubal when I was 23 after having 2 children. It was a good idea then and I stand by it even now(I'm 37) I had to sign a paper saying I knew what I was doing and 30 days later I had to sign again to make sure I didn't change my mind.

I knew someone who had serious medical issues who was just begging for the doctors to perform the hysterectomy because the pain and complications of the medical issue was too much and they refused her saying she may want kids. That poor girl had to suffer several years before doctors would concede based on the premise that she may want kids in the future and that having kids could ease her condition as it did her twin sister who had the same issue. Finally at the "appropriate" age they did it and it drastically lessened alot of her daily physical pain

My aunt had to get her tubes tied because too many doctors refused to give her husband a vasectomy. They told him, “sure, you’re happily married with two kids and are 45, but you might divorce and re-marry a younger woman in the future and also want children with her.” 25 years later, they’re still married to each other.

I had my tubes removed a few months ago and Im only 28. From the time I got serious about finding a Dr to do it to waking up in the recovery room was less than 2 months. But I went to the reddit childfree doctors thread where ppl had already done a lot of the leg work of finding an appropriate dr so that made it much easier. The first Dr I went to agreed to do it.

I’ve been sterilised, granted after having kids, but it wasn’t a big deal - just went to my gp, referred to the gynaecologist and then had it scheduled. I still had plenty of years left to have more children if I wanted, but I didn’t. For health reasons I didn’t want to risk another pregnancy - I could sail through it or it could cripple me, I’m not willing to risk the latter. There was no trying to talk me out of it, asking whether my husband agreed or any of that. I have child free friends much younger than me who’ve also had it done with no issue. Women shouldn’t need to fight for control over our body and life choices

The whole "What if you have a husband some day and he wants kids?" thing is by far the grossest of the reasonings given. In most places in the world a *hypothetical* man has more claim over a woman's body than she does - that is the sickest f*****g s**t. There is no doctor, no medical establishment, no legal establishment, no society that shouldn't be profoundly ashamed of applying that principle.

I completely agree a woman should be able to decide not to have kids (I always known I don't want any, and thats not something that will change), but at the same time I can understand the reluctance of a doctor to do it. How can the be sure 10 years down the line they are not going to have a lawsuit from someone who has changed their mind, saying at 19 a woman was too young to make that decision, and that they have destroyed their chance of a family. Fact is their will always be sh*ty people who will do that, and especially in the states they just need to start mentioning god and family, and conservatives will jump behind them to ruin your career. If there was properly structured guidence and protection for doctors, it would probably make things easier for everyone

Why tf would this spark controversy? Do we all flip out when men get vasectomies? No? Then give us the same courtesy, please. Mind your own uterus.

I live in Kansas and most doctors won't do it without your husband's permission, which rules out a lot of options. If you're a single person, they won't do the surgery unless you already have 3 children. My aunt has 7 and is in her 40's and her OB still won't do the surgery. She's been trying since her third child.

The thing with doctors not wanting to sterilize is that people often sue after changing their minds. This is common with many irreversible procedures.

There are too many people in this world as it is, if someone wants that guarantee of sterilization, then they should be allowed to have the surgery.

After reading this as well as the comments, I feel a bit more supported in my decision to not have kids and possibly even undergo sterilisation for the same. I am fully aware that I am young, but that doesn't change my reasons for not wanting to have kids of my own. And even if I did change my mind later, I'd rather adopt and give a child a home rather than attempt to bring another one into a world so throughly effed up. I used to want kids thinking I'd get a shot at correcting everything my parents did wrong with me, but I realised that wasn't a child's job. If anything, it was the most selfish reason to have a child. And that more or less sealed my decision. My mum didn't take it too well when I asked her to lay off the grandkid jokes since I wouldn't be giving her any (unless she wanted to count my cats), but being upfront with her about my fears and feelings (not to mention: just how traumatic childbirth is), she started to understand better.

Good for her! I am glad she took control of her life and reproductive future. It's inspiring, especially in this day and age when certain governments want to imprison or even execute women for having abortions or ending ectopic (deadly) pregnancies.

Conngratulations on her. I have to say, though, I never wanted to kids and the hoormones hit me liek a ton of bricks when I was in my midthorties and in a stbale realtiosnship. i did not have kids, in the end, but oh my God, I wanted them SO BAD and for the lognst time, I regretted not having any. That hormone thing is real. Once I started menopause, it all went away and I am not very happy and child-free, but thos 8-10 years were not fun.

At 30, after five kids, my GP jumped through all the hoops for me to get my tubes tied, and the surgeons still said to me "What if you want more, or what if one of your kids died?" Like the obvious answer was to want to keep breeding, or to replace a child with a new one?

I was 31 when I had my son. I knew I hated being pregnant and did not, would not want to do that again. So before I left the hospital after having him the doctor asked me what kind ( if any) birth control was I considering using. I told her I wanted my tunes tied. She basically laughed and said " no really, what method(s) are you considering?". It was then I found out no doctor in a 200mile radius would do the procedure...not until I had 2 or more children. I don't understand why I could not make the decision not to have any more children for myself. And yes, there is birth control but none of them are 100% and none of them sounded like something I would want. I love my son more than anything or anyone else in this world and could not imagine my life without him. However, it was my choice to have him and it should be my choice to not have any more. I was really shocked how blatently sexist the industry is when it comes to reproduction. My husband can get a vasectomy with/without kids.

I'm a Mom and it's the best thing that's happened to me. But I know that it's not for everyone. If they say they don't want kids then that is their choice and who am I to tell them the choice is wrong. What's right for me can be completely wrong for someone else. I hate that she had so much trouble . I know personally that I can't handle hormonal birth control and with my health issues it would likely kill me and the unborn child. My husband had a vasectomy but it can still happen, I don't heal correctly and have a higher chance of rejection from non hormonal means. So I can completely understand why her only real option was being sterilized. I know that both a vasectomy and a sterilization can both still have children so together is the best option. I'm so happy that she was able to have the procedure done. If she changes her mind later she can foster or adopt. Having children if she changes her mind is not impossible so this is about much more than permanent birth control.

What the wise are ashamed of, the fool is proud of.

I really wonder why in capitalist USA there are no doctors who see this as a big marketing opportunity. Imagine an ad at the female equivalent of a superbowl break, saying "Hey girl, below 30 and want to get your tubes tied? Call 1-800-TUBETIED and get your appointment right now!"

Got hysto at 29 and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life. Not only is the AGONY of endometriosis gone, but my genuine phobia of pregnancy can now never come to pass. So f*****g happy. Good for her!

Love how people are glossing over the fact she said she only went to female doctors and they all said no. This same type of article on buzzfeed was all about skewering male doctors even though the posters never mentioned the gender of doctors. BP really is a strange website.

Good for her!! If only I had someone who listened to me and cared enough about what I wanted out of life, then I would have had the tubal I desperately needed in my early 20s, instead of my late 30s. And I would have avoided at least two unplanned pregnancies, one of which was a severely autistic boy that will never function without the help of the state into adulthood, and the other will potentially ruin me financially for the rest of my life based upon support-related payments. So yeah, lucky girl there.

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An asexual having sex sounds like a vegetarian eating "only" chicken to me... Anyway if she's happy now good for her!

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I respect her choice and I wish it won't end up like a tattoo you got very willingly when you're young then regret. Don't punish me but, don't you think she likes to show-off her choice which she doesn't need to.