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Woman Wonders If She’s Wrong For Not Wanting To Take Husband’s 8-Year-Old On Holiday While Taking Their Baby Son
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Woman Wonders If She’s Wrong For Not Wanting To Take Husband’s 8-Year-Old On Holiday While Taking Their Baby Son

Woman Wonders If She's Wrong For Not Wanting To Take Husband's 8-Year-Old On Holiday While Taking Their Baby Son“Entertaining An 8-Year-Old Who Is Bored All The Time Is Not My Idea Of Stress-Free”: Mom Refuses To Take Her Stepdaughter On Family Holiday“It’s My Money”: Mom Asks If It’s Unreasonable Not To Take Her Stepdaughter On Holiday With Her“It Would Be Coming Out Of My Savings”: New Mom Refuses To Pay Up To £700 For Stepdaughter To Join In On Their Family HolidayMom Asks Whether She’s Wrong To Not Want Stepdaughter Joining Them On Their Family Holiday, Divides The Internet“Does That Mean My Child Then Can’t Have A Holiday In Case Of Upsetting The Other Child?”: Mom Refuses To Pay To Take Her Stepdaughter On Holiday With HerWoman Doesn't Want To Take Stepdaughter On Holiday She's Paying For, Receives Mixed Reactions OnlineNew Mom Wants To Spend Holiday With Just Her Baby And Husband, But He Insists They Take Stepdaughter Along“We Can’t Afford To Take The Daughter As Well”: Mom Refuses To Take Her Husband’s Daughter On Holiday With Them, The Internet Debates If It’s Unreasonable
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Recently, a mom’s post shared on the Mumsnet forum caught everyone’s attention and divided opinions.

“My partner has an 8-year-old girl from a previous relationship and we’ve just had a baby (currently 3 months),” the mom explained. “Now, I really want to go on holiday just me, my partner and my baby,” she explained.

The controversy was stirred by the fact that the mom doesn’t want her stepdaughter on her holiday with her. Read on below to find out what the mom had to say about it, and make sure to share your thoughts in the comments below!

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Research shows that children in stepfamilies are at greater risk for emotional problems among others

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A growing body of research indicates that children of divorce and children in stepfamilies are at somewhat greater risk for academic, behavioral and emotional problems than children in nuclear families. Girls in stepfamilies, particularly those with stepmothers, are said to have distinct adjustment problems that girls in nuclear families do not experience.

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According to psychologist Patricia Papernow, Ed.D., who is a member of the National Stepfamily Resource Center’s expert council, “a stepfamily is fundamentally a different structure and it makes a different foundation for relationships than a first-time family.” One of these differences is that in a stepfamily, the spouses do not have an equal relationship to the children or in the parenting process.

On the other hand, some experts believe that although loving your stepchildren is a wonderful element of the relationship between stepmothers and stepkids, respect and kindness are the only mandatory components.

Wednesday Martin, in her popular book “Stepmonster,” argues that safe home and the necessities of life are also required to provide, but love isn’t. The idea still remains controversial among others who claim that loving a stepchild like your biological child is crucial.

Some people said the mom has a right to spend time with her newborn without her stepdaughter

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Others, however, said she shouldn’t exclude her stepdaughter as it will hurt  her

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Many people thought that the dad should be responsible for paying for his daughter to take her on holiday and not the stepmom

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Vix Spiderthrust
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great idea! And for her ninth birthday, you can get the bakery to ice "You're not mine and I don't love you" on her cake.

Roan The Demon Kitty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She thinks a holiday will be relaxing with a baby around? LOL she's delusional. She's better off leaving both the kids at home if she really wants a relaxing holiday all that much...

Jason Yau
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't get married to someone who already is a parent and then have a child with him unless you are going to be parent for the existing child. YABTA!

blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And yet....all of the modern guidance is that you are NOT their parent, shouldn't force the child to see you as a parent, should defer to their real parents in all things and never attempt to replace or usurp a parent. if or when this kid calls her mom? Then she gets full mom treatment. Until then, they are step child and step parent, which is a completely different relationship. They are required to be respectful and pleasant to each other, and that is it.

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Vix Spiderthrust
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great idea! And for her ninth birthday, you can get the bakery to ice "You're not mine and I don't love you" on her cake.

Roan The Demon Kitty
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She thinks a holiday will be relaxing with a baby around? LOL she's delusional. She's better off leaving both the kids at home if she really wants a relaxing holiday all that much...

Jason Yau
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't get married to someone who already is a parent and then have a child with him unless you are going to be parent for the existing child. YABTA!

blatherskitenoir
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And yet....all of the modern guidance is that you are NOT their parent, shouldn't force the child to see you as a parent, should defer to their real parents in all things and never attempt to replace or usurp a parent. if or when this kid calls her mom? Then she gets full mom treatment. Until then, they are step child and step parent, which is a completely different relationship. They are required to be respectful and pleasant to each other, and that is it.

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