i wouldn't let her near the baby if i were you

Why aren't the brothers sorting this out? Easy solution, hand it over to them. Clearly they are the ones who want to see eachotherz they are the connection. Make life easier and hand it off. Stop doing weird power plays and collecting slights. Let the guys plan if they want a visit.

You travel with a child, you make arrangements for them. Ask, sure, but don't demand.

No is a complete answer. "You should let my son sleep in your daughter's crib." "No, that's not happening. He can sleep in your pack and play or you can buy a travel crib." If they decide to stay home, problem solved.

Hotel it is, then.

Make reservations at a local hotel for the b***h and tell her she can either stay there or not come at all, end of conversation! Don't EVER let some entitled a*****e b***h bully or gaslight you.

SIL is a guest at someone else's house. She doesn't get to make the rules nor demand everyone bends to her wishes. She is too entitled and needs to be cut off before being allowed to make everyone miserable. She also sounds like she has deep jealousy issues, but that's her problem, not everyone else's.

It's YOUR home, YOUR RULES! NO is a complete sentence!!! I too used to be a people pleaser and did not stand up for myself. Now that I'm older, I have NO problem using my voice!!! Use YOURS Dear!!!

Talk about delusional. The SIL's kid is 20 months old? He's too old to be in a crib anyways. Sleep on the sofa/floor or they can go to a hotel.

She needs to stop pussyfooting around with "I prefer" nonsense. Your child is going to sleep in her bed. Period. Leave no room for interpretation or negotiation. If she wants a place for her child to sleep in and the pack n play doesn't work, she needs to provide it for her son. This is no different than if she were going on vacation to a destination and needed to provide a sleeping arrangement for him.

I'm sorry but after her excluding me from her wedding, I would never have anything to do with this woman! I don't care if it's my bil wife! That would be a big nope for me! If the brothers want to spend time together they can do it just them 2.

Just tell them to rent a room and they can share bed with their baby.

I feel bad for her. My sisters in law and I get along like we are actual sisters. (I have 4 of them and I don't get to see though of them) We talk all the time, love spending time with each other and would never demand one of them or I do something that would put one of us out in our own homes! That's just crazy. Her husband needs to grow a spine and deal with his awful sister in law.

I only hope OP’s husband won’t try to go against her and accommodate SIL’s unreasonable demands as a ‘compromise’..

This is dumb. Who calls someone to ask where they're planning to let their 5 month old sleep during a visit? No one.

SIL is a major AH

Having been on the receiving end of dislike/disrespect from inlaws... I vote they stay in a hotel. My playing nice and being the peace maker days are over. It gets you absolutely nowhere except more of the same. Take care of your family. They are the priority.

NTA. I would have told the SIL she could use the pack-and-play, make other arrangements for her kid at her expense, or just not come, take it, or leave it,

I think you need to grow a spine, look this b***h in the eye and tell her it not going to fu cking happen. And stop trying to be her friend.

Gurl, cut all ties with that entitled beeoch. Or have a miserable week that you’re gonna cry about.

Your daughter is doing a favor just by going through sleep training. You may not defend yourself, but God help the person who messes with your daughter. That's as it should be. Now help your daughter more and keep growimg! Keep those limits on place!

Husband needs to grow up and stand up for his wife

No update for over a year means sil won the battle and her golden child got the babies crib as the sil smiled away at another victory.

OP needs to stand her ground and learn how to say no. I wouldn't let SIL step inside my house. OP's husband can go visit his brother anywhere, anytime, just not within OP's home unless the SIL apologizes and accepts the fact her son won't be getting OP's daughter's crib. OP is a mother first and foremost, so her only priority in this situation is to protect her daughter. If that means going no contact with the toxic SIL, so be it. Husband better grow a pair and support OP and their child.

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Tell her you’ve all come down with Bubonic plague so maybe a visit is inadvisable

I want an update on this and their relationship. Clearly they need to stay in a nearby hotel and just meet up for a lunch or dinner while they’re in town

Its a bad precedent to set, especially with someone this entitled. Give up the crib and SIL will insist OP should give up her room for SIL's comfort. While OP isn't blameless here (holding grudges), she is justified in her outrage, but insisting on an apology seems a bit much, but without knowing more about each of them, its hard to pass judgement on OP. Personally, I would have agreed with SIL that it's best they don't come, but since she wants husband to have time with his brother and nephew, she should consider getting them a hotel room. Regardless of who pays, it's generally cheaper in the long run to avoid situations that are tense during the planning stage.

Tell SIL she can use a crib for free - at a hotel.

Yow, what a collection! A doormat, an ineffective husband and BIL, and a femelle posing as a human being. Nuh uh, this situation would not fly with my sisters or me. OP needs to be more assertive and say "No" more than "I prefer." Her husband needs to finish growing a set and put his foot down regarding his sister. BIL should remind his wife that they are guests, not tenants, and are in no position to demand anything. On top of all that, a hotel would be in order, as SIL tends to go rather deaf when opposed. She also should not be allowed to come back to that house without a genuine apology and a guarantee that she will leave her entitlement at home. Her son is not the Second Coming.

I wish I knew why BP was digging up 2+ year old Reddit threads to post as news articles (especially when these old threads don't always have any updates)! Lazy sloppy work. Those "babies" have probably outgrown the cribs by now anyway 🙄🙄