I honestly don’t understand why it’s so hard to grasp that you don’t go around touching strangers without consent. No she isn’t asking for it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ladies, please correct me if I'm wrong. When a woman dresses to go out, it does not matter what she wears. If she wants to dress to feel sexy, if she wants to dress all suited up, or even jeans and tea shirt. She dresses this way for her benefit, and no one else's. It is not an invitation to touch, or chat up, or glare at. You can look, but don't touch or say anything degrading. Any guy (Or girl) that touches without permission, does'nt just deserve a slap, they should be roughed up by the doormen too.

i always wonder about this "dont wear revealing outfit" bs. Where i live its normal to be naked in the sauna. According to that logic every man should be losing control there. Men thinking (and acting) like that are turds.

I have a story! I remember my 7th grade art teacher once told me a story that will always stick with me. Our class was getting into a debate on how sexist dress code was, so our art teacher told us about how when she was in 8th grade, a man drive up to her (when she was walking home) and shoved her into his car. (Note that my teacher has lots of curves and also had them when she was in 8th). She broke his nose with a punch to the face while he tried to rip open her shirt. Thankfully, the car door was still unlocked so she dived out of the car, which gave her a concussion. The man escaped. Later, he was caught driving around her middle school and she identified the car to the teachers. The man was arrested and taken to court, where he revealed he planned to rape and kill her. When my poor teacher returned to school, apparently the boys MOCKED her. She was faced with a bunch of sexist remarks about how they could understand how the guy "couldnt resist". This happened IN 8TH GRADE!

I've lost count of how many slaps I've given. And 90% of them looked infuriated and acted like they didn't deserve it. One of them even threw his drink in my face in retaliation. Was standing talking to another guy , who when I looked to for support, just shrugged and said " I don't want to get involved". So yep- I'm pretty jaded when it comes to most men , sadly.

I have been around a woman wearing nothing more than a T-shirt, in her bedroom. I've been on a walk with a lady, at night, and then went back to her dorm room. I've been around a lady who came out of a shower wearing nothing more than a towel...and these are just three examples. NONE OF THEM MEAN ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY NOT THE INSULTING IDEA THAT THEY WERE "ASKING TO BE ASSAULTED/RAPED/HARASSED/WHATEVER BS YOU CAN MANUFACTURE!!

If you think a woman is "asking for it" by the way she's dressed, you're admitting that you view women only as objects for your personal enjoyment. It's exactly like you drooling over a Lamborghini, but scoffing at a Civic. Exactly.

It's the shock when the women retaliate that gets me. How are these men being raised that they think it's their right to assault someone but are genuinely shocked when someone defends themselves from their physical assault. It leaves me speechless

Sometimes I really do wonder if consent is really that hard for certain people to understand than rocket science. 🚀

She is an attractive woman. What she wears is her business. And she should be proud of taking care of her gift of beauty and to be able to show off her hard work and discipline. Guys who touch without consent deserve to be removed from the premises and nothing more. And not allowed back. The bar/club/whatever should be safe places for females to gather. Not have to be constantly on the watch for groper or guys copping a feel.

No one of either sex has a right to touch another person's body without consent. How hard is that to grasp?

This is essentially how my parents met. Mom smacked a guy for getting handsy (as they used to say) after which her friends abandoned her so she went to a bouncer for help. (Thought he was tall and intimidating...he was standing on a box) The bouncer was my dad. They have been married over 50 years. Anyway this crap has been happening for freaking ever and you'd think men would know better by now. There is no damned excuse

an 18 month old baby died after she was raped, are people going to start blaming the brand of nappies the poor baby was wearing, yes i said PEOPLE because some women also have a "dress appropriately and it wont happen" mindset too

Many years ago I was working by myself in a bookstore, and one of my husband's shipmates came in, asked if he could use the bathroom. Normally I'm not allowed, but I recognized the dude, guys came over at least 2-3 times a week and I'd cook for whoever was at the apartment, so I figured I'd be nice and let him use the employee's bathroom. Well, 15 minutes pass and he hasn't come out, so I go knock on the door and he's not answering. I manage to push my way in and he's passed out on the floor. As I'm trying to get him to his feet he wakes up and...grabs my boobs. Both hands, twisting like he's trying to tune in Radio Free Europe or something. Now, I'd had some karate lessons, not a whole lot but they taught me how to punch, so I punched him in the throat. He fell to the floor again and starts crawling away. I had NEVER hit anyone before, but those karate classes had obviously sunk in because I didn't even think first, I just punched. Oh, and I was in MATERNITY CLOTHING.

I mean I literally shoulder punched a guy who invaded my space to catch beads at Universal Studios (plastered to my back, hit me on the head, and grabbed beads out of my hands and someone next to me). I’d definitely do the same or worse if they touched me on purpose, without permission. Level of force dependent on severity of touch.

It's high time women started wearing hatpins and bring back the days of the petticoated swashbucklers(still the greatest term I've ever heard), a lassie can be wearing a hundred layers of clothing or nothing at all but unless she expresses her wishes for you to touch her you have no right to do so and anything that happens to you for doing so without permission is on you.

25 year old me, was standing at the bar in a club, when guy grabbed my butt. He didn't just have his hand on my butt... he grabbed it and came pretty far "forward". He commented his doings with the words: Wow... I really have something to grab. I reached back... right into his crotch and squeezed... with full force and long fingernails. As he got on his knees, whimpering... I said: Hhm, unfortunately I can't return your disgusting "compliment"... and now f**k off, you wimp!

Males that touch a woman or girl anywhere without her consent are the same type of males that r**e. That’s why the sick male that assaulted the woman and she hit him in response got angry with her; he has the mindset of a r*pst. It’s been proven that r*pists don’t start with r*pe— usually it is the disrespectful, dehumanizing attitude of the sick male (and he is sick for touching someone without the woman’s consent) towards women and girls (which can involve verbal assault, touching, etc) is what the sick male starts with, so when a male is touching a woman or a girl without her consent, he is already escalating in his r*pist behavior and unless he’s locked up for his current transgression, then he is likely to start r*ping (remember, r*pe is quite pervasive).

This behaviour by men has been happening for years. My mum is in her late 80s now (& has never been one for taking any nonsense from anyone) but when she was about 16 she was in the cinema with a friend and the man sat behind her kept reaching through the gap in the seat and touching her backside. So she took out her hat pin and jabbed it in his hand. 😂. He didn’t do it again. 😂

Self defense. Also on the clothes- touching without consent is crossing a line.

I remember I was out once at a club and this guy was dancing with me and BIT me in my shoulder. I had a big black bruise for weeks

touching without permission is always wrong, you can be charged with assault

Do not touch unless given permission or it is an emergency.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

BS.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Oh my ... if I, just for the sake of it, imagine I'd do that ... I'd feel so damned embarrassed if anyone saw it ... I mean ... those guys have to catch you off guard to even get their hands on a female body. They're not those any woman would ask to spend some time together. Plus - if you're horny and single and good old handiwork doesn't really deliver, go to a brothel, tell her what you want, and, silently, pay 50...100 % more. Silent, because pimps have microphones in the rooms - and that money isn't for them (they have enough, get enough, ...), it's for the lady who provides you her service.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Thank god none of you lived in the 80s. A slight hand on hip to move past would be sexual assault these days.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Can someone tell me what girls get out of going to clubs filled with these creepy guys?